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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have always enjoyed going to my local club, Townhouse International in the North West. It is friendly, sociable, clean, fun, great facilities, good prices, live the people who go, friendly, respectful, and some very sexy people too!
I started going when I was part of a couple. And we had some great times there!!
But as a newly single male, I've found it to be completely different experience.
I kind of feel left out, pushed aside. Yes I can still chat and have a drink with some of the regulars there, but there's not always a lot else to do.
Most couples want other couples or a woman.
I am friendly with the owners and have expressed my concerns, and it seems that they are aware of the issue too. Single men members have dropped of the list and they want to do something about it. One of the biggest things is trying to attract more single girls to the scene.
Clubs seem to still have this old fashioned seediness about them and this is not the case.
Townhouse are looking to make some BIG changes next year, to try to get a lot more new members involved. That's for couples, females, males, Tv/Ts, fetish, anyone really.
What's others experiences of visiting clubs as a single male?? |
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I used to visit a club as a couple, which we both really enjoyed. We then split up and although different I still enjoyed myself. We then visited together but just as friends and kinda went our separate ways inside. He said it was horrible being a single guy and really appreciated what it was to be a couple. Shame he didn't realise that when we were together as he might still be enjoying 'us' and clubs.
Can emphasise what its like to be a single guy in a club. |
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Or try a club with a more chilled attitude to single males. Cupids and La Chambre welcome well mannered single men and have females and couples who attend looking for them.
As I'm sure you know from attending as half of a couple the successful single men are the ones who mingle without leering, maintain the conversation with all parties and who keep it light and chatty and move on to give people space to decide.
Whereas the silent followers who lurk in the hopes of being picked, pass a little too close in corridors and never make eye contact or any kind of contact until they are standing too close and wanking madly when there's play are rarely picked.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If the club has had a drop in single male numbers and they want to entice them back with more single females then change it from a swingers club to a normal club,they're banged out with both on fridays and saturday nights,only difference being that you can stay there and fuck rather than go home  |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Or try a club with a more chilled attitude to single males. Cupids and La Chambre welcome well mannered single men and have females and couples who attend looking for them.
As I'm sure you know from attending as half of a couple the successful single men are the ones who mingle without leering, maintain the conversation with all parties and who keep it light and chatty and move on to give people space to decide.
Whereas the silent followers who lurk in the hopes of being picked, pass a little too close in corridors and never make eye contact or any kind of contact until they are standing too close and wanking madly when there's play are rarely picked. "
Proper shame you weren't there on Friday Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Try a sex club instead of a swingers club. We prefer them by miles, always have fun, with no fucking about chatting and "getting to know people"."
One of the things with townhouse that I do like is the chatting and friendliness of it. I don't go there just for a shag, I go for the socialising and the flirting too. It's just that most of the flirting and socialising is done between couples and the odd single lady that goes. And yes it would be nice to get a shag in too now and again lol! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the club has had a drop in single male numbers and they want to entice them back with more single females then change it from a swingers club to a normal club,they're banged out with both on fridays and saturday nights,only difference being that you can stay there and fuck rather than go home "
Interesting, I have suggested re-branding it and trying to stay away from using the word "swinger" to get away from that old fashioned view of the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Or try a club with a more chilled attitude to single males. Cupids and La Chambre welcome well mannered single men and have females and couples who attend looking for them.
As I'm sure you know from attending as half of a couple the successful single men are the ones who mingle without leering, maintain the conversation with all parties and who keep it light and chatty and move on to give people space to decide.
Whereas the silent followers who lurk in the hopes of being picked, pass a little too close in corridors and never make eye contact or any kind of contact until they are standing too close and wanking madly when there's play are rarely picked. "
I may have to have a little trip and visit one of them. Townhouse is the only club I've been to as it's right on my doorstep. Thanks x |
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You haven't said how your approach towards single men was when you were in a couple, or how your single experience will affect how you would act if you got "coupled up" again. That would be interesting to hear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always manage to seek and find the single guys at clubs ! Lol x I've visited loads of clubs and continue to go round the country trying them out - my profile has a list and mini reviews x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You haven't said how your approach towards single men was when you were in a couple, or how your single experience will affect how you would act if you got "coupled up" again. That would be interesting to hear."
Interesting point. As a couple, we would chat to anyone really whether we fancied them or not. We attended tv/ts nights too even though neither of us have any interest with exploring that scene, but we got to know some of them and still enjoyed the social side.
I tried to encourage my other half to go get her kicks with a couple of the single men she pointed out she fancied. She rarely pointed anyone out that she liked, so when she did I said go for it! I wasn't interested in being in a MMF threesome but was all up for separate play. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always manage to seek and find the single guys at clubs ! Lol x I've visited loads of clubs and continue to go round the country trying them out - my profile has a list and mini reviews x "
Fancy a partner in your travels? Lol. Would love to do that, travelling and sex what a journey! Haha x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"You haven't said how your approach towards single men was when you were in a couple, or how your single experience will affect how you would act if you got "coupled up" again. That would be interesting to hear."
its an interesting one... because I have seen single guys "couple up"... and then because mr big bollocks because they have a woman on their arm....
I think my approach as a single guy is different, because of the night I go is primarily a couples night, I know most of the people there are not going to be interested in me... but it is the social side that keeps me going back.......
the fixation isn't on "action" (i hate that word in a swinging context) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You haven't said how your approach towards single men was when you were in a couple, or how your single experience will affect how you would act if you got "coupled up" again. That would be interesting to hear.
its an interesting one... because I have seen single guys "couple up"... and then because mr big bollocks because they have a woman on their arm....
