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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
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By *og-ManMan 3 weeks ago
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You were blocked for a reason
They just didn't tell you
It could be anything ...they don't like the look of you
They know you
Your hair is the wrong colour
Anything at all....its their decision
Nobody has to give a reason at all
Move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"I would assume they didn't fancy you if I were you. "
I presume so but I thought it would be polite just to no thanks your not for us….. instant block wouldn’t be my style unless someone was abusive/pushy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"You were blocked for a reason
They just didn't tell you
It could be anything ...they don't like the look of you
They know you
Your hair is the wrong colour
Anything at all....its their decision
Nobody has to give a reason at all
Move on "
I’m not disagreeing with you but I just think it’s abrupt & rude to do that to anyone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"Tbh I wouldn't meet someone only verified by can etc and 2 years ago. Maybe get yourself to a social meet some people in person etc."
Yes might do, thanks for the advice but
If they felt like that they shouldn’t have engaged & asked for a face pic |
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"You were blocked for a reason
They just didn't tell you
It could be anything ...they don't like the look of you
They know you
Your hair is the wrong colour
Anything at all....its their decision
Nobody has to give a reason at all
Move on
I’m not disagreeing with you but I just think it’s abrupt & rude to do that to anyone"
It can seem that way,
Then you have to consider that aot of people get abuse with a polite no thank you.
And just grow a thick skin and move on.
Also starting a forum thread on this topic no matter how respectfully never reflects well well for the person who starts it either |
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
When someone asks for a photo off you. Make sure they send one first. Its kind of an unwritten rule. They may have recognised you and thats why they blocked you. |
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Some people block those they've no interest in to avoid repeat messages. It happens a lot when the same guys send mesaages every few weeks because they've no recollection of the previous conversation. Saves wasting time. |
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We as a couple disagree on this. I'm an instant blocker whereas Hutch likes to just say no and leave it open. My reasoning is if I've said no once, I won't say yes in the future and it just prevents repeats. And yes, we have received abuse when turning someone down. You could be blocked for any number of reasons.
Maybe think about changing your update, it's not a good look. |
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"You were blocked for a reason
They just didn't tell you
It could be anything ...they don't like the look of you
They know you
Your hair is the wrong colour
Anything at all....its their decision
Nobody has to give a reason at all
Move on
I’m not disagreeing with you but I just think it’s abrupt & rude to do that to anyone"
It is abrupt & rude. So now you know what type of people they are you can count your blessings they are gone. |
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By *oo32Man 3 weeks ago
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
They thought fuck me he's ideal...prob too ideal..block him
They knew ya
They didn't know know but said fuck it and blocked ya anyway
They just didn't like the pic you sent,it's not ideal and it's not a nice feeling when it happens..but it happens
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I suspicious of all the profiles that ask for a facial picture when you message. Sometimes you have to wonder if they are pic hunters and what the potential agenda is.
There is nothing you can do about Instant blocks for no reason unfortunately.
The last time I was here, I was chatting to someone who sent me a pic. Unfortunately, I recognized her from a different time and place. I told her who I was and we agreed to never mention (despite the point that she later asked for a meet and I declined)
I wouldn't take it personal. There have been a few ppl who replied to me and said they are not interested, I'm happy with that decision and asked them to do me a favour and block so I don't bother them again |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response. |
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response. "
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Aw shucks, and there I was thinking it was only me....
I probably qualified under several headings. |
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By *ettaManMan 3 weeks ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
It's hard to put yourself in the shoes of women and couples on here. The dynamic they experience is, by all accounts, very different to single/solo guys.
There may be a variety of reasons they blocked you, as others have outlined. It could indeed be that they are just inconsiderate.
But that is outside your locus of control. If you get too caught up with things you can't control, especially on here, it'll have a negative effect you.
You do have 2 choices though:
1) Dwell on it and let it affect your mood.
2) Let it go and focus what you can control:
- can you improve your profile?
- can you take more flattering pics?
- can you alter your expectations for the site?
2) is easier said than done, but it'll have a more positive effect on you all round. |
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"Tbh I wouldn't meet someone only verified by can etc and 2 years ago. Maybe get yourself to a social meet some people in person etc.
Yes might do, thanks for the advice but
If they felt like that they shouldn’t have engaged & asked for a face pic"
But then they wouldn't have known you weren't their cup of tea!
The other issue is if you say no thanks the reply is often very aggressive. They go from Your wife is Hot to good luck getting anyone to fuck her, in three seconds flat. |
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By *rRiosMan 3 weeks ago
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"You were blocked for a reason
They just didn't tell you
It could be anything ...they don't like the look of you
They know you
Your hair is the wrong colour
Anything at all....its their decision
Nobody has to give a reason at all
Move on "
Maybe the reason was they were rude and nosy and had no intention of meeting |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response.
