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Why are people scared of joining swingers clubs ?

By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

We were complete novices to the swinging scene and after chickening out a few times decided to join a local club. We had no idea what to expect, but kicked ourselves after our first visit. Each visit was a totally different experience and a huge learning curve. Baby steps were the way to go. My (Kez - John doesn't swing - he just socialises) confidence has grown and i'm very comfortable in the club environment and feel very safe.

I'm not comfortable with home meets as it make me anxious - why don't more people try clubs too ?

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

I prefer to organise my own chaos

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like to try any fun along our journey of discovery

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I prefer to organise my own chaos

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but does it work out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like both. We went to clubs first, though, as I was nervous about inviting people into my personal space for private meets. But now we enjoy clubs and private meets equally.

-Courtney

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"We like to try any fun along our journey of discovery "
. Do clubs work for you guys ?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"We were complete novices to the swinging scene and after chickening out a few times decided to join a local club. We had no idea what to expect, but kicked ourselves after our first visit. Each visit was a totally different experience and a huge learning curve. Baby steps were the way to go. My (Kez - John doesn't swing - he just socialises) confidence has grown and i'm very comfortable in the club environment and feel very safe.

I'm not comfortable with home meets as it make me anxious - why don't more people try clubs too ?"

Because we're all different and some of us don't want to.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I'm not comfortable with home meets as it make me anxious - why don't more people try clubs too ?"

Why were you scared of going to clubs?

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Newbury

"I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs."

LOLWut?

Did you leave? I would have.

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"We like both. We went to clubs first, though, as I was nervous about inviting people into my personal space for private meets. But now we enjoy clubs and private meets equally.

-Courtney"
. Haha you know I'd meet you guys any how

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I prefer to organise my own chaos

but does it work out "

Heheh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

aint scared just dont want to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting."

You can tell you don't have to pay as much as the single men! "hi i just paid £40 for the atmosphere"....never gonna happen!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like clubs feel much safer in swingers club than a normal club !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just not knowing what to expect. My first visit to a club I went alone it was exceptionally intimidating. I had spoken to the host earlier in the evening and he actually met me at my car and walked me in, introduced me to a few people and gave me a tour. Everyone was lovely, respectful and generous with their time, as they have been on each visit.

It was a member at the club who referred me to this site.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting.

You can tell you don't have to pay as much as the single men! "hi i just paid £40 for the atmosphere"....never gonna happen!

Its true. Its a great night out for a single woman. However my local club is only £25 for men so not that bad.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"why don't more people try clubs too ?"

How do you know they don't?

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

I get that everyone is different, and has thier own expectations etc, each to their own.

I was scared as I didn't have any idea of what to expect and I was really shy lol.

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"why don't more people try clubs too ?

How do you know they don't?"

Quite a few people I have chatted to have told me so - they have house meets but aren't ready to try clubs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like both. We went to clubs first, though, as I was nervous about inviting people into my personal space for private meets. But now we enjoy clubs and private meets equally.

-Courtney. Haha you know I'd meet you guys any how

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs.

LOLWut?

Did you leave? I would have. "

Yes we did. Never been to a club since.

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs.

LOLWut?

Did you leave? I would have.

Yes we did. Never been to a club since."

That's a real shame, from our experience in our local club, everyone is welcome and no-one judges anyone else, you can be comfortable being who you are x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I fancy trying one, if only once. As a single guy, I'd worry that people would automatically assume I'm a horny, pushy knob-head, who'd shag anything with a pulse - lol

Would prefer to go with someone else, if only for conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We prefer clubs to private meets too. For us it's a good night out, interesting people to talk to, fun things to see, you never quite know what you're going to see.

Some people seem to think that of you go to clubs, you always have sex with loads of people. We don't play with others all the time, we go to have fun with each other but in public. Other times we do play with others but it's not necessary.

We treat it like a sexy club / spa, it has music, but also Jacuzzis, steam rooms, saunas and a fun mix of people.

I like private parties too, I just prefer to be in a busier environment

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs.

LOLWut?

Did you leave? I would have.

Yes we did. Never been to a club since.

