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Destiny sx

essex, South East

http://www.destinysx.co.uk

A newish club in rainham off the a13, open tuesdays, fridays and saturdays, for singles and couples. nice layout and friendly people running it.

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Rating: Fabulous
hiya, sorry for taking so long in adding to the reviews, wede both like to thank all those who attened our last event, whilst we did have several last minuite drop outs (as ecpected) the night we felt was fun and naughty. it was nice to see newbies as well thanks to those who wanted to have a bit of DSX and grabbed a great bargain.

now our days are dismantelling the venue so if anyone of you wants items from carpet tiles to padded cell etc etc its all going for a bargain rate.

also potentially having more free time if anyone fancys inviting us to a "gathering" then please do.

hugs n stuff to you

xxxx


Date: 20 June 2010

Rating: Fabulous
Went to Destiny last night for the very last DSX party and had a fantastic time. As usual, the hosts were friendly and although we haven't been for a very long time (distance and redundancy) we had no problem mixing with other guests.

Such a shame that the Council can't see the bigger picture and accept that without small business ventures outside the "normal" they are accepting that there will be empty warehouse space and no council tax coming in!

As a final note... Read that below and ask yourself, does it get much more childish than that?

"The only point I feel we must make, is that your comments to us and others on this review page actually indicate some form of intensity that is unnatural, and as such, we have forwarded details to Havering council and Essex police."



Date: 6 June 2010

Rating: OK
I`ve never been to your club but even so, I`m really sorry to see it having to close.

While it`s obviously too late, don`t be backward in giving your MP hell about how shabbily you`ve been treated. He HAS to reply to you.

Hope you all have a brilliant final night!


Date: 5 June 2010

Rating: OK
Hi K & R..

Im so sorry to read this about the club... It was our very first club and you made us feel so welcome that we kept coming back, Your both a very fun/loving couple and great friends...

Lots of lovel and kisses... L&L xxx


Date: 31 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
paul and i are sorry to see this place close, we have only ever been a few times, but we liked it and found rob and karen to be great hosts x its a great place, well maintained and we enjoyed it every time x

loadsa love to you and karen, we need a club to go to!!!maybe i start one of my own x


Date: 28 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
Final Events for Destiny SX

Friday 4th June 2010.

LAST OFFICIAL FRIDAY

Open 8pm - 2amish

Doors close 11:00pm

ALL WELCOME

Couples: £20

Women: £10

Gents: £30

Saturday 5th June 2010.

LAST OFFICIAL EVENT

open 8pm till whenever.

Doors close midnightish

ALL WELCOME

Theme night in celebration of D-Day

FORCES UNIFORMS ARMY, AIRFORCE & NAVY.

Also

FINGER BUFFETT, BUCKS FIZZ,

(For those who are staying the course why not bring ya blanket, What do you want for Breakfast?)

Couples: £20

Women: £10

Gents: £30

Desirable, Erotic, Sexy, Tempting, Intimate, Naughty, Yearning

Sensual, Xciting

Wear Enticing, Revealing, Alluring, Seducing or Dress as you Dare for an Erotic night of fun

Smart Casual minimum.

Sunday 6th June 2010.

DSX Dismantle Day.

Free Entry of Course

This will be our D-Day to start and breakup and finish day/night Party.

Opening all day (well, when we awake) anyone is welcome to come and have a relaxing drink and dismantle party if the weather is nice we may have a BBQ going on till 10pmish.

Extras:

Of course dismantling of DSX is fairly labour intensive so during the Sunday 6th and the following 2 weeks we will be breaking down all of DSX anyone who wishes to help or wishing to buy any of the many items we have bought, created, built and maintained during the past 5 years are now for sale

so make us an reasonable offer. (After all bills still have to be paid)

From Mirrors to Plaster Boards, Pole Dancing Stage to Disco Lights.

Carpet tiles to Camo Netting.

Let us know and I'm sure you can have a great deal.

