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Women that don't take no for an answer.
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
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over a year ago
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To be honest I know exactly what you mean. I've got annoyed at plenty of women that seem to think its perfectly okay to touch or take any man there regardless of if they are with someone or touch other women etc.
To be fair I normally just quietly but firmly get rid... But it is very common. Even had a woman try to shove me off Mr while I was riding him... And another lady pull my hand off him... I tend to just put myself totally in the way and give them a look... But it can put me off And piss me off as like op says.. .
If a man Did this he would be slung out on his ear x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Different rules in clubs for single ladys and couples to single guys  "
There are not....just different interpretations...but still doesn't make it right!
And yes...it happens! |
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn"
Should not matter if it is a man or a woman, No should mean NO in any club, whatever sex! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn"
I should think any 4 legged animal would not be allowed entry to begin with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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V here. Of course it's unacceptable to behave that way!!! I often go to clubs alone and whilst I've never thrown myself at anyone  if I had and had been given a "no thanks" then it's time to beat a dignified retreat.
This behaviour should be reported. Even if it is a woman. No way should it be a different rule for women. No means no. Full stop.
Interestingly I have seen a woman politely escorted out of a club... Only once.... But it does happen! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn
Should not matter if it is a man or a woman, No should mean NO in any club, whatever sex!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn
Should not matter if it is a man or a woman, No should mean NO in any club, whatever sex!"
I agree about no but I cant see any club asking a single fem to leave. Less women in the club means less ££££..I mean men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn"
lol and no they would never kick them out as they are the selling point for the club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
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If you saw a guy grabbing a single woman, blocking her exit and making her uncomfortable. What would you all do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have worked an odd time behind the bar quite a while ago at a couple of nw clubs, and YES I have seen women been asked to leave....."
You sure it wasn't a tv or ts |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"V here. Of course it's unacceptable to behave that way!!! I often go to clubs alone and whilst I've never thrown myself at anyone if I had and had been given a "no thanks" then it's time to beat a dignified retreat.
This behaviour should be reported. Even if it is a woman. No way should it be a different rule for women. No means no. Full stop.
Interestingly I have seen a woman politely escorted out of a club... Only once.... But it does happen! "
But what if that woman was a regular there? It's happened to my group twice in two weeks. In one club, it was our first visit and she was a hardcore regular. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we visited a club and saw a woman being inappropriate with some of the men there I would mention to the club owners/security and take the man to the side and say we'd told security what we saw. Whether he wanted us to or not. Surely roles reversed it'd be the same? |
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"I have worked an odd time behind the bar quite a while ago at a couple of nw clubs, and YES I have seen women been asked to leave.....
You sure it wasn't a tv or ts"
Oh believe me they were 100% women....... |
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicorn
Should not matter if it is a man or a woman, No should mean NO in any club, whatever sex!
I agree about no but I cant see any club asking a single fem to leave. Less women in the club means less ££££..I mean men "
I've seen females being spoken to and given warnings and also seen 'unicorns' barred from clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"V here. Of course it's unacceptable to behave that way!!! I often go to clubs alone and whilst I've never thrown myself at anyone if I had and had been given a "no thanks" then it's time to beat a dignified retreat.
This behaviour should be reported. Even if it is a woman. No way should it be a different rule for women. No means no. Full stop.
Interestingly I have seen a woman politely escorted out of a club... Only once.... But it does happen!
But what if that woman was a regular there? It's happened to my group twice in two weeks. In one club, it was our first visit and she was a hardcore regular. "
If it happened to a guy you know, and it was definitely unwanted attention (you never know with a stranger if he's actually enjoying it) then report to management.
They should sort it the same as they would if a man was doing it. If they didn't, then I just wouldn't go there again. I would be concerned for my safety- if they turn a blind eye with 'regular's' then who knows what else they would turn a blind eye to. |
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It happens elsewhere too. Andy often wears a kilt to functions and plenty women have no qualms in asking what underwear he has on, or not infrequently checking for themselves. T is not very becoming and both instances if the sexes were reversed would end up in bother for the antagonist.
There is a rampant double standard which pervades men and women. Not all women and not all men behave like this. No one gender is to blame, what is at fault is an assumption from all genders that certain behaviour on the part of the prey makes the antagonist think that they have tacit consent and any protest is just a game.