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Aw shucks, and there I was thinking it was only me....
I probably qualified under several headings."
Because I knew we would never meet- Distance. I’m mileageist and I don’t apologise for it😂😂 |
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response. "
I better cut down on the casual browsing lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response.
I better cut down on the casual browsing lol"
You are gorgeous, no doubt. But if I was to notice someone from N Eire, looking at my profile over and over and never messaging, and has no intention of meeting- I just block them 😂 I know it’s bad. I’m sorry🫣 |
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Yeah mate, move on. It hurts, especially when you know in your heart of hearts you didn’t do or say anything untoward. It’s hard not to take personally, especially when you put your best foot forward and all that - but at the end of the day, the computer says no. |
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response.
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Aw shucks, and there I was thinking it was only me....
I probably qualified under several headings.
Because I knew we would never meet- Distance. I’m mileageist and I don’t apologise for it😂😂"
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Definitely not the worst reason to be blocked.
Geography can be a cruel mistress when it comes to fab meets.
But I do venture to Dublin on occasion and due a return trip to DV8 soon, so never say never......
😀😉 |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response.
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Aw shucks, and there I was thinking it was only me....
I probably qualified under several headings.
Because I knew we would never meet- Distance. I’m mileageist and I don’t apologise for it😂😂
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Definitely not the worst reason to be blocked.
Geography can be a cruel mistress when it comes to fab meets.
But I do venture to Dublin on occasion and due a return trip to DV8 soon, so never say never......
😀😉"
Well I have a weakness for men’s chest hair tickling against my nipples. Next time you are up send me a message and if you have time maybe you could fit me in for a cup of tea. Apologies for the mileageist block. - see I can apologise when I’m wrong 😉 |
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"I’m a blocker. As I go through profiles, I’ll block people I dont like the look of, I’ll block people who keep Looking at my pics but don’t message, I block people from the forums I don’t agree with or who are bitchy and argumentative, I block people who keep messaging, or who I don’t find attractive, etc etc. Lots of people send me face pic and as I’m here just for sex, if I don’t find them attractive I just block and move on. I’m blocked from a million profiles too for the exact reasons listed above. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Most people on Fab have zero impact on my life so I don’t give it a second thought. Don’t send your face pic if you are not comfortable with a possible negative response.
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Aw shucks, and there I was thinking it was only me....
I probably qualified under several headings.
Because I knew we would never meet- Distance. I’m mileageist and I don’t apologise for it😂😂
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Definitely not the worst reason to be blocked.
Geography can be a cruel mistress when it comes to fab meets.
But I do venture to Dublin on occasion and due a return trip to DV8 soon, so never say never......
😀😉
Well I have a weakness for men’s chest hair tickling against my nipples. Next time you are up send me a message and if you have time maybe you could fit me in for a cup of tea. Apologies for the mileageist block. - see I can apologise when I’m wrong 😉"
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Absolutely no need to apologise.
My old hide is much too thick to take offence at someone exercising their right to engage or not with who ever they wish.
I have a thing myself for women's nipples caressing my chest, so at least we have that much in common. 😂.
Looking forward to a possible coffee and chat next time I visit the Big Smoke.
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
No looking at your profile it could be your from Cork nothing wrong with that but they could have been worried you wouldn't show up for the second half 
Ha ha only joking man it happens us all some are just knobs like that. Some have their reasons either way ya just have to get on with it |
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?
No looking at your profile it could be your from Cork nothing wrong with that but they could have been worried you wouldn't show up for the second half
Ha ha only joking man it happens us all some are just knobs like that. Some have their reasons either way ya just have to get on with it "
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It could be a multitude of reasons, it could be one, even though it seems senseless to you. Welcome to Fab. I block a lot now, I didn't at the start, I said oh sorry, I'm not interested or you're not my type to every message I received,then I got back, why? Why am I not your type? Or well you're not all that either, or worse, I got dogs abuse, so a block just makes it less hassle. |
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By *asheaMan 3 weeks ago
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
Happened to me today. Its a kick in the teeth but what might not work for them , will work for someone else. Just have to keep the head down and keep looking |
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Oh that’s rough! You send a face pic expecting a “hey, nice to meet you” and instead get the digital equivalent of a trapdoor opening under you. A tad Rude!
Honestly, some people act like asking for a face pic gives them a license to be audition judges on The Voice, except they hit the “block” button instead of spinning the chair.
I wouldnt worry though, says more about their manners (or lack thereof) than your looks i hope.
