 |
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad. "
I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.
Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I think we all overshare here, don’t we? It’s kind of built in to being a heavy forum user."
On here yes. Although I think the lesson of this place is you can talk about something personal to you and deep and a load of people will invalidate that experience and say it’s made up. So we should not. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
How does it make me feel? Shudder - even the accidental one.
I don't believe I do.
I'll happily listen but I open up to a very few.
Tones
If you mean oversharing in another sense such as - I got my period today and its so heavy... that I am guilty of  ps. Don't worry I didn't. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.
I need more context.
Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otSoPoshWoman 45 weeks ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.
I need more context.
Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same."
Pffft. You can't handle the grit  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
I’m quite good at picking out what I’m meant to be hearing and letting the overshare go. Sone people are just like that, for others it’s a need to say stuff. Can’t judge. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"How does it make me feel? Shudder - even the accidental one.
I don't believe I do.
I'll happily listen but I open up to a very few.
Tones
If you mean oversharing in another sense such as - I got my period today and its so heavy... that I am guilty of ps. Don't worry I didn't. "
period talk is not an overshare with me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I don't think I overshare.
I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?
No not really
You live life properly
Not according to the world of fab!"
Literally who gives a fuck about fabbers? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I’m quite good at picking out what I’m meant to be hearing and letting the overshare go. Sone people are just like that, for others it’s a need to say stuff. Can’t judge. "
This us real. That’s really a good perspective |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.
I need more context.
Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same."
I hear you. Oversharerers could make us share more maybe? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I’m well known as an oversharer. I just don’t have a filter. People who know me well understand it’s a part of how my ADHD brain works and are ok with it (mostly) but I understand why it can be uncomfortable for others. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.
I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.
Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread. "
I was raised in that kind of environment. Meant people used that kind of culture against me. So they knew I wouldn't discuss the abuse I was enduring. I used to be quite secretive about it, but as I've gotten older. I find that people actually aren't as uncomfortable as I thought, if anything it's allowed people to open up about the abuse they've suffered. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
|
"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.
I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.
Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread.
I was raised in that kind of environment. Meant people used that kind of culture against me. So they knew I wouldn't discuss the abuse I was enduring. I used to be quite secretive about it, but as I've gotten older. I find that people actually aren't as uncomfortable as I thought, if anything it's allowed people to open up about the abuse they've suffered. "
Frida  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Depends on the person. If I like them, I have a habit of trying to recommend fixes when they probably just need to talk but like to think I'd lend an ear if they needed to talk. If I didn't like them that much, I'd try to find ways to remove myself from the conversation so I don't talk to them longer than I need to.
I don't really tend to overshare unless I know someone and feel comfortable knowing they wouldn't judge  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *adyJayneWoman 45 weeks ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
Pretty much every conversation with my friends would be classed as oversharing by NT types from what I can work out.
Thankfully, all my friends are also ND so 'oversharing' just ends up being conversation  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.
I need more context.
Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same.
Pffft. You can't handle the grit "
I eat grits for breakfast ma'am |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Over sharing is never a good thing. There are lots of nasty people who would use it against a person or throw it in their face
Usually when they don't get what they want instead of just allowing others to have their choice like we all would like ours xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
Depends on the context I guess?
If it’s someone over sharing something they have going on in their personal life, then I don’t mind. They clearly needed to get it off their chest somehow |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
I don't mind at all. I like when people are open. I don't tend to get uncomfortable, and do my best to listen and respond in the most supportive way I can.
I've definitely overshared to the wrong people and seen the look of discomfort slowly take over their entire body.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't mind at all. I like when people are open. I don't tend to get uncomfortable, and do my best to listen and respond in the most supportive way I can.
I've definitely overshared to the wrong people and seen the look of discomfort slowly take over their entire body.
"
People shouldn't ask questions that they don't want the answer to.
If someone (often a random stranger) is going to ask me "why are you in a wheelchair", I'm gonna damn well tell them. Not many people actually want to know what I have to say. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
I have to stop myself from over sharing sometimes because I know it can make people uncomfortable. It’s usually not anything that I mind people knowing anyway but still.
I don’t mind it at all though. I like that they feel comfortable enough to be open with me and I try to listen and be supportive when I can. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
|
I think I can be a bit of an over sharer at times, yet at others I can be quite guarded. I think it's just the nature of being on here.
There are times I've said things and felt a little vulnerable as a result but people are generally supportive here and it's heart warming to see that happen when people open up. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
Jo.Xx 
real
