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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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Accidentally falling in love with someone is the best and I suppose it could also be the worst thing. It’s happened to me a few times. The friends to lovers thing is beautiful when it works out. That’s how my fiance and I worked out.
But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.
Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with? |
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Yep! Several times too haha 🙋🏻♀️
It’s hard not to fall in love when they are so wonderful…
I’ve been trying to train my heart (and mind) and work through my feelings. It’s never going to go anywhere and I am only setting myself up for heartbreak wtc if I let those feelings run amok. So I try to rein them in. But sometimes I think it’d be easier just to walk away. But it is hard after 6 years…
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By *sWyldWoman 30 weeks ago
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Yes. He broke me in ways I didn't even think possible.
However, there's still a little bit of hope that one day I am completely swept off my feet and the feeling is mutual.
Until then I'm very happy with like over love |
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Yes.
For years I fought it, would distance myself for a while to get things into perspective. But then boom!!! It happened. Big mistake, I should have done what I used to do but it just happened.
Didn't go well and now it'll never happen again. I'll never get that close again.
It's sad because I'm a strong believer in having emotions even in a casual thing. It makes things so much more satisfying. So I'll probably remain celibate for the rest of my life! |
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I don't think you can control your feelings like that.
You can control what you do of course but feelings will feel what they want to ha. It's happened to me, regardless of circumstances, if all the ingredients are there then it can happen. |
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We were supposed to be casually hooking up. We talked about how we were just exploring sexually with each other. But god, there’s something about him and I fell so hard so quickly. He did too except he wasn’t afraid to say it like I was. I’m still not over him. |
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married? 
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr "
I didn’t love her when we first met. That grew over time.
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Yes.
The first person that i met in this world. She showed me things and helped me experience things that i hadnt even imagined.
We fell in love with each other.
We craved one another. Lust, love ?
Not sure but when it ended it hurt both of us very badly.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr "
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do |
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I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.
Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.
Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.
Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"I mean. Can you deliberately fall in love?
Feelings are chaotic. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't 💜"
No
But long to explain further what I mean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.
Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.
Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.
Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well."
I know I mean falling in love with someone you shouldn’t. It’s very ooops. |
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"I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.
Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.
Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.
Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well.
I know I mean falling in love with someone you shouldn’t. It’s very ooops. "
Oh I see. No my ice cold heart wouldn't allow that ❄️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Yes, on here, when Id sworn off relationships.
But I fancied him from afar and when we met the sexual chemistry was insane and then he really was a lovely lovely lovely man. How could I not 🤷🏻♀️
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"Yes, on here, when Id sworn off relationships.
But I fancied him from afar and when we met the sexual chemistry was insane and then he really was a lovely lovely lovely man. How could I not 🤷🏻♀️
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How could you not |
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"I mean. Can you deliberately fall in love?
Feelings are chaotic. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't 💜
No
But long to explain further what I mean. "
Yeah, fair.
I love people I'm woefully incompatible with. Doesn't mean we can be together, doesn't mean I stop being in love with them anyway.
Feelings and logic are wildly unmatched with these things. And it sucks. But it is what it is 💜 |
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do"
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
The mr "
Who said anything about all that?  |
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Hmmmm. When I met my partner on here, the chemistry was very intense from the start. I told myself it was amazing sex with good friendship. Then for a very long time I told myself it was just limerence. I eventually admitted I loved him, both to myself and him, and luckily it was reciprocated. So yeah, I kind of know what you mean. |
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"🎶Ever fallen in love with someone
Ever fallen in love, in love with someone
Ever fallen in love
In love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with 🎶
Yup!"
I was thinking exactly the same.
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Happened to me 6 months ago. Messaged a woman in the US to appreciate her photos with no other intention. It’s been an avalanche. Never ever felt anything so deep.
Sometimes you are ready but you don’t realise it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"Hmmmm. When I met my partner on here, the chemistry was very intense from the start. I told myself it was amazing sex with good friendship. Then for a very long time I told myself it was just limerence. I eventually admitted I loved him, both to myself and him, and luckily it was reciprocated. So yeah, I kind of know what you mean. "
reciprocated? I’m not familiar with???
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By *007ManMan 30 weeks ago
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Yes it's a very strange feeling. Nothing to do with looks, sex , "fancying them" or anything else really. You just suddenly become attracted. You could have known him/her for a while but thought nothing of them. Suddenly...without warning, it happens. You become drawn to them. Involuntary eye contact is the strangest part of it. |
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
The mr
Who said anything about all that? "
So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
The mr
Who said anything about all that?
