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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see."
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though. |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why? "
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why? |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see."
Not quite the way , but the 5- whys usually works if people know the answers.
Like this:
Why does Answering a question with a question tend to lead to answers ?
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though. "
Why? |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though. "
It reminds me of talking to a 4 year old |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Not quite the way , but the 5- whys usually works if people know the answers.
Like this:
Why does Answering a question with a question tend to lead to answers ?
"
Why you correcting my incorrectness with correctness still lead to a why though? |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?"
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?! |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
Why?"
Because often people don't like to be questioned on their opinions or motives. I ask because I'm interested in how they formed their views or what has led them to a particular point in their life and they see it as me challenging them.
I also ask why because I genuinely want to find out more about them or a particular subject they're knowledgeable about |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?! "
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch? |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕"
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ? |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
Why?
Because often people don't like to be questioned on their opinions or motives. I ask because I'm interested in how they formed their views or what has led them to a particular point in their life and they see it as me challenging them.
I also ask why because I genuinely want to find out more about them or a particular subject they're knowledgeable about"
I just do it to be annoying
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
Why?
Because often people don't like to be questioned on their opinions or motives. I ask because I'm interested in how they formed their views or what has led them to a particular point in their life and they see it as me challenging them.
I also ask why because I genuinely want to find out more about them or a particular subject they're knowledgeable about
I just do it to be annoying
Madhatter"
Why? |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Not quite the way , but the 5- whys usually works if people know the answers.
Like this:
Why does Answering a question with a question tend to lead to answers ?
"
It works well in person, but it's exhausting in messaging |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
It reminds me of talking to a 4 year old "
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I gave our son a book in which I'd stuck loads of post-it notes with questions such as 'why?' and 'how do we know this?' for my own reference and to go back to later. One of his friends asked who'd written the notes, when he said it was his mum the friend said
"That explains everything! Now I know where you get it from"
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"I'd like to ask any animal what they think of humans.
Do you think the answer would change depending on the animal and where it is in the food chain?
Absolutely."
Which animal(s) would you choose to ask? |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ? "
Well since the first question is in relation to something that happened to me as a child then I'd say it's them that needs to look in the mirror...  |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
Why?
Because often people don't like to be questioned on their opinions or motives. I ask because I'm interested in how they formed their views or what has led them to a particular point in their life and they see it as me challenging them.
I also ask why because I genuinely want to find out more about them or a particular subject they're knowledgeable about
I just do it to be annoying
Madhatter
Why?"
It's a personality trait to be annoying. Used to be the quiet one by now I've become more vocal and annoying.
Why you turning my why against me dangit
Madhatter |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Not quite the way , but the 5- whys usually works if people know the answers.
Like this:
Why does Answering a question with a question tend to lead to answers ?
It works well in person, but it's exhausting in messaging "
It can be fairly exhausting in person too! Getting to the bottom of things often is though rarely goes to 5 though |
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"I used to have loads of questions and why. And they don't seem that important any more. Perhaps my biggest question of the day is what I'm having for lunch  "
The question we ask for an average of 21,000* days during our lifetime
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(My workings out based on an average 60 adult years, from 20-80 years, rounded down to a nice round number m'lud) |
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"What did I do wrong? And I'm sorry if it hurt you as a result.
Youre saying sorry but don't know why?"
If it was something that had hurt someone, even if it was unintentional, then yeah, I am 🤷♂️ |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?!
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch?"
Hmmm... Good question, not sure yet -what are you thinking of having  |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
I frequently ask why in various ways. People find it annoying though.
It reminds me of talking to a 4 year old
.
I gave our son a book in which I'd stuck loads of post-it notes with questions such as 'why?' and 'how do we know this?' for my own reference and to go back to later. One of his friends asked who'd written the notes, when he said it was his mum the friend said
"That explains everything! Now I know where you get it from"
. "
so funny |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?!
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch?
Hmmm... Good question, not sure yet -what are you thinking of having "
Think alice is making me sausage sarnies 🥰
You? |
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‘Why?’ Is the question I would ask of one particular person. I suspect the answer would be disappointing, because I doubt this person can conceptualise the lasting damage their actions caused. Also, I would never allow myself to be anywhere near them to ask, so it’s moot. But why? It’s a question that has haunted me for almost eight years now. I suspect it will haunt me for the rest of my life. |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ?
Well since the first question is in relation to something that happened to me as a child then I'd say it's them that needs to look in the mirror... "
Oh sorry, context is everything. Did you seek counseling? I know it is very hard to process with no answers, but I hope you get closure |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Not quite the way , but the 5- whys usually works if people know the answers.
Like this:
Why does Answering a question with a question tend to lead to answers ?
