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Am I that horrible?
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Your profile reads well, in our opinion, and now your profile photo looks good.
What are your expectations of this site? It's much more than just a hook up site or fulfill my fantasies site. Would you like to be part of the lifestyle? If yes, why don't you get yourself to clubs or organised socials, when they start happening again, get yourself known in the swingers community? This website is good for keeping in touch with like-minded people but it's very easy to get lost, particularly as a single man.
You say you've met some great people yet only have 1 verification in your summary. It would put some at least amber warning lights for us. Sometimes it's better to actually not show the verification summary. |
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"Thanks... I get you"
That car that we talked about.
If you advertised it with a picture of one of it's wheels, would that work?
Your advert was two cock photos, and being blunt people didn't find you a good choice.
All comes back to your efforts OP. |
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"Noted and totally agree!
Thank you for the advice... I have made some changes, whilst it might not work for you hopefully it works for others.
Appreciate the feedback and honesty."
Great that you listened!!
Whilst we agree it is not for us, we do wish you well. |
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I might be being critical here, but with you asking if anyone wants to help you with your wish list, then listing all the things you are looking for along with your very detailed list it reads to me like you’re here looking to be provided with a service. There’s very little that tells me you’re looking for a mutually enjoyable experience. Also the fact you can only meet during the day makes me think you’re cheating (you might not be, I’m not accusing you, but that’s the impression that gives to me)
For single guys it’s much easier to be successful on here if you use it conjunction with being active on the club/party scene. You’ll build up a network more easily. Trying to do it through Fab alone is hard for any man unless he’s a super model with a 12”’cock.
Also, and this is mr being critical, your cock pictures show zero effort. You’ve just flopped your cock out while dressed. There are some beautiful pictures on here, they’re the ones that attract people.
Hope that helps, |
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over a year ago
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"I think you are actually good looking  but the dick pictures are off putting....In my own opinion x "
I agree with this. You do look like a handsome fella so perhaps more shots of your face rather than your bell-end. |
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over a year ago
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Not been rude mate honestly this is the 4th one in the last 2 days on this subject!
Wer all basically just winging it !
Well I am if it happens it happens if it doesn’t so what just meet new people on here don’t force it !
and reading that mans comment above I’m not sure what pics you got up but I agree with what he said ! Doesn’t come across good !
Most men on here feel this way just rock on mate
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Engage more, flirt more, be seen more.....
Just because your on a swingers site, isn’t a golden ticket to a constant supply of cock and pussy.
Like in the real world, you have to put in the time!"
Check the profile out
It’s like some men not anyone in particular use pity as a tool to get the attention they want !
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over a year ago
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The moany status about it being so unfair nobody wants to meet you isn't going to help either, OP. People aren't here to do charity work or provide pity shags to guys who feel entitled to get laid just because they made a fabs profile.
As others have said, go to some organised socials or clubs once open and meet real people in real life. Fab is a good tool for keeping in touch with people you have met at clubs but having a profile and complaining that you aren't inundated with sex isn't likely to be a positive outcome for anyone. |
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"The moany status about it being so unfair nobody wants to meet you isn't going to help either, OP. People aren't here to do charity work or provide pity shags to guys who feel entitled to get laid just because they made a fabs profile.
As others have said, go to some organised socials or clubs once open and meet real people in real life. Fab is a good tool for keeping in touch with people you have met at clubs but having a profile and complaining that you aren't inundated with sex isn't likely to be a positive outcome for anyone. "
See politeness is gone out the window these threads are to regular and me and I think you at this stage don’t give a fuck ! I get no attention on here !
Fuck it |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x"
Your profile is not better than and no worse than the average male profile.
It is perhaps you perception of FAB which is the problem.
FAB is a resource and swinging community site first and foremost.
Yes, it has a meeting section. But this is secondary.
FAB is not a hook up site! If you want hook ups. You are in the wrong place.
If you want to learn about swinging, events, socials and network with other like minded individuals then you are in the right place. |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Your profile is not better than and no worse than the average male profile.
It is perhaps you perception of FAB which is the problem.
FAB is a resource and swinging community site first and foremost.
Yes, it has a meeting section. But this is secondary.
FAB is not a hook up site! If you want hook ups. You are in the wrong place.
If you want to learn about swinging, events, socials and network with other like minded individuals then you are in the right place."
Your way off point there in some of what your saying ? Swinging is such a small aspect of this place !
