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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
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"I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.
so even you are getting ignored which makes me question how high your standards are."
I'm not sure if you're calling me easy or a picky bitch. |
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"Just one.
She sounds rude as Woody.
Ah, saying it sounds different to how I typed it. I didn't mean as rude as Woody. I meant as rude AS! I know what I meant. "
Ah, the capitals make me think I know what you mean now lol |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
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you say that but what makes it bland? |
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"I'd say 50%. But I don't send loads, very rare I come across someone that catches my eye.
so even you are getting ignored which makes me question how high your standards are.
I'm not sure if you're calling me easy or a picky bitch. "
Defo picky ive looked at your profile and i'd imagine youd get alot of attention. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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I’d say 25% I only message people I’m interested in, I send a message which reflects our mutual interests and do so in a tone which is becoming of meeting someone at a bar
I can only imagine the 90%ers are either spamming profiles/wanna suck on this/nice tits/cock pic people? |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
A few, but someone people take their time to reply? I’ve had replies a couple of weeks after sending a message, you just don’t know what the other person is doing, or how they use the site. Don’t get stressed, just be patient, and only message those profiles you genuinely feel you might be a match with   |
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Because 95% of messages are heys how's u x or how are you both, little to no effort goes in and most profiles are fake or not even swingers.
Single guys generally join because it's free not because they are into the life style/ naughty hobby. |
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"I’d say 25% I only message people I’m interested in, I send a message which reflects our mutual interests and do so in a tone which is becoming of meeting someone at a bar
I can only imagine the 90%ers are either spamming profiles/wanna suck on this/nice tits/cock pic people?"
you must be king on this site 25% of the time you would be ignore thats insanely good. |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
you say that but what makes it bland?"
The lists..... you say facts but you're not showing personality.
Articulate what you want with sentences instead. Don't be about facts, use the bio to show who you are too |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
you say that but what makes it bland?"
Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.
Faf
WUU2
Dick pics
Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland
Mr
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
you say that but what makes it bland?
Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.
Faf
WUU2
Dick pics
Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland
Mr
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Hahaha yeah.... guess that's what I meant.... I like different, I like personality...
Like this reply. Brave, different, hot af |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.
I NEVER ignore a polite message with a face photo. But yeah dunno, your profile is a bit bland eventhough you say ALL the things I want to see and hear... I'm not sure I would engage...
Think I just don't like bullet points, I prefer men that are articulated and make me chuckle.
Just be patient, you really don't want everyone on here, just the special ones
you say that but what makes it bland?
Bland, ya know boring shite that's seen every day on Fab.
Faf
WUU2
Dick pics
Graphic shit they'd like to do the missus/women all = bland
Mr
Hahaha yeah.... guess that's what I meant.... I like different, I like personality...
Like this reply. Brave, different, hot af"
Just the sad reality of fab, and how most roll, I did forget copy n pasted
as a single man on fab, I learnt very quickly it is all about the approach
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"Lots not gonna lie. I don't take it personally but sometimes it does hurt your self esteem a little lol  "
Only hurts your self-esteem if your basing your validation on fab, if not it doesn't.....
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OP, whenever you send a message just delete it immediately from your Sent Folder. It does your wellbeing no good by keeping sentry around the messages you have sent and their respective read/unread statuses. |
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By *rbobbMan 3 weeks ago
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I don't really send cold random messages out. I will only message a profile if I think there is an initial attraction and there is a match to what we are looking for.
Even then the reply rate is low, but that is just how it is. There are two options really.
1. Go with it
2. Delete account
I am happy to go with it. |
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"Because 95% of messages are heys how's u x or how are you both, little to no effort goes in and most profiles are fake or not even swingers.