It works well in person, but it's exhausting in messaging
It can be fairly exhausting in person too! Getting to the bottom of things often is though rarely goes to 5 though"
I like the 36 questions test where you build a total connection to the other person. Id love to do this with someone. |
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"I used to have loads of questions and why. And they don't seem that important any more. Perhaps my biggest question of the day is what I'm having for lunch
Foood in..... oh wait why? ✋️ "
Behave you! |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ?
Well since the first question is in relation to something that happened to me as a child then I'd say it's them that needs to look in the mirror...
Oh sorry, context is everything. Did you seek counseling? I know it is very hard to process with no answers, but I hope you get closure "
It's cool .. I've pretty much boxed it away in my brain, but occasionally it springs open like a jack in the box ... Xx |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
I'd ask myself why it's so difficult to make a change, because I can't do this *again* and it sucks. "
Ohhhh.. you are in a cycle of rinse and repeat. Change is really difficult, it takes effort and we face uncertainty and new challenges.
Ask yourself this question "does this make me happy". If yes, keep going.
If no, the next question is "do I want to CHOOSE to be happy". If the answer is no "I'm choosing to be unhappy", keep going.
If the answer is "yes, I chose to be happy" then you need to make a decision that takes you on the happiness path. Keep testing/ asking. Keep adjusting. Learn to say no - you can justify your actions, by saying out loud - I'm choosing to be happy
Happiness is a choice - always remember that. We choose to be happy or we choose to be unhappy. And then every decision we make reflects this decision.
There's a great video somewhere of monkeys repeatedly putting their hands through a hole to pick up food. The only way to withdraw their hand is to release the food. Even in danger, they don't release the food and so get trapped. Don't be a monkey -release the food and choose to be free / happy |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?!
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch?
Hmmm... Good question, not sure yet -what are you thinking of having
Think alice is making me sausage sarnies 🥰
You?"
I still don't know |
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"What did I do wrong? And I'm sorry if it hurt you as a result.
Who are you asking my little lamb chop?
😬🙈🥺
🐑🥩"
Ok, ok. Fair point 😅 I didn't realise that I was being insensitive and I am genuinely sorry for that... |
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"‘Why?’ Is the question I would ask of one particular person. I suspect the answer would be disappointing, because I doubt this person can conceptualise the lasting damage their actions caused. Also, I would never allow myself to be anywhere near them to ask, so it’s moot. But why? It’s a question that has haunted me for almost eight years now. I suspect it will haunt me for the rest of my life. "
So this is rumination.. and ruminating with no resolution is destructive and negative and holds you in this place you find yourself.
In the words of Elsa "let it go, let it go".
The other person is getting on with life. The only person it is now impacting is you.
It's hard to do, but you will breathe deeper. Don't let them have that hold over you for the rest of your life -in effect you are binding yourself to them forever - what power you are giving them.
Learn to let it go (said with the deepest of love and care) |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ?
Well since the first question is in relation to something that happened to me as a child then I'd say it's them that needs to look in the mirror...
Oh sorry, context is everything. Did you seek counseling? I know it is very hard to process with no answers, but I hope you get closure
It's cool .. I've pretty much boxed it away in my brain, but occasionally it springs open like a jack in the box ... Xx"
Sending love 💕 |
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"What did I do wrong? And I'm sorry if it hurt you as a result.
Who are you asking my little lamb chop?
😬🙈🥺
🐑🥩
Ok, ok. Fair point 😅 I didn't realise that I was being insensitive and I am genuinely sorry for that..."
Apology accepted 😘 |
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"What did I do to deserve what you did ??
Am I really so awful?
Too many questions to ask too many people...😕
If it's a recurring theme, it might be time to stop, look in the mirror and see if there is something you need to tweak ?
Well since the first question is in relation to something that happened to me as a child then I'd say it's them that needs to look in the mirror...
Oh sorry, context is everything. Did you seek counseling? I know it is very hard to process with no answers, but I hope you get closure
It's cool .. I've pretty much boxed it away in my brain, but occasionally it springs open like a jack in the box ... Xx
Sending love 💕"
Thanks lovely xx |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?"
Here's one for anyone and everyone on here..
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Do you think unresolved trauma plays a factor in why people get interested in exploring swinging? |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
Here's one for anyone and everyone on here..
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Do you think unresolved trauma plays a factor in why people get interested in exploring swinging?"
My father used to belt me over his knee with his warm belt.. is that why I have daddy issues |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
Here's one for anyone and everyone on here..
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Do you think unresolved trauma plays a factor in why people get interested in exploring swinging?"
No, I don't although it might for a few.
I suspect that people who don't understand or think that swinging is bad will say that unresolved trauma is the reason though because 'normal' people who've led 'ordinary'lives wouldn't do something like that |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
Here's one for anyone and everyone on here..
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Do you think unresolved trauma plays a factor in why people get interested in exploring swinging?"
