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Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. |
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There's some people with profiles and statuses asking people to send them smut and filth of the verbal variety.
Some people just get overexcited by the idea some people like that and just spaff it at any vaguely attractive inbox, even ones with warning signs for not wanting that shit  |
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over a year ago
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Damn. Not only are they sending it without thinking or reading on profiles who want it or not. But they are taking time and effort (or at least I hope) to make the message devious. Only resulting in a laugh and delete
At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand) |
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"Damn. Not only are they sending it without thinking or reading on profiles who want it or not. But they are taking time and effort (or at least I hope) to make the message devious. Only resulting in a laugh and delete
At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand) "
Oh I'm talking full on detail like you'd get in erotica although most of what I get is not the kind of the thing I'd read if I was looking for erotica. It's generally copy and paste as well. |
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"Damn. Not only are they sending it without thinking or reading on profiles who want it or not. But they are taking time and effort (or at least I hope) to make the message devious. Only resulting in a laugh and delete
At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand)
Oh I'm talking full on detail like you'd get in erotica although most of what I get is not the kind of the thing I'd read if I was looking for erotica. It's generally copy and paste as well. "
Oh dear that’s worse! Don’t get me wrong I’ve had a few conversations with men, women and the occasional couple. As I do enjoy messaging erotically and with a bit of thought but it’s an instant dead give away when someone is copy and pasting. For those who do it for that mutual enjoyment it’s the ones your talking about that ruin it for us
Like someone said above. Thinking with the little head rather than the big |
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"Depends on how you define work. I often get more from the flow of conversation than the topic.
Fair enough if they reply. I just block personally. "
I didn't take your post in fully, even though THINK was capitalised. Dreadfully inattentive of me, my apolyologies.
If the tone of the message conveyed the presumption that what they desire is going to happen that would put me off. |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.
Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.
In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.
It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.
They can get off on that |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message.
Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.
Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.
In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.
It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.
They can get off on that"
This is how I think of them, just couldn't think of a way to put as well as you did Granny! |
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That's one of the reasons I run thing's now, she's not interested in the type of people who message like that, there's a time and a place for everything. It's ok to have a laugh on the forums but private messages are more personal. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
I think stuff like that is super cringe… unless you know each other really well - definitely not for a 1st message. Some people like it… but I’d rather do my talking face to face… I think i just prefer to chat less online in general |
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"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!    "
Style?
There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..
Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
Like keyboard warriors emboldened by the anonymity of the internets. Now we all lose not being able to see your profile pic close up  |
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They should go Mills and Boon style and ‘quaff the lady clam’ insert adjective to describe genitalia peppered with Shakespeare, if there’s none of that then it’s a fail
PS I’ve stole ‘quaff the lady clam from a post on here years ago’ spat my tea out when I first read it |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
Not for me it doesn't  |
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"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!
Style?
There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..
Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?
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It was said in jess really.
I've never sent an unacceptable message.
There is no point in making crude crass messages. It just get a delete and block.
The point i was making is that you can be sensible, responsive to a profiles wishes and thoughtful and still get an instant delete.
A respectful not our type or no this time to a well worded thought out message goes a long way.
Yes i get the abundance of messages some get, just a nice reply to a nice message is always well received. Whereas the straight delete is what the inappropiate deserves. |
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"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!
Style?
There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..
Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?
It was said in jess really.
I've never sent an unacceptable message.
There is no point in making crude crass messages. It just get a delete and block.
The point i was making is that you can be sensible, responsive to a profiles wishes and thoughtful and still get an instant delete.
A respectful not our type or no this time to a well worded thought out message goes a long way.
Yes i get the abundance of messages some get, just a nice reply to a nice message is always well received. Whereas the straight delete is what the inappropiate deserves."
I didn't think you had done
We always respond accordingly but yes some will just block and delete regardless..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much the same as the messages women receive offering them '10 inches of throbbing cock waiting for you'. Even glossing over the self-objectification of it, statistically there will be some woman out there at some point looking for that. It doesn't seem like a high-probability strategy though.