That's a real shame, from our experience in our local club, everyone is welcome and no-one judges anyone else, you can be comfortable being who you are x"

I think the point is (as has been illustrated here) not everyone's experience is the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess clubs are more geared towards couples and women, whilst we men pay to much to get and don't get as much fun, recon that is one reason lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to clubs, quite like them but by far and away prefer the freedom of arranging my own meets away from the restrictions of a club...they're just an odd little extra for me

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I fancy trying one, if only once. As a single guy, I'd worry that people would automatically assume I'm a horny, pushy knob-head, who'd shag anything with a pulse - lol

Would prefer to go with someone else, if only for conversation."

If you were polite and respectful, i'm pretty sure you would get on fine

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"We prefer clubs to private meets too. For us it's a good night out, interesting people to talk to, fun things to see, you never quite know what you're going to see.

We treat it like a sexy club / spa, it has music, but also Jacuzzis, steam rooms, saunas and a fun mix of people.

I like private parties too, I just prefer to be in a busier environment

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not comfortable with home meets as it make me anxious - why don't more people try clubs too ?"
too expensive for me plus I want more than attraction ,as a,guy you don't go to a club regularly to socialise unless your wealthy so guys mostly go for the obvious and mostly don't get it but the clubs exist because so many guys go ,if they made the cost acceptable I might go with a friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

all clubs are different, plus any night at any club depends on who is there.

When we started swinging it was at a club, we loved it, went twice a month for a couple of years, then it got closed down.

took a long time to find another we liked, there are many bad nights in good clubs as well as just bad clubs to put people off. It's good luck if your first club experience is great.

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I guess clubs are more geared towards couples and women, whilst we men pay to much to get and don't get as much fun, recon that is one reason lol."

Guys often pay a little more yes, but, I know a lot of single guys that have their fair share of fun - having the right attitude reaps rewards

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I've been to clubs, quite like them but by far and away prefer the freedom of arranging my own meets away from the restrictions of a club...they're just an odd little extra for me

You seem to do pretty well without the club scene x

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I've tried two clubs. Both were unpleasant, seedy experiences.

I recall the manager of one of them saying to my partner (who was a BBW) 'We have Big Girls parties every Wednesday' and turning to me and saying 'but don't worry, normal people come as well'.

Put me right off clubs.

LOLWut?

Did you leave? I would have.

Yes we did. Never been to a club since.

That's a real shame, from our experience in our local club, everyone is welcome and no-one judges anyone else, you can be comfortable being who you are x

I think the point is (as has been illustrated here) not everyone's experience is the same."

Every visit to a club is a different experience, luckily, we haven't had any bad ones x

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By *ohnkez OP Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

It just seems a lot less hassle to go to a club for me than trying to arrange anything in advance. Doesn't matter if I play or not, I still have a good night out and if anything develops it's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been to clubs, quite like them but by far and away prefer the freedom of arranging my own meets away from the restrictions of a club...they're just an odd little extra for me

You seem to do pretty well without the club scene x

I'm happy with my place here

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I've been to clubs socially, I'd never play there though.

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

I like clubs to chat and hang out with like minded types and have a perv but down here, some can be a touch cliquey unless you're in an established group.

So hosting my own party in Feb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most single guys prefer to wank at home to free porn.

No need to spend 25 - 100 dollars for something you can get for free

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By *ripleXrateDWoman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have only been once although going back this sat.

It was a very relaxed atmosphere and I loved the social side to it as well as the play side.

I was worried for quite a while about going as I didn't know what to expect. I assumed it would just be one big gangbang that you had to be part of but after speaking to a few lovely people they put my mind right at ease.

Xxxxx

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

"I fancy trying one, if only once. As a single guy, I'd worry that people would automatically assume I'm a horny, pushy knob-head, who'd shag anything with a pulse - lol

Would prefer to go with someone else, if only for conversation."

In a club environment men aren't frowned on. You'd have to behave like a right ******

It does seem men get the rough end on here but in rl the couples/womem that have the attitude against single men only attend couples only nights, leaving mixed nights, relaxed, mischievous fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really enjoy clubs, although it took a massive amount of courage when I first went to one without my partner in crime. They are now by far and away my preferred place to meet, chat, flirt and who knows. Hoping to be going to one of my absolute faves on Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It just seems a lot less hassle to go to a club for me than trying to arrange anything in advance. Doesn't matter if I play or not, I still have a good night out and if anything develops it's a bonus

I find the exact oposite. Arranging stuff isn't very hard nor are short notice meets.

