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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wish clubs had bangles to let you know what people are into
Red - bi
Black - straight
Pink - gay
Green - not playing etc etc
Would be great for nervous newbs, and can be worn without clothing
What does the forum think?
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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago
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We are considering this as an option here, guest preference of course, but think the code system should be for soft swing, hard swing, non-involved, etc as couples, rather than a sexual indicator. Might just make those intro chats a little easier. Will watch this thread with interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are considering this as an option here, guest preference of course, but think the code system should be for soft swing, hard swing, non-involved, etc as couples, rather than a sexual indicator. Might just make those intro chats a little easier. Will watch this thread with interest."
I think this is an excellent idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not
Red and yellow ..... straight / soft swing
Blue and pink .... bi / hard swing
Red and green .... straight / not playing
Red goes to straight other colour what they are there for.
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"Why not
Red and yellow ..... straight / soft swing
Blue and pink .... bi / hard swing
Red and green .... straight / not playing
Red goes to straight other colour what they are there for.
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Simplicity! As already mentioned, if its too complicated, it ruins the point of doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are considering this as an option here, guest preference of course, but think the code system should be for soft swing, hard swing, non-involved, etc as couples, rather than a sexual indicator. Might just make those intro chats a little easier. Will watch this thread with interest."
Really good idea x  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dont care what colours are used just from our only experience so far it would have made it a lot more comfortable experience and would increase our likely hood of playing.
On a couples night you'd know instantly what another couples likes are, more importantly on a mixed night a bangle could signify what you dont want (single males for example), could even wear combination of bangles to cover scenario's.
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If it were our choice.
We'd go with....
Soft swing, Hard Swing, Not playing, and Bi/Bi Curious.
We do think that an indication of Bi sexuality would help. Mrs P has been disappointed more than once when the lady of a couple we've been talking to has said she's straight after spending time chatting. It would help to know beforehand. |
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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion. 
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion.
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes."
For us the bi side would be important and would like an indicator.
And on mixed nights an indicator to say couples only would work, wouldn't go to a mixed night in case of hassle, indicator would help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion.
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes."
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By *emjoCouple
over a year ago
Reading |
A system of bands has been used at our local club for a while.
They are glow bands.
Orange is for newbies and those who don't want to be approached by single guys.
Green is you want to be approached by anyone.
There are colours inbetween |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bands are a good idea, I do chat to a lot of people, but an indicator as to what they are looking for would help and be easier to bring it up in convo
PP xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this is something we have thought aabout too, very hard to know who wants what in clubs, we think a simple band selection would be helpful and save a lot of time too and embarasement if you ask someone for something they don't like , we like the idea. |
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I attended a club in Lelystad Netherlands called Go Go Nuts a few years ago (It was eventually taken over by the Le Baron group of clubs)
On certain nights... One Glow band was issued to single guys only, the guys would give you their glow bang as they called it, in exchange for a fuck (after all girls that’s what we're there for!) at the end of the night you received 20 euros in return for each glow bang you handed in. Now thats what you call a win-win-win situation! |
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Great idea .. Our input
The colours should be standard in ALL clubs
We suggest these categories:
Couple 4 couple
Couple 4 male
Couple 4 lady
Single male 4 lady
Single lady 4 male
Bi (Looking for same sex) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and if its anything like in here,half the bi guys would be wearing straight bands incase no one wanted to play with them"
Ha, so true, but they'd be missing out on all the guys, women and couples that like to get involved in or watch bi play. All the more for me, where's that wrist band?  |
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By *andcCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire and London |
"Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion.
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes."
Also on mixed nights, a colour to show couples who are looking for single guys..at least this gives the single guys a chance to see who to approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I attended a club in Lelystad Netherlands called Go Go Nuts a few years ago (It was eventually taken over by the Le Baron group of clubs)
On certain nights... One Glow band was issued to single guys only, the guys would give you their glow bang as they called it, in exchange for a fuck (after all girls that’s what we're there for!) at the end of the night you received 20 euros in return for each glow bang you handed in. Now thats what you call a win-win-win situation!"
So in effect it's a free lance brothel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion.
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes."