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I sometimes ask in my profile update for people's filthiest fantasy. Which is fun and OK.
But If they send me something graphic out of nowhere doesn't matter if 1st msg or 38th msg.
It gives me the ick & I delete it
Most of time I wish I hadn't read it just deleted straight away.
I find it's best to ask yourself.
would you come upto someone at the bar and say that face to face.
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I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.
How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom. |
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"I sometimes ask in my profile update for people's filthiest fantasy. Which is fun and OK.
But If they send me something graphic out of nowhere doesn't matter if 1st msg or 38th msg.
It gives me the ick & I delete it
Most of time I wish I hadn't read it just deleted straight away.
I find it's best to ask yourself.
would you come upto someone at the bar and say that face to face.
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Exactly I think you have to mirror life when you message here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...
And it's always what "he wants"
And it's always a he!
Any holes a goal though right |
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"It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...
And it's always what "he wants"
And it's always a he!
Any holes a goal though right "
Exactly... Or a fake couple profile |
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"It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...
And it's always what "he wants"
And it's always a he!
Any holes a goal though right "
If a profile appeals, and has no photos my message comes with the caveat, after exchanging photos.
Some may go on the fact every holes a goal.
But a single guy turn down a woman at a club or party, now thats lighting the blue touch paper! Take cover!!! |
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I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.
The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.
As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert. |
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"I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.
How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom."
The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)" |
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Whatever happened to class and decorum.
I wouldn't walk up to a woman in the street and say
"I'm going to....."
So I certainly won't here, UNLESS, there is a reciprocated conversation that leads that way. But it takes a while.
Certainly NEVER as an opening message. |
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"I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.
The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.
As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert."
I have no issue with conforming to the well written part,as long as it is respected and not just well deleted. |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message.
Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.
Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.
In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.
It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.
They can get off on that
This is how I think of them, just couldn't think of a way to put as well as you did Granny!"
Reminds me of something a friend, who was a sex worker, used to say.
If they're getting off on it I just tell them they have to pay or I'm hanging up.
I guess some people are just tight-fisted, you'd think it would only take them a few minutes with such a grip. |
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"I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.
How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom.
The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)""
Innit a sex site tho Swing, God lives a tryer....
Mr |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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They leave me absolutely cold, I had one from a bloke in my area for the eve. A graphic speil about how he'd start with a massage and then full detail how it would go after.
I find it annoying they presume if enjoy it and with a random man I've never seen or spoken to.
It's an instant delete and block from me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like naughty conversations with someone I know/am vibing with, though when a person sends it to a stranger without invitation, it's for self gratification & not to entice the receiver, since they don't know if the receiver would welcome it or find it offensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Same goes for dick pics... If there's no context/ invitation, is it any different to a random flasher in the park?!
Where as, between 2 people with consensual context, it can be super fun. |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
My usual first response is 'oh, bore off'
My second is the block button |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
Instant block from me! |
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"I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.
The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.
As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert.
I have no issue with conforming to the well written part,as long as it is respected and not just well deleted."
You'll find that the norms of the site care not whether you are concerned about deletion. |
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"I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.
How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom.
The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)"
Innit a sex site tho Swing, God lives a tryer....
Mr "
I'm reminded of a shirt that was sold a lot when I was at university. "Jesus loves you, everyone else thinks you're an arsehole"
God may indeed love a trier... |
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"Women always moaning ??????"
Yes, I was having a moan, it's allowed. Also doesn't make the content of these messages okay. As someone said further up, you wouldn't just walk up to someone face to face and say it so why is it okay on here? |
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"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "
Did for me. The mother in law loved it! |
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"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'
That's not going to win any awards.
What? You mean your cock?
Yes, that what I wrote. "
Your cocks not going to win any awards? |
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"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'
That's not going to win any awards.
What? You mean your cock?
Yes, that what I wrote.
Your cocks not going to win any awards?"
That's not what I said.  |
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