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Why do people hide their verificatiions?
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I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
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"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
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 i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them. | |||
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"I see verifications as pretty crass on here and they all sound the same. “Knows how to suck and fuck” “If you get the opportunity don’t miss out”" | |||
"My business is my business I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak " This answer. | |||
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"I hide most of mine because people are too quick to judge. I have met alot of people over the years at socials and clubs but folk just look at the high number and presume i have had sex with them all." It’s nuts that people would judge you on that. I would look at a high number as 100% genuine and active in the scene | |||
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"It’s more for the guys where it shows they have verifications but they are hidden " I guess for some they take the view that their summary shows they have met and been verified - which is the point of a verification - who they have met and what happened is of no importance to others. My summary and visible veris don't add up, some are missing because people have left the site, some have been hidden because they're between me and the person I met (but don't contain anything salacious) but I leave enough social meet ones visible to give a flavour of me as a person | |||
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"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
Why not ..."Have have seen lots and lots of women’s and couples profiles which states they won’t even reply to unverified people. Specifically guys, if they want a better chance of meeting why hide them? | |||
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"not entirely hidden. you can see i've met women. some people here are very judgemental, so i keep hidden. i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them."That’s fair enough. I’ve encountered a couple of people recently who where 100% fake profiles. They all had verifications. The ones which where hidden, I possibly should just ask in future to see them. Just feels a bit cheeky ! | |||
I think veris are bollocks really, I've never given a bad one but I probably should have.....  | |||
"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
"Because, why not? I can do what I like, much the same as you. I often think that verifications can skew someone’s perception so it’s best to leave them private. | |||
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"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
Why not ...
Have have seen lots and lots of women’s and couples profiles which states they won’t even reply to unverified people.
Specifically guys, if they want a better chance of meeting why hide them?
"Because the green tick shows they have been verified - or their verification summary if they've chosen to show it - so just because veris are hidden doesn't mean they're not verified and don't show that they are | |||
"There's a not inconsiderable number of profiled out there that are willing to verify (either for free or for a fee) to enable new "single" guys to get verified. It's quite possible that those verifications then get hidden." No waaayyy!! See I said I’m pretty new. I had no idea!! Thanks for that x | |||
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"My business is my business I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak " This.. | |||
"I see verifications as pretty crass on here and they all sound the same. “Knows how to suck and fuck” “If you get the opportunity don’t miss out”" I get that. All I’m looking for is that they turned up on time. I don’t need the ins and outs x | |||
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"Personal choice really, if they wish to keep them private they can. Its a problem I don't have." That’s fair enough | |||
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"I like to have them to say I'm genuine. But I don't really like the trip advisor aspect to it. If someone left a veri, it's going to be decent anyway, it doesn't need to be left out there for everyone to read. And some that you read are just cringe too, not mine of course "I will have to go and read yours haha Yup that’s all I need, “ genuine” Do people give poor verifications ?? Not ever read any | |||
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"Veris are supposed to prove a person is real so I like the ones that do this. However, I dislike my lovers rating me like a toaster on Amazon. For me, it’s not a badge of honour as it is for some, but rather cringeworthy. My opinion only. "I completely agree that is all I’m looking for. | |||
"My business is my business I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak " This .... I’m not an attraction on trip advisor just the fact I’ve been verified and meet is all I need to show. | |||
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"If verifications received before covid were displayed then hidden there is no option to now display them, any new meet verifications also can't be displayed. " Thanks for this, I didn’t consider this either x | |||
Another is some men don’t like when you meet someone else and it’s not them 
And it’s my business  | |||
"A few reasons i met someone once who kept getting messages from a local asking questions about me
Another is some men don’t like when you meet someone else and it’s not them
And it’s my business "Omg,yeah,the weird repeat ten times a day views you get once you display a new one! | |||
"The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me." Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade | |||