What about single women? Do they also get a black band? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need more coffee I'm do confused and only read 3 quarters thread. Think I will stick to chatting to people so much easier than remembering coloured bands  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is we like talking to people sometimes we are soft sometimes full swap depends in who we meet and what their boundaries are I just don't see the need, we have no problem telling people no or let's play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have this really new system for finding out what people are into...
are you ready ?
it is called talking and listening...
who knows it might catch on..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have this really new system for finding out what people are into...
are you ready ?
it is called talking and listening...
who knows it might catch on..
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We like it |
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Whether I'm playing or not depends on if anyone takes my fancy - if lots do I'm at it all night, if noone does I just socialise and go home.
So being asked to choose on entry if I want to play or not would be impractical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are considering this as an option here, guest preference of course, but think the code system should be for soft swing, hard swing, non-involved, etc as couples, rather than a sexual indicator. Might just make those intro chats a little easier. Will watch this thread with interest."
If its not broke don't fix it, I would defo not go to a club, or anything else with a label attached!  |
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Bloody hell - my arm isn't long enough for all the bands I'd have to wear! 
Not everyone sits in one category. For example - we are a couple who play with single bi guys and maybe soft swing with bi couples. So we couldn't wear a 'couple looking for couples' one unless we also wore a soft swing - but we don't 'just' soft swing ... threesomes or moresomes with bi men is what we're primarily after.
It's a good idea but I think bands should reflect who you are and not what you're looking for. It would have to be simple.
Also, you'd have to take into consideration lighting levels ... red/amber, blue/green would look pretty similar in a dim light. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have this really new system for finding out what people are into...
are you ready ?
it is called talking and listening...
who knows it might catch on..
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totally agree failing this we could all have a check list on our backs showing what we like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm and we chat to anyone whilst in a club... Would hate the thought of people not chatting, to people because they weren't... according to their band... What people where looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whether I'm playing or not depends on if anyone takes my fancy - if lots do I'm at it all night, if noone does I just socialise and go home.
So being asked to choose on entry if I want to play or not would be impractical."
Agrees with this... Upon entry to a club we never really know how the night is going to go |
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By *andG4moreCouple
over a year ago
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Think this is a great idea.
Now not being known for not being chatty ahem i think this would give folks an opener to maybe start chatting.
i take on board what some folk are saying about labeling but presumably if you wanted to use the old fashioned chat to folk system you would not need to wear a bracelet.
i have spoke to hundreds of people who are quite nervous at the club and sit in the corner. I think this would give people easy openers. " oh i see your looking for".
Anything that helps people have a good expierience of the clubs cant be a bad thing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not suggesting it would be compulsory, could be for those who want it, also nothing to stop you changing the band colour throughout the evening if you wished, its a rubber band not a permanent market |
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Could also use both wrists, (L)eft for (L)ooking for, eg cpls, bi fems, soft swing etc, and (R)ight for what you a(R)e, eg, bi, cpl, etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have this really new system for finding out what people are into...
are you ready ?
it is called talking and listening...
who knows it might catch on..
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dont forget to add body language.. if people are (not) interested it's easily detectable, by anyone who has a grasp of social interaction.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could also be in raised braille for the blind, although I could imagine all pretending to be blind to cop a crafty feel"
youve cheered me up with that comment...now im thinking of crafty coppers lol x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some are more confident than others, thought it might be nice to have something optional in place to make it easier for all, would be less daunting and much less chance of awkward refusals.
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For us, it'd be useful to be able to spot bi guys on non-bi nights. Yes, we do the socialising thing but it's a pain to be chatting to a guy, he gets all keen then we ask 'are you bi?' he says no and it's game over ... disappointing for him and us.
Also, some guys then shadow us after we've said 'thanks but no thanks', maybe in the hope we'll suddenly change our preferred form of play based purely on their witty repartee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can just imagine going in to socialise so choosing a 'not playing' bracelet. Spotting some drop dead gorgeous, friendly polite yummy person and running to the desk to get a 'fuck me now' band! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can just imagine going in to socialise so choosing a 'not playing' bracelet. Spotting some drop dead gorgeous, friendly polite yummy person and running to the desk to get a 'fuck me now' band! "
Lol, see the system would work very nicely!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We think the word "Optional" should definitely be thrown into this debate."
Totally agree, the second it becomes a fixed rule you would alienate too many people.