Single guys generally join because it's free not because they are into the life style/ naughty hobby."
tbh you got me there i just send hey and thats it and a photo of my face |
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"Same... about 95%
At least I don't feel so bad about it now we're all in the same boat lol"
seems like we most definitely are apart from a couple of the people who replied who said 25% and 30% which is insane. |
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If you’re getting 95% delete or ignored I’m afraid to say you’re sending the wrong type of messages to the wrong people. Or perhaps your profiles may need work. Either way it’s not the recipient that needs to do more it’s the sender….
Harsh but true. |
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"99.99999999999999999
I try not to let it get to me. But I put a lot of thought into messaging someone. So it can sting sometimes."
Just a cock shot and "faf"... At least you get threads started about you then. |
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"If you’re getting 95% delete or ignored I’m afraid to say you’re sending the wrong type of messages to the wrong people. Or perhaps your profiles may need work. Either way it’s not the recipient that needs to do more it’s the sender….
Harsh but true. "
It can't be them LB its everyone else to blame
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"I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.
I think I reply to about 50 percent though...
A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.
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you know you can block them right lol |
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By *alcon77Man 3 weeks ago
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"I'd actually say that I'm the one not responding.
I think I reply to about 50 percent though...
A large percentage is explaining to gay or bi guys that I'm straight. Sadly.
you know you can block them right lol"
I don't mind that much to be honest.
Sometimes I get normal chats spinning off from forum posts also.
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Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for. |
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"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for."
so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh |
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"I've never sent a first message, yet....
and how many messages do you recieve daily
Quite a lot considering my profile and pics are crap 
to have a pussy eh must be nice."
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I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.
I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time. |
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"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.
I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time."
interesting what do you send as a first message then? |
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By *red333Man 3 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here  |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here "
my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged. |
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By *red333Man 3 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here
my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged."
yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or? |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here
my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or? "
not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.
tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2). |
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By *red333Man 3 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here
my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or?
not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.
tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2)."
lol you'd get better responses if you read the profile made sure you matched with it then messaged |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate.lol hey rarely do i not get a reply but i guess its about who you message, how you message and what your profiles like after all your profile is your advert here
my strategy so far has been message everyone that i think id be attracted to potentially i like the thinner to curvy girls so thats mainly what ive messaged.yes but do you read profiles and send messages based on the context of the profile or?
not really i just look if i think she looks like she'll be hot ill send a simple hey and my face.
tbh as im writing these ive got a couple of responses from some that were ignoring me (2).lol you'd get better responses if you read the profile made sure you matched with it then messaged "
I'm maybe using this site all wrong then |
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Yeah don't let it bother you
If you get along to a social it definitely helps meeting people in real life and you'll see an increase in responses then
At the end of the day fab is just a bit of fun. Nothing to be bothered by. It's just for laughs |
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"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for.
so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh"
If your getting in to a club for 20 quid bargain, I've never known that price
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"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.
I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.
interesting what do you send as a first message then?"
Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something. |
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"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.
I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.
interesting what do you send as a first message then?
Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something."
probably why i dont get replies then lol |
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"Same... about 95%
At least I don't feel so bad about it now we're all in the same boat lol
seems like we most definitely are apart from a couple of the people who replied who said 25% and 30% which is insane."
I don't think I have sent more than 40 messages to women and couples for the entire time I have used the site (Had previous account) I mostly message those who post in the meets & events sections now.
I would only message someone if their verifications were from people of a similar age and race to me. |
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"It doesn’t happen very often, but we rarely send out any messages anyway. I’m sure if we did the percentage would be higher. "
I often consider messaging your profile but then I look at your location and consider my disappointment when it gets deleted unread.
After that I break out the baby oil and just enjoy the pictures like a good boy  |
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By *iss FuegoWoman 3 weeks ago
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Happened once. I messaged again after he winked at me a second time and to my horror and shame I got that "stop you have already messaged this person and they didn't reply....do you REALLY want to be that sex pest?" That one got a response! |
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A fair few, which is fine tbh.
Biggest issue with guys on this site is that they never read the profile, or their messages don't give off any spark which would help continue a conversation, or it's very clearly a copy/paste job sent to hundreds of others.