SEE WEBSITE FOR MORE INFO


Date: 28 May 2010

Rating: Avoid
Your comments noted Rob. We considered (indeed posted but then deleted) a vehement reply to your rant, but then decided not to stoop. However, we are sure that people will draw their own conclusions, as you define your character far better than we ever could.

The only point I feel we must make, is that your comments to us and others on this review page actually indicate some form of intensity that is unnatural, and as such, we have forwarded details to Havering council and Essex police.


Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Fun
we only got to destinys a few times due to work shifts and kids but was ALWAYS made welcome by Karen and Rob , and am gutted you have to close as maybe when our kids are off our hands we would have got there more often, thankyou both for making our times there fun

chel and mark xxxxx


Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
LAST REVIEW OF DESTINY SX RAINHAM ESSEX

It is with much sadness and regret that we have to close our venue.

The last events will be on the D-Day Weekend that is 4th- 6th June 2010.

After 5 years of creating what we believe was one of the local area’s Finest, Friendliest, Honest and Fun Venues. Safe, Secure, Secluded & Licensed.

After 5 years of never having any trouble with any official authorities.

To quash any misinformation and rumours that we understand have been circulating we thought this would be the best way to inform you of the situation.

The Local Authority of Havering has ordered us to cease trading and to close the venue it’s by their order and their order alone that we have to close, we have fought this all the way to the top and all legal avenues have now been exhausted.

Despite the local auth initially helping us with the relevant forms, documents and processes etc, during that process they made several mistakes even losing our documents and subsequently held meetings without informing us and decisions were made without our invite or input.

We do believe that personal issues with employees within the departments did influence their actions (So much for their help).

Anyways there’s nothing we can do about this decision and regretfully have to close.

Both of us would like to take this opportunity to thank the many friends who during the past 5 years

have helped create what DSX was, a fun friendly honest best value venue by far.

From the beginning back in 2005 up to now 2010 without the help not only in Destiny SX but also outside of DSX We have been honoured and very lucky to have made many personal friends many of whom are very close to us and in no particular order we would like to thank them.

Barrie & Jacky, Colin & Tina, Barry & Jackie, Debbie & Mick, Emily & Ian, Steve, Sue & Les, Sharon & Mark, Avis & Les, Brian & Sharon. Etc the list goes on and on.

(Hope to see you at our final weekend).

To all those who have regularly attend many of our events and supported us especially during our

recent personal crises outside of DSX, no amount of thanks can ever seem to be enough, but we know who you and we will always be there for you.

PLEASE SEE WEBSITE www.destinysx.co.uk for more info and or call us.



Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
DIPPER:

wow that’s a name from the a very very very distant past if our records are correct and im sure they are you came to us in JULY 2007, yep July 2007 (YOUR ONLY EVER VISIT) its now 2010 and for some weird reason which is far beyond us to imagine why its taken you 3 years to put up your piece of tripe as well. We never allow “drunk” men here.

Were not at all sure why you bothered with your review and to be honest we don’t care why.

But to those who read this it must seem weird that you took so long on doing so.

Anyways just to put some record straight we were given warnings about you back in 2007/8 and you we banned you if you ever returned here. Were so glad you didn’t bother coming back.

We have never asked people to leave early in the 5 years we been here, esp if there are several guests to which you admit perhaps your memory isn’t quite right.

No need to reply to any of the above we don’t care about your views nor your one sided misinformed stories and actions remember others did see you and it made interesting conversation here after your reviews with our regular guests.

If our paths ever do cross please totally ignore us as we don’t want anything to do with you whatsoever.

May you have a many happy days and find what you’re looking for.

Best regards

Robert Destiny SX



Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
CELTICHEART:

WHAT A LOAD OF TRIPE, you arrived with attitude because you didn’t understand simple directions. When you did phone and ask it was “hello were on our way and were lost” silence for 10 seconds then you got my simplistic reply about using ESP.

When you did finally arrive I greeted you well just like every other guest the first words out of ya mouth was how bad it was to get here then followed up with “not many here” I only want to come in and look around first followed by when do you close and other irrelevant comments and actions.

