"What is polyamory?
Being able to love and hold a relationship with more than one person, without jealousy
It's totally a valid question!"
I would respectfully disagree re jealousy - of course poly folks can experience jealousy. What's important in terms of being successful, happy, etc, is how you deal with it. |
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"What is polyamory?
Being able to love and hold a relationship with more than one person, without jealousy
It's totally a valid question!
I would respectfully disagree re jealousy - of course poly folks can experience jealousy. What's important in terms of being successful, happy, etc, is how you deal with it. "
Definitely |
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"More ENM that poly currently but who knows maybe for the right people, had the opportunity to explore it more
And what is ENM ?😅"
Urban dictionary..
ENM stands for Ethical Non-Monogamy. It is an umbrella term for romantic or sexual relationships that are not exclusive, where all partners agree to, consent to, and are aware of the arrangement, emphasizing honesty and ethical practices over cheating. |
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"What is polyamory?
Being able to love and hold a relationship with more than one person, without jealousy
It's totally a valid question!
I would respectfully disagree re jealousy - of course poly folks can experience jealousy. What's important in terms of being successful, happy, etc, is how you deal with it. "
Absolutely. Jealousy still happens but poly people tend to be more in time with their emotions and manage it a little better. |
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By *eliWoman 5 weeks ago
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It's only polyamory if all involved are ethically non-monogamous. For example, my fiancé knows I'm poly, it's very much ethical.
If I was to date a person who was cheating/their partner was unaware - it wouldn't be polyamory. The ethical part of polyamory is very important. |
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"It's only polyamory if all involved are ethically non-monogamous. For example, my fiancé knows I'm poly, it's very much ethical.
If I was to date a person who was cheating/their partner was unaware - it wouldn't be polyamory. The ethical part of polyamory is very important. "
They'd be a lot less broken Relationships in the world if some people knew how much fun can be had from being honest |
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"What is polyamory?
Being able to love and hold a relationship with more than one person, without jealousy
It's totally a valid question!
I would respectfully disagree re jealousy - of course poly folks can experience jealousy. What's important in terms of being successful, happy, etc, is how you deal with it.
Absolutely. Jealousy still happens but poly people tend to be more in time with their emotions and manage it a little better."
Are you saying that folks who aren't poly are somehow less able to deal with emotions and jealousy? |
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By *eliWoman 5 weeks ago
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"It's only polyamory if all involved are ethically non-monogamous. For example, my fiancé knows I'm poly, it's very much ethical.
If I was to date a person who was cheating/their partner was unaware - it wouldn't be polyamory. The ethical part of polyamory is very important.
They'd be a lot less broken Relationships in the world if some people knew how much fun can be had from being honest "
Yeah, maybe. It's not for everyone though. Still takes work, requires a lot of communication. And not all poly relationships are great. People still cheat in them.
I'm not too keen on people using the term when the ethical side is overlooked. That's fairly obvious though.  |
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"It's only polyamory if all involved are ethically non-monogamous. For example, my fiancé knows I'm poly, it's very much ethical.
If I was to date a person who was cheating/their partner was unaware - it wouldn't be polyamory. The ethical part of polyamory is very important.
They'd be a lot less broken Relationships in the world if some people knew how much fun can be had from being honest "
But what if one half of the relationship couldn't get on board with the idea? That might still break a relationship |
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"It's only polyamory if all involved are ethically non-monogamous. For example, my fiancé knows I'm poly, it's very much ethical.
If I was to date a person who was cheating/their partner was unaware - it wouldn't be polyamory. The ethical part of polyamory is very important.
They'd be a lot less broken Relationships in the world if some people knew how much fun can be had from being honest
But what if one half of the relationship couldn't get on board with the idea? That might still break a relationship "
Then the door is open for resentment to creep in and the relationship is already kind of broken.
I guess the reality is, every relationship has potential to fail.
I just feel being honest about things prior to wandering can save a lot of hurt and be a whole lot more fun |
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Poly problems…
Go off and have glorious sex with other people, fall in love and enjoy their company…
BUT
Sending me pictures of the incredible second hand bookstore that you’re visiting with your other partner, telling me that said bookstore is playing some of my favourite music and also asking me if I want any books when I have precisely 3 minutes before I have to go do a job where I can’t have my phone is just NOT ON. 😭💔😭💔🤣 |
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We’re pretty polly…
But seriously yes, we live the poly lifestyle.
Question: Does merely having consensual regular sexual relations and dates with specific other people class you poly?
Feelings develop but I wouldn’t necessarily class it in the same sense as the love we share in our marriage.
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"We’re pretty polly…
But seriously yes, we live the poly lifestyle.
Question: Does merely having consensual regular sexual relations and dates with specific other people class you poly?
Feelings develop but I wouldn’t necessarily class it in the same sense as the love we share in our marriage.
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For me the difference is romantic love. I have very close friends where we have sex but the love is platonic. |
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By *eliWoman 5 weeks ago
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"Question: Does merely having consensual regular sexual relations and dates with specific other people class you poly?
Feelings develop but I wouldn’t necessarily class it in the same sense as the love we share in our marriage.
For me the difference is romantic love. I have very close friends where we have sex but the love is platonic."
Yep, this. To extend a little - I can meet friends, have dates, have sex - I'm still polyamorous. But we don't have a p. relationship.
Love can look/be different. I've never had the exact same love for two people. But if you can love more than one person at a time then it might be. |
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Very happily poly here.