Fellas, you gotta realise that the majority of men are letting the minority down. The thing is though, it's not going to change anything because the people spamming inboxes aren't on the forums trying to have a conversation with people. |
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Fellas, you gotta realise that the majority of men are letting the minority down. The thing is though, it's not going to change anything because the people spamming inboxes aren't on the forums trying to have a conversation with people."
To be honest I think the minority of men who do well on here actually appreciate the crapness of the majority - it helps them standout more. |
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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
Am I a bit of a throbber if I say very rarely? It's very rare. I sometimes take the risk and message someone but most of the time I'm sure it will be welcome. A mix of vag power and off the back of forum threads. |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
I’m very board so I worked it out. So from the 57 messages sent over the last three months. 30 of the people I sent a intro message either never looked at the message or looked and didn’t reply. So that’s 54% that didn’t reply and 46% of people that did, which isn’t bad to be fair for me. I’m surprised I thought the number of none reply’s would have been much higher. Not saying though it amounted to anything more then pleasent chats but that doesn’t matter as I enjoy making connections and not just scoring |
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By *ho Me!Man 3 weeks ago
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"Over the last 10 years I'd say that I have a 5% response rate to messages that I've sent as the initiator; more recently though, over the last 6 months that figure has dropped to 1%. I don't consider this ignorance though, as people aren't obliged to reply but I would love to be more successful on here but I guess that what clubs are for.
so are clubs really that much better cause i might actually go to one but the thought of having to pay 20 quid to get in cause im a man is abit meh"
Depends what your going for mate. Everyone likes to get their rocks off, but if you accept that as a bare minimum you will be somewhere hopefully with like minded people that you might have a laugh with to me that's £20 well spent.
If I'm honest I've had nights where I had no sex, they were far better than some where I've actually got to go into a room etc with people. Enjoy the company anything else is just a pleasant extra.  |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
Can you copy here the last 3 messages you sent??
Just to see what's not working |
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"So basically how many times do people read your messages but completely ignore you. i would say im at about a 95% ignore rate."
Also... do they get check your profile and they choose not to reply?
Sometimes we reject the message because its just beyond lame... sometimes the message is good or ok but we see the profile and the profile is mediocre so we don't bother |
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"It has to be 99.9%. Just a thanks but no thanks wouldnt go amiss"
Too many people cant accept that simple idea.
It either begins a sequence of why not? What's wrong? Gimme a chance style, think again style drivel.
or brings about abuse and name calling from someone who wanted to meet us 20mins ago.
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"The strangest ones are when you've sent a message because their profile says 'looking for older man' and they just delete without even looking ay your profile"
They’ve probably viewed your profile in ninja |
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We don't message many people to start a conversation. We only message people who look very compatible and try to show that in our messages. Often they are peoplewho have winked at us so alreadyshown interest in us. I think we get replies to at least 60% of initial messages. |
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"I don't send them often but when I do it's not a bad return, probably about 50/50.
I usually fail at the maintaing contact part. I'm just crap at it unless it's frequent contact. Life, work etc or just off in my own little Dreamworld half the time.
interesting what do you send as a first message then?
Usually a response to something in their profile that caught my attention either the content or the humour inspires me to say something.
probably why i dont get replies then lol"
Hey, like I said it's quite rare.
I reckon a lot of guys wreck it for themselves by being inpatient. When I was in a couple on here my partner would frequently say something like: 'that guy who I thought seemed ok, the one I was going to message back... He's spat his dummy and started being a dick.' |
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By *rMrs84Couple 2 weeks ago
Doncaster |
"Don't take it personally everyone has their preference"
This.
And the next bit will gather some hate but couples and ladies get that many messages (and some really low effort ones too) that relying to them all isn’t practical.
It might be low effort messages, age, looks, interests, something else. It’s hard to say but not everyone’s for everyone and we get several messages a day when active. We can’t fuck everyone and can’t respond to them all either. |
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