But a club is turn up get gouged for a 100+ membership then probably 50+ for the night, maybe not fancy anyone and if you do fancy them they may not be playing.

They're fun with a partner as a change but going as a single bloke is expensive and a lot of hassle.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There aren't any in Brighton so I'd have to travel and I don't have that spare time to make it worthwhile, plus, I'm more a morning person than evening and clubs seem to open more in the evening. It's not a case of being scared because I know I wouldn't be - it's just a case of practicalities.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I like you g to clubs as for me if I am In a watching mood I will happily stand back and watch people flirt tease and fuck but then also I like to some times be watched when playing and like group fun sometimes

I like hotel meets, and one2one also. House meets I don't mind but I like to know the other person or people before agreeing to go to thier house

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

He could go pay a decent escort £100 and be sure of an hours worth of good sex rather than winging it in a shared club where he may/may not get some tlc from someone whos escorting days are over or never arrived.

A misguided friend of mine went to a club after responding to a meet and ended up sat with a load of middle aged guys. A few of them were wanking to a porno on the telly whilst some fat old girl teased them a bit..

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

I completely disagree - I have had some great fun in clubs with some very attractive women that I would be punching well above my weight to have fun with

I even dated a couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not comfortable with home meets as it make me anxious - why don't more people try clubs too ?"

I wouldn't say I was scared, apprehensive would be a better word.

All I see on the forums is "go to a club to meet people". Usually followed by horror stories around people's experiences with the staff or members.

As a single man I'm not sure i'd be wholly comfortable walking in to a strange venue, full of strangers on my own.

I feel the same way around pubs and bars too.

Having read a few horror stories I'd hate to be pigeonholed or viewed as "one of those guys".

On the flip side, clubs are on my "to do" list.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me there a no no maybe when I'm much older and unhappily married lol then I will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to a few clubs before just that my finances now wouldn't let me travel further than my own front door but I suspect you are talking about those who haven't been

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people just feel nervous, what if they feel they be a wallflower, standing around nobody talking to them

some have expectations they have to play and there be sex going on in every corner

Scared of the embarrassment of getting rejected

thinking clubs maybe clicky and they won't be accepted

Etc ect

All I say to these is go with the attitude your going to a club to meet likeminded people, with no expectations of play and see how things go.

check out the club website to be familiar with rules and surroundings and choose to go on a fab social, an event to your taste like mine

as you have the support of someone to show you around and go over rules and some little hints how to connect with people, what you may think is people being clicky is usually people that only just met that night

so for those who haven't tried go for it as the social side is great let alone if you play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people just feel nervous, what if they feel they be a wallflower, standing around nobody talking to them

some have expectations they have to play and there be sex going on in every corner

Scared of the embarrassment of getting rejected

thinking clubs maybe clicky and they won't be accepted

Etc ect

All I say to these is go with the attitude your going to a club to meet likeminded people, with no expectations of play and see how things go.

check out the club website to be familiar with rules and surroundings and choose to go on a fab social, an event to your taste like mine

so for those who haven't tried go for it as the social side is great let alone if you play

These......

Some people just feel nervous, what if they feel they be a wallflower, standing around nobody talking to them

some have expectations they have to play and there be sex going on in every corner

Scared of the embarrassment of getting rejected

thinking clubs maybe clicky and they won't be accepted.

I'd say these are pretty common "conditions".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting."
me too, . The social aspect is brill! ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting."
me too, . The social aspect is brill! ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't go simply because get nervous and suffer anxiety in groups of people and trust me panic attacks aren't fun or fun to watch .

Debs x

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By *ripleXrateDWoman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Some people just feel nervous, what if they feel they be a wallflower, standing around nobody talking to them

some have expectations they have to play and there be sex going on in every corner

Scared of the embarrassment of getting rejected

thinking clubs maybe clicky and they won't be accepted

Etc ect

All I say to these is go with the attitude your going to a club to meet likeminded people, with no expectations of play and see how things go.

check out the club website to be familiar with rules and surroundings and choose to go on a fab social, an event to your taste like mine

so for those who haven't tried go for it as the social side is great let alone if you play

These......