So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂
The mr "
Wait, I got called out yesterday?
You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.
You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣
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When we met on Fab we were just two single parents looking for some simple no strings sexual frills. After chatting online for a bit New years eve and a very heated 6 hour phone call we thought we would meet. Our first meet had a rocky start but by the end of it we finished leaving hand in hand, smitten and knowing the world would never be the same again. And here we are still here. |
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"Accidentally falling in love with someone is the best and I suppose it could also be the worst thing. It’s happened to me a few times. The friends to lovers thing is beautiful when it works out. That’s how my fiance and I worked out.
But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.
Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with?"
Accidentally? Is it ever accidental or just a natural progression of a relationship sometimes?
I don't think any relationship starts from a position of love. That has to grow naturally without force or timescale.
Yes, sometimes it happens to one party and not the other and sad as that can be, it's also natural and a realistic expectation.
We can't choose who we fall in love with - it just happens. Equally we can't control who loves us back. Who we fall out of love with or who falls out of love with us. That's life. It's how you deal with it and move on that matters. 🤷♂️ |
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
The mr
Who said anything about all that?
So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂
The mr
Wait, I got called out yesterday?
You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.
You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣
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Yeah disguising question to hunt your next victim.
I don’t pretend, I’m not transgender. Your giving off very offended vibes 😂😂😂
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Always a potential ‘danger’ of this isn’t there, humans are humans after all, hence swinging being a potentially very damaging activity even for those people in well established ‘rock solid’ relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Can’t say I’ve ever fell in love with a friend and I don’t think I ever could.
The qualities I look for in a friend are not the same qualities I look for in a partner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 30 weeks ago
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"No never. I’m not that stupid.
The mr aren’t you married?
Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.
The mr
No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?
Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do
It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.
The mr
Who said anything about all that?
So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂
The mr
Wait, I got called out yesterday?
You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.
You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣
Yeah disguising question to hunt your next victim.
I don’t pretend, I’m not transgender. Your giving off very offended vibes 😂😂😂
The mr "
Tbvh the only thing that offends me in the forums is racism
But I’m upset that I missed being called out yesterday? I mean that genuinely |
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I guess all 3 of my loves have been "accidental", in that I wasn't actively dating or looking for love. My ex husband was a good friend for 3 years before we realised a mutual attraction, and the other 2 have been fwb connections I met on here.
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Accidentally fell in love with my ex Dom. It was meant to be casual but ended up a full blown D/s high protocol relationship for a few years. Looking back now I suspect it was more trauma bonding than anything else.
One day he just disappeared with another women.
I've never let my guard down since. |
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I've fallen in love with the wrong people but never accidentally, not sure if I am making sense to anyone reading by saying that. I always wanted to fall in love and 3 exs were total douche bags. Thank fully I have a good one now we been together 18 years in November  |
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when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.
Then one day after a year he was at my house and I just looked at him and thought i couldn't imagine my life without you, no fireworks just comfortable feeling. We where happy for 16 years. I wont fall in love again as I will never put myself in a position to be close to a man |
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"when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.
Then one day after a year he was at my house and I just looked at him and thought i couldn't imagine my life without you, no fireworks just comfortable feeling. We where happy for 16 years. I wont fall in love again as I will never put myself in a position to be close to a man"
That's so lovely |
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"Accidentally falling in love with someone is the best and I suppose it could also be the worst thing. It’s happened to me a few times. The friends to lovers thing is beautiful when it works out. That’s how my fiance and I worked out.
But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.
Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with?"
No |
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"Love is just a chemical reaction, it hits hard and fades with time. That’s not to say you shouldn’t enjoy it but it’s not magic."
….. I agree with most of that … but with some people it is Magic ……I like the expression… “ The rise was worth the fall “ ❤️🌅❤️….
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I think there's only one that I could call accidental. We were best friends. I knew of her feelings for me and I didn't feel the same at first. One night, she kissed me and I reciprocated. We ended up being together less than a year (long story). We're still good friends, and I love her dearly. I always will. |
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Fell in love with my old work friend a few years back. We’d always been just great friends, meeting up got social events etc. but not long after i left the company, we’d still regularly meet up and something stirred inside me and i let my emotions get the better of me, despite knowing she was married and completely fell in love with her. Thankfully I managed to get over it eventually and have remained good friends with her to this day. |
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"when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.
Then one day after a year he was at my house and I just looked at him and thought i couldn't imagine my life without you, no fireworks just comfortable feeling. We where happy for 16 years. I wont fall in love again as I will never put myself in a position to be close to a man"
That’s so lovely yet so sas.x |
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