"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?"
Turn it around…how would you prefer to be told? By someone being upfront or someone ghosting you?
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?"
Hi O.P. Interesting that you ask ,What should WE do. Really all that matters in this are your own values ..... what would YOU do.
Do you think it's okay to ghost or do you prefer to be honest and let people know you are not available for chat etc ? |
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By *arl50 OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Turn it around…how would you prefer to be told? By someone being upfront or someone ghosting you?
Mrs"
I have just ignored people in the past, looking back i believe it's better to be honest and upfront |
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By *bi HaiveMan 5 weeks ago
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?"
Someone you've met? Once, twice or more?
Or someone you've exchanged one or two brief messages with, that's maybe changed their mind and has decided the conversation is going nowhere or not in the direction they hoped/wanted it to?
Because there's a difference. 🤷♂️ |
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Turn it around…how would you prefer to be told? By someone being upfront or someone ghosting you?
Mrs
I have just ignored people in the past, looking back i believe it's better to be honest and upfront "
I agree. It saves feeling like a little shit each time they message and they probably wouldn't message if someone said ..... this isn't working for me .. or I don't want to take this any further so I won't be messaging or answering messages.
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By *arl50 OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Someone you've met? Once, twice or more?
Or someone you've exchanged one or two brief messages with, that's maybe changed their mind and has decided the conversation is going nowhere or not in the direction they hoped/wanted it to?
Because there's a difference. 🤷♂️"
That's a good point. And I have built up conversation, met someone had a lovely day but wasn't for me. Being honest I ghosted which looking back is a horrible thing to do |
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Someone you've met? Once, twice or more?
Or someone you've exchanged one or two brief messages with, that's maybe changed their mind and has decided the conversation is going nowhere or not in the direction they hoped/wanted it to?
Because there's a difference. 🤷♂️
That's a good point. And I have built up conversation, met someone had a lovely day but wasn't for me. Being honest I ghosted which looking back is a horrible thing to do "
Well in that case you should tell them, be an adult |
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By *arl50 OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"Do you mean ghosting or when a conversation fizzles out? I've had loads of the later but wouldn't call it ghosting
But if your not longer interested just say so"
Well you are a very beautiful lady, their loss for not keeping the conversation flowing |
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By *arl50 OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Someone you've met? Once, twice or more?
Or someone you've exchanged one or two brief messages with, that's maybe changed their mind and has decided the conversation is going nowhere or not in the direction they hoped/wanted it to?
Because there's a difference. 🤷♂️
That's a good point. And I have built up conversation, met someone had a lovely day but wasn't for me. Being honest I ghosted which looking back is a horrible thing to do Well in that case you should tell them, be an adult"
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?"
Personally, I'd say no.
It feels bloody awful to be ghosted - imo.
I'd rather be told then for them to play silly games.
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By *bi HaiveMan 5 weeks ago
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?
Someone you've met? Once, twice or more?
Or someone you've exchanged one or two brief messages with, that's maybe changed their mind and has decided the conversation is going nowhere or not in the direction they hoped/wanted it to?
Because there's a difference. 🤷♂️
That's a good point. And I have built up conversation, met someone had a lovely day but wasn't for me. Being honest I ghosted which looking back is a horrible thing to do "
Personally I think if you've met someone then a conversation is needed, either in person, on the phone or at least via message. That's assuming it wasn't a disaster or awkward meeting because they weren't who they claimed or dropped in an obvious red flag during the social.
But I personally don't feel the need to explain if a new online chat isnt going anywhere after a message or two. Having done so in the past it usually results in 'but why' questions or attempts to change my mind. No longer responding isnt ghosting to me, unless you've got to a stage where it's been a long conversation or plans have been discussed to meet. |
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"Is it ok to ghost someone you're no longer interested in, or should we just be upfront and polite?"
Depends. We're they actively interested in something or just going through the polite social motions until there wasn't anything left to say?
If we've done the hey how are you crap and they end with a 'good' then there's nothing more to say. I find leaving it there and moving on much more polite than stating "This attempt at conversation has been tremendously dull and I do not wish to continue communications with you."
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Depends on the relationship with them, if you have some sort of connection then yes have a conversation even if its uncomfortable. If its someone who youve had a one off with, ghosts themselves, plays games or has let you down in someway, you don't owe them a conversation. I just block and move on. |
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"Considering we are all supposed to be adults, I don't get why people can't just be honest and upfront."
People often treat others as adults because of their age. This is no guarantee for adult behaviour. In fact I've seen a lot of people boast that they behave immaturely as if it's something to be proud of. |
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"Considering we are all supposed to be adults, I don't get why people can't just be honest and upfront.
People often treat others as adults because of their age. This is no guarantee for adult behaviour. In fact I've seen a lot of people boast that they behave immaturely as if it's something to be proud of."
I know a few who like to act childish despite their age....sad to see really |
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"Considering we are all supposed to be adults, I don't get why people can't just be honest and upfront.
People often treat others as adults because of their age. This is no guarantee for adult behaviour. In fact I've seen a lot of people boast that they behave immaturely as if it's something to be proud of.
I know a few who like to act childish despite their age....sad to see really "
I think people confuse childish behaviour and immaturity with youthfulness. |
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"Considering we are all supposed to be adults, I don't get why people can't just be honest and upfront.
People often treat others as adults because of their age. This is no guarantee for adult behaviour. In fact I've seen a lot of people boast that they behave immaturely as if it's something to be proud of.
I know a few who like to act childish despite their age....sad to see really
I think people confuse childish behaviour and immaturity with youthfulness. "
They certainly do  |
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"Considering we are all supposed to be adults, I don't get why people can't just be honest and upfront.
People often treat others as adults because of their age. This is no guarantee for adult behaviour. In fact I've seen a lot of people boast that they behave immaturely as if it's something to be proud of.
I know a few who like to act childish despite their age....sad to see really
I think people confuse childish behaviour and immaturity with youthfulness.
They certainly do "
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I would definitely tell someone I’ve met they’re not for me. But a no reply on fab or somewhere similar isn’t ghosting. It’s a no.
Ghosting someone you know is incredibly mean to me. Others have done it to me. I wouldn’t do it to others 🌈 |
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