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Am I wrong for wanting this.
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Ok the other half I’m kind of back with does not give me oral anymore and I’m dissapointed.
Before we split up it became non existent and so did the whole Intamacy thing hense why it fizzled out.
It’s now round 2 together and not much happening now either.
I’m happy and amazing at pleasing her down there but I’m not getting anything back my way which I love and miss.
Should this be one sided?
Thoughts. |
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"If it fizzled out because of a lack of mutual intimacy, why are you back together with that issue unresolved? 💜"
Came here to type this; Prey's got it bang on! Plenty of follow up questions too, but won't bombard!! 🤔 |
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"Ok the other half I’m kind of back with does not give me oral anymore and I’m dissapointed.
Before we split up it became non existent and so did the whole Intamacy thing hense why it fizzled out.
It’s now round 2 together and not much happening now either.
I’m happy and amazing at pleasing her down there but I’m not getting anything back my way which I love and miss.
Should this be one sided?
Thoughts. "
No, you're not wrong.
If the same issue is there then it won't ever improve. It's not something that's important to her and if you've already discussed it and nothings changed then it never will.
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"Because there is still something there I’m guessing . "
But. You'd already parted ways knowing that was a major issue for you. You already knew that it was unsustainable and left. So why go back to what was already identified as no good without any change to what was a big factor in the original failure?
Whatever the something there is it wasn't enough before. Why would it be enough now?
In terms of your actual question, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a fulfilling sex life with someone who's compatible with you. But if someone isn't sexually compatible with you, you can both find people that are better for you than each other 💜 |
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"Ok the other half I’m kind of back with does not give me oral anymore and I’m dissapointed.
Before we split up it became non existent and so did the whole Intamacy thing hense why it fizzled out.
It’s now round 2 together and not much happening now either.
I’m happy and amazing at pleasing her down there but I’m not getting anything back my way which I love and miss.
Should this be one sided?
Thoughts.
No, you're not wrong.
If the same issue is there then it won't ever improve. It's not something that's important to her and if you've already discussed it and nothings changed then it never will.
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Guess this is sad but true.
So what do I do if I want more? |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either "
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off. |
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"Ok the other half I’m kind of back with does not give me oral anymore and I’m dissapointed.
Before we split up it became non existent and so did the whole Intamacy thing hense why it fizzled out.
It’s now round 2 together and not much happening now either.
I’m happy and amazing at pleasing her down there but I’m not getting anything back my way which I love and miss.
Should this be one sided?
Thoughts.
No, you're not wrong.
If the same issue is there then it won't ever improve. It's not something that's important to her and if you've already discussed it and nothings changed then it never will.
Guess this is sad but true.
So what do I do if I want more? "
Tell her you want more and ask if she is happy to continue knowing that. Be prepared for her to be hurt, nobody likes being told they aren't enough no matter how carefully you word it |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off. "
Then you have to insist. You have the right to be heard. Then you have a decision to make. |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off. "
How have you approached the subject? |
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How about making two lists. One for reasons to be in a relationship with someone (not just her) the other for reasons to end a relationship.
Once you've done that see where oral sex or lack of is in both and make your decision from there. |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off.
How have you approached the subject? "
Just mentioned it but to be honest nothing has happened in the bedroom much since we rekindled if that makes sense: |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off.
How have you approached the subject?
Just mentioned it but to be honest nothing has happened in the bedroom much since we rekindled if that makes sense: "
Your words make sense.
Are you unhappy? What's keeping you in the relationship? |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off.
How have you approached the subject?
Just mentioned it but to be honest nothing has happened in the bedroom much since we rekindled if that makes sense:
Your words make sense.
Are you unhappy? What's keeping you in the relationship?"
Yes I’m unhappy I want more but she lives here and I have my daughter here too. |
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No it shouldn't be one sided, but like others,I don't get why you've got back together, with exactly the same issues.
There's no point just giving it another go, if you are not happy about your sex life and are still on here.
In my experience, lack of intimacy in relationships is often a sign of bigger issues in the relationship.
