"So guys wondering what swingers on fab think about polyamory lifestyle "
I have only met one person here in a poly relationship, and it seemed like a good fit for them... I would like to explore this with a bi poly MF couple of anyone would be interested |
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Yep I know a few who do it and it works really well for them! It takes a lot of communication and honesty. I don't think I would have the time. One relationship is hard enough!
It's really interesting to see and also just goes to show how normalised monogamy is and how well society is set up for it, but that makes it harder for Poly people. It's nice to see alternative relationship styles.
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As a concept I was dubious, didn't actually believe it existed, but over the last couple of months my eyes have been opened , and have meet some wonderful polyamerous couple or halves , and it really seems to be working for them .
In one way I think it's probably more of a commitment ie the communication / honesty etc is on a different level !!
Probably not my thing at mo , was trained in the old Irish ways , certain routes etc.
But I'm sure , for future generations it will certainly become a society norm . |
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"As a concept I was dubious, didn't actually believe it existed, but over the last couple of months my eyes have been opened , and have meet some wonderful polyamerous couple or halves , and it really seems to be working for them .
In one way I think it's probably more of a commitment ie the communication / honesty etc is on a different level !!
Probably not my thing at mo , was trained in the old Irish ways , certain routes etc.
But I'm sure , for future generations it will certainly become a society norm . "
Yeah I think it will become much more normal.
Another thing I'm seeing being challenged is a prescribed relationship path. I.e you meet, you fall in love, you get serious, you move in together, you might marry, you might make babies. In Polyamory there can be some of that with a nesting partner, but it's not a given. In a way then you have a partner who chooses to be with you rather than having to be with you because finances, housing and lives are entwined.
But similarly it's actually more cost effective to pool money and resources together.
So I'm not sure nesting with someone will ever totally be out. Maybe we'll go back to communes. With the housing crisis it might work out OK! |
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By *om TangoMan 8 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
Think poly would be my thing. But meeting someone that understands that is very hard. I know I can fall in love with someone and get into a loving relationship and live the couple relationship. But I know I’d need the freedom of having sex with someone else. Like in a relationship I’d say it would be more about making love and sex is something that happens with someone else. Plus knowing my life partner is or watching her have sex with someone else is such a turn on for me and I’d love the reclaim sex with her back at home. |
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I gave a poly relationship a go in the last year and came to the conclusion that I am not polyamorous.
I'm much happier single and I think if and when I do get into a relationship again it would be along ENM lines but not poly. |
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I played with the idea of poly with a past partner and also joining a couple here, but I think ENM is more my speed TBH. I was happy playing with others with my last partner because they were just one offs or occasional with no communication in between- but if feelings started to build with a third my jealousy would show- just being honest. |
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I never worry about what labels are placed on a relationship so long as everyone is honest and shows respect to all that are involved. There are those who can do this and those who are the complete opposite and then hurt alot of people in the process. Through bitter experience, I am now very wary of those professing to be polyamourous until they can prove themselves to respect everyone.
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By *eecha87 OP Man 8 weeks ago
portadown |
"Yep I know a few who do it and it works really well for them! It takes a lot of communication and honesty. I don't think I would have the time. One relationship is hard enough!
It's really interesting to see and also just goes to show how normalised monogamy is and how well society is set up for it, but that makes it harder for Poly people. It's nice to see alternative relationship styles.
Can we talk
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Polyamory sounds like an ideal arrangement at times - but would take a ton of energy (of all kinds) and organisational skill to make it work properly.
Also requires very mature people who have worked themselves out and are stable in themselves.
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By *avie tCouple 8 weeks ago
otherside of nowhere |
"Looks like a potential clusterfuck in all the wrong ways to me, but to each their own, not for me and very different to swinging IMO"
I(mrs)agre.. it's completely different to swining....with swinging there's no emotional attachment....and that works for me.. |
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"Unfortunately have only met unsuccessful poly couples in real life 🥲 "
We do exist, but admittedly are fairly few and far between! Successful long-term poly requires a lot of self awareness, reflection, honesty, very high level communication skills, emotional maturity and a lot more.
It's a truly wonderful gift to be part of if you can build it with the right people, very much worth the time and effort 😊 |
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I know a few polyamorous "couples"
Who have worked really hard at their relationships and it seems to be working well enough for them. I think if I were a young man now I would try to live a poly life.
We discussed it briefly when we started swinging but we never really gave it serious thought. As can happen when swinging at times people drifted into our orbit and what scared us most was the drama that can be generated by one extra person being close to your dynamic.
We enjoyed our moments of non sexual intimacy but we had been a monogamous couple for 20 years and changing that was not a risk we were willing to take. |
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By *ettaManMan 7 weeks ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
I think it would be more difficult to open a monogamous relationship to a poly one.
Compared to two people independently deciding the poly dynamic suits them better, and then finding an already poly partner.
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