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Yes i have been turned down by both men and couples. Ive never been arsed to find out why. I just respect i’m not for them and keep it moving. Ive sent face pics and the receivers have either not replied or messaged back to say sorry not for us. Ive messaged first and i’ve either not been replied to or had a no thanks message back.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I haven't but I'm sure if I shooted my shot at every person I found attractive I would be. I'm not a fan of the word rejection because it's not really, it's just preference.. we can't all be each others cup of tea, that's just the basic methods of attraction. Just because a person doesn't want you, doesn't make you less attractive, less of a person or should make you feel a negative way especially not on the scene. Next time anyone feels rejected they should ask theirselves why they are feeling that way because I can guarantee it won't be because a stranger didn't see their appeal, there's always a deeper issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜"
They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ |
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜
They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️"
I think the brain is what makes it a no.
I know how I look. And we all know that the penis wants. |
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By *c1589Man 35 weeks ago
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing? "
Their loss , must have been an idiot to not turn up to meet you |
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By *host63Man 35 weeks ago
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing? "
Yes, it is the same, thing but he was also clearly insane |
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This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"More times than I care to remember. People keep saying “be yourself” on these social meets. I don’t think I’m going to do that any more 🤣
Be a chipmunk instead. 🐿️"
The chipmunk is authentic. And actually had a decent success rate 🤣 |
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Uh, whiteknights.
You know we're not here for sympathy or to hear that it's their loss or they must be insane, right?
Men are just as within their rights to say no to someone they don't gel right with. Making out they're somehow lesser for it is really not productive or helpful 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect."
I certainly never implied the men involved were crazy. I think the implication that the “fault” lay in me (and my brand of crazy).
In fact I think this thread (reading between the lines) actually shows that not every man is just desperate for a shag. That many of them have self respect and have turned down some very attractive ladies (the other posters - not myself).
And this myth that women on here have it all is absolutely ridiculous. |
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I’ve broken off with a girlfriend before. Several weeks until I realised just how boring, ill educated and dull she was. She looked fantastic though and enjoyed sex. I thought it was enough but it wasn’t. |
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect.
I certainly never implied the men involved were crazy. I think the implication that the “fault” lay in me (and my brand of crazy).
In fact I think this thread (reading between the lines) actually shows that not every man is just desperate for a shag. That many of them have self respect and have turned down some very attractive ladies (the other posters - not myself).
And this myth that women on here have it all is absolutely ridiculous."
I get that completely. It was more about how some posters have claimed that any man turning down a woman is either an idiot or insane. |
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"I get that completely. It was more about how some posters have claimed that any man turning down a woman is either an idiot or insane.
Please note, it's pretty much just men doing that 💜"
I did note.  |
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By *vaRoseWoman 35 weeks ago
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing? "
Same. It’s very rare I message first but I have been stood up.
It happens, rejection is part of the experience here |
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By *arblerWoman 35 weeks ago
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please? "
Yes, I've been turned down before. I respect somebody doing that than stringing you a long and then not showing up. I know I've turned down many. It's not pleasant tbh but I think being honest and choosing your words carefully when you do so is important xx Happy fabbing xx |
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please? "
Do you mean on fab? If so I haven’t directly approached anyone for a meet and been declined (from memory) but often things don’t work out. Sometimes they don’t show or conversation drifts to silence 🤷🏻♀️
IRL I once asked a bloke out that I had been working with but he didn’t call back so I guess that’s being declined.
I once had a guy message me and then ask for a face pic and then blocked me immediately. He lived quite near to a non fab friend and in the same village that my ex husband now lives in so I can’t help but think there was some common causal link. Either that or he didn’t like my face which is entirely possible and if that was the case then his reaction to block me was exactly the right thing to have done.
You win some you lose some. Not every approach ends how you anticipate at the start. |
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"I haven't but I'm sure if I shooted my shot at every person I found attractive I would be. I'm not a fan of the word rejection because it's not really, it's just preference.. we can't all be each others cup of tea, that's just the basic methods of attraction. Just because a person doesn't want you, doesn't make you less attractive, less of a person or should make you feel a negative way especially not on the scene. Next time anyone feels rejected they should ask theirselves why they are feeling that way because I can guarantee it won't be because a stranger didn't see their appeal, there's always a deeper issue."
