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And baby, talk dirty to me.. or not.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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An inspired thread.
Dirty talk, hot? Or cringe?
As someone who's put off by loads of words and phrases (I can't help it 🤷♀️), I find dirty talk during sex a bit of a risk. Like it'll either be done right and turn me on, or it will completely give me the ick and I'll be contemplating my life choices.
Am I alone in this? And whys it always the men -not all men- (sorry but..) that come out with the icky stuff? I don't need a running commentary.
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I think it works if you understand your partner and know what they like. But also, it has to come from you and not be some pseudo-porn atrocity you heard in a video one day and decided to blurt out.
As with anything, dirty talk out of context and not in tune with the play is a proper buzzkill.
Done right, I think it can be a really powerful tool to enhance the experience for all involved. |
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"An inspired thread.
Dirty talk, hot? Or cringe?
As someone who's put off by loads of words and phrases (I can't help it 🤷♀️), I find dirty talk during sex a bit of a risk. Like it'll either be done right and turn me on, or it will completely give me the ick and I'll be contemplating my life choices.
Am I alone in this? And whys it always the men -not all men- (sorry but..) that come out with the icky stuff? I don't need a running commentary.
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Oh I could show you some beautiful examples that read like graphic novels I've been sent over the years 🫣
Tease and innuendo is the way to go about it, a hint of things but no crass language or bodily functions, make my mind think not lay it all out on a plate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"Oh and thanks for inserting the Jason derulo earworm with the title 🤣
I have the Poison song instead  "
That's what I was going with and now Jason's living rent free in my head  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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It's hard to get the right amount of dirty talk. It's awkward as fuck when someone says something and it's quiet and then the mood is ruined cos I'm like "huh, I don't have my hearing aids in"... |
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By *vaRoseWoman 45 weeks ago
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I tend to shit talk when I’m about to cum… it’s not a conscious thing. Doesn’t seem to have put him off. I’m not quiet anyway, but neither is he. I fucking hate performative fake porn moaning though |
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"It's hard to get the right amount of dirty talk. It's awkward as fuck when someone says something and it's quiet and then the mood is ruined cos I'm like "huh, I don't have my hearing aids in"... "
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"An inspired thread.
Dirty talk, hot? Or cringe?
As someone who's put off by loads of words and phrases (I can't help it 🤷♀️), I find dirty talk during sex a bit of a risk. Like it'll either be done right and turn me on, or it will completely give me the ick and I'll be contemplating my life choices.
Am I alone in this? And whys it always the men -not all men- (sorry but..) that come out with the icky stuff? I don't need a running commentary.
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Is FAF acceptable  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"An inspired thread.
Dirty talk, hot? Or cringe?
As someone who's put off by loads of words and phrases (I can't help it 🤷♀️), I find dirty talk during sex a bit of a risk. Like it'll either be done right and turn me on, or it will completely give me the ick and I'll be contemplating my life choices.
Am I alone in this? And whys it always the men -not all men- (sorry but..) that come out with the icky stuff? I don't need a running commentary.
Is FAF acceptable "
Yes |
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It's so context dependent and person dependent.
I have a 'friend' I love n respect dearly but he used to use a harmless question and inside i'd cringe...... in fact it was all I could do to keep going |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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Depends. I don’t particularly enjoy chatty sex. Your mouths should be busy doing other stuff.
The right guy saying the occasional bit of filth is fine, otherwise no. |
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By *eliWoman 45 weeks ago
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Sometimes it can be really hot. Other times I've ended up laughing and once I'm in a silly mood my vagina doesn't really play along. Or I'm really in to something and not focusing on what's going on around me.
I love when it's effortless, adds something. It doesn't have to be the standard good girl thing - a gruffly spoken "you feel so good" unravels me quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"Depends. I don’t particularly enjoy chatty sex. Your mouths should be busy doing other stuff.
The right guy saying the occasional bit of filth is fine, otherwise no. "
This, exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 45 weeks ago
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"It's so context dependent and person dependent.
I have a 'friend' I love n respect dearly but he used to use a harmless question and inside i'd cringe...... in fact it was all I could do to keep going "
Yea that's very relatable 😂 you just sort of bite your tongue and try to forget what's been said.. but you cant.. |
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"An inspired thread.
Dirty talk, hot? Or cringe?
As someone who's put off by loads of words and phrases (I can't help it 🤷♀️), I find dirty talk during sex a bit of a risk. Like it'll either be done right and turn me on, or it will completely give me the ick and I'll be contemplating my life choices.
Am I alone in this? And whys it always the men -not all men- (sorry but..) that come out with the icky stuff? I don't need a running commentary.
Is FAF acceptable
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Thought so  😆 |
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I’m not the best at it myself but I like it when someone says the right things at the right moment.. in that matter it does turn me on a lot but it can go wrong very quickly also lol. I cringe when a guy starts with the weird hand or face gestures it just makes me uncomfortable and laugh awkwardly. That’s not hot at all to me. |
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So it’s not necessarily dirty talk but I do like to talk and communicate during sex, it’s great to get feedback that they are enjoying it or need something slightly different from you.
All about mutual pleasure and that helps make sure you achieve it! |
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"I'm rubbish at it, and it does nowt for me 🤓"
Totally the same for me
Makes me cringe and I'm not sure why so many blokes, who have never even said hi to me, insist on sending full on graphic porny messages-Yak. |
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