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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do? |
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over a year ago
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?
Keep at it "
perhaps have a look at profiles of single males who do well on here? It's your "shop window", so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just want to say whoever I cannot reply back to whoever does leaving common I just want to say thank you for your tip and your advice I will always take it on board I might just have to admit to myself that I I'm not needed on a website like this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dissing other guys is not a good look"
^this.
You won't get very far with this approach.
Negativity is unattractive. Try being more positive. Try selling yourself rather than putting others down |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Look guys let's get something straight I am not trying to take the piss out of any of you for me when I say that I'm a genuine guy I just know that a lot of guys on here and not genuine and they do to take the women for granted now I know that this isn't a sex site for me personally I would like to chat and get to know someone first instead of just jumping on them at the word goal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And anyway for the bottom of my heart I got told to write in the forum because I will probably get more response then I do on messages and guess what they were right anyway I wish you all the best of luck on here I'm sure you all don't need it take it easy look after yourselves and play safe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The guys that do well on here have interesting profiles that hold a woman's attention, muscly bodies and massive cocks. . The first is so important, women are turned on by what they read and their imaginations being aroused. The second is quite obvious, who wouldnt to touch an Adonis? The third is also fairly obvious.
It's also worth mentioning that this is technically not a sex site and there's lots of profiles I read which would be better suited to porn and escort agencies. It's more about swinging, which is an alternative lifestyle based on shared interests and having social as well as physical connections. Nobody wants to shag a robot, do they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guys that do well on here have interesting profiles that hold a woman's attention, muscly bodies and massive cocks. . The first is so important, women are turned on by what they read and their imaginations being aroused. The second is quite obvious, who wouldnt to touch an Adonis? The third is also fairly obvious.
It's also worth mentioning that this is technically not a sex site and there's lots of profiles I read which would be better suited to porn and escort agencies. It's more about swinging, which is an alternative lifestyle based on shared interests and having social as well as physical connections. Nobody wants to shag a robot, do they? "
where do i fit in lol rsvp |
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Keep trying you've already got two verifications one of which is by meet so you're off to a better start than most as on average it can take around 6months for most guys to get that kind of start on here
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"And anyway for the bottom of my heart I got told to write in the forum because I will probably get more response then I do on messages and guess what they were right anyway I wish you all the best of luck on here I'm sure you all don't need it take it easy look after yourselves and play safe "
At the bottom of each message is a "reply in forum +quote" button it quotes the post so we can see who you're replying to.
Are you sending messages to people whose requirements you fit? Could you get to a social or a club?
Have a look at how you've presented yourself in your profile. Its full of what you're not. Rewrite it to say what you are and make it positive.
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"The guys that do well on here have interesting profiles that hold a woman's attention, muscly bodies and massive cocks. . The first is so important, women are turned on by what they read and their imaginations being aroused. The second is quite obvious, who wouldnt to touch an Adonis? The third is also fairly obvious.
It's also worth mentioning that this is technically not a sex site and there's lots of profiles I read which would be better suited to porn and escort agencies. It's more about swinging, which is an alternative lifestyle based on shared interests and having social as well as physical connections. Nobody wants to shag a robot, do they? "
I beg to differ.
Muscles and big cocks aren't that expected at all.
I've done fine on a few profiles on here. . And I am neither of those !
OP - just being interesting towards ladies is all you really need. If I can meet gorgeous couples etc, anyone can ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm far from a fab guru but personally I find that as a single male the best approach is to just have a laid back attitude but invest time in what you write in a message and have your profile confirm what you say in mails. I notice alot of people will check your bio before responding and if it doesn't match what you say in your mail then they are less likely to respond. Plus the last thing you want to do is come across as a single man just wanting to fuck. Although it's a site for swinging a lot of people do like to see substance and a bit of humour ( depending on what they say they are looking for of course). Forums are always a good way to be noticed as people pick up on how you conduct yourself etc.
That's just my own personal view of fab though. I'm sure women in particular will understand better than me about how a male should approach them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Keep trying you've already got two verifications one of which is by meet so you're off to a better start than most as on average it can take around 6months for most guys to get that kind of start on here
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then u get called a male whore  |
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"I'm far from a fab guru but personally I find that as a single male the best approach is to just have a laid back attitude but invest time in what you write in a message and have your profile confirm what you say in mails. I notice alot of people will check your bio before responding and if it doesn't match what you say in your mail then they are less likely to respond. Plus the last thing you want to do is come across as a single man just wanting to fuck. Although it's a site for swinging a lot of people do like to see substance and a bit of humour ( depending on what they say they are looking for of course). Forums are always a good way to be noticed as people pick up on how you conduct yourself etc.