I would bet over time though the vast majority would want to wear them |
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Wrist bands are already used at the lodge for the BDSM monster munch held there once a month.
yellow - sub
purple - dom/domme
both - switch
and the one i wear all the time
green - available to play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have this really new system for finding out what people are into...
are you ready ?
it is called talking and listening...
who knows it might catch on..
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Haha, isn't this what the basics of swinging are all about! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"I attended a club in Lelystad Netherlands called Go Go Nuts a few years ago (It was eventually taken over by the Le Baron group of clubs)
On certain nights... One Glow band was issued to single guys only, the guys would give you their glow bang as they called it, in exchange for a fuck (after all girls that’s what we're there for!) at the end of the night you received 20 euros in return for each glow bang you handed in. Now thats what you call a win-win-win situation!
So in effect it's a free lance brothel"
I thought it was just me reading it wrong.... |
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I think as xstasia mentioned, having it as an option would probably keep everyone happy.
The problem is, it's like on here, you specify an "interest" on your profile and some take that to mean - that's what your looking for! - which maybe the case, but may not be.
When we go to a club, we have no set agenda, whatever will be will be, whether that's with a couple or singles or whatever.
So we'd just opt out.
D&K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We go to a house party that has a wrist band system..
Green We play
Yellow We could be tempted
Red Not playing
Blue Bi
Its a bit of fun and give people an idea, if nothing else.
We think its a good idea and cut out wasting peoples time etc.. That being said it's good to talk to everyone and include everyone... |
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"Couples Only Nights:
Red = Hard Swing
Amber = Soft Swing
Green = Not sure yet
Mixed Nights
Black = Single Guy Looking to play
Red = Couple looking for Hard Play
Orange = Couple looking for Soft Play
Green = Couple not sure, need persuasion.
If not wearing one, then we like to chat and see where it goes."
This but add in a rainbow one for "anything goes" then that covers those who are bi-sexual. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bit disappointed that talking to people you may not want to play with but who might have something fun or interesting to say is described as "wasting your time" and here was me finally coming round to the idea of clubs and there being no pressure... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a bit disappointed that talking to people you may not want to play with but who might have something fun or interesting to say is described as "wasting your time" and here was me finally coming round to the idea of clubs and there being no pressure..."
I don't think it's a waste of time and chat to lots of people with no expectation of ever playing with them. As a new 'clubber' though, I found it a bit daunting. Coded bands would have helped me, in fact, I did ask management if they had ever used them. They said people didn't bother with them so it was a waste of time. |
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"Whats wrong with the original flirt chat n see method? ,? "
... because when you're looking exclusively for bi guys, it's 'flirt, chat, decline straight blokes politely and have them follow you all night' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a good idea and certainly we've seen similar work in Fet clubs. I think in larger clubs it could be a huge perk.
But it does have it's downside. It could only be used in the broadest of terms, it would potentially stop people socializing, and personally we are very fluid in how we play. Our proffered dynamic is full swap with a bi female but it's by nomeans essential. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely agree, something to indicate that you're open to same sex play as an individual could be useful. Other than that I think chat flirt and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bangle 1
Primary colour dictates what you are.
RED........... STRAIGHT.
BLUE......... FULL BI/GAY/LESBIAN
YELLOW..... CURIOUS.
Bangle 2
Secondary colour dictates what level of play you will go to.
Orange....... full swing/anything and everything.
Purple........ soft swing/ light moderate play.
Green...... Not playing.
The above worn by everybody.
Couple... bifem/straight male
Couple... fem playing/ male not.
Black neck ribbon.... newbi
White neck ribbon.... TV/CD
FETISH NIGHT. AS ABOVE BUT
Light blue neck ribbon..Sub
Brown neck ribbon... Dom.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish clubs had bangles to let you know what people are into
Red - bi
Black - straight
Pink - gay
Green - not playing etc etc
Would be great for nervous newbs, and can be worn without clothing
What does the forum think?
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Hellfire club does this, using ultra-violet wrist bands so they can be seen in the dark. Brilliant idea... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like the idea. I prefer to chat to people, get to know them and figure things out from there.
With this I can see all sorts of assumptions and expectations from people approaching. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for input all, some good points for those against and those for it.
To us the best solution is to
implement it as a completely voluntary thing,
keep it simple,
make it colourblind proof
and go from there,
all input from club owners valued |
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