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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi folks, how relevant are random meets when it comes to looking at profiles over someone who’s been to a meet & greet when you decide to message someone? Thoughts please. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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A major concern here, and elsewhere, is the authenticity of profiles: whether they are fake, exaggerated, or purport to be from a different gender.
Verification from having attended a social, and putting a face to a name aids verisimilitude.   |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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"Which type of verification do you place more value on either from random meet or someone who’s been to a meet & greet."
For single guys, who are in the majority on these sites, the problem is getting to a random meet, withe someone who has already been verified.
Becoming a site supporter adds to credibility. |
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"Which type of verification do you place more value on either from random meet or someone who’s been to a meet & greet."
Most meets start randomly ... as most people get in touch after a random fab, a wink, a comment on forum post.
Verifications are only good to confirm the gender (if the profile is not gender verified) and that the person looks the same in real life as in their pics.
The frequency of their verifications can give an idea of how active a person is and if it does meet currently.
As for "meet to play" verifications, "meet and greet" or simply just "coffee/social meets" to break the ice and see if there is chemistry, each to their own.
Some do intend to meet to play, but some just enjoy the social aspect of it.
It is based on many different things, as some are just horny, some are bored, some are disappointed by past meets and prefer to be extremely cautious ... There is no right or wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Which type of verification do you place more value on either from random meet or someone who’s been to a meet & greet."
A veri is just a beri, and someone's opinion of someone cam be totally different at a social or mng they might have literally spoke for 5 mins. I take them with a pinch of salt and like to make up my own mind and yes I do insist on a veri but that's for my benefit, my time off is important and if I giving up my time to meet someone I don't want to be messed around. If I'm meeting someone for the first time is always only a social meet over coffee that's when I decide if I want to take it further. |
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"Which type of verification do you place more value on either from random meet or someone who’s been to a meet & greet."
The veri from a meet & greet shows that the person is a person who shows up. A random meet, well, we all know about fake verifications and how easy they are to come by.
I have in the past met unverified also.
There are other means (other than the verification system) of making sure a person behind a profile is "legit".
And then there are safe ways to meet a stranger for the first time...
None of the above are fail safes unfortunately because it still means that you might be meeting up with your future stalker rather than your future FB, FWB or swinging partner... |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I look at them but they hold no real part in my decision to meet someone .My decision to meet someone is more to do with how we interact with each other in messages.
The only thing a Veri can help me with is to avoid someone if you know they have met someone in recent times that you know will cause drama that's really the only time I any pay heed to veris.
As for social or play veris that's up the people themselves what they show or which ones they decide to show or not show.The thing about veris is no matter what you show or don't show someone will always complain because it's either too little depending on what they want.
So make up your own mind and don't rely on other people's opinions on who you meet or not off here. |
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Previous veris are not important to me.. How does one get verified in the first place? They have to meet a randomer don't they.. I think the whole verification process ruins sites like these.. I don't know of any other dating/meet website were you have to be meet verified.. It makes it extremely difficult for newcomers and elevates people who have been meet verified to a higher status.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veris to me are just a trophy cabinet to show folks how active they are or have been which can intimidate some.
I personally wouldn’t put up a verification to show “yes I’m genuine and met someone etc”
Once you see past the usual profiles/names etc you’ll find plenty of profiles…..
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"I personally wouldn’t put up a verification to show “yes I’m genuine and met someone"
Isn't that the main point of a verification, to prove that you are who you say you are and whiling to make the "effort" to actually meet face to face, witnessed by someone else? |
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