 | Sorry this is a long review, but it needs to be said.
We have VERY mixed feelings about our first visit tonight. On one hand the club has some really great facilities and yes we did meet some awesome people. We were shown around by Ron the owner, who gave us a great guided tour of the impressive venue and who seemed like a really nice guy who is passionate about the club. We also chatted with the lovely trans lady at the bar (sorry forgotten your name) who was truly lovely and made everyone very welcome.
But, and it is a BIG but, the club seems to have some BIG problems with how it manages problematic single male guests.
There were just far too many creepy ones tonight for our experience to be anything else but uncomfortable. We all know the type - the ones who make zero effort to socially engage or even say a single word to anyone and who lurk in dark corners until the play starts, then somehow think its ok to uninvitedly push their dick into the face of the women.
But it got far worse than uncomfortable.
We had one such individual who followed Twinkle around relentlessly, constantly invading her personal space uninvited. Whenever we started to play he was constantly pushing his dick into her face and kept touching her after being told NO clearly and even being physically pushed away by her. This happened twice so we reported it to staff (not Ron the owner, or the lovely trans lady that works there but someone else) and identified the chap responsible. The staff member just said "nothing we can do, it's a greedy girl night, some women like that".
Frankly, saying that there is nothing you can do when you are telling them of a person in your club that is sexually assaulting female guests is UTTERLY UNACCEPTABLE.
Feeling unsupported by the venue, I had to approach the chap directly and made it clear, very politely but assertively, that his attention was not wanted. We returned to a play room where barely a minute later the same man appeared again, touched Twinkle's breasts and again waved his dick in her face. Obviously this led to a very assertive verbal confrontation with him. He responded not even with an apology but by simply moving onto another female guest who had also previously told him no, and doing exactly the same to her. This prompted a bigger confrontation, thankfully where we and the other lady were backed up by several people in the room. Only then did this male leave. It was a huge mood killer and it should NEVER EVER have come to that, especially when staff had been made aware of how he was behaving.
Unfortunately, there were several single guys behaving in a similarly creepily persistent way, so this suggests the club needs to be much more proactive in tackling behaviour like this.
We are seasoned swingers and have been to many clubs, and we would never normally blame any venue for the behaviour of another customer. But to not act when being made aware of what amounts to sexual assault is UNACCEPTABLE. We know there are language or cultural barriers with some customers, but the numbers of creepy, persistent and pushy men tonight suggest the club needs to do a lot more around enforcing it's own rules.
Ron, please sort this out as it could undo all your hard work in building what is otherwise a great club with faciliies among the best we've ever seen. We understand that the single males keep clubs afloat, but you need to grip this problem, especially with those that have cultural attitudes that are completely incompatible with a club like yours. I wish you well, But we, and at least one other couple we met tonight are unlikely to return for some time, if ever.
Date: 9 May 2025
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