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"not entirely hidden. you can see i've met women. some people here are very judgemental, so i keep hidden. i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them."Yep. | |||
" Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade "I never thought of it like that before. That’s a very good point. I would make mine visible if someone asked. But nobody has. I shall maybe consider asking folks if they’d like to see my veris if we are getting towards sorting a meet. | |||
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"I only show my social ones, it proves who I am. Everything else is hidden as between me and the individual. I used to show them all until I got some unnecessary comments on who I’d met, so now they are hidden, easier life stop for myself & the other individuals. You’ll find your way OP and what works best for you. " This
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"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it.... Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain "Oops | |||
"I think its a bit weird to read what said person got up to on their last meet." All I’m looking for is that they are genuine. | |||
. I just don’t. | |||
"I think its a bit weird to read what said person got up to on their last meet. All I’m looking for is that they are genuine." I’m genuinely a crap shag. | |||
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"There's also the unnecessary drama that people like to avoid - I've had unpleasant behaviour from people in the past because I've met someone they fancy, and I know people that have been told they won't meet them because they've previously met someone they don't like. All very childish, and in my opinion there shouldn't be a place for unmanaged jealousy on a swinging site, but we're all different " As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!! | |||
"Because life on here is easier if people don’t know who you’re meeting or have met. I learnt that the hard way. I’ll show a couple of social ones when we’re allowed. To me they’re to prove you’re genuine. I don’t really leave them or ask for them unless someone really wants one and even then I’ll only leave a social one. I do like other people to show theirs though . I just don’t. "I had no idea this goes on and it seems so wide spread too! | |||
"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it.... Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain "Ohhhh dear! | |||
"Maybe they don't want to be judged" I think I must be coming at this from a different angle. I had no idea people are judged on their verifications. All I want to see is that the person is genuine. I don’t care where they put it previously | |||
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"I wouldn’t tell my current date in a vanilla situation about what happened on a previous date I went on in detail about how good she was and what she did! So what’s the difference...just keep it classy " | |||
"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it.... Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain
Oops "Haha shut it you | |||
"The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me. Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade "That's a fair point and totally understand, but as has been shown veris actually prove not a great deal, you never see a serious negative one so to your point they are to an extent worthless - although agree the veri trail *can* be revealing at times. And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you Whilst I'd agree that women are in a pretty vulnerable situation (and definitely more so than men for the obvious reasons), does that not also apply to men to a degree? Whilst physically we may be stronger, there are any number of vulnerabilities that we all, regardless of gender, leave ourselves open to when meeting.
Which all comes back to my point about veris not being the single most important factor in deciding whether to meet, as opposed to taking time to get a "feel" of people for yourself and using gut instinct rather than relying on the verification of another, usually, stranger.
Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective. | |||
"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
"Simple, it’s my business not anyone else’s!! | |||
"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. " That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky | |||
"There's also the unnecessary drama that people like to avoid - I've had unpleasant behaviour from people in the past because I've met someone they fancy, and I know people that have been told they won't meet them because they've previously met someone they don't like. All very childish, and in my opinion there shouldn't be a place for unmanaged jealousy on a swinging site, but we're all different As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!!" Welcome to Fab - it's always nice to see new faces (and bums and breasticles  ) It's not all bad, there are some lovely people and lots of fun to be found x | |||
"The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me. Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade
That's a fair point and totally understand, but as has been shown veris actually prove not a great deal, you never see a serious negative one so to your point they are to an extent worthless - although agree the veri trail *can* be revealing at times.
And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you Whilst I'd agree that women are in a pretty vulnerable situation (and definitely more so than men for the obvious reasons), does that not also apply to men to a degree? Whilst physically we may be stronger, there are any number of vulnerabilities that we all, regardless of gender, leave ourselves open to when meeting.
Which all comes back to my point about veris not being the single most important factor in deciding whether to meet, as opposed to taking time to get a "feel" of people for yourself and using gut instinct rather than relying on the verification of another, usually, stranger.
Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective."Absolutely, and I would encourage more men to follow safety checks rather than thinking purely with their small brain As I said, it's only one of my safety steps - I do the usual sending details of where I am and who I'm with to a safety buddy, and check in at an agreed time. As well as getting to know people and listening to my gut instinct. But as someone who's had a couple of stalkers (including one where police were involved), it's just another level of security to make me feel safer. | |||
"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky " Absolutely not! Stay picky!! Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter. A guy I began talking to refused to upload a clear recent face picture, so its game over for me at that point. If I dont find them physically attractive, and they are sending or using very old pictures, its a red flag. Be careful, be selective, and above all, have fun! Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx | |||
"In a previous life I had 2 verifications by folks that were Completely incorrect. 1 was obviously meant for someone else as we didn't do things I was getting verified as good at. Lol The other was from someone I never even met, nor would I. Again that must have been meant for someone else Some can be super cringey especially if they detail every little detail that went on and include horrendous spelling and grammar. I hide mine on here as I have met 2 folks I reAlly wish I hadn't. Lol. People hide their verifications for whatever reason they choose to. Don’t be judgey. Just chat with them if you want to. Trust yer gut feelings. You can tell if someone is on the same wavelength pretty quickly....usually. Happy fabbing folks" No judgement here, if that is what my post suggest well that’s not my intention. Like a fair few people on here we are here to meet for sex. We have encountered a lot of fake profiles , and time wasters. Again, like most we don’t have a unlimited amount of time to spend on here. So, we like to quickly work out the genuine ones. I don’t care what they previously did, I don’t want detail. I’m People are right , it’s not trip advisor, a popularity contest, no stars are needed.. | |||
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"The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me. Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade
That's a fair point and totally understand, but as has been shown veris actually prove not a great deal, you never see a serious negative one so to your point they are to an extent worthless - although agree the veri trail *can* be revealing at times.
And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you Whilst I'd agree that women are in a pretty vulnerable situation (and definitely more so than men for the obvious reasons), does that not also apply to men to a degree? Whilst physically we may be stronger, there are any number of vulnerabilities that we all, regardless of gender, leave ourselves open to when meeting.
Which all comes back to my point about veris not being the single most important factor in deciding whether to meet, as opposed to taking time to get a "feel" of people for yourself and using gut instinct rather than relying on the verification of another, usually, stranger.
Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective.
Absolutely, and I would encourage more men to follow safety checks rather than thinking purely with their small brain As I said, it's only one of my safety steps - I do the usual sending details of where I am and who I'm with to a safety buddy, and check in at an agreed time. As well as getting to know people and listening to my gut instinct. But as someone who's had a couple of stalkers (including one where police were involved), it's just another level of security to make me feel safer. "I'll also add that I'm not interested in what the verifications say, and won't judge about previous meets, for me it's just the safety side that they've met others and there's been no untoward behaviour...and yes, I know nobody would display a bad verification, but if they have a few good ones then, in my mind at least, it shows they're less likely to be an axe murderer | |||
" I'll also add that I'm not interested in what the verifications say, and won't judge about previous meets, for me it's just the safety side that they've met others and there's been no untoward behaviour...and yes, I know nobody would display a bad verification, but if they have a few good ones then, in my mind at least, it shows they're less likely to be an axe murderer " So I pass the test then? | |||
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"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky Absolutely not! Stay picky!! Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter. A guy I began talking to refused to upload a clear recent face picture, so its game over for me at that point. If I dont find them physically attractive, and they are sending or using very old pictures, its a red flag. Be careful, be selective, and above all, have fun! Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx" Thank you
I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha
I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.
I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.
Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .
I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.
His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.
He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.
My first filter was the verifications and that failed !
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"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
Simple, it’s my business not anyone else’s!!" | |||
"Hi First time poster on here
I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.
Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.
I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.
I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?