That's just my own personal view of fab though. I'm sure women in particular will understand better than me about how a male should approach them.
Tez "
Forums are not a good judge of character I'm afraid. There's plenty of virtue signallers and people that act like 13 year olds on these forums.
I've found that most of the cool people treat the forums as just a laugh, they don't take them seriously at all. Usually the people virtue signalling and saying really cheesy and lame stuff are nightmares for meets.
If you are socially awkward on a forum, you will be socially awkward in the flesh. It's pretty much hand in hand.
My advice would be to communicate with people on the forum that are not their to bumlick other users (desperate for attention).
Most of the time, people that have wit and humor on the forum are the ones to engage.
Ignore the sheep and follow the wolves. |
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?"
You're a single guy. There are three million of us on this site compared to 23 genuine, real, attractive couples.
And you're not black. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Exploring, doesn't that enforce my point that you can better judge someone by how they are in forums though?"
I bloody well hope not as a lot of the men on these forums come across as socially inept loners, who wouldn't even know what to do with a woman if they ever got the chance of actually meeting one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't worry to much there are 100's of guys probably on fab in same position. Problem is lots join experting to meet loads of women within first few weeks. You've probably already worked it out the women do hold the cards on fab. I can honestly see what your saying about been genuine tho as unfortunately some do spoil it for guys on here. Claiming been single when married been abusive to women when get rejected to mention a couple. Not sure if you've thought about it but maybe look into going to some organised socials. We were at the Barnsley social on Saturday had a great night and were some single guys there. Least your putting your face out there and meeting people then. Personally drink and a chat in my view goes a long way and just think how many women mass delete messages maybe deleting yours without knowing. Well hopefully you find what your after on fab and keep that chin up fella |
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"Exploring, doesn't that enforce my point that you can better judge someone by how they are in forums though?"
I understand your reasoning but it's flawed.
Most of us DO NOT use the forums as a way to setup new meets etc.
We do this via profiles and personal messages.
I for example have had loads of meets on this and different profiles. . And all I do in the forums is poke fun.
Remember as well attention seekers often use the forums as a way to get appreciated.
My argument is that if your ego requires that much soothing I'm not interested.
So as such you cannot simply judge someone by their forum statements. . It will be misleading.
But you are correct I suppose to an extent.
I can see the socially awkward people smile away. . They usually type Mmmmmmmm in a post.
So cringeworthy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exploring, doesn't that enforce my point that you can better judge someone by how they are in forums though?
I understand your reasoning but it's flawed.
Most of us DO NOT use the forums as a way to setup new meets etc.
We do this via profiles and personal messages.
I for example have had loads of meets on this and different profiles. . And all I do in the forums is poke fun.
Remember as well attention seekers often use the forums as a way to get appreciated.
My argument is that if your ego requires that much soothing I'm not interested.
So as such you cannot simply judge someone by their forum statements. . It will be misleading.
But you are correct I suppose to an extent.
I can see the socially awkward people smile away. . They usually type Mmmmmmmm in a post.
So cringeworthy "
This is my point, you can tell who wants attention and such and I simply meant that most of the people I speak to generally came from extending a forum conversation beyond the forum and just generally chatting. Then of course you begin to chat to people that if not for the forums you would not have spoken to wether it be through slightly more distance than either of you initially preferred or you both didn't foresee getting on as well as you do. |
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"Exploring, doesn't that enforce my point that you can better judge someone by how they are in forums though?
I understand your reasoning but it's flawed.
Most of us DO NOT use the forums as a way to setup new meets etc.
We do this via profiles and personal messages.
I for example have had loads of meets on this and different profiles. . And all I do in the forums is poke fun.
Remember as well attention seekers often use the forums as a way to get appreciated.
My argument is that if your ego requires that much soothing I'm not interested.
So as such you cannot simply judge someone by their forum statements. . It will be misleading.
But you are correct I suppose to an extent.
I can see the socially awkward people smile away. . They usually type Mmmmmmmm in a post.
So cringeworthy
This is my point, you can tell who wants attention and such and I simply meant that most of the people I speak to generally came from extending a forum conversation beyond the forum and just generally chatting. Then of course you begin to chat to people that if not for the forums you would not have spoken to wether it be through slightly more distance than either of you initially preferred or you both didn't foresee getting on as well as you do."
As I said for me. .I don't use the forums for that at all. All my meets are from finding someone's profile/ or they found mine and starting up a real adult conversation.