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Seen that lots, especially on here- both sexes. They love to rub it in with the singles. 
Too many guys get with a woman just to use her as 'bait' to get him into parties and clubs.  |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"You haven't said how your approach towards single men was when you were in a couple, or how your single experience will affect how you would act if you got "coupled up" again. That would be interesting to hear.
its an interesting one... because I have seen single guys "couple up"... and then because mr big bollocks because they have a woman on their arm....
I think my approach as a single guy is different, because of the night I go is primarily a couples night, I know most of the people there are not going to be interested in me... but it is the social side that keeps me going back.......
the fixation isn't on "action" (i hate that word in a swinging context)"
Fabio and you other guys, can I ask, does a sensible single man roam about saying hi to all the couples who are sitting by themselves or would you look ridiculous? I found the balls to say hi to 2 of them, which is the bravest thing I've done so far but I gave up after 2 "cold shoulders", which is probably not what you would recommend. Having said that my social nature did pay off in one of the upstairs rooms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't agree more, I've found a lot of couples and very few single men ... For me  Think TH has been so strict on letting single guys in that's it's deterred them now and they don't bother. Please please more guys xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Fabio and you other guys, can I ask, does a sensible single man roam about saying hi to all the couples who are sitting by themselves or would you look ridiculous? I found the balls to say hi to 2 of them, which is the bravest thing I've done so far but I gave up after 2 "cold shoulders", which is probably not what you would recommend. Having said that my social nature did pay off in one of the upstairs rooms"
can't speak for anyone else... but I just talk to people and join in the conversation.... smoking areas are brilliant just for chatting... same with social areas....
I think the worst thing you can be is some sort of social wallflower and just linger not saying a word...
obviously that might work on other nights such as greedy girl night (i don't know because they are not my thing) but on a mixed night, I want to at least know the names I am playing with before I get to that stage....
I think the trick is the mindset... i think most single guys go with the expectation of play, because of the night I go I go with the expectation of not playing and socialising... and if I do it is a bonus |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Best thing that a single guy could do for us in a club other than prior arranging the meet is to come over and simply chat to us both.
We have been approached mid play which is a no no and also when the male half pops to get drinks. These will get you nowhere with most couples.
Would be so impressed if someone just came up to us in the bar and chats then see where it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can't agree more, I've found a lot of couples and very few single men ... For me Think TH has been so strict on letting single guys in that's it's deterred them now and they don't bother. Please please more guys xx"
Pippa, I've spotted you on fab before and read your profile. I cannot message you as I am 2 years younger than your age range...
Come and say hi to me! x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Best thing that a single guy could do for us in a club other than prior arranging the meet is to come over and simply chat to us both.
We have been approached mid play which is a no no and also when the male half pops to get drinks. These will get you nowhere with most couples.
Would be so impressed if someone just came up to us in the bar and chats then see where it goes. "
Sometimes it's quite hard when you don't even get a hello from the peraon or couple you try talking to. I've experienced this as a single and as a couple. Some couples have arranged a meet and don't even socialise with others.
Maybe we should all have name badges on...
"Hi my/our name(s) .....
I/we are after M/F/couple for play or not tonight thanks were booked!!"
Haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Best thing that a single guy could do for us in a club other than prior arranging the meet is to come over and simply chat to us both.
We have been approached mid play which is a no no and also when the male half pops to get drinks. These will get you nowhere with most couples.
Would be so impressed if someone just came up to us in the bar and chats then see where it goes.
Sometimes it's quite hard when you don't even get a hello from the peraon or couple you try talking to. I've experienced this as a single and as a couple. Some couples have arranged a meet and don't even socialise with others.
Maybe we should all have name badges on...
"Hi my/our name(s) .....
I/we are after M/F/couple for play or not tonight thanks were booked!!"
Haha! "
Traffic light parties are the way forward. Our club does them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Best thing that a single guy could do for us in a club other than prior arranging the meet is to come over and simply chat to us both.
We have been approached mid play which is a no no and also when the male half pops to get drinks. These will get you nowhere with most couples.
Would be so impressed if someone just came up to us in the bar and chats then see where it goes.
Sometimes it's quite hard when you don't even get a hello from the peraon or couple you try talking to. I've experienced this as a single and as a couple. Some couples have arranged a meet and don't even socialise with others.
Maybe we should all have name badges on...
"Hi my/our name(s) .....
I/we are after M/F/couple for play or not tonight thanks were booked!!"
Haha!
Traffic light parties are the way forward. Our club does them "
Tell me more about that? What club do you go to? x |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Best thing that a single guy could do for us in a club other than prior arranging the meet is to come over and simply chat to us both.
We have been approached mid play which is a no no and also when the male half pops to get drinks. These will get you nowhere with most couples.
Would be so impressed if someone just came up to us in the bar and chats then see where it goes. "
I came really close to chatting to a lady when the guy walked away but not because I didn't want her man to be there; just awkward timing on my part, so I thought the best thing would be to just zip it lol |
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The thing is that if I'm in a club I'll consider play. But it doesn't mean that I'll say yes to any single guy that asks. So a traffic light or badge system wouldn't help me or any of the guys there. If you're my type I will make every effort to talk to you. |
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