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Is fab as GREAT as it used to be?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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It’s not my first time here obvs, but I can’t really find much to interest me this time. Like, even if I search for folks to potentially meet then I can’t even see anyone that I fancy, let alone who might fancy me back!
Even the forums seem a bit drab and soulless (no offence and I take at least 1% responsibility for that) 
Maybe I’ve just shifted more “real regular world” in my values, Idk? Maybe I’m finally growing up/old?
Have you ever got to the stage here where you think you see through the gangsters paradise of fab, like someone lifted off the rose tinted ray-bans and you just see it for what it is?
No offence if you love it and think it’s great, good for you!  
Have a brilliant day everyone and I hope you find everything you’re looking for and have lots of great sex and adventures !
See you all, maybe Xxx |
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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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"Was it ever truly great? I don't think it's any better or worse, it still has it's beautiful people and it's utter scumbags"
Once upon a time , when your cock was still growing, there was a place called FAB (in capitals). FAB was a paradise filled with love and laughter and boobs and vag, and bums and cock etc and so on  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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"I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old
Call Cheeky and get her back! 
Awww do you remember her ❤️. Who are you?
Oh I think I know 🤣"
‘bout time! |
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally "
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me |
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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me "
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me "
Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally "
I think the forum always had ups and downs. People come, people go, some you love, some that’s annoy the tits off you. I just think I’ve outgrown it now though. Nothing to prove nowadays and it’s not really teaching me much either… |
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally "
This is so true |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"I do get bored on here, I hide my profile and keep away. When I get really bored with it I'll go UNLOS and won't be back, haven't quite got there yet tho."
Nooooooooooooooooooo 😭😭😭 |
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me
Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol"
We should set up faboldgits |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally "
Yep exactly the same for me.
I also think... Fab isn't work. I can understand returning to work if I didn't particularly enjoy it and there was a good salary but Fab is more like a pub.
I wouldn't keep returning to a pub that I wasn't enjoying and had already told me I wasn't... well. I'd go explore other things. Maybe other pubs, maybe a nice café. Or go to a bookstore. Go outside and talk to people. Who aren't in the pub. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 13 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"It’s not my first time here obvs, but I can’t really find much to interest me this time. Like, even if I search for folks to potentially meet then I can’t even see anyone that I fancy, let alone who might fancy me back!
Even the forums seem a bit drab and soulless (no offence and I take at least 1% responsibility for that)
Maybe I’ve just shifted more “real regular world” in my values, Idk? Maybe I’m finally growing up/old?
Have you ever got to the stage here where you think you see through the gangsters paradise of fab, like someone lifted off the rose tinted ray-bans and you just see it for what it is?
No offence if you love it and think it’s great, good for you!
Have a brilliant day everyone and I hope you find everything you’re looking for and have lots of great sex and adventures !
See you all, maybe Xxx"
To me? Yes. It's no different to when I first signed up.
Have I changed though? Of course. What i look for has changed, the way I approach engaging with others has changed, I'm back to having a single profile and a separate couples profile again which I haven't had since about 2012.
I've seen people come and go. Seen some of those that left rejoin. There are still people here that have been around as long or longer than I have.
It's not always the site that changes. Usually it's us, our perceptions and our approaches, wants and desires.
As for the forums? They've always peaked and troughed over time, which is a natural occurrence in any community be that online or in real life.
The site remains optional. If people feel it's not for them any more or that it's not serving the purpose they want, then the door is always open to leave. And it remains open for them to come back of course. 🤷♂️ |
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I don't remember it being any different in all my time here.
It has only ever been a hobby for me so I've never been fully invested or interested in a lifestyle or community.
The forums are like the circle of life where people come and go, sometimes with a flourish and often not by choice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Yep exactly the same for me.
I also think... Fab isn't work. I can understand returning to work if I didn't particularly enjoy it and there was a good salary but Fab is more like a pub.