It may feel like a preference to you but it feels like rejection to those receiving it ,they are people ultimately with feelings, well some of them have feelings ,I like somebody else said don't throw out many invites so it's not a problem for me .
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Numerous times after sending a face pic. Understandable though.
When I don't give them enough attention. God dam men.
After they meet me in person. Again, understandable.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I haven't but I'm sure if I shooted my shot at every person I found attractive I would be. I'm not a fan of the word rejection because it's not really, it's just preference.. we can't all be each others cup of tea, that's just the basic methods of attraction. Just because a person doesn't want you, doesn't make you less attractive, less of a person or should make you feel a negative way especially not on the scene. Next time anyone feels rejected they should ask theirselves why they are feeling that way because I can guarantee it won't be because a stranger didn't see their appeal, there's always a deeper issue.
It may feel like a preference to you but it feels like rejection to those receiving it ,they are people ultimately with feelings, well some of them have feelings ,I like somebody else said don't throw out many invites so it's not a problem for me ."
Of course they have feelings but my point is those feelings are directed at the wrong person. We need to look within to see why our feelings are hurt by this. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing? "
Who in their right mind would no show for you 🤷🏽♂️
But OP I have said no to a lovely lady because I didn’t feel we gelled but we still chat and meet for a social now and again comfortably because intimacy is off the cards 👍🏽😁 |
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜
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They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️"
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Why are they out of their minds? Cognitive people (with perfectly functioning brains) do indeed turn down women who are ugly, hideous, mediocre or exceptional, with good reasons - whatever those reasons are but not limited to aesthetics. |
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing?
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Their loss , must have been an idiot to not turn up to meet you "
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No, it's not their loss. There's also a strong possibility they weren't idiots. However, a 'no show' is unacceptable behaviour. |
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing?
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Yes, it is the same, thing but he was also clearly insane"
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No, he was sane. He simply changed his mind. His methods, however, we're unacceptable.
Seriously, the sycophancy on this thread is stratospheric. |
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing?
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Yes, it is the same, thing but he was also clearly insane
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No, he was sane. He simply changed his mind. His methods, however, we're unacceptable.
Seriously, the sycophancy on this thread is stratospheric."
I actually typed that last sentence about an hour ago adding a 🤢. Then thought meh I’m not getting involved.
You’re so right |
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"Yes i have been turned down by both men and couples. Ive never been arsed to find out why. I just respect i’m not for them and keep it moving. Ive sent face pics and the receivers have either not replied or messaged back to say sorry not for us. Ive messaged first and i’ve either not been replied to or had a no thanks message back.
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the wife in the couple could of been intimated by you you look lush |
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I've been ghosted quite a few times & no shows in the dozens, which is basically being turned down.
I have social anxiety so I don't tend to send the first msg & arranging meets is a big deal for me  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Just this minute I had a ‘Thanks for the face pics, you look lovely but you’re not my type.’
I bet women get those too. "
This is my go to response!
Not to you rtg obviously. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 35 weeks ago
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect."
This. 💯
I'm confused as to the inference that men never would. 🤷♂️ |
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Of course I've been turned down by men. Many times throughout my life and in many circumstances. I've never asked or needed to know why. We can't all be everyone's cup of tea, and that's perfectly acceptable |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"To be fair, I even like Raven’s face.
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But Råven's face would only tell ½ the story. Her (supposedly) moth-eaten carcass may not appeal to the masses or be deemed bonk-worthy. 😉 ❣️"
I've been rejected by a fair few, it doesn't particularly bother me. There's plenty of pretty penis about. |
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"To be fair, I even like Raven’s face.
