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Forumites not as friendly as they pretend to be?!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind mails from anyone as long as it is not someone who want to violently fuck my ass with his/her phone. "
What if they use your phone or 1 from a phonebox? |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
I'd imagine its because they are egotists who only want public adoration and constant validation from their 'superfans' and woe betide an ordinary person who wants to interact with them.
I welcome the bounty forum post bring...isnt that what they are all about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was new once and also I'm not exactly getting mail from all the regulars anyway lol if you're new it shouldn't stop you contacting people unless they have filters up. If it's a message about a forum thread and the person messaging didn't leave a forum reply because they aren't comfortable posting there yet, then I would encourage them to do so but would still message if there was conversation to be had  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd imagine its because they are egotists who only want public adoration and constant validation from their 'superfans' and woe betide an ordinary person who wants to interact with them.
I welcome the bounty forum post bring...isnt that what they are all about? "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It might be the type of mail they get. Maybe they are happier interacting in public where they can control the conversation more easily? Meh.
I don't mind mail from "lurkers" in regards to my posts. It can be interesting reading different opinions. I do tend to ignore the ones that tend to assume that because I mention a sexual act I'm dying to talk about it in explicit detail for wanking purposes at this very moment.  |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
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I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind people messaging regarding a thread. I was a lurker here for weeks before I was brave enough to join in so I completely get it. Course if the second message is about a meet well its a delete from me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind mails from anyone as long as it is not someone who want to violently fuck my ass with his/her phone.
What if they use your phone or 1 from a phonebox?"
Well my phone is Ip68 rated but wouldnt want some shit crumbs into the charger socket. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only messages i have received via the message privately from the forum, are from users that are happy to privately splurge sh*t to me but hide it from the forum thread. So other forumites can't see them for who they really are. I don't mind getting the messages. They just confirm to me what i already suspected about that person. Whether or not anyone else sees them, i don't care, but i see them. So they actually do a service. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I love getting mail from forum posts, it's nice to have a chat away from the thread without derailing or hijacking the whole discussion.
I think it's kind of what the forums are about really, opening conversations and topics for talking and breaking the ice between people.
I find that those conversations are far more natural than "ooh I love your latest torso picture"
"erm... thanks... "
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"I just want to join in the conversation/banter. If someone isn’t posting yet ‘watches’ and inboxes me individually I find that a bit odd.
If it’s someone from the thread then that’s acceptable "
Very often a private post means they do not want to post in the thread because it may offend and make them look bad, but they don't mind offending the account holder. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
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whats a man v? |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?"
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! "
dunno not got one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't actually mind getting mail off a guy connected to a forum post, It's nice to get a (decent) guy's take on fab and all it entails. It's not something I discuss with others off here so it's good to talk.
It goes without saying messages from women are always welcome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friendly is subjective.
The only time I make a comment about lurkers is on the FPF threads - I like seeing the photos from the people I’ve interacted with, however small that interaction maybe, I don’t want to send my face to someone I don’t “recognise” - that imo isn’t being unfriendly. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! dunno not got one "
No, but you do have that sexy hair trail from your belly button to lead the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here. "
That’s totally unacceptable, how horrible for you....report them!! |
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"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! dunno not got one "
Yours is more a U |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! dunno not got one
Yours is more a U "
for unlimited potential  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! "
Tea monkey. V. Pfffffft. Don't give him an ego. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love getting mail from forum posts, it's nice to have a chat away from the thread without derailing or hijacking the whole discussion.
I think it's kind of what the forums are about really, opening conversations and topics for talking and breaking the ice between people.
I find that those conversations are far more natural than "ooh I love your latest torso picture"
"erm... thanks... "
*awkward silence*"
Like you don’t love it when they say that! |
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I quite often get messages off the back of forum posts, and I have made some great friends that way.
A lot I've been lucky enough to eventually meet at organised socials, and a few club nights
But getting random messages from people I've never interacted with, who havn't posted on that thread, in my experience doesn't end well.
