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over a year ago
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Share the cost most definitely - the only time I wouldn't expect but would still offer to pay is if someone was staying over on business and had their hotel room paid for already |
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over a year ago
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i have always paid...and mainly because the idea of money exchanging hands on a meet makes me a little queasy..but if its to be a regular thing then it needs to be verbalised.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Man should at least offer 
Why?
As with all things I say here , my opinion not my advice , order or suggestion that it suits everyone
You must have a reason for saying it though? "
I always do it ... |
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over a year ago
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"Man should at least offer
Why?
As with all things I say here , my opinion not my advice , order or suggestion that it suits everyone
You must have a reason for saying it though? "
As you must have a reason for querying it ? |
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"Man should at least offer
Why?
As with all things I say here , my opinion not my advice , order or suggestion that it suits everyone
You must have a reason for saying it though?
As you must have a reason for querying it ? "
What? Isn't curiosity enough?  |
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"If a couple meet single guy at hotel who should pay the cost of room ?"
If your a single guy and lucky enough to meet a couple, the single guy should pay the bill.
Maybe some of the extra expenses might be paid for by by the couple.  |
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We've always paid for our own hotel room !! We do not want to share a room for the night !! Fun is fun for however long we play but we expect the couple or person to organize their own room or where they stay !!.After all it is what it is and do you really all want to wake up in the same bed ? xx happy fabbing this is just our view . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if I was a single lady and the guy didn't at least offer to pay for the room I wouldn't be very impressed tbh"
Chivalry is a lovely attractive trait nowadays. But I'm fiercely independent and wouldn't want to be beholden to anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im generally happy enough to pay the first / second meet. However I always think very highly of women / couples that at least offer to split it. It's a great gesture.
Met a couple twice before, paid both times, never offered me a cent then the husband asked if I'd be his wife's fuckbuddy..........I said I couldn't afford hotels regularly on my own! He flipped!! I spoke to her and she agreed with me............
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if I was a single lady and the guy didn't at least offer to pay for the room I wouldn't be very impressed tbh
Chivalry is a lovely attractive trait nowadays. But I'm fiercely independent and wouldn't want to be beholden to anyone."
I am a bit old fashioned like that..... But only that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If meeting a single as a single I'd pay. Women have extra costs. Any meets I've had in hotels they usually make a good effort, cloths hair etc. and it's nice to be nice
If a cpl depends, if the couple is staying on for the night and single is leaving after the fun the obviously the couple pays. Or if the couple organises it couple should
If it's the singles gig let them pay for it but offer |
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Splitting costs is fine but ye seem not to have picked up on what we've said ,as a couples meet you play and because ye are splitting the Costs you are "sharing the room " the meet goes well are you soposed to sleep in the one bed ,wife in the middle or hubby in the middle lol meet goes bad are your still soposed to share same room bed etc lol !! A meet is a meet for time you play that is it !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would expect to share half the cost unless..
1) Someone was staying in the hotel ANYWAY as part of a holiday or a business trip.
2) Someone had a lot of other costs other than the hotel. Travel costs or dinner/drinks for example.
3) Someone was staying overnight and someone wasnt. Eg. A couple booking a room for a MMF and kicking him out when then play is done and staying the night themselves.
4) With a regular partner where it's easier to alternate who pays for the hotel. |
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We would never expect a guest to pay. To date however every one of our liaisons have offered but we have simply thanked them and declined. We are very fussy and only play with those that we consider to be friends and not random people. We meet for our pleasure and our guest can join us if they so wish. If I were a single woman I would not expect to pay. It's not that I wouldn't be happy to contribute in other ways but I'm quite 'old fashioned' in many respects so would offer but would not want it expected of me. I would happily buy drinks and lunch but the thought of handing over cash would make me feel uneasy x |
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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago
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"If a couple meet single guy at hotel who should pay the cost of room ?"
If the guy cannot accommodate he should pay for the hotel room. On a simplistic basis he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room.   |
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over a year ago
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"If a couple meet single guy at hotel who should pay the cost of room ?"
If you're staying all night and he's not, then logic suggests you pay. But it would be manners for him to offer to go halves.
My partner and I would consider the third to be our guest (carefully chosen I might add) - as such we would insist on paying for the room.
I suspect that for an mfm situation this also has the effect of reinforcing to the third party that the male of the couple has "dominant" status - men and their egos |
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over a year ago
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"he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room. "
Hate this attitude. Shared pleasure shared cost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room.
Hate this attitude. Shared pleasure shared cost. "
I agree that it's a terrible attitude - the third party is a human being worthy of respect and consideration - although I personally feel the couple should pay on the assumption that they'll will have the room all night while third party will be expected to leave. |
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over a year ago
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"he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room.