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But Råven's face would only tell ½ the story. Her (supposedly) moth-eaten carcass may not appeal to the masses or be deemed bonk-worthy. 😉 ❣️
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I've been rejected by a fair few, it doesn't particularly bother me. There's plenty of pretty penis about. "
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May you rejoice in the PPP - Plenty/Pretty/Penis. 🩶 |
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing?
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Yes, it is the same, thing but he was also clearly insane
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No, he was sane. He simply changed his mind. His methods, however, we're unacceptable.
Seriously, the sycophancy on this thread is stratospheric."
Nero, sycophancy is how you get the girl. It's Fab-science. Can't argue with it. |
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"... ...Nero, sycophancy is how you get the girl. It's Fab-science. Can't argue with it."
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This would explain why I'm having absolutely no luck on here whatsoever, despite my best endeavours.
Mind you, YOLO, I've always (syco)phancy'd you.
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"... ...Nero, sycophancy is how you get the girl. It's Fab-science. Can't argue with it.
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This would explain why I'm having absolutely no luck on here whatsoever, despite my best endeavours.
Mind you, YOLO, I've always (syco)phancy'd you.
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We'll always have each other, Nero.
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP? "
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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Wait. You ditched her for her fashion sense? |
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜
They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
From what I can see in your profile pics I agree with Adam.
I think the brain is what makes it a no.
I know how I look. And we all know that the penis wants."
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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That's quite specific, but ok! 🤣
But I guess it gets to my point - men will have rejected women for lots of reasons, in the same way women will have rejected men for lots of reasons. Your first post made it sound like a man rejecting a woman would be highly unusual...almost incredulous. |
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜
They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
From what I can see in your profile pics I agree with Adam. "
I cannot stress enough how much I don't need to hear that.
There's a lot more to me than my looks. And 90% of people who say this would quickly change their mind if they even bothered to read the profile 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please? "
No, i haven't
But I've never gone out of my way to meet a guy where there has never been any mutual attraction or prior conversations first.
I'd only meet people I was interested in for whatever reason. |
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"More times than I care to remember.
People keep saying “be yourself” on these social meets. I don’t think I’m going to do that any more 🤣"
Sometimes it’s better to just go for it I’ve heard as socially they may be not suitable but very competent sexually. Listen here;
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/strictly-anonymous-confessions/id782571888?i=1000672495027
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂 |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂"
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣 |
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"Yup.
I was more into them than they were into me.
I never asked for their reasoning 💜
They are out of their minds, how could someone with brain in between his shoulders turn down a meeting with such pretty lady like u🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
From what I can see in your profile pics I agree with Adam.
I cannot stress enough how much I don't need to hear that.
There's a lot more to me than my looks. And 90% of people who say this would quickly change their mind if they even bothered to read the profile 💜"
didn’t and wouldn’t read your profile as it’s to long and you may be have a fantastic personality etc etc but long profiles generally mean a L O N G list of rules which could be easily sorted in person. Another recommendation to listen here;
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/strictly-anonymous-confessions/id782571888?i=1000672495027
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣"
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe. |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe. "
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too |
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"didn’t and wouldn’t read your profile as it’s to long and you may be have a fantastic personality etc etc but long profiles generally mean a L O N G list of rules which could be easily sorted in person."
Exactly. You're basing it entirely on an aesthetic and avoiding all of the available information that tells you how utterly incompatible we are. Of course you wouldn't reject someone if you refuse to acknowledge the parts you know you won't like 🙄 |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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Why would it matter, unless she was going to keep it on during the date? |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe.
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too "
It wasn’t just the suit it was the fact she knew where we were going. Lol she didn’t stand out too much amongst the sea of black t shirts and jeans lol I like to wear what I like and I think others should to but within reason of the occasion etc |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Been rejected multiple times. Always accept and move on. It’s the idiots that kick of after being rejected and start sending abusive messages that I don’t understand. |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
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Why would it matter, unless she was going to keep it on during the date?"
How would you suggest she removed it? Yes she did keep it on all night. |
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"Been rejected multiple times. Always accept and move on. It’s the idiots that kick of after being rejected and start sending abusive messages that I don’t understand. "
Yea I don’t get that either |
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect."