This should be treated equally harshly irrespective of the sex or gender of either party. Sadly it is not. |
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On a couple of occasions, we have had a very forward woman just assume its okay to remove black cop's hat and generally get in his face. He is more into playing with men at clubs, and frankly finds women like this not a turn on at all, and crass. I don't like their assumptions either. He usually pulls me in to protect him, physically standing in between him and them .... |
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Have had a woman just grab my crotch in a club and tried to pull my boxer shorts down, I just said no and walked away as it was unwanted attention. Had never seen her before and never spoke to her before this happened. Think she was part of a mf couple. Maybe in hindsight should have reported it to staff but I didn't. Just avoided her for the rest of the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"V here. Of course it's unacceptable to behave that way!!! I often go to clubs alone and whilst I've never thrown myself at anyone if I had and had been given a "no thanks" then it's time to beat a dignified retreat.
This behaviour should be reported. Even if it is a woman. No way should it be a different rule for women. No means no. Full stop.
Interestingly I have seen a woman politely escorted out of a club... Only once.... But it does happen!
But what if that woman was a regular there? It's happened to my group twice in two weeks. In one club, it was our first visit and she was a hardcore regular. "
No difference. Report. If it was a guy we wouldn't think twice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
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I think its more due to an inflated ego |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
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If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
Exactly our point  this attitude is becoming more prevalent with women in clubs and is wrong, so wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
Shocking comment. Imagine if a single guy said this |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
I cant work out if this is sarcasm.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you saw a guy grabbing a single woman, blocking her exit and making her uncomfortable. What would you all do?"
Oh i think we all know what we'd do if we saw that happening |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen this happen by women, and it's usually the pissed ones, so they tend to be an all round pain in the arse for lots of people.
I think they should be reported as they're general behaviour can be annoying for lots of people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This behaviour is becomes more prevalent in clubs and should be reported to staff "
Which clubs? I have to say I have only ever been (very pleasantly) accosted by a lady in a club the one time...I did the honourable thing and surrendered immediately! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
I get the impression you haven't been to any swingers clubs before? |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek.. "
I doubt it. She trolls threads. |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
Let's assume someone has an extensive list of preferences, but they go to a club and someone on their 'no' list touches them. Or would it be best to ban certain groups from clubs? (this is tongue in cheek, because so many people have preferences). We have felt uncomfortable at clubs when planning a bi orgy group play and one person who said they were going said 'no blacks', so we just decided not to go. We didn't go .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads. "
Well thankfully anyone that goes to clubs knows that is not the attitude that people should have at a club.
Obviously she doesnt attend clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs here.
I think it's more common than people think.
It's happened to us before some time ago at a party. Very awkward and down right disrespectful.
Everybody should respect boundaries and like many have said 'no' means 'no'.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
And you are the type of person this thread is about... Unbelievable! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek.. "
Hope it was |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
I hope you are being facetious and sarcastic |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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Ok here are two more questions...
If a woman tries to initiate play with someone and they don't say no but avoid answering. They say maybe another time or maybe later. She tells them to come and find her for play. He doesn't. She then comes back half a dozen times pestering. Each time getting swerved. Why does she keep coming back?
If he does say... Stop, you're pretty much stalking me now and most of the room had noticed, you're spoiling my evening... If she's such a determined person who clearly wants her own way, how will she react? I'm speculating... Not pleasantly. |
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I tell you what it is bloody crinheworthy for a start and if guys started to make a stand for themselves it wouldn't happen.
And if the same women had random guys touching them there would be uproar
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tell you what it is bloody crinheworthy for a start and if guys started to make a stand for themselves it wouldn't happen.
And if the same women had random guys touching them there would be uproar
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We have actually had that.. a lady making a right fuss as a single guy had touched her without asking.. then groped Mr and starting wanking him without even a hint.. he only realised it wasnt me when I put my hair back up in my hair bobble.. and I had both hands out the water.. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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I've never really seen too many aggressive women when I visit clubs... I've been on the receiving end with men, have seen a few d*unk women, but not like you mentioned in the thread. I just don't understand how they can be so forward and disrespectful of people's boundaries (both men and women who do this). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the reasons I can't attend a club is because I don't really like punching people who touch without my permission. At the least a severe telling off and told to fuck off away from me,be it a man or woman. |
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"Mrs here.
I think it's more common than people think.