Some people just feel nervous, what if they feel they be a wallflower, standing around nobody talking to them

some have expectations they have to play and there be sex going on in every corner

Scared of the embarrassment of getting rejected

thinking clubs maybe clicky and they won't be accepted.

I'd say these are pretty common "conditions".

There was quite a few people like this at the club I went to. There was one guy there himself and he stayed out the playrooms just walking about from room to room. He would try jump into open conversations but it never came to much. So we started chatting to him one thing lead to another and I ended up playing with him.

It's always worth going along at least once to see for yourself what it's like. Might not be for everyone but at least you will know if it's for you or not xxxx

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By *ripleXrateDWoman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I don't go simply because get nervous and suffer anxiety in groups of people and trust me panic attacks aren't fun or fun to watch .

Debs x"

My son used to have this problem, thankfully he's doing ok now but I can totally understand how you must feel regarding these k8nd of situations xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't go simply because get nervous and suffer anxiety in groups of people and trust me panic attacks aren't fun or fun to watch .

Debs x

My son used to have this problem, thankfully he's doing ok now but I can totally understand how you must feel regarding these k8nd of situations xxxx"

Thank you ,glad your son's okay now .have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and social anxiety, learning to cope xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I I get really shy n nervous around groups of people I don't know I hate crowds I get all panicky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I I get really shy n nervous around groups of people I don't know I hate crowds I get all panicky "

Your not alone feeling like that .hope your ok x

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By *ripleXrateDWoman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I don't go simply because get nervous and suffer anxiety in groups of people and trust me panic attacks aren't fun or fun to watch .

Debs x

My son used to have this problem, thankfully he's doing ok now but I can totally understand how you must feel regarding these k8nd of situations xxxx

Thank you ,glad your son's okay now .have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and social anxiety, learning to cope xx"

G.A.D is what he was diagnosed with. But by putting him in the right social circumstances and taekwando has really brought him out his shell. To early to say if he's over it yet but he's faced all his fears I'm very proud of him. Hope you find something that helps you soon xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't go simply because get nervous and suffer anxiety in groups of people and trust me panic attacks aren't fun or fun to watch .

Debs x

My son used to have this problem, thankfully he's doing ok now but I can totally understand how you must feel regarding these k8nd of situations xxxx

Thank you ,glad your son's okay now .have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and social anxiety, learning to cope xx

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Club scene is a very good way to ease yourself into swinging, relaxed and take it at your own pace. The secret is finding the clubs that are selective in who they permit entry to, i.e. not loads of single males .... Now waiting for the barrage from single males ( of which I am one )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess incase they see friend family or even their partner their.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not scared of clubs but after one visit to one i realised the men who go there just aren't my type.

I should have figured out that any man who can afford an entrance fee isn't really a great filter system but hey ho! Lesson learned!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love my local club it's fun and staff are great. Have a drink and mingle with regulars go in sauna/steam room or hot tub. Great dungeon like to get bobbed lol that's spanked paddled and massage along with oral sex on me lol......love it even if I don't have fun on the night I enjoy social side of meeting like minded people and just chatting and dancing in bar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

NoHurry, think you are going to the wrong clubs matey ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique. "

Maybe you should try Liberty Elite as it only allows the most aesthetically pleasing entrance as you obviously are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its great when you go and a neighbour off the same street you live on is there. even better when a family member attends them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"its great when you go and a neighbour off the same street you live on is there. even better when a family member attends them.

Never happened to me my nearest club is 45 min drive in stanley Durham so I've never seen anyone I know in there lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"its great when you go and a neighbour off the same street you live on is there. even better when a family member attends them.

Never happened to me my nearest club is 45 min drive in stanley Durham so I've never seen anyone I know in there lol"

i went to a club and all fun in the orgy room. went to sayers few days later and the woman i fucked served me a pasty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique. "

See you there on Saturday then?

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By *orthwest_cplCouple over a year ago

Stretford

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

We regularly post club meets. We do not work at, or receive anything from the club, the price for single guys when we go is £10 with no membership.

