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"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" This is a first.... I never thought a couple would have problems meeting people and playing on here.  | |||
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"We must be really ugly then or something" You look perfectly fine by me!  x | |||
"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" Put some pictures of the man up, beef up your profile to make it more appealing. Do you message anyone or wait for them to come to you? | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.." Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? | |||
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"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day?" 300+ 
Prob a slight over exaggeration!!
I dunno why everyone thinks single fems/couples have it easy... I guess it all comes down to standards. As a single fem i do get enough... But really, you should read them!! | |||
"We have met but not played" There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol? | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day?" Lol maybe. until you sort your filters out... | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol? "And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed . 1. Avoid socials . 2. Avoid socials 3. Avoid ....... | |||
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"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid ....... "Lol!  and ending up with 50 "met at a social, can't wait to play" veri's... | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid ....... " | |||
"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" Keep going to clubs and use here to keep in contact with people you meet there. Use here as somewhere to look for new meets but don't stress if it takes a while to find them  | |||
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"I dunno why everyone thinks single fems/couples have it easy... I guess it all comes down to standards. As a single fem i do get enough... But really, you should read them!! " Compared to the average single bloke on here they do. | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? 300+
Prob a slight over exaggeration!!
I dunno why everyone thinks single fems/couples have it easy... I guess it all comes down to standards. As a single fem i do get enough... But really, you should read them!! "That's right. I believe if they all drop their standards any couple/woman could shag everyday here. | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day?" oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too! | |||
-Courtney | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too! "I can't believe it. I have read status messages and forum post about having to go through 300+ emails per day and having to do a mass delete... I'm shocked  | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too!
I can't believe it. I have read status messages and forum post about having to go through 300+ emails per day and having to do a mass delete... I'm shocked "I used too! Don't no but lately it's slowed down! | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too!
I can't believe it. I have read status messages and forum post about having to go through 300+ emails per day and having to do a mass delete... I'm shocked I used too! Don't no but lately it's slowed down!"That will be the blocking of men...gutted here | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too!
I can't believe it. I have read status messages and forum post about having to go through 300+ emails per day and having to do a mass delete... I'm shocked I used too! Don't no but lately it's slowed down!
That will be the blocking of men...gutted here "Lol I don't to meet single men. That's true. Sorry .. | |||
"We are a couple from the North looking to meet couples. If I saw your profile I would think two things: 1- What do these people look like, I can't see any of their pics (especially of the guy....which is all I, Courtney, really care about)? and 2- What are they looking for in a meet, their profile doesn't really say? But then, maybe this all changes when you message couples? It could just come down to contacting more people. We have a hard time meeting other couples as well, though it is possible
-Courtney"Spot on this advice and we have the same problem with meets as someone pointed out he couldn't believe couples have problems getting meets but it is hard for couples as there has to be a attraction between 4 people not 2 but good luck to the OP  | |||
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"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? oddly enough as a single bi female im struggling too! "I've took my filters off and getting 100s again. Even been meeting guys outside of my age ranges for a change and liking this. | |||
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"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day?" Lol who told you that  | |||
"Come to Townhouse, we always play there :-*" | |||
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"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol? " | |||
"Bland profile that doesn't really tell me anything. And the message us bit - sorry but there isn't anything that grabs my attention enough to want to speak (even if we were close enough to meet) Only one pic of the female that shows lovely boobs but no idea of the general body shape behind them. No pics of the male generally means an instant delete for me. Also males being described as curvy seems strange. Oh and the status - who wants us screams desperate to me, and not fussy." Also male is described as having tattoos and piercings! So OP, Great profile pic Needs more pictures Please tell us more about yourselves in your profile Consider editing your list of interests rather than ticking all or nearly all boxes. This is not in any way a criticism of you as people, just answering your question.
Him | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid .......
Lol! and ending up with 50 "met at a social, can't wait to play" veri's... "We'll, I guess we must be lucky then, because after most socials we have been to we either.... Have a few back to our hotel room for a play, Go to someone else's hotel room for a play, Or go to someone's house where there is an impromptu party where everyone plays! Maybe its because socials down here are large affairs, so there's more choice, or maybe we are just horny huggers here in south Wales.... Either way, there's a hell of a lot of actual shagging after socials lol! | |||
"Bland profile that doesn't really tell me anything. And the message us bit - sorry but there isn't anything that grabs my attention enough to want to speak (even if we were close enough to meet) Only one pic of the female that shows lovely boobs but no idea of the general body shape behind them. No pics of the male generally means an instant delete for me. Also males being described as curvy seems strange. Oh and the status - who wants us screams desperate to me, and not fussy." Completely agree with this - if you had been a single male and you had started this thread you would have received a much blunter response from people. Complete lack of effort on your part. | |||
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"We must be really ugly then or something" you look fine to me (well the one pic I can see) good luck.  | |||
"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" . Snap... We have given up with our couples profile , I have better luck with my single profile .. | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.. Wait a minute..... I thought couples/single females get 300+ messages per day? 300+
Prob a slight over exaggeration!!
