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Leeds - Quest or Pandoras for nervous male?
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So, fairly recently (last few months) single male. Single Dad, don't get much time and I'd like to try and dip my toes in to the club scene.
Not expecting anything - motivation is social side with like minded people.
Because I'm a single Dad, nights are often difficult (there's the occasional sleep over) but it's more likely I'll visit mid afternoon, early evening or weekend afternoon.
Currently I'm leaning towards Quest, I climb regularly not far from there and (providing there's a shower!) could call in after.
However I'd like to take the view of the community, where would you recommend? Where am I less likely to feel awkward coming in on my own?
Appreciate this has been discussed before but a quick search didn't answer my question  |
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I may have also climbed where you do.
They are very different venues. Quest is smaller and much more intimate. Pandora is a big place with a huge social area and a lot of rooms. Pandora can feel a little sparse when it's quiet.
Ultimately it will depend on how sociable you are and luck of the draw with who's attending, but usually people are pretty friendly at most clubs
Feel free to message me if you want to ask anything |
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We sometimes go to quest on a wed or fri afternoon. Just lately it's been really quiet.. to the point where we were the only ones there for an hour or so ( having the run of the place was fun 😁 )
Only advice we could give, is at least make an effort to chat.. last time we were there we just got stared at.. even when we showered.. creepy a.f...
Won't stop us going back though 😁 |
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We like quest and go daytime, sometimes very quiet but we always enjoy. They have showers, hot tub and sauna. What puts us off a bit is guys following 2 steps behind wherever we go... dont be one of those and dont be aftaid to engage with folk. |
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Thanks, definitely not the plan.
I'm no stranger to going to bars alone due to travel with work, and starting up conversations with random people (and knowing when they want to be left alone). But usually I've got a book to bury my head back in to, which would look a bit out of place here!
Updated my profile too, it was terrible (need to get some better pics too)
Thanks again for the advice folks, it's appreciated |
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Have to say I’m in the same situation of wanting to go to a club and being nervous about it as a single guy.
Was thinking of maybe plucking up the courage and going to quest today. Anyone going and would take pity on a nervous guy ha |
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By *G85Woman 19 weeks ago
leeds |
All depends what you want. But pandoras during most days is steam so becarful unless thats what youre looking for. Both clubs are good and ran well whichever you chose you'll find a friendly crowd. |
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By *eepee25Couple 19 weeks ago
South Yorkshire |
We are a couple and go to Quest. If you smile and say hi even in passing that makes a big difference. You don’t come across as a guy who leaps into conversation with questions like ‘so what you looking for’ or ‘fancy going to a room’. Single men have a little more work to do because they outnumber the couples and defo the single females. Be polite and not pushy and just see how it goes. |
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