At which point I didn’t want you in our place we don’t have to put up with the attitude from any visitors so instead of just doing what i should have and told you to go i told ya we close in 30 mins it’s a very easy option for me to do so

Karen who listened to the attitude you were giving me already made her mind up that you are not suitable to enter our venue, you were given a form and politely requested to fill it in then Karen left you with me to serve our other guests at the time.

ALWAYS 2 SIDES TO EVERY STORY WERE SO GLAD WE HAVE CAMERAS IN THE RECPT AREA & OUTSIDE WITH SOUND BECAUSE WE and our other guests HAD GREAT FUN COMPAIRING WHAT YOU WROTE TO WHAT WE SEE AND HEAR.

Were sure you are always faultless and always 100% right. (That last statement may not be correct)

No need to reply to any of the above we don’t care about your views nor your one sided misinformed stories and actions remember others did see you and it made interesting conversation here after your reviews with our regular guests.

If our paths ever do cross please totally ignore us as we don’t want anything to do with you whatsoever.

May you have a many happy days and find what you’re looking for.

Best regards

Robert Destiny SX



Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Fabulous
SWINGINGESSEX:

We & our other guests remember you well your quite boring visit early DEC 2009 another one of those cpls who sit alone and watch the place and expecting everyone else to pamper to your needs and approach you etc. It’s our fault that you gave out bad vibes and other guests just couldn’t be bothered to join in or chat to you, weird how the other guests had no problems.

And on lighter note your review Feb 2010 why didn’t you bother recording your views after you came, why wait for 2 ½ months to do so, another memory loss perhaps.

No need to reply to any of the above we don’t care about your views nor your one sided misinformed stories and actions remember others did see you and it made interesting conversation here after your reviews with our regular guests.

If our paths ever do cross please totally ignore us as we don’t want anything to do with you whatsoever.

May you have a many happy days and find what you’re looking for.

Best regards

Robert Destiny SX



Date: 27 May 2010

Rating: Avoid
Went once on a Friday. Club closed at 11pm due to only 8 people being present. 1 couple in their late 60's the owner and his partner and ourselves plus two single guys. All those present except ourselves were "friends" of the owner, the two guys were VERY drunk. The owner was rude and abusive to a degree we have never seen in ANY business EVER. We paid nearly £50 for membership, one round of drinks and admission having arrived around 10.20pm and being ejected at 11pm we were not impressed. We would never go again under any circumstances.

Date: 20 May 2010

Rating: Avoid
We went to Destiny Sx in Essex a couple of weeks ago on a Friday but did not even set foot past the reception area as they were so rude to us. We phoned up as we got a little lost and before we could even say where we were located the chap on the phone jumped in with "well let me get my extra sensory perception working so I can find out where you are" and then proceeded to give us directions as if we were complete imbeciles!! When we did get there the car park was empty so at the reception we asked the same guy who had been on the phone if it was liklely to get any busier and all he could say was "well we do not guarantee anything". So we then asked when were they closing so we could gauge whether there was time for it to get busy given that it was 10 pm already. To this he replied " we may stay open or we may shut in half an hour" !!! Not very helpful answers considering we were about hand over £20 for the pleasure of possibly half an hour and had travelled 1.5 hours to get there. Another member of staff came through and shoved a memebership form under our nose without a word and walked off. Not very welcoming at all and after another attempt at getting a straight answer about whether it was worth staying and what we could expect and getting nowhere we walked out. Anywhere else we have been has been so welcoming (Chameleons,Partners, Xtasia) and made you feel at ease but someone needs to sort out their public relations strategy as it did not endear us to them at all.



Date: 12 April 2010

Rating: OK
we have been going to destinysx for a few years now. never seen any trouble or so called "cliques". knr are great hosts and have we always found partygoers to be polite and friendly and have made some good friends there.its a great club with a great atmosphere and great people. always our first choice for a night out xx

Date: 12 March 2010

Rating: Fabulous
We go often and have a great time....socially and playing....its what you make it...xxx

Date: 28 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
Oh right.. we know you guys.. the ones that walked straight in and rudely invited yourselfs into one of the play rooms whilst we were playing with another couple.....

says it all really!