Expected as in women saying yes to being turned down, then men turning up saying whaaaaaat, 😂😂😂
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"didn’t and wouldn’t read your profile as it’s to long and you may be have a fantastic personality etc etc but long profiles generally mean a L O N G list of rules which could be easily sorted in person.
Exactly. You're basing it entirely on an aesthetic and avoiding all of the available information that tells you how utterly incompatible we are. Of course you wouldn't reject someone if you refuse to acknowledge the parts you know you won't like 🙄"
For most guys attraction starts with what is visible. Same for women at swingers clubs ie they don’t interview etc before inviting a sexual encounter |
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect.
Expected as in women saying yes to being turned down, then men turning up saying whaaaaaat, 😂😂😂
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Because those that are saying they have been turned down aren’t unattractive, they aren’t Nora batty or Jimmy Carr |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
That's quite specific, but ok! 🤣
But I guess it gets to my point - men will have rejected women for lots of reasons, in the same way women will have rejected men for lots of reasons. Your first post made it sound like a man rejecting a woman would be highly unusual...almost incredulous."
Sure as for one that for me anyhow would be a rare occurrence and it’s a huge compliment for a woman to ask more so in our society as of the way we’ve been conditioned. |
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please? "
Absolutely. I've been rejected on here after sending a picture of my face as I wasn't their type and it's OK it happens. If it's done in a polite and positive way then there's no reason to feel bad about it.
I've also been stood up which at the time I felt hurt by. Not for the rejection but the total disregard and waste of my time.
It's just one of those things I suppose. 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"Been turned down but not in the way of ‘no thanks bye’ was more I arranged to meet and it was a no show… does that mean the same thing? "
No that says more about them and how rude and disrespectful they are |
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect.
Expected as in women saying yes to being turned down, then men turning up saying whaaaaaat, 😂😂😂
Mr
Because those that are saying they have been turned down aren’t unattractive, they aren’t Nora batty or Jimmy Carr"
So, attraction merely comes down to the aesthetic that people display, showing you what they want you to see, and nothing else?.
In my experience of fab, people are not what they always seem..
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"Nora is many things but she isn't "batty". Mad as a hatty perhaps, but not batty. 😉
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lol I couldn’t think of any female except her that would be on most people’s no list!"
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Sadly she is on many folks' "no list". Her advancing years and reducing hairline are contributing to her lack of 'suck-sex'. She is, however, our favourite septuagenarian. |
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"For most guys attraction starts with what is visible. Same for women at swingers clubs ie they don’t interview etc before inviting a sexual encounter "
As someone who talks to people before fucking them, even at clubs, that's far from true for everyone.
Also, the question of rejection was asked without context. I didn't say my rejection was at a club for a direct sexual invitation.
And, even if it were, just because the way I look is usually appealing to a lot of people, it is not to everyone's tastes. And the people who aren't interested in me on a physical level are not somehow mentally deficient nor 'losing out' by not being into me 💜 |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe.
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too "
Leopard print and big hoop earrings *chef's kiss* |
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"More times than I care to remember. People keep saying “be yourself” on these social meets. I don’t think I’m going to do that any more 🤣
Be a chipmunk instead. 🐿️
The chipmunk is authentic. And actually had a decent success rate 🤣"
A 🐿️ fur is so fine it’s almost impossible to feel the it I didn’t know they looked like squirrels though. |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe.
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too
Leopard print and big hoop earrings *chef's kiss*"
Nanna. Are you really Pat Butcher? |
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I received a wink last week from a woman who had, hands down, the hottest photos I've ever seen on fab and had a really good bio that I liked the sound of.
She was a five hour drive on opposite side of the country though so I didn't engage.
It's not always about looks or even compatibly. Sometimes it's just about mileage.
Did she feel rejected? I doubt it. Is it her loss? No. Am I crazy to turn down an opportunity to chat to someone really hot and interesting? No. Because it's impractical. That's life. |
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"I received a wink last week from a woman who had, hands down, the hottest photos I've ever seen on fab and had a really good bio that I liked the sound of.
