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I’m fishing for compliments basically - I’ve tried to be nice on here, I don’t post cock pics and actually do read profiles; I’m also polite to everyone here.
I’ve been called ugly and fat a bunch and to be honest, it’s gotten to me; genuine opinions please - I need a confidence boost or a reality check - either I stay here or I go and just write of a sex life. |
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You have cool hair
You have a good set of lips it looks like
You have a good beard and I like that you are intent to always have a beard
Your a good height
Your a good build for me
You seem a good person
Don't let strangers assumptions on your size being unattractive stay in your head. I know it's hard being a larger build myself to not let the harsh in. But I focus on being me and not being like them
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"That being said
If it's making you feel low.....take a break."
Thank you!! ☺️ I needed that! You’re right, too! I e returned from a break to some abuse. But I guess people are projecting their own insecurities x |
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I understand we all have types, we can't be everyone's type. I'm certainly not. However, seriously? People are calling you fat and ugly. Why are there so many inconsiderate, rude twats on this site? |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I’m fishing for compliments basically - I’ve tried to be nice on here, I don’t post cock pics and actually do read profiles; I’m also polite to everyone here.
I’ve been called ugly and fat a bunch and to be honest, it’s gotten to me; genuine opinions please - I need a confidence boost or a reality check - either I stay here or I go and just write of a sex life. "
I'm afraid there are lots of people on here who originate from the bottom of the cesspool of life! Not sure what makes them tick, but take solace in the fact you aren't like them...
I'm naturally a very polite person. I say thanks when someone holds the door open and sorry when I bump into people. Unfortunately many in society today don't have such qualities. So again, take solace in the fact you aren't like them...
Keep going at it...One day you'll get a reply instead of a delete or mouthful of abuse and you'll have a cracking time! 💪💪💪 |
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"I did give you some tips on the other thread OP.
Sorry I missed that I’ll have a look
I can put them in again. The thread just moved on at pace. Sorry about that.
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It’s okay, I got them; thank you! You’re right they aren’t my people. It does get to a point where I start to think of anyone is haha |
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"I understand we all have types, we can't be everyone's type. I'm certainly not. However, seriously? People are calling you fat and ugly. Why are there so many inconsiderate, rude twats on this site? "
Unfortunately yeah; I think it’s just people in general. No one is really 100% happy, and the internet is an outlet for some people to project frustration and insecurities I guess |
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"I did give you some tips on the other thread OP.
Sorry I missed that I’ll have a look
I can put them in again. The thread just moved on at pace. Sorry about that.
It’s okay, I got them; thank you! You’re right they aren’t my people. It does get to a point where I start to think of anyone is haha"
Then it’s definitely time for a break. There are a lot of arrogant entitled rude people here, rather like in real life. I avoid them entirely.
An organised social is brilliant to make friends. Has helped me enormously |
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"I did give you some tips on the other thread OP.
Sorry I missed that I’ll have a look
I can put them in again. The thread just moved on at pace. Sorry about that.
It’s okay, I got them; thank you! You’re right they aren’t my people. It does get to a point where I start to think of anyone is haha
Then it’s definitely time for a break. There are a lot of arrogant entitled rude people here, rather like in real life. I avoid them entirely.
An organised social is brilliant to make friends. Has helped me enormously "
I should give a social a try; I need to man up and go for it. I’m kind of rubbish in big groups of people, I’m fine one to one, but I have some “issues” with groups of new people and new places (I know I sound like too much fun) 😂 |
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"I did give you some tips on the other thread OP.
Sorry I missed that I’ll have a look
I can put them in again. The thread just moved on at pace. Sorry about that.
It’s okay, I got them; thank you! You’re right they aren’t my people. It does get to a point where I start to think of anyone is haha
Then it’s definitely time for a break. There are a lot of arrogant entitled rude people here, rather like in real life. I avoid them entirely.
An organised social is brilliant to make friends. Has helped me enormously
I should give a social a try; I need to man up and go for it. I’m kind of rubbish in big groups of people, I’m fine one to one, but I have some “issues” with groups of new people and new places (I know I sound like too much fun) 😂"
A lot of people are. Don’t worry. Get chatting on the forums can help before you go to one. |
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"I did give you some tips on the other thread OP.
