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Why are all couples or women so difficult to get or to finalise appointments on this page?
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By *ucki69 OP Man 46 weeks ago
london |
I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security |
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There are hundreds if not thousands of men compared to women or couples on here and people have different ideas about who they will meet its nothing personal against you also maybe an appointment isn't excatly the best word to use we like to meet people on here and appointment is somthing I make when I need to see a doctor |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security"
To get an appointment with me you have to go through the automated response before getting through to my rottweiler of a receptionist.....
#TopTip tell her you have rectal issues, she'll put you right through |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
To get an appointment with me you have to go through the automated response before getting through to my rottweiler of a receptionist.....
#TopTip tell her you have rectal issues, she'll put you right through "
I'm now picturing a rottweiler behind a desk ina pair of specs 😂 |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
To get an appointment with me you have to go through the automated response before getting through to my rottweiler of a receptionist.....
#TopTip tell her you have rectal issues, she'll put you right through
I'm now picturing a rottweiler behind a desk ina pair of specs 😂"
Give her a curly wig and yeah, that's her |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
To get an appointment with me you have to go through the automated response before getting through to my rottweiler of a receptionist.....
#TopTip tell her you have rectal issues, she'll put you right through
I'm now picturing a rottweiler behind a desk ina pair of specs 😂
Give her a curly wig and yeah, that's her"
Bet she's great with patients |
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By *sWyldWoman 46 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
🤣
I don't mean to laugh but can't help it.
I think the OP like many men needs a little reality check.
Women aren't here for you. We are here for ourselves. Our wants, needs and desires.
Its no picnic though. Finding what we want is often like a needle in a haystack.
You need to manage your expectations and exceed ours. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Finalise a meet…it’s hard enough to actually get a reply to a DM in order to instigate one on here!
Seriously, you’re only two months in - as others have said, it could take six months or a year or more, so all you can do is keep messaging, ensure you have a decent profile and don’t let it get you down (which, granted, can be tough) |
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"🤣
I don't mean to laugh but can't help it.
I think the OP like many men needs a little reality check.
Women aren't here for you. We are here for ourselves. Our wants, needs and desires.
Its no picnic though. Finding what we want is often like a needle in a haystack.
You need to manage your expectations and exceed ours. "
100% this.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through"
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣 |
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣"
I know right. Phone line opens at 810 and they say it's full and should have phoned earlier |
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By *ucki69 OP Man 46 weeks ago
london |
[cita] He estado en esta página en esta plataforma durante 2 meses y no he podido finalizar una cita con nadie porque todas las parejas o mujeres me niegan. No sé si soy muy feo o qué me pasa o es difícil debido a la plataforma, piensan que soy una persona que no les da seguridad Para conseguir una cita conmigo, tienes que pasar por la respuesta automática antes de comunicarte con mi rottweiler de recepcionista... #TopTip dile que tienes problemas rectales, ella te hará pasar [/cita]
Jajajajajaj Thank you very much for your advice |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣
I know right. Phone line opens at 810 and they say it's full and should have phoned earlier "
🤣🤣🤣🤣 they love it |
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"🤣
I don't mean to laugh but can't help it.
I think the OP like many men needs a little reality check.
Women aren't here for you. We are here for ourselves. Our wants, needs and desires.
Its no picnic though. Finding what we want is often like a needle in a haystack.
You need to manage your expectations and exceed ours. "
Ms Wyld you are absolutely spot on ♥️♥️♥️ |
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By *ucki69 OP Man 46 weeks ago
london |
[cita] La lista de espera es enorme... tiempo de cita de 12-18 meses  [/cita]
And I'm here talking and publishing this message for rejecting me for 2 months imagine how much I'm going to have to wait longer |
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣
I know right. Phone line opens at 810 and they say it's full and should have phoned earlier
🤣🤣🤣🤣 they love it "
The most evil people on the planet realistically |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣
I know right. Phone line opens at 810 and they say it's full and should have phoned earlier "
Fuck I’ll never get one. My watch only goes up to 12.. |
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"[cita] La lista de espera es enorme... tiempo de cita de 12-18 meses [/cita]
And I'm here talking and publishing this message for rejecting me for 2 months imagine how much I'm going to have to wait longer"
I've had one meet directly from fab in years, don't take it so seriously |
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"And you also need to start trying to book at 8am please if you call at 8.30 your not getting in
If you can get through
Hahaha you have no chance the receptionists are sat there laughing at you 🤣
I know right. Phone line opens at 810 and they say it's full and should have phoned earlier
Fuck I’ll never get one. My watch only goes up to 12.."
You'll have to join the queue regardless |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security"
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate."
Bit harsh |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate."
Hey come on now. That isn't nice. Sometimes it makes guys feel like they're worthless especially with the lack of replies. |
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"🤣
I don't mean to laugh but can't help it.
