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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After reading some quite frankly disturbing threads about pushy partners trying to coerce n pressure their ladies into swinging without any real thoughts on the possible devastation the lady could then face I have to ask would you go along with something you didn't want at the risk of hurting yourself? I have to admit in the past I have and I can honestly say it left a feeling of violation that still upsets me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go along with anything that I didn't want to do, and if I had someone pushing me to do something I didn't want to do I'd be out of there. Simple as. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Coercion is usually a one stop shop to me going in completely the opposite direction.
I am awkward and stubborn to the extreme once the heels are dug in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's how I feel now but at the time I was in love and feared losing my partner if I didn't "
If they disrespected you so much, why would you want to keep them? In all honesty  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I initially joined here with an ex, who regularly chucked his toys out the pram at things not moving fast enough.
He's not impressed that I'm still on here without him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I dont want to do something I wont do it. If S said he wasnt happy about something I wanted to do I wouldnt do it either. We both have to be equally happy with whatever we do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's very easy to say what you would or wouldn't do, but in reality if someone is truly manipulating you then you might not even realise it's happening. People can be extremely clever about being cruel.
I NEVER would have thought I'd be manipulated by someone I thought I loved. I always thought I'd be out the door. Took me a lot longer than it should have, and I can see very easily how people get caught in these kind of relationships. |
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No I wouldn't and I'm saddened by the frequency that men ask how to get their unwilling or unknowing partners involved and how often women post asking for validation or permission to say no to something.
Of course men are coerced into doing things too it's not just women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never would, and my lovely FB would never coerce me into doing anything I wasn't comfortable with. Maybe when I was younger I might have felt obliged, but we grow up and get life experience. I'm lucky to have a 'play partner in crime' who is totally on my wave length. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very easy to say what you would or wouldn't do, but in reality if someone is truly manipulating you then you might not even realise it's happening. People can be extremely clever about being cruel.
I NEVER would have thought I'd be manipulated by someone I thought I loved. I always thought I'd be out the door. Took me a lot longer than it should have, and I can see very easily how people get caught in these kind of relationships. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very easy to say what you would or wouldn't do, but in reality if someone is truly manipulating you then you might not even realise it's happening. People can be extremely clever about being cruel.
I NEVER would have thought I'd be manipulated by someone I thought I loved. I always thought I'd be out the door. Took me a lot longer than it should have, and I can see very easily how people get caught in these kind of relationships. "
Been there, done that.
Women are more likely to be primed for these relationships sadly, just by being women and how society shaped women at one time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think I'm too much of an asshole to be forced by my partner into doing anything.
Plus, I don't know how he'd force me to do anything....the attic is a cold and lonely place 
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"It's very easy to say what you would or wouldn't do, but in reality if someone is truly manipulating you then you might not even realise it's happening. People can be extremely clever about being cruel.
I NEVER would have thought I'd be manipulated by someone I thought I loved. I always thought I'd be out the door. Took me a lot longer than it should have, and I can see very easily how people get caught in these kind of relationships. "
I take it you've escaped too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After reading some quite frankly disturbing threads about pushy partners trying to coerce n pressure their ladies into swinging without any real thoughts on the possible devastation the lady could then face I have to ask would you go along with something you didn't want at the risk of hurting yourself? I have to admit in the past I have and I can honestly say it left a feeling of violation that still upsets me "
I don't believe your question is just about swinging is it? I was on the receiving end of unwanted sex by my now ex husband of 13 years but I felt like I had to go along with it. He made me feel disgusting and violated. The next morning I paid a visit to the pharmacy for the morning after pill. I told my ex how he made me feel and he was mortified. Needless to say we weren't together for long after that (for numerous other reasons too). |
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"It's very easy to say what you would or wouldn't do, but in reality if someone is truly manipulating you then you might not even realise it's happening. People can be extremely clever about being cruel.
I NEVER would have thought I'd be manipulated by someone I thought I loved. I always thought I'd be out the door. Took me a lot longer than it should have, and I can see very easily how people get caught in these kind of relationships. "
Sadly this is often the case ... I would describe it as an abusive relationship. However, it often happens gradually so the manipulated partner finds it very had to escape.
Thankfully we have a very positive relationship and only do what we are both happy with.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I initially joined here with an ex, who regularly chucked his toys out the pram at things not moving fast enough.
He's not impressed that I'm still on here without him "
you go girl x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After reading some quite frankly disturbing threads about pushy partners trying to coerce n pressure their ladies into swinging without any real thoughts on the possible devastation the lady could then face I have to ask would you go along with something you didn't want at the risk of hurting yourself? I have to admit in the past I have and I can honestly say it left a feeling of violation that still upsets me "
I have apparently, but I can't remember, or she lied. I wasn't in a good place mentally during that relationship, so the first is possible, but anyone who has met me would say I'm not like that, so the latter is also possible.
I don't think forcing it on someone is something I'd do (possibly again), and I'd be more inclined to weigh up options for deciding whether or not to continue swinging and leave the relationship, or continue the relationship and give up swinging. |
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"I initially joined here with an ex, who regularly chucked his toys out the pram at things not moving fast enough.
He's not impressed that I'm still on here without him
Good for you x"
you joined wit a ex? Throwing his toys out of the pram may be he was waiting  for things to happen x |
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