I wouldn't keep returning to a pub that I wasn't enjoying and had already told me I wasn't... well. I'd go explore other things. Maybe other pubs, maybe a nice café. Or go to a bookstore. Go outside and talk to people. Who aren't in the pub."
What if there was a pub that used to be amazing and you were curious to see what the new owners had done with the place?
Anyway, I’ll have a coffee with you sometime if you decide to drop your standards xx |
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By *enk15Man 13 weeks ago
Evesham |
"I do get bored on here, I hide my profile and keep away. When I get really bored with it I'll go UNLOS and won't be back, haven't quite got there yet tho."
You going UNLOS would be detrimental to the site. |
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"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me
Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol
We should set up faboldgits"
Proper, I'll be the admin |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me
Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol
We should set up faboldgits"
I'm in |
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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?
Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally
Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me
Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol
We should set up faboldgits
Proper, I'll be the admin "
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My ray-bans have more of a brown tint I think, maybe that's where I am going wrong.
Seriously, for a moment at least, I don't think there's all that much that has changed with fab.
As with all sites of this nature, for me at least, the needle in a haystack aspect is always going to exist. I've just come to accept that.
The forums here are quite unique in a way. Lounge is such a fitting term. It has it's own peculiarly cyclical charm.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 13 weeks ago
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I think this is part of why the forums are a bit shit for me.
I ask a question or three and very few folks actually take the time to answer it/tthem. Instead they offer their best “fab advice” and tell me how “fab is” without considering that I might have been here on and off for ten years and be fully aware of that shiz with sprinkles and a cherry on top . So where’s the dialogue and growth??? Everyone has a secret inner show-off and I guess that was me once and still is to a lesser extent…
Apologies to those who didn’t offer me their wisdom, and thanks for the lovely PM’s |
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Been pretty dire of late, a lot of the characters have left the forums in particular...or don't want to voice their opinions in public.
The site as a whole seems to be inundated with Uggs with a false sense of attractiveness due to the sheer numbers of men, 🤷🏻♂️ 🥪 |
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
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Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list "
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list "
Have you tried to be more interesting? |
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list
Have you tried to be more interesting?"
Define ‘try’ |
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My use of Fab has changed, back in the day I used Fab and the forums to (try to!) meet people.
Now I just head to a club and invariably through a little bit of engagement with the people there (rather than just being a wallflower) usually end up getting what I’m looking for despite not pre-agreeing to meet.
So while Fab may be the same as it ever was, my perception of it as a tool to meet, and my view on its “greatness” is different as I’ve evolved.
Also, as we age, and as new fresher people join the site, then the generational gap may begin to show a bit more, and while the site might be a bit more “now” I’m still essentially as I was “then” which makes a difference to! |
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list
Have you tried to be more interesting?
Define ‘try’ "
That would require effort. |
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By *inx000Couple 13 weeks ago
Manchester |
Fab definitely isn't what it used to be..Fab forums used to be a lot of fun with a lot of good people around to make it fun now it is just either boring or people take things too seriously including the Mods which seem to take down a lot of threads for no reason.
Fab uses to be a lot easier to chat to people and arrange meets but now it's full of time wasters or guys pretending to be women just to get themselves off on photos.
It's a lot harder to even get a message of anyone saying they want to meet for a social or maybe more..most of the time you just get ignored!
People ask for face pics then either block you or ignore you which I find is really rude.
It used to be a fun place with fun people and easier to hook up and strike up a conversation but sadly I feel those days are gone. |
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list
Have you tried to be more interesting?
Define ‘try’
That would require effort."
Just like the way she let you answer for her. 👏🏻 |
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It's no different. People come and go. One person's funny, is another's not so funny. One or two people don't 'make' the forums, it's as interesting or not as you want it to be.
If it's not giving you what you want, just leave, it's that simple. |
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"Ah it's not as good as it was!
No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.
Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.
I literally have an empty friends list
Have you tried to be more interesting?
Define ‘try’
That would require effort.
Just like the way she let you answer for her. 👏🏻 "
Was it a private conversation? I am terribly sorry. |
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