L&L



Date: 21 February 2010

Rating: Avoid
Only ever went once and that was enough. Saturday night and only 6 other couples there. They obviously all new each other, and by the time we left not one had spoken to us. Thankfully some friends introduced us to Eureka's in Kent. Well worth driving past this club into Kent.

Date: 19 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
we were there on sat night and we had a great time as always, and the hosts were fun and friendly, see you soon r & k xx

Date: 19 February 2010

Rating: Avoid
ok just to add a last few words on the subject as everybody else including the owners who wasnt there seem to have formed an opinion totally different to what actually happened, yes we went with some good friends of ours which i belive pissed the host of the night off as soon as we turned up, it was our 1st visit to this club and was a bit nervous about it as wasnt sure what it would be like and as for the couple that said we was unsure of ourself's dont comment unless you know us personally and can form a judgement, the people we went with was certanly NOT trouble makers and anybody that saw the incident at the end of the night would know that it was the host that was causing the trouble and being abusive to everyone involved and NOT the other way round and as in the email sent to us from the owners asking for infomation on what happened that i did reply to and got a response saying they would review the cctv footage of reception i only hope they are big enough to do so and comment on there findings and hold there hands up to someone else tarnishing the name of there club????? neither us nor the couple we went with are trouble makers and maybe it was just THAT host that took a dislike to us and for whatever reason decided to cause a scene and maybe i am being unfair to the club in my comments but i can only comment on what happened and because of that i feel the club was a crap night and will not be returning, im sure that doesnt bother anyone as they dont want my money as they say but maybe a bit of honesty from the host or the owners would go a long way to repairing there credibility......sometimes its good to hold your hands up and say sorry we was wrong!!!!!!