I dunno why everyone thinks single fems/couples have it easy... I guess it all comes down to standards. As a single fem i do get enough... But really, you should read them!! That's right. I believe if they all drop their standards any couple/woman could shag everyday here."Another classic line from dear Shagtonight. | |||
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"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" I find that very hard to believe that no one on here wants to meet you | |||
But generally just keep going, swinging is a journey, not a race
Good luck | |||
"We have lots of pics in friends only and it's all good until we ask about a meet "Those people must be nuts, not wanting to meet you | |||
"We have been to a few clubs and have a few friends on here, but noone seems to want to meet with us, it's really frustrating!! We don't know if we are doing something wrong or what! Any tips or advice?" I dont meet couples but if I did, no pics of the male would put me off and I wouldnt message you. And I dont mean cock pics either, body shots and face shots. Faces can be in private, mine are. As someone said here about 300 messages a day, well I dont know where mine are then but I guess if I removed my filters and adjusted my age limits, I might get more than 3 lol | |||
"It's harder than you think mate. In 3 years we've never met another couple.." Ditto | |||
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"Those people must be nuts, not wanting to meet you "What, based on one pic of a bit of cleavage and the arms obscuring the shape of her body? It's not enough information. As they've described her as 'curvy' then she could be anywhere from slightly large to quite big as different people see 'curvy' in different ways. The point is, there are plenty of men who like bigger girls, plenty who like slim, but when you represent yourself as one thing and what turns up to a meet is the other is where social meets won't turn into sexy meets, and that apparently is the problem in this case. So, saying 'hey you look fine' isn't going to help this couple achieve what they want to achieve. A bit of tough love will. So, here comes the tough love... Stop farting about and get some clear pictures of both your bodies up from different angles. Anyone who expresses an interest in you and you have an interest in them exchange some face pics early on. If you're still interested in each other arrange a social meet. If you're still interested after that, get yourself busy and have a great time! Meant with best of intention, hope you listen and hope it works for you and you have some fun | |||
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"I had a joint profile in the past and found it much, much harder to get actual meets too.its harder to get four people who all fancy each other than it is to get 2" Exactly. Which is why we meet single guy's, which unfortunately means jools gets all the fun, but I am being patient and will hopefully have some fun soon. | |||
"Those people must be nuts, not wanting to meet you
What, based on one pic of a bit of cleavage and the arms obscuring the shape of her body?
It's not enough information. As they've described her as 'curvy' then she could be anywhere from slightly large to quite big as different people see 'curvy' in different ways.
The point is, there are plenty of men who like bigger girls, plenty who like slim, but when you represent yourself as one thing and what turns up to a meet is the other is where social meets won't turn into sexy meets, and that apparently is the problem in this case.
So, saying 'hey you look fine' isn't going to help this couple achieve what they want to achieve. A bit of tough love will. So, here comes the tough love...
Stop farting about and get some clear pictures of both your bodies up from different angles. Anyone who expresses an interest in you and you have an interest in them exchange some face pics early on. If you're still interested in each other arrange a social meet. If you're still interested after that, get yourself busy and have a great time!
Meant with best of intention, hope you listen and hope it works for you and you have some fun "Brilliantly put, and totally agree | |||
"We must be really ugly then or something" Maybe have more public pics | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid .......
Lol! and ending up with 50 "met at a social, can't wait to play" veri's...
We'll, I guess we must be lucky then, because after most socials we have been to we either....
Have a few back to our hotel room for a play,
Go to someone else's hotel room for a play,
Or go to someone's house where there is an impromptu party where everyone plays!
Maybe its because socials down here are large affairs, so there's more choice, or maybe we are just horny huggers here in south Wales.... Either way, there's a hell of a lot of actual shagging after socials lol!
"Thats great to hear! There seems to be so many "wannabes" on here fltting about enjoying socials yet not actually playing. Just collecting "we met" veris. | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid .......
Lol! and ending up with 50 "met at a social, can't wait to play" veri's...
We'll, I guess we must be lucky then, because after most socials we have been to we either....
Have a few back to our hotel room for a play,
Go to someone else's hotel room for a play,
Or go to someone's house where there is an impromptu party where everyone plays!
Maybe its because socials down here are large affairs, so there's more choice, or maybe we are just horny huggers here in south Wales.... Either way, there's a hell of a lot of actual shagging after socials lol!
Thats great to hear! There seems to be so many "wannabes" on here fltting about enjoying socials yet not actually playing. Just collecting "we met" veris." | |||
"We have met but not played There are three secret steps to getting lots of meets. 1. Go to socials. 2. Go to socials. 3. Go... really, do I have to type it again lol?
And there are three secret steps to getting lots of meets where you actually play , and don't spend all night talking and getting pissed .
1. Avoid socials .
2. Avoid socials
3. Avoid .......
Lol! and ending up with 50 "met at a social, can't wait to play" veri's...
We'll, I guess we must be lucky then, because after most socials we have been to we either....
Have a few back to our hotel room for a play,
Go to someone else's hotel room for a play,
Or go to someone's house where there is an impromptu party where everyone plays!
Maybe its because socials down here are large affairs, so there's more choice, or maybe we are just horny huggers here in south Wales.... Either way, there's a hell of a lot of actual shagging after socials lol!
Thats great to hear! There seems to be so many "wannabes" on here fltting about enjoying socials yet not actually playing. Just collecting "we met" veris."Yes, there are a few of them about, happily the real swingers outnumber them hugely! We are going to a swingers party tonight. Why do I mention it? Well, the couple hosting it would never have contacted us, or vice versa, as we don't fit what either is looking for on initial perusal of profiles. However, having mutual friends, and having bumped into them at a couple of socials, we ended up getting an invite to a party, and we got on like a house on fire! Playing is never a "sure thing", whether its at dogging, parties, one-on-one meets, or socials, but everyone is different, and so long as you are happy with your swinging, then it cant be wrong, can it? | |||
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"We have lots of pics in friends only and it's all good until we ask about a meet "id meet you in a heartbeat xx | |||
"We have met but not played" Why don't you revisit the cpls that gave you the veri's & hinted FUN was on the cards next time? | |||
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"We must be really ugly then or something" Tbh it's impossible to tell! If you want to attract other couples and ladies, how about putting some more photos up including a few of the male half of the partnership? That and organise a social get together in your area. | |||