"Meet ones where hidden by admin at start of lockdown | |||
" I'll also add that I'm not interested in what the verifications say, and won't judge about previous meets, for me it's just the safety side that they've met others and there's been no untoward behaviour...and yes, I know nobody would display a bad verification, but if they have a few good ones then, in my mind at least, it shows they're less likely to be an axe murderer So I pass the test then? "Nah, you seem like all sorts of dodgy to me... I'm just nice to you so you use a sharp axe rather than a blunt one | |||
"There's also the unnecessary drama that people like to avoid - I've had unpleasant behaviour from people in the past because I've met someone they fancy, and I know people that have been told they won't meet them because they've previously met someone they don't like. All very childish, and in my opinion there shouldn't be a place for unmanaged jealousy on a swinging site, but we're all different As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!! Welcome to Fab - it's always nice to see new faces (and bums and breasticles ) It's not all bad, there are some lovely people and lots of fun to be found x"Thank you! I love reading the forum posts. Very entertaining x | |||
"I don’t hide mine, the ones that I am missing is because the people have hidden their profile or have left the site " This goes for mine too... and i don't chase veris either | |||
"I show about half of mine. I change which ones are visible from time to time. I don't see the need to show them all. " | |||
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"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky Absolutely not! Stay picky!! Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter. A guy I began talking to refused to upload a clear recent face picture, so its game over for me at that point. If I dont find them physically attractive, and they are sending or using very old pictures, its a red flag. Be careful, be selective, and above all, have fun! Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx Thank you
I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha
I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.
I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.
Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .
I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.
His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.
He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.
My first filter was the verifications and that failed !
"Don't feel like a twat, everyone was new at some point!
Questions are good, that's how we learn new things.
I think your first filter should be your gut feeling. If it doesn't feel right just walk away. Sounds like your gut is working fine.
Top tip- don't send pics, vids or do any sex chat before you have met them in person. Some people are just looking for wank chat and won't ever meet. Some will post the pics and vids on other sites.
Welcome to the forums. | |||
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There's been a lot of negatives flagged up on here about veris. I have to say I've never had a negative experience related to our veris, that I know about at least! We used to display them all but as we got a few more I cut it down to just a representative selection. You do whatever feels right for you - same goes for how you run your profile, what pics you put up, how you use fab in general. If people want to make assumptions about you based on veris or anything else without talking to you, then that's on them. Chatting to people and going with your instincts has always served me best
Mrs TMN x | |||
"Tom Hardy told me to take his trousers down "Wayhayyyyy!!  | |||
"My business is my business I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak " what this lady said x | |||
" I'll also add that I'm not interested in what the verifications say, and won't judge about previous meets, for me it's just the safety side that they've met others and there's been no untoward behaviour...and yes, I know nobody would display a bad verification, but if they have a few good ones then, in my mind at least, it shows they're less likely to be an axe murderer So I pass the test then?
Nah, you seem like all sorts of dodgy to me... I'm just nice to you so you use a sharp axe rather than a blunt one "Damn you've seen through me... ....now put the lotion on the skin or you get the hose again | |||
"On our couples profile we hide / display verifications for multiple reasons many of which have already been mentioned above. We also don't like it when guys try to contact people that we have met, and therefore as soon as we are made aware we hide that verification for a while. I don't want a verification from me or us to be a badge of honour. A guy recently messaged my HW profile to say that having a veri from me would boost his chances on the site...that's not something I am interested in. For some social events you may need 3 verifications, on our couples profile we have that and I am not interested in receiving more even if we do meet people. I rather like keeping who I have sex with as a private matter between me, my boyfriend and the people who we play with. For me it suits the discretion ethos. Her x" | |||
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"Hello OP, welcome to the forums
There's been a lot of negatives flagged up on here about veris. I have to say I've never had a negative experience related to our veris, that I know about at least! We used to display them all but as we got a few more I cut it down to just a representative selection. You do whatever feels right for you - same goes for how you run your profile, what pics you put up, how you use fab in general. If people want to make assumptions about you based on veris or anything else without talking to you, then that's on them. Chatting to people and going with your instincts has always served me best
Mrs TMN x"Hey! Thanks for that. There is certainly a lot I hadn’t considered, and lots I had no idea about. But ultimately, going forward, if I have a suspicion they are not what they say they are, verifications or not ... then it’s a waste of time. I won’t make the assumption anymore that a verification makes them real. I’m not particularly here to make a ton of friends or be active in the scene, just here for sex end of. Xx | |||
"Hello OP, welcome to the forums
There's been a lot of negatives flagged up on here about veris. I have to say I've never had a negative experience related to our veris, that I know about at least! We used to display them all but as we got a few more I cut it down to just a representative selection. You do whatever feels right for you - same goes for how you run your profile, what pics you put up, how you use fab in general. If people want to make assumptions about you based on veris or anything else without talking to you, then that's on them. Chatting to people and going with your instincts has always served me best
Mrs TMN x
Hey!