I think the OP like many men needs a little reality check.
Women aren't here for you. We are here for ourselves. Our wants, needs and desires.
Its no picnic though. Finding what we want is often like a needle in a haystack.
You need to manage your expectations and exceed ours. "
This sums it up perfectly👍 |
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"I understand everyone with your messages, all I want is to meet someone to start in this beautiful world"
Welcome to the forums OP 🌈
The realisation for most people here soon hits after joining that there has to be a mutual attraction for others to want to arrange to meet you or even message you back.
Make your profile the best it can be. Detail what you can bring to a potential partner and what you would like in return.
Have fun on the forums.
Make friends
Have a laugh.
Don’t think you’ll get laid overnight.
Delete the silly disclaimer at the bottom of your profile… it means nothing and makes you look daft.
Have fun.
Wear sunscreen.
Namaste 🌈
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"I understand everyone with your messages, all I want is to meet someone to start in this beautiful world"
Every guy says the same, guys join here and automatically think the ladies will drop their knickers and give you sex….it doesn’t work that way I’m afraid
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There are so many more men than women on here, within 2 weeks of being on the platform I had 700+ unread messages and it's so overwhelming plus I could never see or read them all.
It works both ways though, women know what we want and it's not easy to find it. |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate."
No need for the nasty comment! |
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"It is just tough for single guys mate. It is nothing personal. We have all been rejected, I certainly have.
My advice would be get yourself down to clubs and socials and make yourself known. "
Good advice 👍
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By *egnMaxCouple 46 weeks ago
East Midlands |
"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security"
Punctuation helps. |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Punctuation helps. "
I'm guessing EAL. Which allows him a little latitude from me.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"[cita] La lista de espera es enorme... tiempo de cita de 12-18 meses [/cita]
And I'm here talking and publishing this message for rejecting me for 2 months imagine how much I'm going to have to wait longer"
Dude… I’ve been single over a year on here and still haven’t found what I’m looking for. I get “ appointments “ cancelled on me all the time and have been stood up lots of times… it’s not just an issue for guys!
Many try being more engaged than whiney x |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate."
He's only young. Young enough to be your grandson. They don't understand how this works.
please do not scare him off. some of us need young cock.   |
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"Wait hang on what the fu.. oh you guys killed him already. Sterling work!
Brew anyone? 😁
Yeah, I got biscuits?
Bourbon or nothing "
I'll have a rummage about and see what I got. I did have Jaffa cakes but I ate 'em |
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By *eys00Man 46 weeks ago
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate.
He's only young. Young enough to be your grandson. They don't understand how this works.
please do not scare him off. some of us need young cock. "
Sitting up like a meerkat all of a sudden 😍😂 |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate.
He's only young. Young enough to be your grandson. They don't understand how this works.
please do not scare him off. some of us need young cock.
Sitting up like a meerkat all of a sudden 😍😂"
Lol!
Sir are you not in Ireland or are in DV8 kent? All over the place. |
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You need realistic expectations and only you can make them.
You've been here for 5 weeks, which is almost nothing.
The vast majority of people are not mutually compatible. Factor this in. It's why you don't get meets and sex with most of us.
Get to Fab socials and swinging clubs to get known. You have to sell yourself here.
And remove any meaningless warnings |
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By *viatrixWoman 46 weeks ago
Back in Surrey, Dahlings! |
Chill, everyone. FYI- “dates” and “appointments” are the same word in Spanish: “citas”. We non-native English speakers have different degrees of proficiency…
Y para ti: Bienvenido a Fab! aqui se puede conocer a mucha gente maravillosa pero se debe tener paciencia y hay que saber como abordar. No todos los que estan en linea estan buscando quedar con alguien en ese momento; la gran mayoria solo estan charlando o usando el foro. Como tip, presentate amablemente e intenta iniciar una conversacion que puedes mantener por unos dias y despues ver si estarian dispuestos a tener una cita social para ver si existe quimica y atraccion fisica. JAMAS presiones.
Otra opcion es asistir a los eventos sociales publicados en el foro, generalmente en la seccion de “Meet Requests and Parties” o bien asistir a un club y ahi puedes interactuar en persona. Aqui no vas a encontrar quedar de inmediato, asi que tienes que cambiar tus expectativas. Te deseo suerte y mucha diversion! ☺️ |
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"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security"
Don't take it personally. Couples in the swinging community tend to be considered the holy grail and have a VIP waiting list as long as your legs from the "hundreds" of mails they get everyday. |
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By *viatrixWoman 46 weeks ago
Back in Surrey, Dahlings! |
"You've been here two months sone people wait 6 months to a year
Calling them appointments
He's maybe not got English as a first language.
How good is your Spanish?"
Exactly my point… I wonder how proficient people on this thread are in other languages.
