"I would say just go along and socialize first few times
Also check the club your going too there website look out for events social nights always
Only play when your both comfortable with it too "
Each to their own. We went to a club just to check it out and ended up playing with another couple and being watched by loads of guys. That was 20 years ago and we haven’t looked back since  |
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"So after a holiday to turkey the other half has agreed to go to a club, not sure if we want to play however it’s only an option any advice "
Just go along. You're obviously prepared to have sex fun with other people and at least at a club you will know that everyone there is for the same thing. It's not like meeting people in a pub and not knowing whether to broach the subject of sex. At a club you know everyone there wants sex that night with someone else and expect to be asked and chatted up by others who would like to have sex with them.
So go and see what happens. Plan for the worse and hope for the best.
Decide in advance what sort of sex partners you want to meet ie straight or bi. Couple or singles. Single guys on her etc etc. That way it will make it easier to follow up or reject approaches.
Also it's useful for the pair of you to have a non verbal code between you to let the other know if you are interested or not if you're talking to other people. A simple one is to hold each others hand and then squeeze once for I'm interested and three times for..kick the arsehole onto touch.
If you're not interested just be polite and don't be afraid to say. "Thanks for the chat but we are going to have a walk around now. Enjoy the rest of your evening".
Don't waste time on people you aren't interested it as you could be missing out else where.
If you fancy someone . Don't be afraid to make the first approach. As a new couple you have great excuse to approach people and ask them to tell you what goes on. And remember someone has to make the first move and odds of clicking are increased by the more people you chat to.
If you find you don't want to chat but still want action you can always go to a gloryhole.. Most clubs have them some where.
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Go, enjoy. Just for the fun of a night in a relaxed atmosphere with great people. Don't go with other intentions or expectations. Clubs are a great night out even if you don't play. And be there for her, don't go wondering off. Let her take the lead on how brave she wants to be and what she wants to do. Do not put pressure on her. Then she'll have a great time, whatever she's does or doesn't do. If she has a good time she'll want to go again. Maybe she'll take to it like a duck to water, maybe she'll grow with desire and confidence as time goes on (maybe in future visits) or maybe she'll just enjoy the social aspect. Just remember to put her first and what she needs. Because if she has a rubbish time or feels this is more about you than her it may be your last visit together. |
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