They see my comment, look at a couple of pics & seem to think it's OK to send me stuff that has me hitting the block button.
Obviously I can't share content but I've had 2 already this morning from a thread I posted on earlier
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land!
Tea monkey. V. Pfffffft. Don't give him an ego. "
Thanks Meli, I can always rely on you for a healthy dose of ego bursting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m happy to chat about threads via a pm from other forumites, as TM said earlier it’s better than hijacking a thread if you want to interact with a particular person.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
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I like private mail.. provided it's not seeking conflict |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I’m all good with it bar two...the lurkers who use it as a hook for a ‘wanna fuck?’ message and outright abuse. You have an issue with what I’m saying? At least have the balls to set out what you think in the same public forum I have.
I’ve had some really creepy, threatening messages after some of my posts from lurkers. Not cool, dudes, not cool.
On a lighter note, I’ve also made some awesome friends and had some great chats from forum posts...so I certainly don’t want them to stop entirely! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had some great conversations from people answering my posts on threads through pm. Just don’t like the ones that pm thinking that because I like certain things I’m offering to do it with them x |
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"I’m all good with it bar two...the lurkers who use it as a hook for a ‘wanna fuck?’ message and outright abuse. You have an issue with what I’m saying? At least have the balls to set out what you think in the same public forum I have.
I’ve had some really creepy, threatening messages after some of my posts from lurkers. Not cool, dudes, not cool.
On a lighter note, I’ve also made some awesome friends and had some great chats from forum posts...so I certainly don’t want them to stop entirely!"
I’ve recruited you to the RSPCA |
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With the exception of the dicks that add stupid posts, most people seem nice enough.
Even on the stupid posts, people are usually pretty justified in their answers and always seem polite (even if the answer is "shut up you knob").
(Hopefully I won't now get a tirade of abuse lol ) |
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I'm quite happy to receive messages that follow up from things I've posted, i have made some really good friends that way. If my filters are up and there's something thst you want to say to me privately, just ask me on the thread to contact you. Of course if it's only to be nasty or abusive, there will be an instant block and report to admin. Polly xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think there's a very much "it depends" answer here - like others I've had some great conversations and made some good connections and even meets off the back of forum posts - sometimes as Tea Monkey said, you don't want to disrupt the flow of a thread, or take it off at a tangent by posting publically, sometimes there may be a need to say something privately to alert someone to something specific.
However there *are* those that will use a forum post as an excuse to either send abuse, or to try and garner a meet and there's a fine line between what is acceptable and what is not.
Face Pic Friday is a good example where the "No lurkers" comment is made - the spirit of the thread is to swap face pics with others who have said they're "in" on the thread - so I can see that receiving random messages from someone who hasn't joined the thread, especially if they include other body parts as well as the face, would be irritating and not as someone said earlier, an example of being up your own arse. That said they're easily deleted if unwelcome. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
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Nah, bunch of cowards if it is abusive. Argue your point on the thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m happy to receive messages about forum related topics as long they are from female’s who are hot, men stay away, I don’t care for your views.
Thanks in advance X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of unpleasant and two faced people on the forums its not a surprise lurkers mail them if they don't like their b/s. "
This is true but made some great friends via the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m happy to receive messages about forum related topics as long they are from female’s who are hot, men stay away, I don’t care for your views.
Thanks in advance X"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i message anyone privately its usually to compliment someone on their sharpe wit or to tell them i want to lick the sweat off their man V
[disclaimer: no _ea monkey man Vs were licked in the making of this post]
whats a man v?
You know, the V bit showing you the way from his stomach to his dick...like a sexy arrow pointing the way to the promised land! "
So there was no need to get an arrow tattooed on saying this way to the promised land!!
I need to see if I can get a refund  |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of unpleasant and two faced people on the forums its not a surprise lurkers mail them if they don't like their b/s.