I would add a little more detail to your profile and attend an event to get verified, any maybe don't come into the forum kinda whinging, take it on the chin, put the head down and drive on
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"In fairness it’s a great profile and i understand why it draws repeated attention
I drink both Lyons and Barrys tea,like to switch it up,🤣"
No- you have to pick a tea!! People who sit on the fence get splinters in their arses!! |
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By *eanRMan 3 weeks ago
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"In fairness it’s a great profile and i understand why it draws repeated attention
I drink both Lyons and Barrys tea,like to switch it up,🤣
No- you have to pick a tea!! People who sit on the fence get splinters in their arses!! "
lol,
Lyon’s has to be  |
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For every person I've blocked there's been a reason. They will likely not know, understand or appreciate my reason, but there's always a reason. It's my responsibility to ensure that my experience here is a good one. The block button is just one tool I use to make that possible. |
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Some ppl have different standards of politeness & decency. You need to accept that on here.
For whatever reason, they werent keen on you, didnt want to progress & ended your interaction there & then.
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Been there done that, happens to me as well, my suggestion is not think too much about it. Plus I’ve seen a few responses to a simple no by guys on here. This won’t change until people understand how to handle a no and not be an arse about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"Some people block those they've no interest in to avoid repeat messages. It happens a lot when the same guys send mesaages every few weeks because they've no recollection of the previous conversation. Saves wasting time."
This 👆every time |
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Maybe they knew you.
Maybe you weren't attractive to them.
Maybe you were too easy.
Maybe they question your discretion, sending face pictures so easily.
Maybe they block everyone because they are a dude pretending to be a woman/couple.
Maybe just forget about it and move on |
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"Recently I messaged someone in relation to meeting up etc.
The couple responded & asked for face pic.
I sent bacc the face pic & then instantly blocked.
Now I’m no George Clooney but I’m not a bad lookin fella so I have been told.
I just thought it was pretty rude….. after all we are all adults. Just a polite no thanks would have been ok.
Thoughts 💭?"
The ol' one ...send a face pic & then get blocked...hmmm ..& don't get a face pic back & tbh what's to say you may not have been attracted to her or them either ? , they could be the type that you wouldn't look twice at if you were out but you'll never know simply because they didn't send a face pic..that's the problem ...& Always will be ..you are left thinking it's you if you're blocked but you will never know if it's them .. |
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Who cares why you block someone or get blocked. It’s not the school playground, you can be friends or liked by everyone. If you get blocked, there’s obviously a reason to that person. If you block someone, do you mail them and tell them why? Of course not. Move on and don’t give it a second thought. 🤠 |
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I would side with the OP on this one. If he's been engaging with someone and they have asked him for a pic and then just blocked him without any explanation then yeah I think that's super rude. It doesn't matter what the reason is just common courtesy to reply with at least a " sorry not for me"
Of course they don't have to is much easier to hit the block button and for them to forget and move on. It's still rude. Ppl often talk about if you met someone in a pub you wouldn't just show up to someone with your cock hanging out and in the same token if you were to approach someone in a bar and asked for a no. or if they'd like a drink , you can be right sure they would reply to you at least with yes or no thank you. It's just manners don't forget that or you're just as bad as everyone else you give out about.
But hey.... that's just my opinion. |
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By *enusalMan 3 weeks ago
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"I would side with the OP on this one. If he's been engaging with someone and they have asked him for a pic and then just blocked him without any explanation then yeah I think that's super rude. It doesn't matter what the reason is just common courtesy to reply with at least a " sorry not for me"
Of course they don't have to is much easier to hit the block button and for them to forget and move on. It's still rude. Ppl often talk about if you met someone in a pub you wouldn't just show up to someone with your cock hanging out and in the same token if you were to approach someone in a bar and asked for a no. or if they'd like a drink , you can be right sure they would reply to you at least with yes or no thank you. It's just manners don't forget that or you're just as bad as everyone else you give out about.
But hey.... that's just my opinion. "
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"I'm more confused when U find out that a random , no interaction with profile has blocked u. "
"I'm more confused when U find out that a random , no interaction with profile has blocked u. "
A lot of people block preemptively. They might be local to you or know you. They might just be absolutely sure there's no chance of a meet so they are saving time.
They might have seen you on the forum and decided your not compatible.
Happens all the time. |
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"I would side with the OP on this one. If he's been engaging with someone and they have asked him for a pic and then just blocked him without any explanation then yeah I think that's super rude. It doesn't matter what the reason is just common courtesy to reply with at least a " sorry not for me"
Of course they don't have to is much easier to hit the block button and for them to forget and move on. It's still rude. Ppl often talk about if you met someone in a pub you wouldn't just show up to someone with your cock hanging out and in the same token if you were to approach someone in a bar and asked for a no. or if they'd like a drink , you can be right sure they would reply to you at least with yes or no thank you. It's just manners don't forget that or you're just as bad as everyone else you give out about.
But hey.... that's just my opinion. "
I'd hardly describe their interaction as engaging with each other. He messaged, they replied asking for a face pic, he sent one, they blocked him. |
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