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My teenage daughter asked me today “how do you know when you are in love” I really didn’t know what to say as I don’t think I’ve ever really been in love!
My sis says she knows her hubby is the one cause as much as she wants to kill him the thought of him not being with her is stronger 
So how do you know? Is it like what my sis said? And what made you realise you did love that special one |
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When you get a pain in your stomach when they haven't called you in more than a day. When they do call you, your chest and legs get warm.
That's what I recall from my early teens, pre-sex, just foreplay stage.
As I have always separated sex from love, occasionally I got caught out and the first sex was amazing and emotional. When it was emotional, I'd an idea it might be love and, sometimes it was and a relationship flourished. Being me, it didn't stop me from having gratifying sex with others, minus the heightened emotions.
Now, as sex is so rare, I'd probably find it difficult not to have sex without any emotion but find it easier to separate those from love.
Hope that makes sense to you, as it does to me. |
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"When you get a pain in your stomach when they haven't called you in more than a day. When they do call you, your chest and legs get warm.
That's what I recall from my early teens, pre-sex, just foreplay stage.
As I have always separated sex from love, occasionally I got caught out and the first sex was amazing and emotional. When it was emotional, I'd an idea it might be love and, sometimes it was and a relationship flourished. Being me, it didn't stop me from having gratifying sex with others, minus the heightened emotions.
Now, as sex is so rare, I'd probably find it difficult not to have sex without any emotion but find it easier to separate those from love.
Hope that makes sense to you, as it does to me."
Ya makes a lot of sense |
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In love once, my last relationship. Long, long distance, but always felt we were right beside each other. We knew each other better than we knew ourselves. Just couldn't work due to circumstances beyond our control  first time I split up with someone were neither of us wanted it to end. Life can be cruel.
It's a cliché....... but if it happens, you know. If you have to say to yourself "I think I'm in love" .............. you are not. Not in the true purest sense of the word at least. It is a sentence, quite often, that can be said just for the sake of saying it. If it happens once in a lifetime, I've definitely already been dealt that card. |
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"When you get a pain in your stomach when they haven't called you in more than a day. When they do call you, your chest and legs get warm.
That's what I recall from my early teens, pre-sex, just foreplay stage.
As I have always separated sex from love, occasionally I got caught out and the first sex was amazing and emotional. When it was emotional, I'd an idea it might be love and, sometimes it was and a relationship flourished. Being me, it didn't stop me from having gratifying sex with others, minus the heightened emotions.
Now, as sex is so rare, I'd probably find it difficult not to have sex without any emotion but find it easier to separate those from love.
Hope that makes sense to you, as it does to me.
Ya makes a lot of sense "
Were you living in London in the 90's too? |
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"In love once, my last relationship. Long, long distance, but always felt we were right beside each other. We knew each other better than we knew ourselves. Just couldn't work due to circumstances beyond our control first time I split up with someone were neither of us wanted it to end. Life can be cruel.
It's a cliché....... but if it happens, you know. If you have to say to yourself "I think I'm in love" .............. you are not. Not in the true purest sense of the word at least. It is a sentence, quite often, that can be said just for the sake of saying it. If it happens once in a lifetime, I've definitely already been dealt that card. "
Be happy you got the card. The dealer may shuffle the deck, or call for new cards, after them being played so well, then it may come up again. Recognise it when it does  |
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By *rxmrsCouple
over a year ago
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"If he the first person she thinks of in the morning and the last person she thinks off at night then yes she's in love believe me "
and happy to say were still in love after 17 years of marriage
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"If he the first person she thinks of in the morning and the last person she thinks off at night then yes she's in love believe me and happy to say were still in love after 17 years of marriage"
Sweet and congratulations |
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By *lowersMan
over a year ago
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I had a four year affair with a work colleague. It was only after it ended I realised she is the only woman I’ve ever really loved. We broke up six years ago and I still think of her and miss her everyday. |
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"My teenage daughter asked me today “how do you know when you are in love” I really didn’t know what to say as I don’t think I’ve ever really been in love!
My sis says she knows her hubby is the one cause as much as she wants to kill him the thought of him not being with her is stronger
So how do you know? Is it like what my sis said? And what made you realise you did love that special one "
Would not expect many people on site to understand what being truly in love feels like. |
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"My teenage daughter asked me today “how do you know when you are in love” I really didn’t know what to say as I don’t think I’ve ever really been in love!