Hate this attitude. Shared pleasure shared cost.
I agree that it's a terrible attitude - the third party is a human being worthy of respect and consideration - although I personally feel the couple should pay on the assumption that they'll will have the room all night while third party will be expected to leave."
The Panda Express ? |
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over a year ago
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"he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room.
Hate this attitude. Shared pleasure shared cost.
I agree that it's a terrible attitude - the third party is a human being worthy of respect and consideration - although I personally feel the couple should pay on the assumption that they'll will have the room all night while third party will be expected to leave.
The Panda Express ? "
The art of being a good guest is to know when to leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"he should consider himself lucky that a couple want to meet him and the least he can do is pay for the room.
Hate this attitude. Shared pleasure shared cost.
I agree that it's a terrible attitude - the third party is a human being worthy of respect and consideration - although I personally feel the couple should pay on the assumption that they'll will have the room all night while third party will be expected to leave.
The Panda Express ?
The art of being a good guest is to know when to leave"
Indeed one should never overstay ones welcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on who is meeting who but most of the time share costs as after all we r all sharing the pleasure 
Exceptions would be if the cpl or single were already staying there & we were leaving after a few hrs but we would still offer to share costs, but if both parties were staying the night shared costs for sure.
There r no hard & fast rules in sharing costs, all down to individual meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bringing up money on a first meet. A definate no no. Just enjoy it. Handing over cash.....embarrassing for both parties we think."
so how do you sort out the issue of payment! do ye just assume that the OTHER party will pay for ye and leave it at that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bringing up money on a first meet. A definate no no. Just enjoy it. Handing over cash.....embarrassing for both parties we think.
so how do you sort out the issue of payment! do ye just assume that the OTHER party will pay for ye and leave it at that!"
Kinda hilarious to think a couple would be about to get jiggy with someone yet be shy about discussing the cost of the room. |
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By *at2Couple
over a year ago
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If we are away for a few nights and arrange a meet when staying then we would pay. But if arranging a meet and use a hotel for that then we would expect to share the cost. We have never had any issues with this... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bringing up money on a first meet. A definate no no. Just enjoy it. Handing over cash.....embarrassing for both parties we think."
Huh???
So who.pays then?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against"
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything"
Chivalry dies hard |
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over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard"
So does ego |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego"
I wouldn't know  I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation |
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over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation"
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want"
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like |
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like "
Who said it was misogyny? It's not about women at all for those guys, it's all about them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like
Who said it was misogyny? It's not about women at all for those guys, it's all about them!"
Calling them alpha males sorta makes it sounds like they believe them self to be superior and that thinking is misogynistic. I really don't see the need for that jump but obviously you have come across some assholes. |
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like
Who said it was misogyny? It's not about women at all for those guys, it's all about them!
Calling them alpha males sorta makes it sounds like they believe them self to be superior and that thinking is misogynistic. I really don't see the need for that jump but obviously you have come across some assholes."
They see themselves as superior to other men too - interestingly it's rooted in abysmal self-esteem. I'm an observer of human behavior. |
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like
Who said it was misogyny? It's not about women at all for those guys, it's all about them!
Calling them alpha males sorta makes it sounds like they believe them self to be superior and that thinking is misogynistic. I really don't see the need for that jump but obviously you have come across some assholes.
They see themselves as superior to other men too - interestingly it's rooted in abysmal self-esteem. I'm an observer of human behavior."
Ah well I'll just leave it there... |
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"What if just meeting female ?
I ove how we have this thing called feminism, that only applies when women are being discriminated against
The funny thing is, some men get offended by a woman insisting on splitting the cost of anything
Chivalry dies hard
So does ego
I wouldn't know I just assume if a man paid for something it's chivalrous not egotistical? Anyways I'm of the opinion that going dutch works better in the above situation
There are men who consider it an affront to not be allowed to pay - alpha males if you want
Now big difference between chivalry and misogyny. That's a pretty big jump like
Who said it was misogyny? It's not about women at all for those guys, it's all about them!
Calling them alpha males sorta makes it sounds like they believe them self to be superior and that thinking is misogynistic. I really don't see the need for that jump but obviously you have come across some assholes.
They see themselves as superior to other men too - interestingly it's rooted in abysmal self-esteem. I'm an observer of human behavior.
Ah well I'll just leave it there... "
You're an intelligent guy, you should do some reading on narcissism and the ego - it's fascinating stuff. And you'll start to recognise them in your 300+ friends |
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