I'm afraid that you, along with many of the guys on this thread that by their own admission don't go to clubs, are talking bollox.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No swingers clubs here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get that everyone is different, and has thier own expectations etc, each to their own.

I was scared as I didn't have any idea of what to expect and I was really shy lol.

Same....not into the whole group thing either..too many expectations even though so many will argue otherwise ( read forums for expectations arguments). If I want to socialise I'll go to a nice pub. I went to one was shocked at the single male entrance fee £45 (I hadn't realised)...I didn't entre as a result and never bothered since. It's an expensive night with drinks and travel. Have found organising fab meets easier and less intimidating. Just not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not scared of clubs but after one visit to one i realised the men who go there just aren't my type.

I should have figured out that any man who can afford an entrance fee isn't really a great filter system but hey ho! Lesson learned!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

Funny that is...

Club nights for me have always been a comparatively cheap night out, never seen this hundred pound membership of which you speak? More fool anyone who pays that

What club are you talking about specifically or are you just snatching numbers out of thin air?

Never know such an environment on one either...they've never been like that when I've been there?

Are you talking from experience or just hear say through one friends experience?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really enjoy clubs, although it took a massive amount of courage when I first went to one without my partner in crime. They are now by far and away my preferred place to meet, chat, flirt and who knows. Hoping to be going to one of my absolute faves on Saturday night. "

Hopefully your favourite club begins with an A :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not scared of going! I want to go and I'm a fairly confident person but just reading some of the comments in this thread and other threads similar puts me off ....... And probably a lot of other single females, which might explain the ratio of men to women?

I don't know who to believe and what clubs are more suited to a single female first timer ????

# I don't need a chaperone or advice from someone whose never been to a club or went once 10yrs ago lol

BUT genuine advice from regulars would be great X.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique. "

Where are you snatching these prices from oh knowledgeable one?

Times I've been to a club have always been cheaper than the average night out.

You been to one or you going on hearsay?

If it's hearsay...your opinion means squat all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not scared of going! I want to go and I'm a fairly confident person but just reading some of the comments in this thread and other threads similar puts me off ....... And probably a lot of other single females, which might explain the ratio of men to women?

I don't know who to believe and what clubs are more suited to a single female first timer ????

# I don't need a chaperone or advice from someone whose never been to a club or went once 10yrs ago lol

BUT genuine advice from regulars would be great X. "

Clubs are fine, go in, make yourself known as a newbie to the staff and they tend to watch out for you...

Maybe buddy up with a fellow lady on there.

There's no pressure to fuck, just be there and enjoy..

I quite like hanging about the bar/social spaces and having a natter.

Once your in the nerves soon settle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with this entirely. Xtasia is our club of choice and have always felt it to be a very safe and relaxed place to explore our boundaries. The club and social vibe appeals as much to us as the prospect of 'play' but often one leads to another!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know who to believe and what clubs are more suited to a single female first timer ????

# I don't need a chaperone or advice from someone whose never been to a club or went once 10yrs ago lol

BUT genuine advice from regulars would be great X.

Clubs are fine, go in, make yourself known as a newbie to the staff and they tend to watch out for you...

Maybe buddy up with a fellow lady on there.

There's no pressure to fuck, just be there and enjoy..

I quite like hanging about the bar/social spaces and having a natter.

Once your in the nerves soon settle

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Agree with this entirely. Xtasia is our club of choice and have always felt it to be a very safe and relaxed place to explore our boundaries. The club and social vibe appeals as much to us as the prospect of 'play' but often one leads to another!

Thanks I'm going to have a look at website xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i went to a club and all fun in the orgy room. went to sayers few days later and the woman i fucked served me a pasty

Fucked and Fed, that constitutes marriage in many cultures

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know who to believe and what clubs are more suited to a single female first timer ????

# I don't need a chaperone or advice from someone whose never been to a club or went once 10yrs ago lol

BUT genuine advice from regulars would be great X.

Clubs are fine, go in, make yourself known as a newbie to the staff and they tend to watch out for you...

Maybe buddy up with a fellow lady on there.

There's no pressure to fuck, just be there and enjoy..

I quite like hanging about the bar/social spaces and having a natter.