She was a five hour drive on opposite side of the country though so I didn't engage.
It's not always about looks or even compatibly. Sometimes it's just about mileage.
Did she feel rejected? I doubt it. Is it her loss? No. Am I crazy to turn down an opportunity to chat to someone really hot and interesting? No. Because it's impractical. That's life."
It's ok, I wasn't offended. |
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"I’ve broken off with a girlfriend before. Several weeks until I realised just how boring, ill educated and dull she was. She looked fantastic though and enjoyed sex. I thought it was enough but it wasn’t. "
That’s fair I think. I met a real head turner; literally she turned whole pubs to have look as she entered or walked about. She had a fantastic body to and loved what I had to give however everytime we had sex she insisted on listening to the song “Alejandro”. She had to go lol |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe.
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too
Leopard print and big hoop earrings *chef's kiss*
Nanna. Are you really Pat Butcher?"
I do own a leopard print shirt, but I wouldn't be wearing hoop earrings. |
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"This thread is going as expected.
I could be wrong but reading between the lines the op and subsequent posters are saying that either women should never be rejected or that any man who does so must have a crazy excuse for doing so.
It's pretty simple. If I don't like someone's attitude I don't care what they look like and I have no issues about turning them down.
Anything else shows a lack of self respect.
I certainly never implied the men involved were crazy. I think the implication that the “fault” lay in me (and my brand of crazy).
In fact I think this thread (reading between the lines) actually shows that not every man is just desperate for a shag. That many of them have self respect and have turned down some very attractive ladies (the other posters - not myself).
And this myth that women on here have it all is absolutely ridiculous."
I wouldn’t agree women here or anywhere else have it all. |
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"I received a wink last week from a woman who had, hands down, the hottest photos I've ever seen on fab and had a really good bio that I liked the sound of.
She was a five hour drive on opposite side of the country though so I didn't engage.
It's not always about looks or even compatibly. Sometimes it's just about mileage.
Did she feel rejected? I doubt it. Is it her loss? No. Am I crazy to turn down an opportunity to chat to someone really hot and interesting? No. Because it's impractical. That's life.
It's ok, I wasn't offended."
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please?
Yes, I've been turned down before. I respect somebody doing that than stringing you a long and then not showing up. I know I've turned down many. It's not pleasant tbh but I think being honest and choosing your words carefully when you do so is important xx Happy fabbing xx "
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"As a woman have you ever been turned down by a male? Can you tell us the circumstances and his reasoning please?
Do you mean on fab? If so I haven’t directly approached anyone for a meet and been declined (from memory) but often things don’t work out. Sometimes they don’t show or conversation drifts to silence 🤷🏻♀️
IRL I once asked a bloke out that I had been working with but he didn’t call back so I guess that’s being declined.
I once had a guy message me and then ask for a face pic and then blocked me immediately. He lived quite near to a non fab friend and in the same village that my ex husband now lives in so I can’t help but think there was some common causal link. Either that or he didn’t like my face which is entirely possible and if that was the case then his reaction to block me was exactly the right thing to have done.
You win some you lose some. Not every approach ends how you anticipate at the start. "
I meant in general not just here so Thankyou for replying so informatively. I reckon the guy that blocked you knew you and didn’t want you to know he was out there looking, maybe he was married and you might of told his mrs. |
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"Numerous times after sending a face pic. Understandable though.
When I don't give them enough attention. God dam men.
After they meet me in person. Again, understandable.
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It’s only understandable that they aren’t attracted to you. It also depends on what they are looking for; if it was just sex then you certainly have a great body for it so maybe they wanted more than just sex. |
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" Part and parcel of being on here ?? and if you don't click or have any kind of attraction or spark ?  "
Sure and unfortunately not all of us are that great writing about ourselves. I’m hopeless at starting conversations but can chat to anyone about anything. I meant in life not just here. Being turned down here is a general thing getting a reason would be nice though rather than “ not for me- happy fabbing” |
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"Once on here.
On a thread a man said women on here can have any man they want.
So, to prove him wrong, I messaged someone I knew was not going to say yes, and he didn't.
