"If you were to meet and start dating someone outside of fab how soon would you tell them if at all "
Like if things are gonna get serious and you're getting a pretty good vibe and all, pretty soon, it totally depends on the person. If they can accept that it's something that i was experimenting and exploring and over look it and see me as person it's easy, but I'd say it all depends on the person. Some can judge you and snap at you before trying to understand and some can see past it. |
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I don't really think about it like that. Fab is like any other dating app just with the sex front and center (and a retro UI).
I would chat about fab as easily as the rest of them if it comes up. It's just another way to meet people.
If I've gotten as far as meeting someone for a date or a coffee they already know I'm not monogamous and lean poly. Those are more important details that having a fab accounts imo. |
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By *dfabMan 24 weeks ago
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Immediately a conversation topic as I'd only meet someone from here anyway.
On the off chance of it being outside of here, within the first 3 conversations, as I'd never want the same vanilla experience again. |
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You would have to test the waters first! Slip stuff into conversation like banter on a night out, see the reactions. And then see if they bring up any stories they might have, I did this with someone at work, & she ended up mid conversation telling me this ridiculous story & than I just asked a few questions to verify was she on the same vibe. Obviously this happened over a few nights out not just the one...hah!
But if the person you met outside of fab lays down the vibe tell away, if not I'd hold off until you felt you wanted to tell them. |
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Similar to a few here, Im currently not interested in monogamous relationships and to be to fair all involved, I have and will continue to have the conversation after the first few dates if I feel it could go further. |
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You mean how long would I tell a vanilla date that I was/are on fab? I wouldn't tell them specifically that I was on fab, I probably would just say I was on sites such as match.com! Don't feel I have to name off every site!!
I live in a small town and I know that it's frowned upon so what's the point I say!! Obviously if the dates were going well and we both wanted to pursue a relationship, I would delete fab so I can concentrate on the relationship!
I'm 14 years single so the chance of me dating again is very slim!! Happy being single though!!
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I tend to be fast to tell about my sexual history as I wouldn't want to be months into a relationship explaining it. But in that way, I'm not one to rush sex with someone I care about. I wouldn't be happy if someone kept it from me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Interesting post op.
If you were to enter a vanilla exclusive relationship I'd think it's fine to go off fab with no need to mention fab.
If you were to date the person vanilla and continue meeting others on fab I think it would be only fair tell them.
I would throw out the subject of 3somes etc before anything gets serious. maybe they just need a little push to walk on the fab side?
If it's a no way you'll know they aren't for you if you want to continue fab |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Currently facing this and its more of a conundrum than I thought it would be..met a guy in RL in December have met up pretty often since had a few 2 night hotel meets and meeting his friends next weekend...he's had few fairly long term relationships over last few,years so I've just been a bit vague about my dating history said there were a few fwbs n stuff...part of me feels if i
I don't mention fab at all I'm lying about the last 7 years of my life so I'm thinking of perhaps edited highlights...he seems a pretty non judgemental guy but I'm still pretty nervous...i prob should state its early days but for the right guy I'd happily leave fab behind and have a monogamous relationship hence I've hidden my profile while I see where this goes |
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I think we have this notion of sin around sex and that we need to confess.
We don't. Besides the fact that living a liberal and sex positive life isn't wrong, not everyone wants or needs to know the minute details of our sexual history.
Sometimes I think need we need to consider if we are coming clean for ourselves or for our partners sake and we need to remember the weight of secular generational guilt that comes alongside the judgment we fear.
Maybe they are happy not knowing. It might be worth asking them first. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I think we have this notion of sin around sex and that we need to confess.
We don't. Besides the fact that living a liberal and sex positive life isn't wrong, not everyone wants or needs to know the minute details of our sexual history.
Sometimes I think need we need to consider if we are coming clean for ourselves or for our partners sake and we need to remember the weight of secular generational guilt that comes alongside the judgment we fear.
Maybe they are happy not knowing. It might be worth asking them first."
Very well made points thanks for that its made me reassess it that perhaps its something that might arise organically in conversation rather than a 'confession' per say as I certainly don't feel I've done anything wrong or anything to b ashamed of by being on fab I guess its more a fear how it might b perceived if he knows nothing about the scene (he may well be more familiar with it than I know) but again that's something can b explained with an honest conversation |
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"I think we have this notion of sin around sex and that we need to confess.
We don't. Besides the fact that living a liberal and sex positive life isn't wrong, not everyone wants or needs to know the minute details of our sexual history.
Sometimes I think need we need to consider if we are coming clean for ourselves or for our partners sake and we need to remember the weight of secular generational guilt that comes alongside the judgment we fear.
Maybe they are happy not knowing. It might be worth asking them first.
Very well made points thanks for that its made me reassess it that perhaps its something that might arise organically in conversation rather than a 'confession' per say as I certainly don't feel I've done anything wrong or anything to b ashamed of by being on fab I guess its more a fear how it might b perceived if he knows nothing about the scene (he may well be more familiar with it than I know) but again that's something can b explained with an honest conversation "
If I were you I wouldn't tell him, as Fab is just like any other dating sites.
Casual dates, short term or whatever dates are all the same, you just meet people in real life and use your common sense.
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"I think we have this notion of sin around sex and that we need to confess.
We don't. Besides the fact that living a liberal and sex positive life isn't wrong, not everyone wants or needs to know the minute details of our sexual history.
Sometimes I think need we need to consider if we are coming clean for ourselves or for our partners sake and we need to remember the weight of secular generational guilt that comes alongside the judgment we fear.
Maybe they are happy not knowing. It might be worth asking them first.
Very well made points thanks for that its made me reassess it that perhaps its something that might arise organically in conversation rather than a 'confession' per say as I certainly don't feel I've done anything wrong or anything to b ashamed of by being on fab I guess its more a fear how it might b perceived if he knows nothing about the scene (he may well be more familiar with it than I know) but again that's something can b explained with an honest conversation
If I were you I wouldn't tell him, as Fab is just like any other dating sites.
Casual dates, short term or whatever dates are all the same, you just meet people in real life and use your common sense.
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what is this common sense you speak of 🤣🤣
But yes I hear ya that's a very valid point |
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"I think we have this notion of sin around sex and that we need to confess.
We don't. Besides the fact that living a liberal and sex positive life isn't wrong, not everyone wants or needs to know the minute details of our sexual history.
Sometimes I think need we need to consider if we are coming clean for ourselves or for our partners sake and we need to remember the weight of secular generational guilt that comes alongside the judgment we fear.
Maybe they are happy not knowing. It might be worth asking them first.
Very well made points thanks for that its made me reassess it that perhaps its something that might arise organically in conversation rather than a 'confession' per say as I certainly don't feel I've done anything wrong or anything to b ashamed of by being on fab I guess its more a fear how it might b perceived if he knows nothing about the scene (he may well be more familiar with it than I know) but again that's something can b explained with an honest conversation
If I were you I wouldn't tell him, as Fab is just like any other dating sites.
Casual dates, short term or whatever dates are all the same, you just meet people in real life and use your common sense.
what is this common sense you speak of 🤣🤣
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To choose wisely who you meet I guess.
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