Talk, tell her how it's making you feel op. If she isn't interested in listening or changing, you need to decide if you want to stay & be on here or if it's time to cut your losses. |
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"Yes I’m unhappy I want more but she lives here and I have my daughter here too. "
Cohabiting and co-parenting without being in a relationship together is entirely possible. Awkward for sure and you'll need plenty of ground rules for the home. But better than pretending it's good enough and showing your daughter that that's the kind of relationship she can expect when she's grown 💜 |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off.
How have you approached the subject?
Just mentioned it but to be honest nothing has happened in the bedroom much since we rekindled if that makes sense:
Your words make sense.
Are you unhappy? What's keeping you in the relationship?
Yes I’m unhappy I want more but she lives here and I have my daughter here too. "
I think you have a choice then. Continue as you are or find a compromise which might be living separate lives under the same roof, one of you moving out or negotiating an open relationship.
Good luck to all concerned |
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"My view is that you need to talk to her , not randoms on here .
My other feeling is that if things aren't great in the bedroom, they probably aren't in the living room either
I have spoke about it but it gets brushed off.
How have you approached the subject?
Just mentioned it but to be honest nothing has happened in the bedroom much since we rekindled if that makes sense:
Your words make sense.
Are you unhappy? What's keeping you in the relationship?
Yes I’m unhappy I want more but she lives here and I have my daughter here too.
I think you have a choice then. Continue as you are or find a compromise which might be living separate lives under the same roof, one of you moving out or negotiating an open relationship.
Good luck to all concerned "
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By *agic.MMan 3 weeks ago
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This is turning into a full therapy session for you OP 🤭. People will always show you their intentions...Is it not safe to say you don't need more prove/actions from her to understand she doesn't fancy you like that anymore? I believe the reason she got back togheter with you, is the same reason you got back togheter with her...you just live in close perimeter to eachother...there doesn't seem to be much compatibility between you two, beyond that. Maybe it's time to raise your standards and not be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to share intimacy and affection with you. |
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"Ok the other half I’m kind of back with does not give me oral anymore and I’m dissapointed.
Before we split up it became non existent and so did the whole Intamacy thing hense why it fizzled out.
It’s now round 2 together and not much happening now either.
I’m happy and amazing at pleasing her down there but I’m not getting anything back my way which I love and miss.
Should this be one sided?
Thoughts.
No, you're not wrong.
If the same issue is there then it won't ever improve. It's not something that's important to her and if you've already discussed it and nothings changed then it never will.
Guess this is sad but true.
So what do I do if I want more? "
You discuss with her at a time when sex isn't on the table. Don't make it about sex, but explain that you need and want more adventure in that area of your lives.
You'd like to experience these things WITH her.
However, if she's not into it, or she isn't willing to open herself up to more then you have your answer. You're just not sexually compatible.....and guess what? That's ok.
It's extremely important to me now, that for my next relationship, that we are sexually compatible, sexually fulfilling for both parties, and open and honest enough to communicate how we are feeling/things we want to try.
If you can't discuss with your partner/husband/wife what your most intimate desires are....then there's a problem.. |
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Accept it or move on. If shes wasn't doing it before she's not going to start all of a sudden. Does she know youre on here???? If she does then just get head elsewhere. If she doesnt then you don't deserve any anyway. |
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"Because there is still something there I’m guessing . "
If there is something still there, but the sex life isn't...... Possibly open up the relationship if both are open to this. As you are already on fab, I presume you on your side are happy to open up the relationship. Is she? And are you happy seeing her or knowing she is having sex elsewhere? |
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"Have you tried bumming her OP?
Could be a game changer 🤷🏻🤷🏻"
I'm not sure that "it's chocolate coated now" is likely to swing her opinion on whether she wants his dick in her mouth.
But, you never know. Maybe give it a go OP 💜 |
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"Have you tried bumming her OP?
Could be a game changer 🤷🏻🤷🏻
I'm not sure that "it's chocolate coated now" is likely to swing her opinion on whether she wants his dick in her mouth.
But, you never know. Maybe give it a go OP 💜"
Well she’s a proper prude then and I’m with the OP on this one 🍆🍆💦💦 |
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