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"If there's anyone here that looks like Marilyn Monroe, I'd appreciate a call please. "So you don't even look for a pulse anymore  | |||
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"If there's anyone here that looks like Marilyn Monroe, I'd appreciate a call please.
So you don't even look for a pulse anymore "I never bothered with such unnecessary frivolity if I'm honest  | |||
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"Well society would have us believe that Kim Kardashian, Nicole schershigerwerger, and Cheryl Cole are 3 of the most beautiful women alive today. Controversial but I don't find any of them in the slightest bit attractive "Wouldn't agree on Nicole. The other 2 I'm with you! | |||
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 I nearly bolted when I caught sight of E the first time I met him but he saw me hiding before I could make my escape  | |||
"On the back of another post, I’m curious as to whether most here seek out conventionally attractive people (ie slim, toned, young etc). I’m not talking about people you find attractive, but the people that general society would point out as being attractive. I wish we had a poll option here but what say ye?" Conventions and Norms around attractive are always changing and are also bound by the society in which one lives. We, Irish/British/American/western culture, are influenced for years by the influencers of media movies and the culture we choose to immerse ourselves into. It appears, thin, young, above average height, breasts big enough (think back to hello boys - Eva Herzegovina) smooth skin and beautiful hair, make up the majority of the western norm. Now I’m not saying that is what I enjoy from the world of fab here, but just a thought or two in relation to conventions. So, one poster here references Kardashian, Cheryl Cole, Nicole Scherzinger (he may be a a few years back) my google search, most attractive women in the world, brings an immediate “top ten” list: Jodie Comer (yes Villanelle, which I’d agree with in her role in Killing Eve, if you’ve not seen it yet… do) as the most beautiful woman alive, as of late last year. Anyhow, ramble on, and the primary question, is that what we are seeking on Fab? I’d voice an opinion to say, myself included here, if we sought that image of conventional beauty here…. We’d be looking for a looong time. And in conclusion, or my own drawn out one, beauty is in the eye of the beholders, and there are many a beauty here in Fablandia, but it may not quite be the beauty of modern norms. Back to work….. and letting my rambling thoughts knock around in my head and not in a public forum. | |||
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"On the back of another post, I’m curious as to whether most here seek out conventionally attractive people (ie slim, toned, young etc). I’m not talking about people you find attractive, but the people that general society would point out as being attractive. I wish we had a poll option here but what say ye?" I don't think I seek out a particular type of person, either by what the original post say is conventional or who I am might find attractive. Don't like being labelled myself, so I do my best not to label others. Interested in seeing the replies though. | |||
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"Yes except for the young bit. But I'm like a dog chasing a bicycle, if i caught one I wouldn't know what to do with it I nearly bolted when I caught sight of E the first time I met him but he saw me hiding before I could make my escape " | |||
"Yes except for the young bit. But I'm like a dog chasing a bicycle, if i caught one I wouldn't know what to do with it I nearly bolted when I caught sight of E the first time I met him but he saw me hiding before I could make my escape
"personality respect and great fun , The mind not the body brings sexuality forward | |||
"Yes except for the young bit. But I'm like a dog chasing a bicycle, if i caught one I wouldn't know what to do with it I nearly bolted when I caught sight of E the first time I met him but he saw me hiding before I could make my escape
personality respect and great fun , The mind not the body brings sexuality forward "Yes and a great big pair of tits | |||
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So I tend to prefer more mature women as a result - takes experience and time to reach that level of not giving a fuck about what other people think.
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"Obviously, attraction is important but my question is are you only attracted to conventionally attractive people ie people who’s bodies general society deems the ideal. " Looks like a decent mix of responses. Nice to see so many looking past the “conventional”. | |||
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"Bent over in front of me with their arse on display, and willing, is what I find most attractive in a woman. If they're in that position nothing else matters. " Kinda like sheep | |||
"Obviously, attraction is important but my question is are you only attracted to conventionally attractive people ie people who’s bodies general society deems the ideal. " Isn't fab made of general society, there for isn't all the types that fabbers find attractive within this societal norm ? I would say what you refer to as society deem8ngideal is actually media deeming ideal . And to answer your question ... I find what I deem attractive to me , to be attractive! 