Ask any single man on here and they’d disagree with you !
This is definitely a hook up site for men / women / couples / tv / ts |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Your profile is not better than and no worse than the average male profile.
It is perhaps you perception of FAB which is the problem.
FAB is a resource and swinging community site first and foremost.
Yes, it has a meeting section. But this is secondary.
FAB is not a hook up site! If you want hook ups. You are in the wrong place.
If you want to learn about swinging, events, socials and network with other like minded individuals then you are in the right place.
Your way off point there in some of what your saying ? Swinging is such a small aspect of this place !
Ask any single man on here and they’d disagree with you !
This is definitely a hook up site for men / women / couples / tv / ts "
I think the word you’re missing there is ‘some’.
I (miss) went to a club at the weekend and we were having this very discussion around the tables. I don’t see Fab as a hook up site. I’m very much in the ‘lifestyle’ camp but then for me that means clubs, running events, holidays, weekends away with other lifestyle buds etc etc.... then there’s the opposite, the ‘hook up’ camp... I like to think of them as ‘tourists’ who come for a look at your lifestyle and try the bits of it they like whilst turning their nose up at the rest.
Neither outlook is wrong - I suppose it’s just your own comfort zone and outlook.
So yes for SOME it is a hookup site for others it’s a social network to keep up to date with friends, events and news. Xx |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x"
Hey John. After reading your profile, I'll give you my thoughts:
-Not many pictures and 2/3 are cock photos.
-Age range set at 18 - 99- Can be a problem for some.
-Saying your educated but in your bio, your punctuation is all over the place.
-Too many interests - Yes, people will find this off putting.
-Interested in TV/TS - This is transphobic as heck. I used to have this as something I was looking for myself too. But removed it due to some people telling me they weren't interested in me because of this preference (Same goes for being male and bi).
-Being average height. Yeah, nothing you can do. Massively limits your numbers.
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OP, what was the purpose of this thread? You post a nice face photo yesterday, then you are back to just cock pics? Despite being told they don't really appeal to that many people?
Anyway, good luck to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated "
Think the man above you summed up most of are struggles on here !
It’s not easy |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread "
No stop that   he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x"
Get yourself to a club from June 21st. My success rate is horrendous on here, but good at clubs.
Always found meeting people in the flesh is far better than online profiles |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread
No stop that he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
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Yes I know, but if he wants specific advice on his pics snd profile it needs a new thread. Although you’re right, the advice is generally the same |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread
No stop that he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
Yes I know, but if he wants specific advice on his pics snd profile it needs a new thread. Although you’re right, the advice is generally the same "
Course it’s nice to be helpful I’ve just spent to much time on here over the last 2 days I’m just been raty !
But every bloke especially new fish have sob story’s ! My patience is dwindling
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Get yourself to a club from June 21st. My success rate is horrendous on here, but good at clubs.
Always found meeting people in the flesh is far better than online profiles"
I find the online thing quite sterile. Pics don't show how someone laughs, their sense of humour, how their eyes twinkle when they look at you. |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Get yourself to a club from June 21st. My success rate is horrendous on here, but good at clubs.
Always found meeting people in the flesh is far better than online profiles
I find the online thing quite sterile. Pics don't show how someone laughs, their sense of humour, how their eyes twinkle when they look at you."
Listen to you getting all deep !
Nice |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Get yourself to a club from June 21st. My success rate is horrendous on here, but good at clubs.
Always found meeting people in the flesh is far better than online profiles
I find the online thing quite sterile. Pics don't show how someone laughs, their sense of humour, how their eyes twinkle when they look at you."
Pictures are a good way of remembering, but not selling your whole self. I know aesthetically I don't look amazing, but in person I know people are quite fond of me. Think of fab of a kinky Facebook that's how I've best used it. |
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"I tend not to even look at profiles where the main picture is a cock. But everyone is different.
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I don’t either. I think it’s like flashing. Even on here I think people should choose to see your genitals, not have them thrust in your face when you go into the forum. |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread
No stop that he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
Yes I know, but if he wants specific advice on his pics snd profile it needs a new thread. Although you’re right, the advice is generally the same
Course it’s nice to be helpful I’ve just spent to much time on here over the last 2 days I’m just been raty !