This is true but made some great friends via the forums "
I would agree with that not all are I have made a few good friends too through the forums but there are still some real bitter people who post its sad really. |
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I do sometimes lurk in the forums looking at what people are putting, sometimes I'll comment on a thread. If I see someone put something interesting I may send them a message aswell but it's only to those who spark an interest.
I am also learning who the nicest ones are too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here. "
Someone from the forums told you to hang yourself?
Pm me who it was, I like gossip! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont mind messages off lurkers... unless it's sex related, then I just ignore. Luckily I've never recieved abuse off the back of a thread, from a forum member. Off to touch some wood now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t mind who messages me from where... maybe that’s just me. I don’t understand why it would be offensive to message someone about a topic of what they’ve said and you’ve agreed with us quite niche on that topic.
For instance, I messaged someone the other day off of a thread which the subject was about cars, we got in to a conversation about more specifics. It’s was all friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was new once and also I'm not exactly getting mail from all the regulars anyway lol if you're new it shouldn't stop you contacting people unless they have filters up. If it's a message about a forum thread and the person messaging didn't leave a forum reply because they aren't comfortable posting there yet, then I would encourage them to do so but would still message if there was conversation to be had "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
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That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not. |
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"I dont mind messages off lurkers... unless it's sex related, then I just ignore. Luckily I've never recieved abuse off the back of a thread, from a forum member. Off to touch some wood now. "
Yeah have had some abuse people are much braver in private. Presumably they didn't want to fuck me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here. "
Fucking hell. 
Report them. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not. "
I'm somewhere in between on this. If it is someone that is unable to post on the forum, I don't mind (and I actually used to exchange messages frequently with someone from just such an instance). If they just don't wish to post on the forum then I kinda would prefer that they don't message me.
I don't think that's me being unfriendly though... Or is it really?... |
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here. "
Wow that one left me speechless for a while!! I will never understand some people.
Sounds like a sorry excuse of a human being to say that to someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont mind messages off lurkers... unless it's sex related, then I just ignore. Luckily I've never recieved abuse off the back of a thread, from a forum member. Off to touch some wood now.
Yeah have had some abuse people are much braver in private. Presumably they didn't want to fuck me."
So they decided to message you, just to tell you that? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We never comment in the forums, that must be why we don’t get many messages. Phew, we thought it was because we were fat and ugly. "
I like your posts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t usually mind but it’s the lurkers who have seen me reply to a post, say about cum tributes. I ALWAYS state I hate them and 9 times out of 10 explain why.
Yet they just see I replied, and message me saying ‘oh I saw you replied to the forum and you like them so I’ve done you one blah blah blah’
Nah fuck off mate
I just block.
Or when I post mundane subjects like ‘what supermarket do you use?’ And get abuse and called ‘scum of the earth’ for shopping at Lidl
Some folk will be angry about anything |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
I'm somewhere in between on this. If it is someone that is unable to post on the forum, I don't mind (and I actually used to exchange messages frequently with someone from just such an instance). If they just don't wish to post on the forum then I kinda would prefer that they don't message me.
I don't think that's me being unfriendly though... Or is it really?... "
Not necessarily being unfriendly - that's just my take on it, but I'm always happy to be told I'm wrong if anyone disagrees.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happy to chat if it’s something genuine to chat about. When it’s sexual it just adds to the 100’s of unread messages of the same content only it’s more awkward to ignore as they’re forum people! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not. "
And they are - for those that join the thread, and those threads are (a) very popular and (b) often full of newbies - the only thing I've seen people say on them is "No lurkers" (i.e. those that haven't joined the thread), and take it to mean that any lurkers that send a pic shouldn't expect one back, which I think is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.
Doesn't of course mean people won't send them, and let's face it sending a face pic is pretty high up there on the list of requirements most people look for when communicating regardless of whether it's via a thread or not. |
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here.
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Errr maybe they're talking themselves as from what I can see of your pics, you definitely are not fat.
And love the Mortal Combat reference lol (I'm hoping/assuming that's the game and not the film )
(sorry again for going off topic guys ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happy to chat if it’s something genuine to chat about. When it’s sexual it just adds to the 100’s of unread messages of the same content only it’s more awkward to ignore as they’re forum people!"
