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Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. "
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future  |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. "
Hmmm love your thoughts, we are not rude , just want to have fun, we went to a couple of clubs but didn’t feel comfortable for our first time getting involved, thought it would feel more intimate just the three of us |
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I’ve been approached by a few couples where I really felt like nothing more than an experiment or a piece of flesh. Worse than 99% of the single men I have to say.
If it felt that bad on screen, you can imagine why I’m reluctant to accept in the flesh.
I’m not a tool to
A) test someone’s sexuality
B) be a personal porn show |
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"I’ve been approached by a few couples where I really felt like nothing more than an experiment or a piece of flesh. Worse than 99% of the single men I have to say.
If it felt that bad on screen, you can imagine why I’m reluctant to accept in the flesh.
I’m not a tool to
A) test someone’s sexuality
B) be a personal porn show"
Yeah i get this.. I'm often asked to help fulfil a fantasy.. It feels like a commercial transaction |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future "
I'm all for respecting boundaries and limits and their relationship but meeting demands is something else entirely.
It's such a shame. |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future
I'm all for respecting boundaries and limits and their relationship but meeting demands is something else entirely.
It's such a shame. "
This is exactly why single women who will meet couples are seen as rare. Not because they actually are but because the actions of entitled and unethical couples put so many off. |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future
I'm all for respecting boundaries and limits and their relationship but meeting demands is something else entirely.
It's such a shame. "
It really is. As I love making friends |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"This is clique speak for something sexual. For those expecting it to be about actual unicorns- I’m sorry.
Clique speak has a nice rhyme to it. "
I am good  |
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"This is clique speak for something sexual. For those expecting it to be about actual unicorns- I’m sorry.
Clique speak has a nice rhyme to it.
I am good "
Same here , you pop up in both our powers taking the mick, hmmm have fun and be respectful |
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"This is clique speak for something sexual. For those expecting it to be about actual unicorns- I’m sorry.
Clique speak has a nice rhyme to it.
I am good
Same here , you pop up in both our powers taking the mick, hmmm have fun and be respectful "
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"This is clique speak for something sexual. For those expecting it to be about actual unicorns- I’m sorry.
Clique speak has a nice rhyme to it.
I am good
Same here , you pop up in both our powers taking the mick, hmmm have fun and be respectful "
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The single lady in question has to find both of you attractive. And you both have to find her attractive. And you have to have a connection. Those are very small odds. You’re better off going to clubs and chatting to people |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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It does seem there’s not too many on here actively looking for couples but in clubs and at socials there are plenty of lovely ladies looking to join a couple 
Does make it a bit more special when you do find someone and all 3 of you hit it off  |
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We do have a unicorn but really we call her a close friend. Although she did find a unicorn head band when shopping and send us a selfie of her in it for a giggle.
She is honestly a friend and soneone who plays with us occasionally too. Thats why it works, shes a jolly nice human all round (with amazing boobs) and thats what works for us.
She approached us on a different site and it went from there.
Not sure we'll find someone with the same vibe again but I know women who like to play with couples do exist.
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future "
LB - I'd make sure you felt welcomed throughout. What book should we snuggle and read together? Mr can bring tea and cake
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We are club swingers, don't really bother with the online thing. We don't seek single ladies as such, we are more for couples, groups and rarest unicorn of all (in or opinion and experience) the right male. However sometimes you just meet the right woman and it's natural, the 3 way chemistry is there and just feels right. When it works, it works. It a beautiful thing when all 3 of you are totally at ease with each other and free. And maybe that's part of the magic because we are not hungry for a single female. There's no pressure from the start because we often just get chatting with no intent or goal and things just flow.
Also from the perspective of a couple who have been singles on the scene and still occasionally go to clubs alone no one likes to feel like someone else's sex toy. We've not there for just the pleasure of couples and part of their sex game. Its our sex game too. We want to feel an equal stakeholder in whatever goes down and valued. And as others have said some couples can be a bit selfish and entitled. Also no one likes to be stuck in the middle when it goes wrong because there's jealousy or something else not right between the couple (be there). So the bond and the relationship between the two in a couple is also really important to your enjoyment. Another good reason for clubs because you can sus people and the potential chemistry out first without risk. |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. "
All of this! I would love to meet a couple, I’ve been here 6+ years and not met one yet because messages come across like this. Messages from couples mostly come across as quite rude and entitled or appear to be from a single male |
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There are lots of women here looking for couples, it's just getting to know them.
I will note there not here just to fulfill someone else's fantasy though, what's in it for them it's a 3 way street.
From the sexual meets we've had the women have become friends 1st and sex followed, not messaged to fulfil our fantasy we've/they've messaged to get to know us better.
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
All of this! I would love to meet a couple, I’ve been here 6+ years and not met one yet because messages come across like this. Messages from couples mostly come across as quite rude and entitled or appear to be from a single male"
Im intrigued by this - Im not sure how we come across as it is always a mix of both of us messaging. Weve not reached out to many on here as all the posts seem to say couples are supposed to wait and be approached or come across as pushy?
Would it be better if it was me (L) reaching out but how would I show that?