Thanks for that. There is certainly a lot I hadn’t considered, and lots I had no idea about.
But ultimately, going forward, if I have a suspicion they are not what they say they are, verifications or not ... then it’s a waste of time. I won’t make the assumption anymore that a verification makes them real. I’m not particularly here to make a ton of friends or be active in the scene, just here for sex end of.
Xx
"Sounds like an excellent approach. Have fun x | |||
"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky Absolutely not! Stay picky!! Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter. A guy I began talking to refused to upload a clear recent face picture, so its game over for me at that point. If I dont find them physically attractive, and they are sending or using very old pictures, its a red flag. Be careful, be selective, and above all, have fun! Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx Thank you
I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha
I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.
I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.
Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .
I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.
His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.
He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.
My first filter was the verifications and that failed !
Don't feel like a twat, everyone was new at some point!
Questions are good, that's how we learn new things.
I think your first filter should be your gut feeling. If it doesn't feel right just walk away. Sounds like your gut is working fine.
Top tip- don't send pics, vids or do any sex chat before you have met them in person. Some people are just looking for wank chat and won't ever meet. Some will post the pics and vids on other sites.
Welcome to the forums. "Thank you! I don’t often send them , but 100% won’t be sending any more x | |||
"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it.... Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain "Could just hide the verification summary | |||
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"This place is a gossip factory at times and people do strange things with the knowledge of who you have met. For me verifications, if we even exchange them are more mementos of a special moment than a Trip Adviser review and I keep them private as I feel who I have met, whether than was for a coffee or sex is between us. I also recognise that others are free to do what they like with theirs. However most of the verifications I send after an intimate encounter are unlikely to be published, because they are personal. I meet so infrequently it is a moot point anyway." This is me too. For me they are a memento to look back on, they are not to boast of who I’ve met and what we did! Displaying your verifications can also cause friction between females! | |||
Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them | |||
"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star
Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them "Arse not star ffs although... | |||
"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star
Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them
Arse not star ffs although..."Thought you meant "marmite star" | |||
"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star
Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them
Arse not star ffs although...
Thought you meant "marmite star" "Chocolate starfish  | |||
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"Hiding them isn't enough for my meets, they go UNLOS. The only way to feel clean again. " Or you consume them like a praying mantis after sex. | |||
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"My business is my business I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak " Good answer. Maybe the question should be why would you not hide them ? We’re hiding more and more and seriously considering hiding them all but a few socials | |||
"Hiding them isn't enough for my meets, they go UNLOS. The only way to feel clean again. Or you consume them like a praying mantis after sex."  | |||
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"I don’t.. I’m genuinely that shit at meeting "Me also | |||
"I don’t.. I’m genuinely that shit at meeting
Me also " drive for miles, ate cake and shook hands... | |||
"If verifications received before covid were displayed then hidden there is no option to now display them, any new meet verifications also can't be displayed. " This is ludicrous. It’s happened to me today. | |||
