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Can you sleep with a friend without having sex?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 13 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?
I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too  |
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By *uvs2snogMan 13 weeks ago
Now living in Spain - Vistabella |
Yes no problem
Years ago when I was about 20 my brother and I lived together in a 2 bedroom house - one of his female friends was having issues at home and so moved in with us - initially she slept in my brothers bed but after a few months he started seeing someone ( who wasn’t happy with the arrangement) and so she moved into my room - we shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship |
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By *ariaxxxxWoman 13 weeks ago
Kent/London/Greater London |
"Yes no problem
Years ago when I was about 20 my brother and I lived together in a 2 bedroom house - one of his female friends was having issues at home and so moved in with us - initially she slept in my brothers bed but after a few months he started seeing someone ( who wasn’t happy with the arrangement) and so she moved into my room - we shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship "
Wow ......That's Amazing......"We shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship" 👍 Go You ✌️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Yes no problem
Years ago when I was about 20 my brother and I lived together in a 2 bedroom house - one of his female friends was having issues at home and so moved in with us - initially she slept in my brothers bed but after a few months he started seeing someone ( who wasn’t happy with the arrangement) and so she moved into my room - we shared a bed for over a year with no sexual relationship "
Great practice for married life  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 13 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I've never had a wet dream about it but yes, lots of times I've shared a bed with a friend and nothing has happened.
Even done it with a sex friend and we managed to not do sex. Go us."
Hi _eli, that is good you have shared a bed with a friend and nothing happened too |
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"Yes but I’m not 5 anymore, none of that top and tails shit, if you’re uncomfortable with it be an adult and put pillows down middle, or sleep on the sofa. "
This is making me think of another dicussion going on about making a sausage barrier to keep baked beans away from your scrambled eggs! |
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Tbh I don't think there would ever be a reason for me to need to but also, I don't think I would want to. Family yes, any day. Certain girlfriends also yes. Guy friends? No.
I have my boundaries on personal space and intimacy that have nothing to do with sex/prude or discipline/respect type things and everything to do with trust/trauma.
I'd not sleep a wink.
Sidenote to say, I can't understand how people on here can bunk up at events with the opposite sex or sane sex just to save money. Trusting their personal and sexual safety, their wallet, their everything to a stranger. And they are a stranger. Everyone on here is quite possibly lying through their teeth on everything they post/share.
Some post tales of waking up to find themselves in the middle of a 3some that they didn't consent to.
Wake up the next day to an empty room and money, keys, car gone. What would you be putting on the insurance claim form 🤔 👀 |
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"Yep! I have loads of friends I don't have sex with. I've never felt an overwhelming urge to jump their bones just because we share a bed. It's really not hard. "
Exactly. If it's not hard there's no issue. |
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"Yes. It's never been an issue.
Unless I wake up to find them riding my cock and then saying I obviously wanted it because I was hard.
Yikes!!  "
Arousal non-concordance. As I can have freeze response - It's something I have to consider. Sleeping with someone is relatively easy. Sexual dynamics where I relinquish power - that takes a bit of a deeper understanding with a partner. |
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By *oelMan 13 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?
I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too "
Yes, you can do anything or not to anything. Folks have self control, and do what is agreed and wanted. It's ok to have a friend, and yes i can sleep by a friend just fine |
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I have never found myself to be in a situation where I have had to share a bed with a male friend, nor can I think of one where I would need to.
My female friends, a fair bit as we holiday together, and they are just that, friends. |
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By *P_80Man 13 weeks ago
Waterford |
If they're my friend then that means there's no attraction there, so yeah. No problem.
And even if I wanted to, she'd have to want to as well. If that's the case then you're more than friends.
The question is worded in a way that may suggest that the friend doesn't get to say no. |
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"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?
I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too "
Yes I could no problem at all |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 13 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?
I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too
Yes I could no problem at all "
Hi inquisitivelady, that is good you can do it too |
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Yes loads of times I've slept with friends. I had a circle of friends growing up most of them guys. We would stay over at each others house or go camping never thought anything off it. They always slept in there boxers I'd sleep with just my t-shirt. |
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"I saw this fun question and I want to see what you think of it and what you have done in this situation and can you sleep with a friend without having sex with them?
I have never had issues sleeping next to friends and havent had sex with them unless it was with a sex friend where you know that it can happen, but with vanilla friends it have never happen, because we have the same intent that nothing will happen, sure you might have wet dreams about it, just because people are sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed doesnt mean they are interested to have sex with each other too "
Not been able to so far. |
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Of course.
I was a permanent resident of the Friendzone when I was younger, so slept with so many men- and yes, only slept.
I was one of the geeky, nerdy computer science/engineering student lads 😂😂😂 we’d stay up all night playing Magic: The Gathering or on MUDs … zero alcohol of course. |
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"Of course.
I was a permanent resident of the Friendzone when I was younger, so slept with so many men- and yes, only slept.
I was one of the geeky, nerdy computer science/engineering student lads 😂😂😂 we’d stay up all night playing Magic: The Gathering or on MUDs … zero alcohol of course. "
Love a geek 🤓 |
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By *ete hMan 13 weeks ago
Penzance |
I do quite regularly tbh. Our friendship started as quite sexual so we've done stuff before, but I quite regularly stay at her's now and we'll just share a bed and cuddle but nothing more. It's nice, it's about comfort and companionship and if anything more we're obvs both cool with it but there's no kinda pressure or anything on it like that. It's genuinely really nice 🙂 |
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