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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi,
So I have been a member on here for a while without a successful meet. I know the is a vast number of single guys on here looking for single females and couples. My question for you is what do you like to read in your first message?
I usually tell them a little about me, what I like about their profile, pictures and text. Then close saying I'd love to meet for a social or more and to check out my photos and add me as a friend if they want to see more photos... so far I've not had a friend invite.
I know this is a swingers site but I thought a polite introduction is best before moving onto how or what we should do / I'd like to do etc. Am I being too vanilla?
My profile is also pretty plain, should I add some fantasies or something to brighten it up?
Thanks,
James |
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By *uuLuuWoman
over a year ago
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Well its better than going down the porn story epic that some guys paste to all they are incredibly boring.
I would suggest sticking to being you and don't expect too much from fab then you might be pleasantly surprised. |
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" Then close saying I'd love to meet for a social or more and to check out my photos and add me as a friend if they want to see more photos... so far I've not had a friend invite "
Most women won’t invite you to become friends until they are happy sharing their private pictures. To ask for an invite before you’ve communicated is often a sign that you’re a pic collector, or just fancy an ogle. Also, you don’t know (or at least I don’t) if you’d like a social until you’ve had a bit of a chat, and similarly to suggest otherwise sounds a bit desperate. Take your time and get to know someone first. Build up some trust.
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" Then close saying I'd love to meet for a social or more and to check out my photos and add me as a friend if they want to see more photos... so far I've not had a friend invite
Most women won’t invite you to become friends until they are happy sharing their private pictures. To ask for an invite before you’ve communicated is often a sign that you’re a pic collector, or just fancy an ogle. Also, you don’t know (or at least I don’t) if you’d like a social until you’ve had a bit of a chat, and similarly to suggest otherwise sounds a bit desperate. Take your time and get to know someone first. Build up some trust.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile in my opinion is not to bad.
It's the time frame you've been here that maybe holding people back communicating with you.
Delete and start again with the same effort you might get lucky.
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I don't think you're far wrong, but ditto what others have said above. My friends list is for those I've met or want to meet, and I don't want random people on there (picture collectors?). You can always attach friends or private pictures if you want to share more.
The template or thereabouts that I appreciate seeing in a first message (and on profiles I look for similar information) is:
Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons, preferably not just pictures. Show me you've read it!). I think we have (stuff) in common. (more about the stuff)
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