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That was me or I have said exactly that just recently and I stand by it, if you have patience and are able to work at them. |
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"Have you never turned a woman down, OP?
Sort of we were dating and sex was great. She turned up on a date night in a skirt suit for a pub/rock band date in leopard print pattern. That as one that I ended even though we were very compatible in other ways.
I rejected a guy for having a turtleneck on, so I get you on this one op 😂
I’ve done this too. With shoes 🤣
lol hilarious
If I’d of just been meeting her for sex or as a friend or fwb it’d of been very different but as we were dating I wasn’t going to attempt to change her wardrobe.
Must admit I’m with you on the leopard print suit too
Leopard print and big hoop earrings *chef's kiss*
Nanna. Are you really Pat Butcher?
I do own a leopard print shirt, but I wouldn't be wearing hoop earrings. "
Shirt fair dues but this a proper carpet thick jacket n skirt. To a pub on a night that was metal/heavy rock. |
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"Once on here.
On a thread a man said women on here can have any man they want.
So, to prove him wrong, I messaged someone I knew was not going to say yes, and he didn't.
That was me or I have said exactly that just recently and I stand by it, if you have patience and are able to work at them. "
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I have turned away ladies a few times.
Once, I declined a repeat playtime after discovering a woman's extreme political views.
Once, I called an immediate halt to an initial social upon being told that she wasn't really single, but married and cheating.
A couple of times I've turned away approaches from ladies who were d*unk. I'm not going to play with someone unless I'm certain that it's not just booze talking... |
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"I found as soon as I send a pic or have a pic up I don't get any messages I'm seriously thinking about leaving here"
Everyone will now be wondering what you look like, but it's almost certainly just coincidence. I have a face like the northern end of a southbound camel, but it doesn't seem to matter... |
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"I found as soon as I send a pic or have a pic up I don't get any messages I'm seriously thinking about leaving here"
I’m nowhere near you so you won’t be able to turn me down as I won’t ask for a meet etc from those so far away, but I’d love to see a pic if you will? |
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"I have turned away ladies a few times.
Once, I declined a repeat playtime after discovering a woman's extreme political views.
Once, I called an immediate halt to an initial social upon being told that she wasn't really single, but married and cheating.l
A couple of times I've turned away approaches from ladies who were d*unk. I'm not going to play with someone unless I'm certain that it's not just booze talking..."
Respect to you to turning the d*unk ladies away saving their blushes (possibly) as well as possibly saving any agro from accusations of wrong doing. Yea I get you on the political views, obviously depends on what was discussed but I would also turn away anyone that divulged views that I don’t strongly agree with. |
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"Once on here.
On a thread a man said women on here can have any man they want.
So, to prove him wrong, I messaged someone I knew was not going to say yes, and he didn't.
That was me or I have said exactly that just recently and I stand by it, if you have patience and are able to work at them.
There's not much joy in knowing someone eventually said yes because you wore them down "
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Depends on the person as always. There’s been many successful relationships because one has persuaded the other they do actually make a great couple. |
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"I have turned away ladies a few times.
Once, I declined a repeat playtime after discovering a woman's extreme political views.
Once, I called an immediate halt to an initial social upon being told that she wasn't really single, but married and cheating.l
A couple of times I've turned away approaches from ladies who were d*unk. I'm not going to play with someone unless I'm certain that it's not just booze talking..."
Respect to you to turning the d*unk ladies away saving their blushes (possibly) as well as possibly saving any agro from accusations of wrong doing. Yea I get you on the political views, obviously depends on what was discussed but I would also turn away anyone that divulged views that I don’t strongly agree with. |
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"I found as soon as I send a pic or have a pic up I don't get any messages I'm seriously thinking about leaving here"
I’m thinking I’m only attractive to older ladies? Maybe open your age restrictions? I get enveloped in people’s personality but portraying my own is impossible. |
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I've not been turned down on this site but I have been turned down in real life by a partner, consistently, which made me feel unattractive, undesirable and unwanted and in all honestly made me feel like shit! |
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