Thank you for calling it out. |
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This thread has made my eyes roll so much they hurt.
1) Single women are often inundated with offers from men - even those that state “not looking for men” or similar will get many message them
2) single women or couples looking for men will have a lot of choice, make yourself stand out if you’re not a 10
3) many couples and plenty of women on here have commitments away from swinging that sometimes makes them difficult to meet or will mean they need to cancel at short notice
There’s no conspiracy, just reality
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"This thread has made my eyes roll so much they hurt.
1) Single women are often inundated with offers from men - even those that state “not looking for men” or similar will get many message them
2) single women or couples looking for men will have a lot of choice, make yourself stand out if you’re not a 10
3) many couples and plenty of women on here have commitments away from swinging that sometimes makes them difficult to meet or will mean they need to cancel at short notice
There’s no conspiracy, just reality
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Exactley this. Making arrangements, for us, is difficult due to the fact that our lives are dictated to by our business. |
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"This thread has made my eyes roll so much they hurt.
1) Single women are often inundated with offers from men - even those that state “not looking for men” or similar will get many message them
2) single women or couples looking for men will have a lot of choice, make yourself stand out if you’re not a 10
3) many couples and plenty of women on here have commitments away from swinging that sometimes makes them difficult to meet or will mean they need to cancel at short notice
There’s no conspiracy, just reality
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This is spot on! |
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So if you turn your message filters off, so that ANYONE can msg you, watch your inbox fill!
I do it from time to time just for a little ego boost. I've been rejected more times than a raggy doll don't worry about it pal! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 46 weeks ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
Not all couples and women are actually that hard to meet. Those looking to meet men are here to meet men after all. It’s just that they don't want to meet all men, or any man. 🤷♂️
And sometimes the men that they do want to meet don't do themselves any favours. Initially interesting messages and conversations rapidly change track and dive in the realms of wank fodder sexual fantasies in a heartbeat.
Even if plans are made, last minute excuses crop up as to why someone can't meet or even better, a no show occurs.
One of my partners and I had arranged a social the other night after a lot of three way conversation off site. A well verified profile, a few mutual acquaintances and all was looking good. Til we were still sat by ourselves in a pub garden an hour after the planned meet time.
We had a nice evening together though. And that bridge has definitely been burnt.
Plenty of people meet. Plenty of people answer messages. Just not with everyone that asks......... |
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"If it's true it wasn't the word to refer to but they don't even do it to speak"
The site is not instashag. Not desperate people wanting sex. Swinging is an entirely different thing to what you maybe think it is |
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By *ucki69 OP Man 46 weeks ago
london |
"I've been on this page on this platform for 2 months and I haven't been able to finalise an appointment with anyone because all the couples or women deny me I don't know if I'm very ugly or what's wrong with me or it's difficult because of the platform they think I'm a person who doesn't give them security
Not another attention seeking bloke oh am i ugly etc give your head a wobble.
You come across needy and desperate.
No need for the nasty comment!"
Thank you very much for the message
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"You've been here two months sone people wait 6 months to a year
Calling them appointments
He's maybe not got English as a first language.
How good is your Spanish?
Exactly my point… I wonder how proficient people on this thread are in other languages.
Thank you for calling it out. "
People just love to criticise or ridicule.
It's clear what he means .
They know what they're doing too.
He speaks more languages than they do I bet.
They probably just manage English |
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By *ucki69 OP Man 46 weeks ago
london |
[cita] Has estado aquí dos meses, la gente espera de 6 meses a un año Llamándolos con citas Tal vez no tenga el inglés como primer idioma. ¿Qué tan bueno es tu español? [ /cita]
Demasiado bueno como para haber nacido en Colombia |
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You’re new, young and unverified, there are many thousands of other men on here just like you.
Swinging is a social enterprise; you have to build a network, get verified, meet people, build your brand and the best way to do this is by going to social events, parties and clubs. You’ll be taken at face value, your age will matter less but your maturity, physical presence and personality will matter more. At these events you can be more than just another Fab profile. Basic fact of Fab… you meeting anyone as a result of simply messaging on Fab is a long shot. |
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"[cita] Has estado aquí dos meses, la gente espera de 6 meses a un año Llamándolos con citas Tal vez no tenga el inglés como primer idioma. ¿Qué tan bueno es tu español? [ /cita]
Demasiado bueno como para haber nacido en Colombia "
I don't need to be good at Spanish when deciding if I will meet you. It's all about personality and appeal |
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We have our appointment system on our profile. It's even on our profile title, for those who can't be bothered to read much and just look at pics. We still get bombared daily, with offers and or requests to meet.
Unless we have a meet up, I'm over my twin tub scrubbing spunk out of lingery, ready to accept the nect round of gentlemen callers.
No - we don't have an appointment system. . We post meets, to show where and what we're upto. And twin tub = google it.  |
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