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"Im not into the sunbed tanned bleached teeth love islander types. I do love a trim muscular bod though as i have stayed previous" **stated not stayed** | |||
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"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem "What does sapiosexual mean? | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean? "Someone who finds intelligence sexual | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean?
Someone who finds intelligence sexual "
What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?  | |||
" What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture? "I’m not talking college intelligence and if you can have a conversation and banter Don’t take yourself to serious Laugh at silly moments Looks fade beauty only lasts awhile The art of conversation is dying and I love a good chat about anything | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean?
Someone who finds intelligence sexual
What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture? "That's me fucked .. I'm no way intelligent...but I'm doing OK for myself | |||
" What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
I’m not talking college intelligence and if you can have a conversation and banter
Don’t take yourself to serious
Laugh at silly moments
Looks fade beauty only lasts awhile
The art of conversation is dying and I love a good chat about anything "O right. Ya,that's true alright. Face to Face conversation is dying alright, I think anyway's. I'm not on about text chat,video calls or phone calls. | |||
" What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
I’m not talking college intelligence and if you can have a conversation and banter
Don’t take yourself to serious
Laugh at silly moments
Looks fade beauty only lasts awhile
The art of conversation is dying and I love a good chat about anything "Hi stranger hope your keeping well | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean?
Someone who finds intelligence sexual
What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
That's me fucked .. I'm no way intelligent...but I'm doing OK for myself "
Going by your interaction on here, there's no flies on you Lou, if there are, they're paying VERY HIGH rent.   | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean?
Someone who finds intelligence sexual
What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
That's me fucked .. I'm no way intelligent...but I'm doing OK for myself
Going by your interaction on here, there's no flies on you Lou, if there are, they're paying VERY HIGH rent. "Lol tks .. you always have my back here | |||
"On the back of another post, I’m curious as to whether most here seek out conventionally attractive people (ie slim, toned, young etc). I’m not talking about people you find attractive, but the people that general society would point out as being attractive. I wish we had a poll option here but what say ye?" I have found not to read a book by its cover I have had lovers all ages and sizes For me it’s not just looks it’s the physical interaction How they make you feel when you with them and everyone is different - if you just click it just works! I have been gladly surprised many a time with women who know what they want. Expression is the lost art - that’s what turns me on It’s hard to find - a profile cant tell truly tell you what they are like in the flesh! Have an open mind and put it all down to experience! Every interaction you learn more about yourself as well as the person your with! Windows shipping isn’t the best- My 2 cents  | |||
"I’m a sapiosexual so looks have never really come into for me If I can’t have a conversation it’s a massive turn off I’ve only one thing I like looks wise is to be taller than me and at 5’2 that’s never been a problem
What does sapiosexual mean?
Someone who finds intelligence sexual
What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
That's me fucked .. I'm no way intelligent...but I'm doing OK for myself
Going by your interaction on here, there's no flies on you Lou, if there are, they're paying VERY HIGH rent.
Lol tks .. you always have my back here "Your welcome Lou
I'll try to anyway's. | |||
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 ie. fake eyelashes, n everything else. Natural Beauty & persona wins by far !! | |||
"Obviously, attraction is important but my question is are you only attracted to conventionally attractive people ie people who’s bodies general society deems the ideal. " OP to answer your question I (Mrs) would have to say no, absolutely not As others have mentioned it is not the aesthetics that I would find attractive, moreso the ‘aura’ surrounding the person, and that goes for both male & female And I find it hard to explain in words what that actually means, but it’s the eye contact..maybe the sincerity in the conversation you’re having..I dunno, maybe I’m talking through my arse..again | |||
"P.S. OP General Society as a whole does not conform to a paticular look. Although youth of today with Social media I feel sorry for having to live up to a certain kinda norm ie. fake eyelashes, n everything else. Natural Beauty & persona wins by far !!"I’m very aware that not all society conform to a particular look but if you ask the average person so describe their ideal body, it is likely to be slim, toned etc. that’s what I mean by conventionally attractive. | |||
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Personally I'm more into curvy women, than tin women. Age isn't that important for me, someone with a dirty mind helps alright(nothing worse then walking on eggshells around somebody), hold a conversation, confident, naturally themselves. Someone 1 you click with.