Sorry I missed that I’ll have a look
I can put them in again. The thread just moved on at pace. Sorry about that.
It’s okay, I got them; thank you! You’re right they aren’t my people. It does get to a point where I start to think of anyone is haha
Then it’s definitely time for a break. There are a lot of arrogant entitled rude people here, rather like in real life. I avoid them entirely.
An organised social is brilliant to make friends. Has helped me enormously
I should give a social a try; I need to man up and go for it. I’m kind of rubbish in big groups of people, I’m fine one to one, but I have some “issues” with groups of new people and new places (I know I sound like too much fun) 😂
A lot of people are. Don’t worry. Get chatting on the forums can help before you go to one. "
Good advise and thank you for being kind x |
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By *aizyWoman 11 weeks ago
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Sorry you have gotten abuse OP, it is easier said than done but try to ignore it, people think they can say what they like because they are hiding behind a screen. Take a break from here if it is getting too much decide if you want to stay on here, you do very much have to take the good with the bad on here unfortunately. |
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"Sorry you have gotten abuse OP, it is easier said than done but try to ignore it, people think they can say what they like because they are hiding behind a screen. Take a break from here if it is getting too much decide if you want to stay on here, you do very much have to take the good with the bad on here unfortunately."
Yeah I think that’s the best advise, I wish I was better at just shrugging it all off - I have no idea how the women on here put up with it, I understand it’s a lot worse for them x |
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The picture you're using as your profile pic is a lovely one - nice lighting and that little smirk is cute! You're not an ugly person at all.
Your profile is good, with a good write up. Perhaps mention a little about what you're interested in finding on here.
Just block anyone who says anything horrible to you, it says far more about them than it does about you ☺️
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I'm sorry to hear this op, there's absolutely no excuse for abuse to others.Please report any twunts to admin.
You have decent pics, a good veri and a nice write up, so you're not doing anything wrong at all. |
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As others have said, if they've taken the time to throw personal insults out at a person online then it says more about them than anyone else. If you're struggling to connect on here going to a social isn't a bad idea. There are many in vanilla settings that help reduce the pressure (literally just hanging out with people in the pub) and even if it's a larger group remember you'll only be speaking to a few at a time. |
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"The picture you're using as your profile pic is a lovely one - nice lighting and that little smirk is cute! You're not an ugly person at all.
Your profile is good, with a good write up. Perhaps mention a little about what you're interested in finding on here.
Just block anyone who says anything horrible to you, it says far more about them than it does about you ☺️
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Wow that’s really nice to hear! Thank you so much x |
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"I'm sorry to hear this op, there's absolutely no excuse for abuse to others.Please report any twunts to admin.
You have decent pics, a good veri and a nice write up, so you're not doing anything wrong at all. "
Thank you! Glad to hear I’m doing something right xx |
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"As others have said, if they've taken the time to throw personal insults out at a person online then it says more about them than anyone else. If you're struggling to connect on here going to a social isn't a bad idea. There are many in vanilla settings that help reduce the pressure (literally just hanging out with people in the pub) and even if it's a larger group remember you'll only be speaking to a few at a time. "
Yeah that’s a good point, I suppose the idea was to find someone who I could take along to these things so I’d have someone I knew and was comfortable with |
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By *avexxMan 11 weeks ago
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op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,, |
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"op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,,"
Thank you! I try to be! It gets frustrating to look at other men’s profiles and they come across as pigs, but have dozens of meets. I just can’t be like that and don’t want to be. Thanks for the advise |
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By *avexxMan 11 weeks ago
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"op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,,
Thank you! I try to be! It gets frustrating to look at other men’s profiles and they come across as pigs, but have dozens of meets. I just can’t be like that and don’t want to be. Thanks for the advise "
,,, come across as pigs how do you mean |
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"op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,,
Thank you! I try to be! It gets frustrating to look at other men’s profiles and they come across as pigs, but have dozens of meets. I just can’t be like that and don’t want to be. Thanks for the advise ,,, come across as pigs how do you mean"
Well, I’m not one to judge, but they seem to have very high opinions of themselves, and only seem to care about what they want. Just have dick pics and have a crappy profile that’s like (straight, male, hard , let’s fuck) |
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"op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,,
Thank you! I try to be! It gets frustrating to look at other men’s profiles and they come across as pigs, but have dozens of meets. I just can’t be like that and don’t want to be. Thanks for the advise ,,, come across as pigs how do you mean
Well, I’m not one to judge, but they seem to have very high opinions of themselves, and only seem to care about what they want. Just have dick pics and have a crappy profile that’s like (straight, male, hard , let’s fuck) "
Aahhh OP, you just managed to call certain people pigs...and lowered yourself....that's a shame😔 |
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So sorry to hear about the rude, nasty comments OP.