Darren


Date: 18 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
~~~~ NEW PARTY & HOSTS ~~~~~

Cross dressers/Transvestites/She Males & Admirers

CD/TV/TS- Bi Night

Every 2nd & 4th wed month 8pm till 12-1amish

Hosted by DEBBS-ESSEX

The Hostess with the Mostess

you wont find a better you wont find a better Safe Secluded Secure and Licensed Venue anywhere.

Don't be shy book up and have some fun.

Mail or see website for more info.


Date: 18 February 2010

Rating: OK
As part of the other couple mentioned in your comments from 13 Feb 2010, lets clarify the situation.

There was no attitude to filling out forms or any other problem until leaving the club, at which point when dandlessex enquired about their friend who was, for whatever reason clearly upset, they were met with a barrage of abuse from one of the hosts.

Their reaction was totally predictable.

As to your enquiries and chatting to other people present, I am surprised you did not feel capable of speaking to us. As you know we have visited your club many times in the past and would not consider ourselves to be trouble makers.

We WERE personal friends with your hosts but we were also subject to an unjust verbal attack. We know your host was under personal stress but the tirade of abuse was not acceptable.

In my opinion the whole episode was caused by the reaction of your host to the situation and they should be big enough to take responsibility for their actions not go about blaming others.

If any growing up is to be done, I suggest you look closer to home. Your removal of us as friends on SH clearly shows your shallow one sided approach to this matter.

We do not have a problem with your club or yourselves, just somewhat disappointed with the action that you have taken.

Lets hope this ends this unnecessary conflict.

Geoff


Date: 17 February 2010

Rating: Fun
We have been to Destiny's on a number of occasions and have always had a good time and have found the hosts very charming and welcoming. If you are a couple who are not totally 100% at ease with swinging then this lifestyle is not for you!!!!!

L and M


Date: 17 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
I must say that DSX is the best club i've been to..

Me and Lee were there Sat night and there was a couple there that was not sure about themselves and to be honest they should have not been there if they can not handle others...

Sounds to me like some growing up has to be done!

Kaz and Rob we'll be down again very soon spending our hard earned money drinking and have a very fun time as always..xx


Date: 16 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
WE WORK VERY HARD TO MAKE DESTINY SX THE PREMIERE VENUE IN ESSEX AND WILL ALWAYS RESPOND TO ANY COMMENTS.

Before i put our comments in answer to those of dandlessex below.

Lets have some background info.

1: we did request more info from dandlessex before our posting details re their review.

2: we received no answer from them despite 2 emails.

3: in finding out about that night chatting with other guests.

Well the couple who wrote this review came with another couple and it seems that as soon as they walked through the door they had some attitude re filling out required forms.

Also it seems that the only incident that we can find out about was with this couple and those they came with.

Why they wanted to put a bad review about our venue when it was those who caused the only incident is well beyond us.

Seeing totally conflicting reviews on the swinging heaven site only confirms that the same night event was a fun event had by all guests but you.

Dear dandlessex, in answer to some of your comments

(What a load of shit club!!!!! actual club was ok but the atmosphere was shit, worst club night we have been to wasn’t made welcome)

If you have something to say about a venue at least don’t write about an incident that it seems involved you and those who you came with. You had a “shit” night because you and your “friends” made it so, you made your “atmosphere shit” because you and your friends made it so and you were given a warm welcome from the hosts just like every other guest that night and every night.

(And wont be giving our money to them again,)

As far as not spending your money here, well thank you for that as we don’t need “your” money esp if your going to be causing trouble or with those who may cause trouble.

(It was our 1st visit to the club and wish we hadnt bothered we will stick to our regular place for fun

now as there is never any arguments or fighting and always made to feel welcome)

were very sorry that you had what seems to be a bad experience for your 1st visit here but it seems it was nothing to do with the venue, nor the hosts, nor the other guests, nor the atmosphere, it seems from what we have heard all your “arguments” we didn’t hear about any “fighting” and any problems were 100% with those you came with and no one else.

Everyone who comes through our doors is always made most warm welcome.

Best regards

Robert

Destiny SX


Date: 16 February 2010

Rating: Avoid
what a load of shit club!!!!! actual club was ok but the atmosphere was shit, worst club night we have been to wasnt made welcome and wont be givin our money to them again, it was our 1st visit to the club and wish we hadnt bothered we will stick to our regular place for fun now as there is never any arguments or fighting and always made to feel welcome

Date: 14 February 2010

Rating: Fabulous
Went to Destiny on Saturday the 2nd Jan had a great night. From the second you enter you are made to feel welcome and at ease. This was our first visit to a club of this type and we can say thanks destiny as it wont be our last.

For those who we met there thanks for a great evening and taking us under the wing as so to speak and the fun was good too lol.

Cheers all hope to see you all again very soon

Nick & Nikki


Date: 3 January 2010

Rating: OK
Destiny continues to amaze us..a friendly hosting couple and for experienced and newbies alike it is a great club. They have mad alot of changes and it really is intimate and cozy.. always our first choice above others... dont be shy... just come along.

