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There's this woman that I've been speaking to for about just under a year here and she wants guys to fab her pictures so she gets high up on the hot photo section. I told her so many times before the everyone one has got their own qualities that a guy will actually like. You don't have to upload pictures all of the time to try and get up the order on hot photos just be happy who you are are and that's all that matters I know it's easier said than done. |
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"There's this woman that I've been speaking to for about just under a year here and she wants guys to fab her pictures so she gets high up on the hot photo section. I told her so many times before the everyone one has got their own qualities that a guy will actually like. You don't have to upload pictures all of the time to try and get up the order on hot photos just be happy who you are are and that's all that matters I know it's easier said than done."
Maybe she wants to do that because she gets a kick out of it, nothing more. |
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The thing is she has low self-esteem and she doesn't feel good about herself even though plenty of guys tell her all the time that there's nothing wrong with her |
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"The thing is she has low self-esteem and she doesn't feel good about herself even though plenty of guys tell her all the time that there's nothing wrong with her"
Self esteem and confidence doesn't come from the opinions of others. No one can give her that, she has to find her own.
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"The thing is she has low self-esteem and she doesn't feel good about herself even though plenty of guys tell her all the time that there's nothing wrong with her"
The thing about low self esteem is that the person with it will listen to 100 positive comments but will believe the one negative comment that someone makes.
To have good self esteem you need to be realistic about yourself and be able to understand which comments are true and which aren't.
For instance if someone compliments me by saying I look good, I believe it because I have pretty good self esteem and know realistically that I look ok. If someone tells me I'm fat or I look 35, I know it isn't true and both statements are ridiculous so they have no effect on me. Someone with low self esteem will believe the fat comment. |
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I suffer with really low self esteem and I'm my own worst critic. I think I look shit, not good enough, will never amount to anything, unambitious etc but 5 people could say otherwise but 1 person can make a tiny comment and I will blow it out of proportion and twist it so that it fits my narrative of myself. Thats how it works for me. This does vary on occasions but its mostly negative. I tend to over compensate by either shying away from everyone to avoid any 'damage' OR its the total opposite and I'll be over the top to hide my flaws. |
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