That is so true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would rather people answer on the forum"
Me too, and I’ve asked folk to do that. When someone posts something and I ask them what they mean, and others do too, and they pm me instead...why? Are they messaging everyone else the same thing too? I usually ask them to stick to the forums and they’ll try message again. I don’t see the point in that |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I would rather people answer on the forum
Me too, and I’ve asked folk to do that. When someone posts something and I ask them what they mean, and others do too, and they pm me instead...why? Are they messaging everyone else the same thing too? I usually ask them to stick to the forums and they’ll try message again. I don’t see the point in that"
They see it as a way in. You did the same to me to be fair  |
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over a year ago
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
I'm somewhere in between on this. If it is someone that is unable to post on the forum, I don't mind (and I actually used to exchange messages frequently with someone from just such an instance). If they just don't wish to post on the forum then I kinda would prefer that they don't message me.
I don't think that's me being unfriendly though... Or is it really?...
Not necessarily being unfriendly - that's just my take on it, but I'm always happy to be told I'm wrong if anyone disagrees.
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Lets say there's valid points either way |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I would rather people answer on the forum
Me too, and I’ve asked folk to do that. When someone posts something and I ask them what they mean, and others do too, and they pm me instead...why? Are they messaging everyone else the same thing too? I usually ask them to stick to the forums and they’ll try message again. I don’t see the point in that"
Me neither, the point of the forum is to ermmm, post in it |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
And they are - for those that join the thread, and those threads are (a) very popular and (b) often full of newbies - the only thing I've seen people say on them is "No lurkers" (i.e. those that haven't joined the thread), and take it to mean that any lurkers that send a pic shouldn't expect one back, which I think is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.
Doesn't of course mean people won't send them, and let's face it sending a face pic is pretty high up there on the list of requirements most people look for when communicating regardless of whether it's via a thread or not."
Why I tend not to do the fpf. I always think its for those who communicate a lot or even just a bit on the forum to then see who it is they are talking to. I always rightly or wrongly consider the lurkers who you have never seen or spoken to as just a bit nosy. But I never randonmly share a face pic anyway so Im probably being mean |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I would rather people answer on the forum But they would get some vacation time. "
If they abused me in mail rather than break rules on the forum they would get my very very blunt non censored response instead. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I would rather people answer on the forum But they would get some vacation time.
If they abused me in mail rather than break rules on the forum they would get my very very blunt non censored response instead. "
Touché |
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"I would rather people answer on the forum But they would get some vacation time.
If they abused me in mail rather than break rules on the forum they would get my very very blunt non censored response instead. "
Then you would have to reprimand yourself |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not. "
Those and any "poster below blah blah blah" threads.
When I was a newbie I thought they would a good way to get involved in the forums. They're actually a good way to get ignored....
Rarely do I bother these days, even though I've been here a while. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I would rather people answer on the forum But they would get some vacation time.
If they abused me in mail rather than break rules on the forum they would get my very very blunt non censored response instead.
Then you would have to reprimand yourself "
Nope, blunt doesn't mean abusive |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
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I quite like the odd message from forumites 'just for the sake of it' but funnily enough would be less comfortable with a lurker messaging me. I chat to forumites I would never meet sometimes, whereas I don't do that with general site members. |
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"I have to be honest , when I used to join in on the Face pic thing I never swopped with anyone who randomly mailed us either, if they had joined in on the thread we did"
I think there's a difference between participating in the thread and not.
I don't mind a facepic from anyone on the thread.
But from someone who's not participating is a bit odd.
I'll look for you both on the next FPF thread. |
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By *inn2000Woman
over a year ago
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I've had a few messages in response to posts in the forum and I love the 'real' chat that usually ensues.
I've also had a few stupid messages in response to posts which results in delete and block so not a biggie. |
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here.
Errr maybe they're talking themselves as from what I can see of your pics, you definitely are not fat.
