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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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I'm sorry for clogging the forum with this, and I realise it's not the airport, there's no need to announce your departure. But I feel I need to write something just to get it clear in my head why I'm doing this. It's accountability more than anything. I've said I'm going now so I have to. This isn't self pity, it's to explain it to myself that I have to do this.
I've been on fab I think six years now. Perhaps longer? I joined when my ex was cheating on me with someone from here and they created a couples profile together. After I got out of that one I came back as it seemed quite fun, I was single again, let's see what happens, right? Managed to meet two people which I guess is more than some. But that was almost five years ago. I've had a few months off and thought I'd come back and see if I could still hack this place. And I can't. Almost six years single now. At some point you realise that you're not anyone's bargain.
My problem is a crushing lack of self esteem. Not helped by six years of online dating, being ghosted, being cheated on (again), almost ending up in another abusive relationship. I'm a decent guy, I'm funny, I have a good job, I'm fit, but I'm never enough. Or at least this is the story I tell myself. I need to work on that rather than hope that someone will prove me wrong.
I've realised that this place is tremendously bad for me. At least on regular dating sites you don't see who they chose over you. It's just swipe and forget. You get the ghosting instead I suppose. But this place seems to reinforce every single thing I feel about myself. It's destructive. It makes me feel even more lonely than I already am. I could have been good for someone but that someone isn't here.
I've sort of drafted and redrafted this a few times just so I can get it straight. I don't want to go, there's that feeling of just one more message, just one more and maybe everything falls into place. But I think that's the wrong approach. At least for me. If I stay here I'll end up worse than I already am and I don't know if I can handle that.
Already said thanks to Minxy for at least remembering me. Don't think anyone else does. I really do wish everyone on here the best of luck. Hey, one less guy is a good thing for everyone, right?
So long fabbers. |
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I remember your "Testosterone Replacement TRT" threads, which were interesting, useful, educating and informative.
You made an impact with me.
I wish you all the best and hope for better things for you away from the spectre of Fab. ☮️ |
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By *bi HaiveMan 21 weeks ago
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Good luck TrooperRed.
I've always said that if someone isn't enjoying their time on here then maybe a break is wise. Whether thats just hiding your profile or deleting.
The door is always open to return at any time after all. 🤷♂️ |
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Hi Trooper,
It really sounds like you've being doing tuff, and so a break from here might just be what you need to kick back into gear?
I have no idea if you're personal situation? But if you're able too, I can't recommend enough to just sling a backpack over your shoulder , get a ticket to anywhere and chuck a left/ right when you arrive.
It sounds corny, but it's good for your soul and it might help you reset so to speak,✈️🌈 |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"Hi Trooper,
It really sounds like you've being doing tuff, and so a break from here might just be what you need to kick back into gear?
I have no idea if you're personal situation? But if you're able too, I can't recommend enough to just sling a backpack over your shoulder , get a ticket to anywhere and chuck a left/ right when you arrive.
It sounds corny, but it's good for your soul and it might help you reset so to speak,✈️🌈"
Brilliant suggestion, but I think he has child responsibilities if I remember rightly ? |
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Always do what is right for you. The option to be back is there. You take your time and look after no 1. We all need that from time to time. People are here for lots of different reasons. Obviously sometimes works out sometimes not. All the very best of luck to you. As was said above, time for some self healing. You take care.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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I remember you. And I’ve got a shocking memory.
Best of luck. I wish I had your resolve and self awareness. I very often think it would be healthier to leave here. But I don’t.
I genuinely hope you find your super dooper starship trooper |
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I remember you too. You are a good looking man and this place can be crushing for self esteem.
I think a break sounds like a sensible decision for where you are right now. If hiding your profile won't work to keep you away (this place is addictive like that) then unlos makes sense.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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Thanks all. Took myself down to the gym so just read all these. Decided I'm going to join a different type of sausage fest and go to Andy's Man Club. Before I do something silly. |
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By *a LunaWoman 21 weeks ago
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Funnily enough I saw you post on another thread earlier and thought you were an old forum face. Nice to see you back, but understand your reluctance to linger.
Hope you find what you’re looking for. 🙌 |
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Hi , I've been on here on and off for a very long long time
I'm sorry you've had so much bad stuff and tbh without going into details my life was very bleak , beaten left to die the lot , but I'm here now stronger than ever before
You need to take time to heal and never ever think you were the problem for anything , trust me you need to go on a journey of self love and exploration of yourself , what you want in life and go for it
Once you have found yourself and love and know your worth you will truly get every thing in life you deserve
Rule number one ... never make do !
Rule number two ... it's very okay to be selfish
Rule number three ... never change for anyone
Rule number four .... Go live the life , explore and push your boundaries
Best of luck in your new journey  |
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