If you don't click together, look seriously good together, ye're eye candy to look at, isn't always a good thing(hopefully I've that worded right).
Alot of the time what the "expert's" call or say is the "perfect" woman, I've no interested in at all.
Each person is different & as what has been said already, what someone likes, another person mightn't like at all.
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"Obviously, attraction is important but my question is are you only attracted to conventionally attractive people ie people who’s bodies general society deems the ideal. OP to answer your question I (Mrs) would have to say no, absolutely not As others have mentioned it is not the aesthetics that I would find attractive, moreso the ‘aura’ surrounding the person, and that goes for both male & female And I find it hard to explain in words what that actually means, but it’s the eye contact..maybe the sincerity in the conversation you’re having..I dunno, maybe I’m talking through my arse..again "
Sometimes, somethings can be hard or impossible to say in written words alright. As for talking through your arse again, I'll have to hear it first, before I can answer that question. | |||
"P.S. OP General Society as a whole does not conform to a paticular look. Although youth of today with Social media I feel sorry for having to live up to a certain kinda norm ie. fake eyelashes, n everything else. Natural Beauty & persona wins by far !!
I’m very aware that not all society conform to a particular look but if you ask the average person so describe their ideal body, it is likely to be slim, toned etc. that’s what I mean by conventionally attractive. "I hear ye OP , But I disagree , we cant speak for everyone !! Personally if I was asked that id of said Dadbod , hairy chest & I prefer a man who isint so slim . | |||
On the flip side iv been told by 1 that because I'm 'toned' that they wouldn't dream of getting naked with me and and another said that they couldn't be with someone who must think they are great and would be looking in the mirror all night.( haven't been in a gym in 12 years prob)
So to answer your question op, no from me and in my experience it's a no from the ladies too | |||
" What if a person isn't that intelligent or don't think that they are, are they out of the picture?
I’m not talking college intelligence and if you can have a conversation and banter
Don’t take yourself to serious
Laugh at silly moments
Looks fade beauty only lasts awhile
The art of conversation is dying and I love a good chat about anything "That just sounds like a made up ting to describe different sorts of attraction than physical which is something that frankly almost everybody feels | |||
"It’s interesting that the majority of replies have said that they don’t limit things to the “beautiful” people. Are those that do afraid to comment in case of backlash (of which there should be none) or do they just not use the forums. " I think you are getting all the answers only you are missing the point. People are attracted to the kind of people they find good looking. People aren't attracted to a certain type of person because other people are attracted to them! | |||
"Or don't want to appear shallow?" Why do you think people would appear shallow if they are attracted to toned and slim people.? | |||
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"Or don't want to appear shallow? Why do you think people would appear shallow if they are attracted to toned and slim people.? " You don't think it could be perceived by some, to be shallow, if you're attracted to good looks alone ? | |||
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"Or don't want to appear shallow? Why do you think people would appear shallow if they are attracted to toned and slim people.? You don't think it could be perceived by some, to be shallow, if you're attracted to good looks alone ?" By someone or by you ? Why would it be shallow to not be attracted to all body types ? | |||
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"Of course I find conventionally attractive people visually attractive, in some cases this only lasts until they reveal a shitty personality. I seek out people who I find entertaining and easy to be with, I tend to have very high standards on this front. " I was trying to think of a reply to this thread but this sums it up for me as well .Thanks Casey | |||
"Of course I find conventionally attractive people visually attractive, in some cases this only lasts until they reveal a shitty personality. I seek out people who I find entertaining and easy to be with, I tend to have very high standards on this front. " I all seriousness, I find myself agreeing with you 100%. I think most people will find what we consider attractive, visually attractive to us but if they are up their hole and ignorant then its a complete turnoff | |||
"I didn't say it was shallow .you asked a question I gave a possible explanation. Obviously you don't agree. All good." You implied it was shallow, then 8 asked you why you implied it ? You answered with a question to avoid answering....  | |||
I find happy go lucky very attractive, I find tenderness and honesty irresistible tbh. I'm a sucker for a sweetheart face ,,, its only led to trouble so far
I'm attracted to confidence combined with humility
I find older slim woman very attractive too .