It's happened to us before some time ago at a party. Very awkward and down right disrespectful.
Everybody should respect boundaries and like many have said 'no' means 'no'.
X"
Thanks for reminding me .... that's why we dont go to parties. Awful experience with a frankly totally unattractive hostess who insisted I was going to be playing with her because I am bi .... how to tell someone to go away politely in their own home. Very tricky, so we left ... apparently it was me who was being rude. |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"One of the reasons I can't attend a club is because I don't really like punching people who touch without my permission. At the least a severe telling off and told to fuck off away from me,be it a man or woman. "
I attend loads of clubs and there is barely ever an incident. If there is, staff mostly deal with it instantly and professionally. This isn't a dig at clubs, it's a dig at a few women that spoil things for others. Just like you get the few idiotic single guys. |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
Really? If those were the rules every club would be empty. |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
I can't believe I just read this !!!
Disgusting comment !!! |
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"I would love women to approach me in clubs and I thought that is what single men want. I could then have fun in _rivate rooms with them."
Any woman at all? What if she wasn't your type, was smelly or was far too old/young or reminded you of your mother or something? |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I can't believe I just read this !!!
Disgusting comment !!! "
I agree. There is a dark room if that is what you are into. The large majority of people want to play with people they are attracted to, not just some random with wandering hands. |
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads. "
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?  |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I can't believe I just read this !!!
Disgusting comment !!! "
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls? "
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic. |
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic. "
My post are the only ones admin remove no one else's?
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic.
My post are the only ones admin remove no one else's?
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Let's stop talking about you. |
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic.
My post are the only ones admin remove no one else's?
Let's stop talking about you. "
Let's |
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go "
Consensual sex ........... |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic.
My post are the only ones admin remove no one else's?
Let's stop talking about you.
Let's "
Your comment does look like it was said to provoke as it isn't funny enough to be tongue in cheek.....do you really think that people can grope anyone or was you trying to derail the thread? |
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"If you pay to go in a "sex" club then men and women should be allowed to touch who every they like.
If you don't want to be touched by like minded people then don't go
I am guessing this is tongue in cheek..
I doubt it. She trolls threads.
Says the stalker.
If someone has a different opinion to yours they are trolls?
Of course not. But I've watched you caused trouble on other threads and have comments removed by admin. Was hoping to keep my thread focused on the topic.
My post are the only ones admin remove no one else's?
Let's stop talking about you.
Let's
Your comment does look like it was said to provoke as it isn't funny enough to be tongue in cheek.....do you really think that people can grope anyone or was you trying to derail the thread?"
Obviously people are going to get touched up in clubs whether male or female.
I get touched up all the time especially in aldi.
They need bigger aisles |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Was this at the th Saturday poor lad he just didn't know how to say no...I guess he was just too polite he just tried to avoid her.."
I'm talking about in general. It has happened a few times and I've spoken to a few different men at different clubs about the same topic. It wasn't about singling anything, anyone, any place out. |
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"It happens elsewhere too. Andy often wears a kilt to functions and plenty women have no qualms in asking what underwear he has on, or not infrequently checking for themselves. T is not very becoming and both instances if the sexes were reversed would end up in bother for the antagonist.
There is a rampant double standard which pervades men and women. Not all women and not all men behave like this. No one gender is to blame, what is at fault is an assumption from all genders that certain behaviour on the part of the prey makes the antagonist think that they have tacit consent and any protest is just a game.
This should be treated equally harshly irrespective of the sex or gender of either party. Sadly it is not."
Fully agree. I was on a night out with a couple of friends and another random girl thought it was okay to start grinding on my friend and rubbing her hand up and down her front from behind. No! |
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Totally agree, it's not right, it shouldn't be happening and everyone should be treated the same regardless. Maybe it is due to it being Unreported, but men should feel able to! Seen similar posts about this and always been of the same opinion. |
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Really isn't acceptable for anyone, regardless of gender, to presume their advances are welcome. I struggle with knowing if someone wants to play or not, so then I usually wait to be asked.
Maybe I've missed out on playing with people I've really liked the look of, but I'd rather that than be seen as pushy or stalkerish! |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
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I'm so glad you said this, women are just as bad as men. Nobody should be groped, touched or molested in any way without consent regardless of their gender |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've seen it happen a fair few times lately in different clubs when women have been pretty predatory in chasing down men, repeatedly asking them for play despite getting a no or ignoring polite knock backs or disinterest. I've seen women literally launching at men, blocking the exit and kissing them while the male just cringes.