The forums always feel like you are talking to little kids when I see the flirting going on, it's pretty lame.
Couple that with chis like posts about snog marry avoid. . And you have a recipe for ego driven people.
They are not my cup of tea at all.
I prefer people who actually have interesting things to say.. . I'd rather debate my way into someone's bed with interesting conversation rather than public forum flirting.
Each to their own I guess !
But it doesn't stop me pointing out these people in forums for my pleasure. . . Mwahah ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i was nearer I would chat with you OP. Nice photos just less negative comments on the profile and bingo. Maybe some women are too far to meet. Are you looking for those who live local? |
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Lots of guys just send us random messages having not bothered to read any of our profile first to find out what we're looking for. We get so many that we've actually given up replying to them now. If they spent less time doing this and more time reading profiles to see who's looking for what they're offering they'd probably get a better response. We've clearly stated we are looking for a 6ft plus guy aged 35-50, who's a non-smoker has no tattoos and lives/works close to where we live. We still get lots of messages from guys who don't match any of those requirements so why would we bother to reply to them. Checking their profiles usually reveals a lot of cock shots and not a lot else so they're not doing themselves any favours.
There are so many guys here that it's hard for decent guys to get noticed but writing a good profile and being selective about whom they approach is a very good start.
Good luck OPx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs!! most single birds go in clubs these days a lot safer for them in this day and age apparently but but obviously a few do arrange private social type of meet if you like drinking cost a coffee good luck to all singls
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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?"
You don't have a profile! Nothing not even one picture.
Hardly a surprise really.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?
You don't have a profile! Nothing not even one picture.
Hardly a surprise really. "
He did have but hes having a revamp. Hes a gorgeous guy and had great photos up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guys that do well on here have interesting profiles that hold a woman's attention, muscly bodies and massive cocks. . The first is so important, women are turned on by what they read and their imaginations being aroused. The second is quite obvious, who wouldnt to touch an Adonis? The third is also fairly obvious.
It's also worth mentioning that this is technically not a sex site and there's lots of profiles I read which would be better suited to porn and escort agencies. It's more about swinging, which is an alternative lifestyle based on shared interests and having social as well as physical connections. Nobody wants to shag a robot, do they? "
I don't want an Adonis nor do I want a massive cock. |
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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago
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"Let's try that again that didn't work I'm Simon, now my question is to every girl out there who is from the North from the East from the south from the west from all over the world what is actually wrong with me? I don't seem to get anywhere I will send a message and all I get is not interested, not my cup of tea, it's like whoever i msg they're not interested what it's like whoever iMessage they're not interested what do I have to do?
You don't have a profile! Nothing not even one picture.
Hardly a surprise really.
He did have but hes having a revamp. Hes a gorgeous guy and had great photos up"
Ah! That explains it then. Well I wait with baited breath then lol.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just want to say thank you very much to the guys and girls who have actually took their time to reply back to this forum message. I am going to upload new pictures today and I will be updating my profile to the best that I can and we shall see how it works out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because someone replies on the forum, it doesn't mean they want an inbox full of messages FYI.
If you seriously have to ask why you're getting no interest then you possibly shouldn't be here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have you tried putting a pair of pants on your head, stuffing a pencil up your nose and running around Tesco shouting "wibble" loudly?? You'll get loads of attention then  |
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"Have you tried putting a pair of pants on your head, stuffing a pencil up your nose and running around Tesco shouting "wibble" loudly?? You'll get loads of attention then "
He'd be better doing that than his current offering |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of you people so nice  kick a man when he's down woo"
If this site m,akes you down then take a break. Its just a bit of fun never ti be taken seriously.
Write about what you're looking for, why you're here, what you can offer getting your personality and humour accross. Add some tasteful pics, face if you can, or torso, bum, looking smart in a suit etc, easy on the graphic cock pics. Get known in the forum and look for organised social meets near you. You get out of this what you put in, as with everything in life. Good luck |
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"The guys that do well on here have interesting profiles that hold a woman's attention, muscly bodies and massive cocks. . The first is so important, women are turned on by what they read and their imaginations being aroused. The second is quite obvious, who wouldnt to touch an Adonis? The third is also fairly obvious.
It's also worth mentioning that this is technically not a sex site and there's lots of profiles I read which would be better suited to porn and escort agencies. It's more about swinging, which is an alternative lifestyle based on shared interests and having social as well as physical connections. Nobody wants to shag a robot, do they?
I don't want an Adonis nor do I want a massive cock."
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