I never find an initial looks attraction to last if the personality attraction isn't there,
Where as the person can become very attractive to me if I begin to like their personality.
Make sense? | |||
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"I'm a huge fan of funny , Obviously there needs to be an attraction too but funny wins me over a lot " Nothing better than being laughed into bed | |||
"I'm a huge fan of funny , Obviously there needs to be an attraction too but funny wins me over a lot Nothing better than being laughed into bed "Couldn't agree more | |||
"I'm a huge fan of funny , Obviously there needs to be an attraction too but funny wins me over a lot Nothing better than being laughed into bed "It turns out being laughed at in bed is a whole different ball game | |||
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"People learn who society deems attractive due to a subconscious conditioning that they experience pretty much from birth. Some people are able to think a bit more independently and decide for themselves by listening to their own thoughts and desires, others are much more constrained by this conditioning and additionally would be worried about what others have to say about their choices. " There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. | |||
"People learn who society deems attractive due to a subconscious conditioning that they experience pretty much from birth. Some people are able to think a bit more independently and decide for themselves by listening to their own thoughts and desires, others are much more constrained by this conditioning and additionally would be worried about what others have to say about their choices. There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. " Those are the worst kind.. those who reject others that they KNOW they are attracted to, just because they feel others might judge them. Gross | |||
"People learn who society deems attractive due to a subconscious conditioning that they experience pretty much from birth. Some people are able to think a bit more independently and decide for themselves by listening to their own thoughts and desires, others are much more constrained by this conditioning and additionally would be worried about what others have to say about their choices. There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. Those are the worst kind.. those who reject others that they KNOW they are attracted to, just because they feel others might judge them. Gross" I do enjoy how pissy they get when you call them out on it
I think one of my favourite things about fab is the representation of all body types in a sex positive space. As someone whose body type is looked down on and deemed unhealthy in everyday life, the reminder that it can be desired and admired is appreciated on the days where my confidence isn’t where I like it to be. | |||
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"I'm actually after a mute, double jointed, nymphomaniac with daddy issues and questionable morals but each to their own... " I full believe that one day you will find her and I will officiate the wedding  | |||
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"I'm not into the tanned, perfectly preened gym bros that seem to be all over social media and TV now. That beauty standard does nothing for me. I'm attracted to rugged outdoorsy types,and also other things that might not be considered conventionally attractive today. " I am attracted to pineapples with tits | |||
"People learn who society deems attractive due to a subconscious conditioning that they experience pretty much from birth. Some people are able to think a bit more independently and decide for themselves by listening to their own thoughts and desires, others are much more constrained by this conditioning and additionally would be worried about what others have to say about their choices. There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. " Absolute dickheads Jaffa. The amount of "popular" guys North and South that have messaged me me to meet and kik me that actually have blanked me when at parties and socials is ridiculous | |||
"People learn who society deems attractive due to a subconscious conditioning that they experience pretty much from birth. Some people are able to think a bit more independently and decide for themselves by listening to their own thoughts and desires, others are much more constrained by this conditioning and additionally would be worried about what others have to say about their choices. There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. Absolute dickheads Jaffa. The amount of "popular" guys North and South that have messaged me me to meet and kik me that actually have blanked me when at parties and socials is ridiculous "Better that they’ve made themselves known! As I always say, preferences are completely acceptable once everyone is respectful about how they express them. | |||
"There are a number of men who are happy to have play meets with a larger woman but wouldn’t be seen in public with them. I would say the majority of us have experienced that. Absolute dickheads Jaffa. The amount of "popular" guys North and South that have messaged me me to meet and kik me that actually have blanked me when at parties and socials is ridiculous
Better that they’ve made themselves known! As I always say, preferences are completely acceptable once everyone is respectful about how they express them. "Wow, that’s some shitty behaviour you’ve experienced Jaffa. You have to wonder what goes through people’s heads to act like that. | |||