If it had been a gender reversal, women get told repeatedly to report to staff and that man would likely be ejected from the club yet a few women seem to think stalking around and repeatedly pestering or touching is acceptable.
I've spoken to a few of the men and they said it would be embarrassing reporting them to staff or causing a scene, they'd just rather keep avoiding the woman or positioning themselves so the woman can't touch them. It's really unfair and it's unpleasant to watch.
I see it happen and don't know what to do. If I saw a man pestering a woman that clearly felt uncomfortable and couldn't back them off I'd definitely intervene but don't feel I can with pushy women because the men might not want me to.
I can't decide if it's pride/ego, refusal to accept no for an answer because they're used to getting their own way or lack of social awareness and being able to read the body language and verbal cues of others.
Would you say something if you saw it happening?
I'm so glad you said this, women are just as bad as men. Nobody should be groped, touched or molested in any way without consent regardless of their gender "
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"I would love women to approach me in clubs and I thought that is what single men want. I could then have fun in _rivate rooms with them."
That isn't however what she is saying though is it so maybe read the post before commenting as there is consent then there is non consent, guess you wouldn't care either way |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I have to say that I thought this was a joke at first as didn't think women behaved like the single males everyone complains about, now I know different"
Women are often worse, they tend to just pounce then get suprised when you very firmly tell them to feck off! |
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"I have to say that I thought this was a joke at first as didn't think women behaved like the single males everyone complains about, now I know different
Women are often worse, they tend to just pounce then get suprised when you very firmly tell them to feck off! "
totally agree... And d*unk women worse of all. |
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By *ilac OP Woman
over a year ago
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"That's wrong the rules should be the same a true swinger knows what the word NO!! means male or female ....."
But what if guys feel uncomfortable saying no because they are apprehensive of the response? |
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicornlol and no they would never kick them out as they are the selling point for the club."
I've seen women asked to leave clubs for bad behaviour same as men...any club worth its reputation would be the same...if the person being pushed on doesn't say anything then it will continue...I have a big personality but even I ask if they are "up for it" before approaching for fun...it's only polite... |
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By *ilac OP Woman
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
And do you think a club would kick out a unicornlol and no they would never kick them out as they are the selling point for the club.
I've seen women asked to leave clubs for bad behaviour same as men...any club worth its reputation would be the same...if the person being pushed on doesn't say anything then it will continue...I have a big personality but even I ask if they are "up for it" before approaching for fun...it's only polite... "
I should maybe clarify that I've had two instances with a female in two different clubs and complained to staff (staff witnessed one incident) and they dealt with it instantly. One was made to apologise and one was asked to leave.
The incidents in referring to recently, with pushy females, staff weren't made aware.
I'm just sad that some males don't feel that they can say no or report to staff. |
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I've seen it several times. Seen a woman pin a guy in a corner and not let him go till he had agreed to kiss her. Was clear he didn't want to. I don't know where they get the ego. If I had been turned down I would be too embarrassed to push the issue. I also only want to play with people who want me, I'm certainly not going to beg anyone to take me if they're not into me. |
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff. "
Lol staff wouldn't through out an overly sexual woman thats like striking gold in terms of bringing in men. |
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"I'm not sure. Maybe a good compromise would be alerting a member of staff.
Lol staff wouldn't through out an overly sexual woman thats like striking gold in terms of bringing in men."
You're very wrong no club wants to alienate any members by not dealing with nuisances. Whether they be male or female, which has and does happen i'm proud to say Townhouse would remove the nuisance and revoke membership |
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By *ilac OP Woman
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"I've seen it several times. Seen a woman pin a guy in a corner and not let him go till he had agreed to kiss her. Was clear he didn't want to. I don't know where they get the ego. If I had been turned down I would be too embarrassed to push the issue. I also only want to play with people who want me, I'm certainly not going to beg anyone to take me if they're not into me. "
This is exactly it. It's clear the guy didn't want to but he doesn't know how to handle saying no or backing her off.
Like a few of the guys have said on the post, they'd jump at the chance of a female suggested play. So if I guy doesn't jump at the chance, why keep coming back over and over and following them round the club? |
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