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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago
Scotland |
Hubby Don has been trying to get me to go to a club for sometime now. He says that joining in is optional, and that just watching etc is ok, even if that's all I/we do at meets, until the time comes that I am confident to participate. Can you please advise if this is the case,,and that I wouldn't be required to participate. Or is Don just saying this, so I agree to go.
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Of course you won't. We have been going to clubs since we started swinging 13 years ago. Sometimes we go knowing we don't want to play but just enjoy relaxing with friends and the atmosphere.
We have met people that go but never participate as they dont swing at all, they just like the club. You don't have to do anything you aren't happy with
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hubby Don has been trying to get me to go to a club for sometime now. He says that joining in is optional, and that just watching etc is ok, even if that's all I/we do at meets, until the time comes that I am confident to participate. Can you please advise if this is the case,,and that I wouldn't be required to participate. Or is Don just saying this, so I agree to go.
Thanx."
No that’s true when you go to any club it’s up to you weather you go for a look around to see what the club scene is all about or you may want to watch others playing but you are not forced to participate and if you and your husband want to play yourself you can go in a private room and lock the door, but also you can ask and chat to others at the clubs about swinging too. I hope this was some help to you and I hope you enjoy the club when you go. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Hubby Don has been trying to get me to go to a club for sometime now. He says that joining in is optional, and that just watching etc is ok, even if that's all I/we do at meets, until the time comes that I am confident to participate. Can you please advise if this is the case,,and that I wouldn't be required to participate. Or is Don just saying this, so I agree to go.
Thanx.
No that’s true when you go to any club it’s up to you weather you go for a look around to see what the club scene is all about or you may want to watch others playing but you are not forced to participate and if you and your husband want to play yourself you can go in a private room and lock the door, but also you can ask and chat to others at the clubs about swinging too. I hope this was some help to you and I hope you enjoy the club when you go."
That's how it is at the clubs I visit |
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There is never any obligation for anyone to participate, you just need to say "no thanks".
On my first visit to a club I went with the intention of just having a look around and getting a feel for the place, I didn't want to play. Everyone was very respectful of this and I was made to feel very welcome. Many times I will visit a club and don't play, I just enjoy a social evening with fellow swingers.
I can't advise on your local clubs OP as I live in the midlands but what night you choose to visit can make a big difference. I most frequently visit the attic in Derby. On Friday nights the club is much, much quieter than Saturdays so it's a very different experience. |
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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago
Surrey |
We put off going to club for ages, purely because of the not knowing what to expect, finely to the plunge, first thing that surprised us was just how laid back and friendly everyone was.
Now our problem is not having enough spare to time to go more often. |
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I echo all of the above - and in terms of a club, I’d suggest one where dress down is optional until you’re comfortable. I’d also advise you find the right event as well as thinking about the club. Couples & single female nights might be easier to start.
I’m a little concerned that you don’t seem to trust your hubby’s intentions, as trust is absolutely critical in swinging couples. If you think he’d lie just to get you into a club, maybe swinging isn’t the best idea for you  |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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I can only echo what has already been said. You don`t have to join in, you can watch if in an open area, you can play alone with your partner , locked in a private room if there`s one available, you can refuse!
You should agree a "safe" word which would you could say if you`re in a situation you`re not comfortable with. |
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