But every bloke especially new fish have sob story’s ! My patience is dwindling
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Yeah it’s not attractive and I think it shows that their expectations of what they’re going to get here are really off. Many men don’t seem to understand that this isn’t ‘click a duck’, you don’t just create a profile and then have your pick of thousands of people at the click of a button. Fab isn’t a service provider in that sense. But many think it is, so they think they’ve got their profile wrong because it’s not working like that. |
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Imagine the ratio of men on Fab to actual couples or single women.
It must be at least 100-1.
Then take into account what the couples and ladies are looking for.
After those two factors, you have to weigh up the chances of said people above viewing your profile.
Then take into consideration the fact of receiving a message from the above folks.
Once you've mulled that over, there's the old chestnut of "you only get out what you put in" (ooer missus! )
Fab isn't hard work, but making contact and friends on here is.
Fab is the platform and oportunity, making connections is the users' look out.
Much like the outside world, putting yourself forward and making the initial steps takes time, patience and a bright outlook. People won't fall at your feet, you have to earn peoples favour and trust, just as they have to earn yours.
A good way to do that is to attend a social or two. Guidelines are being lifted, so now is a good time and chance to mingle.
Good luck |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread
No stop that he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
Yes I know, but if he wants specific advice on his pics snd profile it needs a new thread. Although you’re right, the advice is generally the same
Course it’s nice to be helpful I’ve just spent to much time on here over the last 2 days I’m just been raty !
But every bloke especially new fish have sob story’s ! My patience is dwindling
Yeah it’s not attractive and I think it shows that their expectations of what they’re going to get here are really off. Many men don’t seem to understand that this isn’t ‘click a duck’, you don’t just create a profile and then have your pick of thousands of people at the click of a button. Fab isn’t a service provider in that sense. But many think it is, so they think they’ve got their profile wrong because it’s not working like that. "
Exactly and maybe I’m been harsh but if you see a man bitching about that would that make you think ! Yeah I’m in to that ? Doubt it right ? |
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"Hi looking through the forum I also have same issue ie nothing, could someone offer advise / help, it would be greatly appreciated
If you want profile advice you need to start your own thread
No stop that he just needs to look at the other 10 exact same threads the last 3 days and there is a wealth of knowledge there for the man feeling neglected on fab
Yes I know, but if he wants specific advice on his pics snd profile it needs a new thread. Although you’re right, the advice is generally the same
Course it’s nice to be helpful I’ve just spent to much time on here over the last 2 days I’m just been raty !
But every bloke especially new fish have sob story’s ! My patience is dwindling
Yeah it’s not attractive and I think it shows that their expectations of what they’re going to get here are really off. Many men don’t seem to understand that this isn’t ‘click a duck’, you don’t just create a profile and then have your pick of thousands of people at the click of a button. Fab isn’t a service provider in that sense. But many think it is, so they think they’ve got their profile wrong because it’s not working like that.
Exactly and maybe I’m been harsh but if you see a man bitching about that would that make you think ! Yeah I’m in to that ? Doubt it right ? "
Definitely not. |
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over a year ago
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"Your wasting your time. Unless you are hung like a horse have a body to shame Atlas, and the looks of Adonis. As a single bloke you don't stand a chance"
This is so untrue, I’m not looking for any of those things.
Op- your dick pics are off putting, I would probably delete your message. The face pic is lovely. |
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"Regardless of what I do on here, it’s never enough.....
Where am I going wrong?
John x
Get yourself to a club from June 21st. My success rate is horrendous on here, but good at clubs.
Always found meeting people in the flesh is far better than online profiles
I find the online thing quite sterile. Pics don't show how someone laughs, their sense of humour, how their eyes twinkle when they look at you.
Pictures are a good way of remembering, but not selling your whole self. I know aesthetically I don't look amazing, but in person I know people are quite fond of me. Think of fab of a kinky Facebook that's how I've best used it. "
You remind me of someone I know and he's a lovely bloke who the women love. |
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"You've got 2 pics 3 years apart and they are both your dick. No-one can tell if you're fat,thin,short,tall,etc. "
But if he ever visits a glory hole they’ll have him pegged straight away |
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Some are only interested in meeting people who are into the club scene, but aren’t honest about this and won’t bother responding to anyone who comes outside of this criteria. Also if you’re dealing with someone who has poor self confidence, had been through a bad relationship, divorce, just avoid. Chances are you’ll either get messed about or won’t even recieve a response. There are also some who have a strict criteria in what they’re looking for. Doesn’t matter if they’re pictures are hot, if they’re not into you, they’re not into you. Move on, find the right person. |
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