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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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Can you be self critical of yourself.
Look at your actions and the reactions they can create.
Easier to blame everyone else than look at yourself
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Are you the one to say “yes I own that, I need to make the changes”
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Do you always accept the blame, do the apologising even if it’s not your fault just because it’s easier for you |
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By *a LunaWoman 44 weeks ago
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I like to think that if I’ve been a plonker at some point about something that I am able to sit back, take time to calm down and reflect on my actions and take steps to work on that. I’ll hold my hands up to that.
If I think I was in the wrong about something then I’ll apologise. However, if I believe I wasn’t in the wrong then I’m pretty stubborn at sticking to my guns. |
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I'm a terrible people pleaser & I always think it's me that's in the wrong, I'll apologize for apologizing, I'll say thank you to someone saying thank you 🙈
It's important to realize your mistakes and be honest about them, take responsibility - I probably take that a little too far though.
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"I'm a terrible people pleaser & I always think it's me that's in the wrong, I'll apologize for apologizing, I'll say thank you to someone saying thank you 🙈
It's important to realize your mistakes and be honest about them, take responsibility - I probably take that a little too far though.
Mrs "
Very similar, Im also a people pleaser and do my best to avoid any conflict. I apologise constantly for everything, but am trying to be more aware of when im doing this and to stop x  |
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It depends on the scenario of course but mostly 2 and occasionally 3, to diffuse a situation and possibly revisit in a tactful manner if important to do so. Nothing worse than people who never apologise and mean it if they are in the wrong. None of us are infallible. I will always apologise if on reflection I realise I am. |
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Sure, it’s essential.
In fact Practice the window in the mirror, when things are going good, look out the window praise your team and those around you for the results, when things are bad, look in the mirror at yourself.
Some people do the complete opposite course |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I grew up with parents who did #1, so by default I always did #3. I've mostly trained myself out of that now and try to do #2. It doesn't always work  "
Ditto...indoctrination is hard to reverse isn't it |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I grew up with parents who did #1, so by default I always did #3. I've mostly trained myself out of that now and try to do #2. It doesn't always work
Ditto...indoctrination is hard to reverse isn't it "
But not impossible. We've got this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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Personally I am done with apologising or compromising myself for others.
I am not, nor would I ever want to be, popular. More like an unusual spirit that sits at the back of the alcohol cabinet.
I have spent a long time seeing me as the issue. Now I know it is the situations that I have allowed myself to be put in, whether that’s work or people or social
I will happily live in a cottage by the sea with my dogs than go back to how I was |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I grew up with parents who did #1, so by default I always did #3. I've mostly trained myself out of that now and try to do #2. It doesn't always work
Ditto...indoctrination is hard to reverse isn't it
But not impossible. We've got this "
We do...the conversations in my head when I'm giving myself this pep talk 🤪 |
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