Once your in the nerves soon settle

Thanks

No worries, don't listen to the haters, half of them haven't got the gall to go figure it out for themselves and tend just to recycle some crap they once heard off a mate who went one time...

Might be worth chatting to some folk locally who go and get more advice specific to the clubs in your area.

Ask but there's no substitute for actually going

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

We regularly post club meets. We do not work at, or receive anything from the club, the price for single guys when we go is £10 with no membership.

I'm afraid that you, along with many of the guys on this thread that by their own admission don't go to clubs, are talking bollox."

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

Funny that is...

Club nights for me have always been a comparatively cheap night out, never seen this hundred pound membership of which you speak? More fool anyone who pays that

What club are you talking about specifically or are you just snatching numbers out of thin air?

Never know such an environment on one either...they've never been like that when I've been there?

Are you talking from experience or just hear say through one friends experience? "

have to say i have never heard the 100 pound figure either... I think people use this perceived cost in their heads as an excuse

I would probably spend more on a saturday night in a city centre than i would on a saturday night going to a club......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

Funny that is...

Club nights for me have always been a comparatively cheap night out, never seen this hundred pound membership of which you speak? More fool anyone who pays that

What club are you talking about specifically or are you just snatching numbers out of thin air?

Never know such an environment on one either...they've never been like that when I've been there?

Are you talking from experience or just hear say through one friends experience?

have to say i have never heard the 100 pound figure either... I think people use this perceived cost in their heads as an excuse

I would probably spend more on a saturday night in a city centre than i would on a saturday night going to a club...... "

Same, I've spent far more in towns pubs and restaurants etc than at a club....they're a relatively cheap night I always thought.

I think people who already have the notion that they don't like something tend to cling onto the negative reinforcement that they hear and like repeating it as part of their own argument...again, just recycled rumour and hearsay with no actual experience :/ that's how it strikes me anyhow

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You mean I could have got paid for recommending my local club?? I'll be having words next time I go!

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We regularly attend clubs and they have a load of advantages.

You know that there will be some people there, no problems with no-show. Generally there are quite a lot of people there, so there's more chance of finding people you click with.

You don't have to sleep in a wet patch. .. when you've had your fun you can move on, head home or office to your hotel not try to find a spot on the bed that doesn't feel like a soggy sponge.

It's a guaranteed way to get verified... this for single guys is an absolute godsend. Even if you don't find someone who you click with, the club's staff will be happy to verify you on here.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique. "

club groupie

yep thats me as I was a single woman who ventured clubs alone for 3yrs and no I'm not on the payroll . I actually enjoy bringing people together and clubs are alot about the social aspect too surprisingly, alot of single fems like to dance, flirt and chat before going off for sex

single fems dont sit in a row for a man to go up to them and say want to fuck

a slight exagiration of the fees and I have to pay the same as a single man, as a couple now at my club if I go to a different night as a couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

We regularly post club meets. We do not work at, or receive anything from the club, the price for single guys when we go is £10 with no membership.

I'm afraid that you, along with many of the guys on this thread that by their own admission don't go to clubs, are talking bollox."

Hi..

I was not for one minute suggesting that everyone who attends clubs is a con artist/on the payroll/have ulterior motives.

That would be ridiculous.

I am sure there are plenty of people who go for whatever reasons.

I am unclear as to what the reasons might be but it isnt any of my business.

I do stand by what i say though in that all is not what it seems when it comes to the enticement of single males to clubs by secret employees.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

Funny that is...

Club nights for me have always been a comparatively cheap night out, never seen this hundred pound membership of which you speak? More fool anyone who pays that

What club are you talking about specifically or are you just snatching numbers out of thin air?

Never know such an environment on one either...they've never been like that when I've been there?

Are you talking from experience or just hear say through one friends experience?

have to say i have never heard the 100 pound figure either... I think people use this perceived cost in their heads as an excuse

I would probably spend more on a saturday night in a city centre than i would on a saturday night going to a club...... "

Cupids 75 quid 12 month membership plus 25 quid on the door each visit for single males.

Ab fab only 10 quid membership but 60 quid on the door each visit.

Chams doesn't display fees for single males so guessing it's couples only.