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We’ve exchanged messages with quite a few ladies on here everything seemed to be going ok. As a couple we get the lady is putting herself out there joining us so we try to make it clear it’s an equal 3 way situation all involved all as important as each other. That being said we haven’t actually managed to meet, the chat just seemed to stop when arranging to meet |
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There's a lot of competition as most couples and many men want a MFF.
So bi fems can take their pick,plus they have to fancy both parties of the couple too & feel safe with you both .
It's no wonder it's not easy . |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future
I'm all for respecting boundaries and limits and their relationship but meeting demands is something else entirely.
It's such a shame.
This is exactly why single women who will meet couples are seen as rare. Not because they actually are but because the actions of entitled and unethical couples put so many off. "
The absolute dream would be meeting a couple who were good friends where I could borrow the man or the woman for one on one and have the threesome scenario in equal measures.
And even better if they go to clubs and I join too with no obligation to actually play with them every single time but they keep an eye on me and have my back should I need it.
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future
I'm all for respecting boundaries and limits and their relationship but meeting demands is something else entirely.
It's such a shame.
This is exactly why single women who will meet couples are seen as rare. Not because they actually are but because the actions of entitled and unethical couples put so many off.
The absolute dream would be meeting a couple who were good friends where I could borrow the man or the woman for one on one and have the threesome scenario in equal measures.
And even better if they go to clubs and I join too with no obligation to actually play with them every single time but they keep an eye on me and have my back should I need it.
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That’s exactly how it should work. I hope that you find it!
By the way, you can borrow my partner any time  |
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By *rmrs95Couple 47 weeks ago
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. "
As a couple that likes to be intimate with others, we always put the desires of the third or fourth person first 
It's a shame about the type of couples you speak of ruining it and making it harder for us 
Agreed they are out there, we have met more than a few in clubs |
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Couldn't be bothered to read through all the answers after scrolling a few... I've had some awesome times with couples, but my expectations are to be added in as a fun friend. I defo enjoy group stuff if everyone is fully on board and I'm not rocking up as an extra |
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"I'm interested...when it comes to age...some men can be hot around 60's...
But I have max a bit over 50's.
Coz if they check me out and I like what I see I would text myself 
I have no shame "
Damn. I miss out by one year.
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that.
I honestly couldn’t have put this better myself. I’m in the same boat… although some couples may change that in the future
LB - I'd make sure you felt welcomed throughout. What book should we snuggle and read together? Mr can bring tea and cake
F"
Thank you darling. You choose the book and I’ll bring a lovely cake |
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"Me!
But....I like an equal dynamic and not many couples seem to like agreeing to that. So I gave up looking. And couples can be quite rude.
While a couple needs to be respected so does the single lady. Equally! But that gets lost a lot. Couples will pull rank and see themselves as letting you in and therefore you have to abide by their rules and in the process many will end up being quite entitled and disrespectful towards the guest... When usually 'guests' shouldn't get treated like that. "
Perfectly said. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"I’ve been approached by a few couples where I really felt like nothing more than an experiment or a piece of flesh. Worse than 99% of the single men I have to say.
If it felt that bad on screen, you can imagine why I’m reluctant to accept in the flesh.
I’m not a tool to
A) test someone’s sexuality
B) be a personal porn show"
We're sorry that this seems to be the exsperiance for a lot of the ladies.
We have been thinking of looking for a lady to join our dynamic. We are looking for a lady that the wife can have social and private fun with and also all 3 of us a s a couple.
We realy want to find someone to be a friend and a play partner for us all. We want the lady to feel that she isn't expected to or there just for our pleasure but she has chosen to join us for fun and more.
Is out thinking wrong |
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"How many women do actually want to join a couple for fun, especially when the male is over 50 seems to be the cut off age, why ? Sorry double question "
I think yes, but you seem to be concentrating age as the majority filter
I don't think it is necessarily the case
Look for other reasons as to why things aren't working as you might like
Concentrate on things you can change as opposed to things you can't
Positivity, approach and outlook being just three |
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Do TVs count as Unicorns? Probably not, anyway.
Love joining couples. Turning up as the Kinky Goth Babe from your fantasies, having an amazing experience, then cartwheeling off into the night.
There's a lot of enjoyment in the fantasy fulfilling aspect of it. I enjoy creating that experience and playing the part of the sexual manic pixie dream girl. Or nightmare girl. Whatever. |
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"If couples are looking for a female to join them, why don't you have any or few pictures of the man.
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Too true, maybe it’s because of the age difference or the beauty of the female or the male just wants to see the female enjoying herself within n the boundaries set or something else, please don’t assume, if you need to know just ask, don’t do it in n the forums |
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"Do TVs count as Unicorns? Probably not, anyway.
Love joining couples. Turning up as the Kinky Goth Babe from your fantasies, having an amazing experience, then cartwheeling off into the night.
There's a lot of enjoyment in the fantasy fulfilling aspect of it. I enjoy creating that experience and playing the part of the sexual manic pixie dream girl. Or nightmare girl. Whatever."
Sorry no |
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"If couples are looking for a female to join them, why don't you have any or few pictures of the man.
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There at picture of THE MAN true with the female, we see a lot of profiles/ comments asking to be respectful and not vulgar showing dick pics |
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