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Nothing. They want to ask you nothing. All they want to do is instigate a conversation...and then, when given half the chance, they fumble their words because they never planned on getting this far.
Same as Jehovah's Witnesses: they always get turned away when they knock on your door. But if you ever (in a parallel universe) invite one in they are totally flummoxed because they've never got that far before. Their crib sheet doesn't get as far as ringing the door bell.
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"If someone asks, in their first message, whether they can ask a question, what do they want to ask you?"
You are lucky that they make it so clear.
In Tobago I get people saying they want to 'axe a christian'.
That can be a bit spine chilling the first time you hear it.
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If a grown man and a giant hamster fought in the woods who is the one who does a big shit?
If they don’t ask me this exact question I’m fucking disappointed.
But then most of the questions come from men and men tbh in life are just a massive disappointment.
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Normally I find they want to ask me something weird and repulsive, but if they send that as a first message they get blocked.
If I have told them they can ask it's like I've given the OK for them to ask unhinged shit, and they think the responsibility for that then lies with me, because I said yes. |
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"It’s usually so they can get a reply, because they think curiosity will make you want to reply"
We were curious and replied, to which they then asked whether we would tie them up, do whatever we wanted, rob them and leave 😱
Ermmmmm, no thanks....block! |
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"It’s usually so they can get a reply, because they think curiosity will make you want to reply"
Agree. The trouble is it has the opposite result because we don't indulge in that sort of messing about and make us not want to reply. We possibly may reply if their profile was really hot because I guess attraction buys a little credit. But as a rule of thumb not a good tack with us. Just say it if it's a question or just state your intrest if you're interested in us. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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They don't ask anything!
I've had several of these kinds of messages. Or " I need to tell you something" I've never had them ask anything! There is never a question, I think like someone said above its to engage and start a conversation. |
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"They don't ask anything!
I've had several of these kinds of messages. Or " I need to tell you something" I've never had them ask anything! There is never a question, I think like someone said above its to engage and start a conversation."
Ok I'll ask you something, what in the heck have you been feeding those knickers? Jesus Mary and Joseph...
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"Normally I find they want to ask me something weird and repulsive, but if they send that as a first message they get blocked.
If I have told them they can ask it's like I've given the OK for them to ask unhinged shit, and they think the responsibility for that then lies with me, because I said yes."
Yes.
"I give you permission to ask *a* question. Therefore I am exempted from all social norms, decency, morality, legality, etc." 
No, I can't elaborate on what I mean, it's the kind of stuff we're not allowed to discuss on Fab for many good reasons. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 22 weeks ago
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"It’s usually so they can get a reply, because they think curiosity will make you want to reply
Agree. The trouble is it has the opposite result because we don't indulge in that sort of messing about and make us not want to reply. We possibly may reply if their profile was really hot because I guess attraction buys a little credit. But as a rule of thumb not a good tack with us. Just say it if it's a question or just state your intrest if you're interested in us."
This 100% 👌
When we've had (on the couples profile) that kind of message, or just a 'hi' or 'how are you' it's a straight delete. Ofncourse those are natural things to say when meetingbsomeone face to face in a club, but they lack any thought, creativity or originality when sent as a message.
We'd rather see anything at all than the same, repetitive opening lines that rock up daily. 🤷♂️ |
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"Usually something randomly stupid, like what would you do if you are at a bar and you find a tiny man in your cocktail
I'm curious, what do you do with a tiny man in your cocktail?  "
Will he provide a cocktail sausage? |
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