Growing up I never wanted to ever be like my dad!
I said I'd reason with my kids, not demanding of them. But I found myself saying..do it and because I said so that's why!
Have you got traits from your parents good or bad?
Do we become like our parents with our children?
What things have you carried forward from your parents to your children?
Or, have you promised yourself to do things differently to them? |
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I promised I'd never be like either of my parents. And so far I'm not like either of them. There are phrases of theirs I use definitely. I don't want to strike fear into my kids and hope I never do |
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I'm like Frida, trying hard to be unlike either of my parents. Both have short explosive tempers and I know I can have a short fuse. I try very hard to keep it under wraps/control. I succeed most of the time but hate myself when I feel myself popping into the stratosphere  |
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"I promised I'd never be like either of my parents. And so far I'm not like either of them. There are phrases of theirs I use definitely. I don't want to strike fear into my kids and hope I never do "
Fear..omg I was so scared of my dad and I never wanted to be like that either! |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Not got any children and probably a good job as my dad always said to me when I was young if somebody hits you then you hit them back only harder...not quite sure that would go down to well in schools these days lol |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My real dad was violent (domestic abuse), and my mum was quick to give me a smack if she thought I was being naughty.
I do not parent like that.
I’m not an overly maternal mum, in that I don’t bake, craft or anything like that, but I get my kids outdoors, we laugh lots and we have fun and they know they are loved .
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"I'm like Frida, trying hard to be unlike either of my parents. Both have short explosive tempers and I know I can have a short fuse. I try very hard to keep it under wraps/control. I succeed most of the time but hate myself when I feel myself popping into the stratosphere "
With the best will in the
World kids can be frustrating...I have 3..I kmow all about it. The difference is my dad didn't have an ounce of self awareness! |
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"My real dad was violent (domestic abuse), and my mum was quick to give me a smack if she thought I was being naughty.
I do not parent like that.
I’m not an overly maternal mum, in that I don’t bake, craft or anything like that, but I get my kids outdoors, we laugh lots and we have fun and they know they are loved .
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For me quality time is what it's about. Just laughing together...for me you can't beat it. |
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"Not got any children and probably a good job as my dad always said to me when I was young if somebody hits you then you hit them back only harder...not quite sure that would go down to well in schools these days lol "
I had those pearls of wisdom given to me. |
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"I'm like Frida, trying hard to be unlike either of my parents. Both have short explosive tempers and I know I can have a short fuse. I try very hard to keep it under wraps/control. I succeed most of the time but hate myself when I feel myself popping into the stratosphere
With the best will in the
World kids can be frustrating...I have 3..I kmow all about it. The difference is my dad didn't have an ounce of self awareness!"
There's lots of other ways I don't want to be like my parents too (and I'm succeeding in!) but the one that slips is my temper at times. Having my son at 16 actually helped me develop temper control. At sixth form, I vividly recollect threatening to stick my size 8 Doc Marten down a girl's throat because she said I was a slag - that made me step back and realise I was a mum. I couldn't behave like that and so I worked on it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sarcasm from my mum’s side; large feet from my dads 
Large fee you say  "
Oh yessss!!!!!
Yeah; big socks every Xmas and shoes cost more than normal !?!? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"According to Mum, I am stubborn and sarcastic like my Dad 
Is she right? "
Kinda
Although I got told to piss off when I said 'I must get the dramatic and the neurotic off you then' |
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"I parent nothing like my biological parents...
Instead I embrace parenthood exactly like my grandparents, my heroes and protectors and I love every single memory I have of them  "
Yes! My maternal grandparents are my idols, fortune to still have Grandad at 89, but..... lockdown  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hear myself quoting things both my mam and Dad did,there again I always wanted to parent my kids like my mam did,a healthy balance of not being to strict,though I must admit that I let my 3 sons get sons get away with a lot more then my daughter,I realise now that it was wrong of me,but thankfully we have a tight mother daughter bond |
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"According to Mum, I am stubborn and sarcastic like my Dad
Is she right?
Kinda
Although I got told to piss off when I said 'I must get the dramatic and the neurotic off you then' "
*That made me chuckle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My grandparents brought me up and they were awesome my dad on the other hand was a miserable dick so I’ve tried my hardest not to be like him ! My grandad taught me to always be kind and I like to think that’s something I’ve passed on , my two girls have big hearts and will always help someone out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots of ways I differ to my parents, I don’t express unrealistic expectations from them. They know they’re loved, and get hugs. I don’t put them down or be in competition with them. X |
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I was fortunate to have loving grandparent's. I have such fond memories of them. But, they fought like cat and dog.
Couldn't live with each other and then when it came to it.....Couldn't live without each other. |
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Base discipline, manners and house rules have carried through from my folks but hard to change who you are that way.
My lad has permission to tell me to shush if I start showing any other traits of my folks  |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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My parents were and still are fecking amazing and have always supported me even when I had my son far too young!! Although when my Dad and now man child son are together its like having two 2 year olds to look after |
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I try to make sure I’m not as overprotective and as strict. I think breathing room is important having been raised the opposite way. I have also tried to ensure communication channels are always open without conditions. I think it’s working.
I had a great childhood yet at my age I can’t have a personal conversation with my parents. In that respect we all missed out on a much closer bond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got a few positive traits from my dad. But I will never raise my children the way my parents raised me. If anything, the only valuable thing they taught me through their behaviour is how important it is to raise a child in a healthy, happy and supportive environment. |
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We've carried forward some things such as the good morals and standards.
We are more relaxed and less strict with our children though. We like to think our children will come to us with all their problems without any worry. Not convinced they will though but we try our best to make them feel they can talk to us about absolutely anything.
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My mum was a gentle loving soul, my dad worshipped the ground she walked on, anyone else though and he was a short tempered very scary guy sometimes, not always but he could be even with me and my sisters so a bit strange really. When he got dementia his character changed and he became quite the comedian, still managed to punch a fellow patient in his nursing home and escape twice though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My parents are one of the reasons why I don't want kids. I'm scared that the way they brought me up is the only way I know so I would do it the same way and that's a terrifying thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My parents are one of the reasons why I don't want kids. I'm scared that the way they brought me up is the only way I know so I would do it the same way and that's a terrifying thought."
You learn along the way. If your parents had a bad way of bringing you up then learn from it and don’t follow their example.
It’s what I did with how my mum treated me. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I always said when I had children I would do things differently than my parents did with me.
I was spoilt rotten as a child, I've taught all 3 of mine the value of money and that you can't have what you want when you want. My parents didn't communicate well with me, my children know they can talk to me about anything and I'll offer them advice from different perspectives.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was blessed to have had the two parents l had ,two brilliant people ,hard working and proud..,traits that l hope my own kids will carry through their lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm never gonna have kids, so dont need to worry about it.
My brother is absolutely becoming my dad.
I'm so far removed from being like any of my family, I'm relieved.
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I'm like my dad in so much that I'll take a lot of shit from those I care about but then when I blow I fucking blow.
I tried not to be like my mother in any way at all, although my lad did have to fend for himself household wise (sorting his own food etc) as I did. Difference was my mum couldn't be arsed, whereas I was at work.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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I find myself being more like my mum every day in a good way, she always found a solution to things.
I'm also far too much like my dad and I get very frustrated, annoyed at silly things.
I'm being the best mum I can be,both of my children are on the autistic spectrum. |
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