Townhouse, you must book and attend an interview on a Wednesday social night and remain in the club from 8:30pm till midnight, then 20 quid for membership followed by 30 quid entrance each visit (but must book places in advance) oh and you are not slowed to join with a friend or attend with another male friend (2 guys together who know each other are a "pack apprently)

They're just the club's I could remember the names of off the top of my head :p.

It's a fair amount of faff.

This is why I tend to only go to kage at partners, simple 10 quid entry packed and a bit more interesting than the normal nights.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads are always interesting, just to see the club groupies (paid employees ?) pop up and try convince.

Social aspect? Fuck off.

And then you get the women who say is great fun- sure mate, cos it's free or dirt cheap for you. Unlike mugs paying 50-100 bucks for a sniff of poonanny.

Not only this, but really who wants to have sex in some sweat soaked pimp hole? Surrounded by the aesthetically challenged .

Hmm, tres romantique. "

Sorry - not an employee or paid by the club. Just love shagging with a big audience but on a bed rather than the backseat of a car.

FWIW the good clubs I've been to, I'd happily pay £50 a night if they charged me that. Never been to one that charges guys £100 though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know for a fact that clubs pay escorts to work at them.

Probably better to cut out the middle man and go direct to the escort.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know for a fact that clubs pay escorts to work at them.

Probably better to cut out the middle man and go direct to the escort."

#NotAllClubs

I can think of one that certainly does, I can't think of any others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a friend whos former partner was an escort. She worked at several clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend whos former partner was an escort. She worked at several clubs."

Course you did. Did she tell you that herself or did he tell you that?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I know for a fact that clubs pay escorts to work at them.

Probably better to cut out the middle man and go direct to the escort."

so name them rather than just implicating all of then with a general statement!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

We regularly post club meets. We do not work at, or receive anything from the club, the price for single guys when we go is £10 with no membership.

I'm afraid that you, along with many of the guys on this thread that by their own admission don't go to clubs, are talking bollox."
nearest club to me £70 to get in and chams is over £100

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a male, i wouldnt dream of visiting a club. Why? Because it is my belief that most of them are nothing more than thinly disguised clip joints/brothels.

You only have to look on here. The same people regularly post club meets. Why? Because they actually work there/have business relationships with the club.

They pitch up on here asking for meets, hook the mug punter in, he has to pay a membership fee/entrance fee so can be £100 lighter before he even gets in the door.

We regularly post club meets. We do not work at, or receive anything from the club, the price for single guys when we go is £10 with no membership.

I'm afraid that you, along with many of the guys on this thread that by their own admission don't go to clubs, are talking bollox.nearest club to me £70 to get in and chams is over £100

No... it doesn't cost that much to get it. It costs that much the first time to pay for your membership AND your entrance fee.

The second time, it doesn't cost that much.

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Burnley

"I love going to clubs. Sometimes I don't even shag at them, I just love going and chatting."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

FWIW the good clubs I've been to, I'd happily pay £50 a night if they charged me that."

Of course you would...you'd be getting your money's worth and you don't have to pay that.....but most guys wouldn't get the same attention as you would. That's the reality and that's why many don't see the same as you on the value aspect.

Some don't liked being watched while shagging.

If they charged the same for everyone I think there would be less people go...also there wouldn't be near as many females which in turn would have a knock on effect over a few weeks and months.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Just for balance:

La Chambre in Sheffield charges £25 per year for membership and £25 entry.

The Attic in Derby has no annual Membership and Charges £20 to get in.

The brand spanking new Quest in Leeds is £20 to get in, I'm not sure about membership but I think it's free.

And... Club F Durham is £20 for membership plus £20 entry on Friday or £35 on Saturday

All of these prices, the membership is the same as couples and the entry is within £10 of what couples pay.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most single guys prefer to wank at home to free porn.

No need to spend 25 - 100 dollars for something you can get for free

"
there 100s of guys go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most single guys prefer to wank at home to free porn.

No need to spend 25 - 100 dollars for something you can get for free

there 100s of guys go to clubs "

Yes , and I suppose some men do better than others in these clubs. But from reading numerous post about single men just standing around or following couples wanking in clubs.

I made my comment