We all have our types and no one appeals to all.
I certainly don't and I'm well past my sell by date.
There is no excuse for people to be rude and make detrimental comments about others though but I agree with other it shows their insecurities ect.
Just be yourself and try to ignore or block the rude obnoxious ones x
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"So sorry to hear about the rude, nasty comments OP.
We all have our types and no one appeals to all.
I certainly don't and I'm well past my sell by date.
There is no excuse for people to be rude and make detrimental comments about others though but I agree with other it shows their insecurities ect.
Just be yourself and try to ignore or block the rude obnoxious ones x
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Thank you I appreciate that xx |
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op this scene is very much a attraction scene sexually physically before its about you as a person so until someone fancys you at the very least then nothing is going to happen add in the fact that there are zillions of men on here compared to the few women/couples..
why are you putting alol your sexlife into fab fab is about a lifestyle /lifestyles its not about just sex theres alot more to it than that and trhats where alot of guys go wrong on here they just see it as sex ..
this is one of those scene's where sadly there is not someone for everyone not by a billion miles hence why so many men fail/rejected .... |
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"As others have said, if they've taken the time to throw personal insults out at a person online then it says more about them than anyone else. If you're struggling to connect on here going to a social isn't a bad idea. There are many in vanilla settings that help reduce the pressure (literally just hanging out with people in the pub) and even if it's a larger group remember you'll only be speaking to a few at a time.
Yeah that’s a good point, I suppose the idea was to find someone who I could take along to these things so I’d have someone I knew and was comfortable with "
Normally there's a forum post for most socials and sometimes we'll message others that have said they're going to see if they're interested in making sure we get the opportunity to chat. Alternatively speak to the organisers, they're normally happy to make introductions and ensure people are included. |
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"I’m fishing for compliments basically - I’ve tried to be nice on here, I don’t post cock pics and actually do read profiles; I’m also polite to everyone here.
I’ve been called ugly and fat a bunch and to be honest, it’s gotten to me; genuine opinions please - I need a confidence boost or a reality check - either I stay here or I go and just write of a sex life. "
You’ve been on 2 months and had a meet, you’re winning at fab |
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If someone tried to insult you by calling you fat, then that shows that they had a complete and utter lack of imagination and a very poor vocabulary. Ignore the naysayers and doom merchants and mood hoovers. |
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"op you come across to me as a well mannered respectful man great qualities to have, you can ignore them or stay here on the forums for a bit of fun,, like others have said visit a club or take a break,,
Thank you! I try to be! It gets frustrating to look at other men’s profiles and they come across as pigs, but have dozens of meets. I just can’t be like that and don’t want to be. Thanks for the advise ,,, come across as pigs how do you mean
Well, I’m not one to judge, but they seem to have very high opinions of themselves, and only seem to care about what they want. Just have dick pics and have a crappy profile that’s like (straight, male, hard , let’s fuck)
Aahhh OP, you just managed to call certain people pigs...and lowered yourself....that's a shame😔"
He wasn't the first either - a lot of irony in many replies |
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Don’t give up!!
Someone is out there - just maybe not someone on fab!!
Fab isn’t the be all and end all to find what you want - venture elsewhere - it’ll be far more enlightening….this place promotes toxic energy - don’t let it get you down!!
You’re cool bro 💪💪 |
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