My sis says she knows her hubby is the one cause as much as she wants to kill him the thought of him not being with her is stronger
So how do you know? Is it like what my sis said? And what made you realise you did love that special one Would not expect many people on site to understand what being truly in love feels like."
You would say that |
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You only know you love her when you let her go - passenger
I have no idea.. i dont think its something that can be described really. Its a feeling. Its inside you. Makes u want to cry and vomit and smile and laugh all at the same time cause u dont know ur arse from ur elbow and daily life stuff starts to become insignificant and that person is all you want and care about..
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You only know you love her when you let her go - passenger
I have no idea.. i dont think its something that can be described really. Its a feeling. Its inside you. Makes u want to cry and vomit and smile and laugh all at the same time cause u dont know ur arse from ur elbow and daily life stuff starts to become insignificant and that person is all you want and care about..
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Not a bad way of putting it, |
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"My teenage daughter asked me today “how do you know when you are in love” I really didn’t know what to say as I don’t think I’ve ever really been in love!
My sis says she knows her hubby is the one cause as much as she wants to kill him the thought of him not being with her is stronger
So how do you know? Is it like what my sis said? And what made you realise you did love that special one "
Isn't that just the question that we, as human beings, have been asking forever (like the meaning of life). I think you just know. Your body knows it, your soul knows it, one just needs to listen and be present. I can't think of any other answer... |
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I suppose 'in love' is two people feeling the same about each other, wanting the best for each other and working to keep that. Loving someone is different, to me anyway. Loving someone is being happy for them to be with someone else, because you know that other person makes them happier than you did. Loving someone is shit, but worth it when it's good |
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By *lowersMan
over a year ago
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"I suppose 'in love' is two people feeling the same about each other, wanting the best for each other and working to keep that. Loving someone is different, to me anyway. Loving someone is being happy for them to be with someone else, because you know that other person makes them happier than you did. Loving someone is shit, but worth it when it's good "
In theory that is so right. I don’t miss my ex in a selfish way. I just miss her |
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"I suppose 'in love' is two people feeling the same about each other, wanting the best for each other and working to keep that. Loving someone is different, to me anyway. Loving someone is being happy for them to be with someone else, because you know that other person makes them happier than you did. Loving someone is shit, but worth it when it's good
In theory that is so right. I don’t miss my ex in a selfish way. I just miss her"
I hear you x |
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I agree with a lot of things said above. When you know you just know. The thought of being without that person scares you. You care for their needs and happiness over yours. You can recognise their flaws and look beyond them. You would do anything for that person.
Its an evolving thing though. When youre a teenager it just consumes you and nothing else matters. As you mature i think it feels different but equally as exciting. |
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"I agree with a lot of things said above. When you know you just know. The thought of being without that person scares you. You care for their needs and happiness over yours. You can recognise their flaws and look beyond them. You would do anything for that
Its an evolving thing though. When youre a teenager it just consumes you and nothing else matters. As you mature i think it feels different but equally as exciting. "
Very well put. If both people put the others needs before their own automatically without thinking about it, then it's something special. |
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We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
Dr. Seuss |
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"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
Dr. Seuss"
This sums up my life.. hee hee. |
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"When my now hubby told me at 11 he loved me and was going to marry me I giggled (as you do) but knew he was right. We don't work without each other (soppy I know) he's my best friend that probably knows me better than I know myself. Does he make me angry of course but never anything we can't fix... And hey he let's me have as much cock as I want it's win win really
As others have said you just know "
Soppy fuckers |
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When you meet someone when you are 17 and cannot imagine lifecwithout him. The kissing, the passion, the trust, the butterflies when you know you are going to meet him. You share laughter, pain, passion, kisses, birth and death. And still look at him and feel the the flutters in your tummy and cant resist stealing a kiss impulsively no matter where you are. Knowing he is my rock.
That is love for me. |
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"When you meet someone when you are 17 and cannot imagine lifecwithout him. The kissing, the passion, the trust, the butterflies when you know you are going to meet him. You share laughter, pain, passion, kisses, birth and death. And still look at him and feel the the flutters in your tummy and cant resist stealing a kiss impulsively no matter where you are. Knowing he is my rock.
That is love for me."
Well said Pheonix ... you are obviously among the lucky ones ... some of us here are still looking, others found but lost it
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