Plenty of trauma got at least 2 books worth already. But no I don't unresolved trauma played a part in exploring swinging. Quite the opposite for me at least resolving the trauma did. |
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"I used to have loads of questions and why. And they don't seem that important any more. Perhaps my biggest question of the day is what I'm having for lunch
Foood in..... oh wait why? ✋️
Behave you! "
Why am I misbehaving???? |
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"I used to have loads of questions and why. And they don't seem that important any more. Perhaps my biggest question of the day is what I'm having for lunch
Foood in..... oh wait why? ✋️
Behave you!
Why am I misbehaving???? "
Mischievous as per I would say  |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?!
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch?
Hmmm... Good question, not sure yet -what are you thinking of having
Think alice is making me sausage sarnies 🥰
You?
I still don't know "
And the outcome?
Or did you not eat? |
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"I used to have loads of questions and why. And they don't seem that important any more. Perhaps my biggest question of the day is what I'm having for lunch
Foood in..... oh wait why? ✋️
Behave you!
Why am I misbehaving????
Mischievous as per I would say "
Am I? Not me, not in my nature 😒 |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see."
Is why? How Patrick mgooan in the prisoner TV show break the computer? And I do not have a clue why I know that or indeed if it has any truth to it. |
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
I'd ask myself why it's so difficult to make a change, because I can't do this *again* and it sucks.
Ohhhh.. you are in a cycle of rinse and repeat. Change is really difficult, it takes effort and we face uncertainty and new challenges.
Ask yourself this question "does this make me happy". If yes, keep going.
If no, the next question is "do I want to CHOOSE to be happy". If the answer is no "I'm choosing to be unhappy", keep going.
If the answer is "yes, I chose to be happy" then you need to make a decision that takes you on the happiness path. Keep testing/ asking. Keep adjusting. Learn to say no - you can justify your actions, by saying out loud - I'm choosing to be happy
Happiness is a choice - always remember that. We choose to be happy or we choose to be unhappy. And then every decision we make reflects this decision.
There's a great video somewhere of monkeys repeatedly putting their hands through a hole to pick up food. The only way to withdraw their hand is to release the food. Even in danger, they don't release the food and so get trapped. Don't be a monkey -release the food and choose to be free / happy "
You are so WISE, thank you 🖤 |
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"I want to ask her to tell me what she likes about me and why she does. I find words of affirmation really good for me.
But I don’t want to be needy. "
Ask ! Someone who loves you and sees you will not think you are needy. |
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"The only question to ever ask anyone is why?
Just why?
Answering a question with a question gets answers out of anyone else but you so you avoid the question posed to you.
Try it and see.
Why?
Just why would you ask why?
When why is the question i told you to ask to the person who said why is the only question?
Wait I see what you did there....
Why?
I mean we could be here all day. Sometimes specific Qs are better followed by a probing 'why is that do you think'?!
Ok so I'll not use why .....
What's for lunch?
Hmmm... Good question, not sure yet -what are you thinking of having
Think alice is making me sausage sarnies 🥰
You?
I still don't know
And the outcome?
Or did you not eat?"
I had some left over bread with fake brie and a coffee...it was so good
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"What’s the question you want to ask most? To whom and why?
I'd ask myself why it's so difficult to make a change, because I can't do this *again* and it sucks.
Ohhhh.. you are in a cycle of rinse and repeat. Change is really difficult, it takes effort and we face uncertainty and new challenges.
Ask yourself this question "does this make me happy". If yes, keep going.
If no, the next question is "do I want to CHOOSE to be happy". If the answer is no "I'm choosing to be unhappy", keep going.
If the answer is "yes, I chose to be happy" then you need to make a decision that takes you on the happiness path. Keep testing/ asking. Keep adjusting. Learn to say no - you can justify your actions, by saying out loud - I'm choosing to be happy
Happiness is a choice - always remember that. We choose to be happy or we choose to be unhappy. And then every decision we make reflects this decision.
There's a great video somewhere of monkeys repeatedly putting their hands through a hole to pick up food. The only way to withdraw their hand is to release the food. Even in danger, they don't release the food and so get trapped. Don't be a monkey -release the food and choose to be free / happy
You are so WISE, thank you 🖤"
Mwah 😘
Good luck xxx |
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"I want to ask midnight to send me pictures of her face
Mr Pickles you are one of the few people not only to have had a face pic from me, but to have also met me in real life"
Kiss me. This must be a dream |
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"Am I really this tipsy already?
Yes, yea you are
Fuck, that's disappointing 🤦♀️🤣
I know, you’ve ruined my opinion of you! No d*unk and disorderly thanks 🤣"
You've seen nothing yet! |
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"Am I really this tipsy already?
Yes, yea you are
Fuck, that's disappointing 🤦♀️🤣
I know, you’ve ruined my opinion of you! No d*unk and disorderly thanks 🤣
You've seen nothing yet! "
What have I told you about threatening me with a good time 🤔 |
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