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"Well I'm new on this site, and for whatever it seems pretty much impossible to have a chat with anybody. Is it because I'm a newbie or I'm young or just simply not verified in terms of a meet? It's really frustrating because I've been trying for a few weeks now just to get a hi back from someone or someone to show interest. I can't get verified in that way unless somebody is willing to chat and get to know me. Any tips or advice? I honestly think it's just a combination of being young unverified by meet and a newbie on this site, but any help is appreciated." While sexual compatibility is an issue, we'll tell you hi. The ting to remember is there are 100 for every couple and it's even higher for every single female. As far as a veri We don't have a problem with it over web cam. Just ask. | |||
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"Well I'm new on this site, and for whatever it seems pretty much impossible to have a chat with anybody. Is it because I'm a newbie or I'm young or just simply not verified in terms of a meet? It's really frustrating because I've been trying for a few weeks now just to get a hi back from someone or someone to show interest. I can't get verified in that way unless somebody is willing to chat and get to know me. Any tips or advice? I honestly think it's just a combination of being young unverified by meet and a newbie on this site, but any help is appreciated." . A few face photos plus some hobbies and interests on your profile might help. | |||
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"You say in your profile age isn't an issue but have an age preference of 18-30 then follow that with 'but I wouldn't be attracted to someone over 40'. Ergo age is an issue with you. Just a bit confusing x" I noticed that. And to be honest that much of a contradiction and inconsistency is enough to put me off. Also the opening paragraph suggests to me someone that just wants to get laid | |||
"I'll explain my situation and interests and hobbies then and see if it helps at all. I think that's kind of dissapointing that my age is against me, because I'm not inexperienced, and I have a much older head on my shoulders than most 18 year olds. I'm not inpatient, or desperate for sex, I just found it quite confusing as to why saying hi or reply to a message is such an impossible thing to attain. I'll just keep trying I guess." Yeh I thought I was experienced at 18. What 18 year old doesn't! The reality was I knew jack shit about myself and life in general. People will hold your age against you. It's called having preferences. | |||
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"Unfortunately whether you think you have experience or not, at 18 you just don't. Plus 3 weeks and you're moaning? Ah the impatience of youth! I bet you thought you would sign up, send a message and the womens knickers would just fall off. Patience dear boy."  | |||
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"Well I'm new on this site, and for whatever it seems pretty much impossible to have a chat with anybody. Is it because I'm a newbie or I'm young or just simply not verified in terms of a meet? It's really frustrating because I've been trying for a few weeks now just to get a hi back from someone or someone to show interest. I can't get verified in that way unless somebody is willing to chat and get to know me. Any tips or advice? I honestly think it's just a combination of being young unverified by meet and a newbie on this site, but any help is appreciated." O.P. You are new here and you have made some newbie mistakes. Read all the FAQ and t and c and they will answer some of your questions. Something else worth doing is a forum search for a topic your thinking about posting, it can save you from making yourself look silly. You are not the first 18 year old to join that has posted what you have, you may feel that you have an older head on your shoulders but you post tells all the older people here that in fact you don't. There are many things you can do on your profile to make you more attractive to others but it's a numbers game and as your part of the biggest number here you have to work bloody hard. Internet swinging is a part of the scene but not the be all and end all, the quickest way to get verified will be off site at a club or social. Do not sit on fab all day waiting for replies it will wear you down and make you question yourself or make you angry and question everyone else. The real world will get you better opportunities. | |||
"Unfortunately whether you think you have experience or not, at 18 you just don't. Plus 3 weeks and you're moaning? Ah the impatience of youth! I bet you thought you would sign up, send a message and the womens knickers would just fall off. Patience dear boy." So true. Lots of young guys joining here recently thinking by joining they will get a free fuck. Just take a look at how many are moaning like this guy here in these threads.... | |||
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"It took me months to get my first meet, and since then it's been slow but patience is definitely a virtue on here.Yes, single blokes DO have a tough time on here, even the ones with recent varifications, can travel and accomodate. Good things come to those who wait Grasshopper! "Once again so true. And the grasshopper is not singing now is he?? | |||
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"Well I've got an aweful lot to reply to (I appreciate everyone's response so I will try to acknowledge what everyone's said in one way or another, bare with me)." A mature response. Here's another: listen to 'Rock me Amadeus' | |||
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"About the age thing that a few people bought up. When I say I don't have an issue with age, but I wouldn't be attracted to someone over 40, I guess I am contradicting myself so thanks for pointing out. If I have an issue with women over 40 because they will be similar age to my mum, then I understand feeling can be mutual if look like a child, so that's absolutely fine. I will change that section on my profile to make it clearer. I don't think I ever claimed to be experienced, just not inexperienced, or at least experienced for my age. I apologise if I came across as cocky or up myself. In short I'm recently single after being in a relationship for 4 years, so 'for my age' I believe I am probably relatively experienced, enough to say I'm not a beginner, not obviously nowhere near enough to say I know exactly what I am doing yet of course. As strange as it sounds considering the nature of the site, I have no interests in socials or clubs. I have nothing against the idea, I would just prefer to build up a connection with individuals on a one to one basis rather than in a group situation, just preference. The comment saying I'm just here for a free fuck I think is quite harsh. If that's your assumption of me then I can't change that, but I can assure you it's not true. To be honest the reason I came here was to talk to woman again, build up confidence and explore a side of me that I know is there, but I've always hidden. The I guess 'not conventional' side of sex. That is all, the point of this thread was to try to understand the mentality of people on this site. Why sending a friendly message gets no response every single time. Thanks for the help, my profile will be altered and tweaked to fit what many have suggested." No offence, but if you want to talk to women, why aren't you on a dating site? You sound pretty intelligent, so if you are, you do not even need to ask the questions that you are? On the subject of your profile, or any newbies for that matter, instead of just asking for help. why not take the time to read some of the other single guy profiles on here? To be honest, to us it looks like you just can't be bothered, back to the free fuck thing really. But you say you aren't here for that, so why are you on here and not on a dating site if you just want to talk to women? | |||
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"I've noticed a lot of single guys who are active on the forums also have plenty of verifications. By posting topical messages and sharing your views allow you to build relationships with other members and will increase your chances of success. " That may include me....but they tended to come in the other order. Was on site a while before I started posting in forums...but yes. Think it may help. | |||