Lin and Andy


Date: 10 November 2009

Rating: Fabulous
Went to Destiny for the first time last night and was made to feel really welcome as soon as we walked through the door.

Robert and Karen are fab and the club is great and kept in wonderful condition by them both.

If you have any worries about going to a club but want to try one then we would definately recommend Destiny for your first time.

We will definately be coming back again and again.

Thanks for a great time. xxxxxx


Date: 11 October 2009

Rating: OK
UPDATE:

CREDIT SQUEEZE SPECIAL ENTRY ALL EVENTS

8pm-9:30pm HALF ENTRY

after 9:30pm Normal

NO OTHER VENUE OFFERS SO MUCH FOR SO LITTLE.

Having several refits and updates and decor during the past few years always getting better. More private lockable areas and a dedicated smoking solution for those that must. Unbeatably Safe Secure Seculded and Licensed. New hosts for CD/TV and admirers DebbsEssex.



Date: 6 October 2009

Rating: Fabulous
While awaiting for admin to update the Destiny SX info to the following. thoght wede put some info

Thanks

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Destiny SX Essexs Premiere Adult Venue/Studio over 4 years in the making.

Often imitated but never bettered

The venue/studio.

Is a purpose built venue which composes of over ten varied rest rooms each of different themes, with plenty of seating in a comfortable warm and relaxed environment with an erotic and sexy atmosphere with likeminded people.

There's a disco, and intimate lounge areas and plenty of play space

Even our Dungeon area for those who like to be naughty, Couples only SMOOCHY dance area with 2 Poles for enticing sexy dancing and a dedicated heated smoking solution for those that must.

You have SECURE SAFE parking for many cars with roving 24 hour security.

You have a LICENSED refreshment bar which provides a varied selection of alcoholic drinks at competitive prices as well as tea, coffee, cold drinks and soft drinks. You have snacks and on special occasions buffet choc fountain

You will be shown around the venue by our friendly folks.

DSX is available for other private functions, as well for other fun events.

Please contact us for more information.

First time callers please arrive with 2 forms of ID, 1 to inc address.

For Single Gents Please contact us for further info as cold calling rarely gains access

all the single gents that are members are known recommended and/or validated on

various sites and we only ever allow a limited number to some of our events.

Minimum Dress code applies to Saturday events.

Destiny SX is more than an adult venue.

It’s an experience not to forget and always to repeat.

The club is located in Rainham, Essex It's an erotic night out.

Whether you're Swingers, Exhibitionists, Voyeurs, CD/TV/TS Bi or Straight we have events that cater for all. Inc Photo sessions and Fetish Fun.

Or just enjoy a sexy, intimate night out, you'll fit in perfectly, dress up or dress down, you'll have a great time, with no pressure and no limits, you can let your hair down and be yourself.

Totally discrete location and much more fun than many other adult venues.

Don’t miss out!!.

*********



Date: 20 September 2009

Rating: Fabulous
We made our first visit and despite the nerves on our behalf we were greeted by the staff and made to feel at home. Club was clean roomy and had lots of options for fun. Boy did we have fun. Thanks again Lin and Andy.x

Date: 21 June 2009

Rating: Fabulous
we've been a couple of times and it's a club we can highly recommened.a sexy and friendly couple own this club and they made us feel welcome both times.its relaxed,fun clean place to go.well worth a visit or two.

Date: 6 December 2008

Rating: OK
we went a few weeks ago for our 1st experiance to see if we would like it...staff were great very welcoming and friendly...the place was perfect very clean and well equipped...its not something i would do often...but next time we fancy it thats the place we will go...we would defo recommend it....

Date: 27 September 2008

Rating: Fabulous
We go there all the time mainly saturdays Robert and Karen are great hosts very friendly, The clubs even better since the refit with more rooms to play in, We always have fun!!

definitely worth visiting


Date: 10 April 2008

Rating: Fabulous
been going now 4 over 5 month on and off its a great place to have some fun lovely and clean and very frendy if u wanna try a club 4 the first time this is the place to go

Date: 30 January 2008

Rating: Fabulous
been going to destiny sx for a few months now always very friendly always feel very welcome,maybee its not the biggest club in the world but its very very clean always a pleasure to go to,the owners are great and help out anytime thier needed my only problem is that most of you lot dont go and make it a landmark club!

Date: 28 December 2007

Rating: Fabulous
Went again last night with some friends. Lovely welcome by all. New layout is fab. Def worth a visit!! Lost of fun

stv n lou xx


Date: 9 December 2007

Rating: OK
Went for the first time last night and made to feel very welcome by the owners and guests alike we will definitely be becoming regulars at this venue.

Date: 9 December 2007

Rating: Fabulous
Haven't be able to get down half as much since becoming memebers because of commitments! Always been made welcome by owners and 'guests'. Relaxed, fun, clean place. Loved the old layout can't wait to see the changes. Went for their second bday and the place was packed. Def worth a visit what ever your into! stv n lou xx

Date: 17 November 2007

Rating: OK
Been here twice since we listed it, but not since the improvements. Very nice layout in the club and very clean and friendly, only got to play once as on both occasions it was quiet, but we have been told it can get very busy in there esp at the weekend, so we hope to go again soon.

Date: 7 November 2007

Rating: Fabulous
i went there 2 time so far i find it to be very frendy well be going again soon x

Date: 14 July 2007

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