And love the Mortal Combat reference lol (I'm hoping/assuming that's the game and not the film )
(sorry again for going off topic guys )"
Umm your response is to me but you’re quoting a completely different person.
As if I would get private mail like that, have you not seen me? I’m smoking. |
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Umm your response is to me but you’re quoting a completely different person.
As if I would get private mail like that, have you not seen me? I’m smoking. "
Lol, sorry, my bad. I really should put my glasses on... |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
And they are - for those that join the thread, and those threads are (a) very popular and (b) often full of newbies - the only thing I've seen people say on them is "No lurkers" (i.e. those that haven't joined the thread), and take it to mean that any lurkers that send a pic shouldn't expect one back, which I think is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.
Doesn't of course mean people won't send them, and let's face it sending a face pic is pretty high up there on the list of requirements most people look for when communicating regardless of whether it's via a thread or not.
Why I tend not to do the fpf. I always think its for those who communicate a lot or even just a bit on the forum to then see who it is they are talking to. I always rightly or wrongly consider the lurkers who you have never seen or spoken to as just a bit nosy. But I never randonmly share a face pic anyway so Im probably being mean "
that's how I see it too |
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
And they are - for those that join the thread, and those threads are (a) very popular and (b) often full of newbies - the only thing I've seen people say on them is "No lurkers" (i.e. those that haven't joined the thread), and take it to mean that any lurkers that send a pic shouldn't expect one back, which I think is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.
Doesn't of course mean people won't send them, and let's face it sending a face pic is pretty high up there on the list of requirements most people look for when communicating regardless of whether it's via a thread or not.
Why I tend not to do the fpf. I always think its for those who communicate a lot or even just a bit on the forum to then see who it is they are talking to. I always rightly or wrongly consider the lurkers who you have never seen or spoken to as just a bit nosy. But I never randonmly share a face pic anyway so Im probably being mean
that's how I see it too "
Me too. I'm not showing my face to random dudes I've never seen let alone spoken to on the forums.
They're opportunists who lurk to get stuff to wank over. |
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"I was always get abuse and told to quit, go hang myself, lose some weight or Nobody likes a fat cunt you're wasting your time here.
Errr maybe they're talking themselves as from what I can see of your pics, you definitely are not fat.
And love the Mortal Combat reference lol (I'm hoping/assuming that's the game and not the film )
(sorry again for going off topic guys )
Umm your response is to me but you’re quoting a completely different person.
As if I would get private mail like that, have you not seen me? I’m smoking. "
I think I’m attracted to your modesty most, then your soft Welsh accent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you like getting mail about forum posts? Perhaps from people who read the forums but can't post. Or things they want to keep private.
There's a lot of 'sociable' threads where people say they don't want mail from "lurkers".
Why join in on those threads if you don't want mail from new people?
I remember seeing a face pic Friday thread a while back where a poster said she didn't want face pics from randoms.
I thought at the time it must have difficult to post, what with her head being such a long way up her own arse.
That was the first thread I was thinking of in this context. I thought those threads were a good way for newbies to join in. Apparently not.
And they are - for those that join the thread, and those threads are (a) very popular and (b) often full of newbies - the only thing I've seen people say on them is "No lurkers" (i.e. those that haven't joined the thread), and take it to mean that any lurkers that send a pic shouldn't expect one back, which I think is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.
Doesn't of course mean people won't send them, and let's face it sending a face pic is pretty high up there on the list of requirements most people look for when communicating regardless of whether it's via a thread or not."
Fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im pretty much out there in the forums can chat away for ages but when it comes to messages i get nervous and shy of what to say so just wink "
What's the worst that can happen? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think many lurkers have read my profile and do as I ask. “Avoid me like the plague. But that’s advice I give to all comers to my profile.
So I do enjoy it when people ignore my advice as I tell them to do that on my profile as well.
Mostly they are nice friendly emails. I’ve only once had any abuse since I’ve been on the forum and that is 5 years or so ago |
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