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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester

Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

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By *ull my fingerMan 4 weeks ago

my girls lips

Sorry dude i cant join long ones its effort

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By *dam1971Man 4 weeks ago

Bedford

You’re saying that telling someone the truth is always the best thing?

I think you’re wrong

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By *ubidouxWoman 4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

But I really am a unicorn

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By *affron40Woman 4 weeks ago

manchester

True dat.

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"You’re saying that telling someone the truth is always the best thing?

I think you’re wrong "

Feel free to feel that way.

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago

Exactly. We had this chat the other day dude and it's one of the deciding factors of me being here now! Legend dude

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By *ull my fingerMan 4 weeks ago

my girls lips

No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

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By *irFlow19Man 4 weeks ago

Chester


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

Liar...

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"But I really am a unicorn "

Quentin Taratino version of one - sexy as fuck and portrays wicked very well but sweet underneath lol

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By *andLBiCouple 4 weeks ago

Maidstone


"But I really am a unicorn "

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By *andLBiCouple 4 weeks ago

Maidstone


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money "

Says a lot about you then really.

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By *iss ChoosyWoman 4 weeks ago

Liverpool

I can't lie to save my life, my face is too expressive and I have the worst memory ever. My mum always told me "to be a good liar, you have to have a good memory". My family and friends appreciate my honesty and if I have nothing nice to say I generally keep quiet x

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By *ango123Man 4 weeks ago

Wales

Yes true words.. Except if your a mp then it's literally your job to lie haha

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

Yup, I fully agree, I managed for over 20 years without a single lie, and it's something I can still avoid 99% of the time (and would be 100% if I were in a monogamous relationship).

Even the biggest narcissist I know, a compulsive liar, said 'You know what I like about you? It doesn't matter what I ask you, I know I'll get an honest answer.' Sad irony.

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By *ull my fingerMan 4 weeks ago

my girls lips


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really."

i told the truth about it tho

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By *eOldeWitchDocMan 4 weeks ago

Cloud Cuckoo Land


"Exactly. We had this chat the other day dude and it's one of the deciding factors of me being here now! Legend dude "

Yay you stayed

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Yes true words.. Except if your a mp then it's literally your job to lie haha"

I disagree, I despise lying politicians!!

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

Liar..."

That screams "I lack self confidence".

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By *ubidouxWoman 4 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"But I really am a unicorn

Quentin Taratino version of one - sexy as fuck and portrays wicked very well but sweet underneath lol "

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By *urvymamaWoman 4 weeks ago

Doncaster

Surely real confidence comes from finding truth within yourself by finding self acceptance

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really.i told the truth about it tho "

100% of the time, or near as damn it

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"Exactly. We had this chat the other day dude and it's one of the deciding factors of me being here now! Legend dude

Yay you stayed"

Aye man! Friend request incoming lol

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"But I really am a unicorn

Quentin Taratino version of one - sexy as fuck and portrays wicked very well but sweet underneath lol "

Got you pegged my dear!

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By *ango123Man 4 weeks ago

Wales


"Yes true words.. Except if your a mp then it's literally your job to lie haha

I disagree, I despise lying politicians!!"

Oh so do I. Believe me... But I also believe that lieing comes with that job.. Its the thing they are best at... All of them!

And they run our country

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By *ull my fingerMan 4 weeks ago

my girls lips


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really.i told the truth about it tho

100% of the time, or near as damn it "

im the worlds greatest truth massager does that sound better

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By *ever TreeMan 4 weeks ago

Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really.i told the truth about it tho

100% of the time, or near as damn it im the worlds greatest truth massager does that sound better "

Does it to you?

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By *ango123Man 4 weeks ago

Wales


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?"

NEVER.... That would be criminal haha...

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By *inkysexpotMan 4 weeks ago

leeds


"You’re saying that telling someone the truth is always the best thing?

I think you’re wrong "

You don't have to say anything at all if you don't want though

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By *ull my fingerMan 4 weeks ago

my girls lips


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really.i told the truth about it tho

100% of the time, or near as damn it im the worlds greatest truth massager does that sound better

Does it to you?"

na too complicated

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By *dam1971Man 4 weeks ago

Bedford

Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now. There are ways of saying things that put their feelings first which can be more important than the one-dimensional “I’m going to tell the truth, whatever the effect”

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By *rs Sex in HeelsWoman 4 weeks ago

Exmoor & West Midlands


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?"

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x

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By *ever TreeMan 4 weeks ago


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x"

What? the tooth fairy doesn't exist????

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now. There are ways of saying things that put their feelings first which can be more important than the one-dimensional “I’m going to tell the truth, whatever the effect”"

Ways and means.. you don't need to be brutal about it.

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By *8rk33Man 4 weeks ago

woking


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

thankyou for your help can I make an effigy of you so that I can worshiP you from my living room

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By *andLBiCouple 4 weeks ago

Maidstone


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x

What? the tooth fairy doesn't exist????"

What about the Easter Bunny???

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x"

Would it harm them if they knew it was all bollocks?

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By *eOldeWitchDocMan 4 weeks ago

Cloud Cuckoo Land


"Exactly. We had this chat the other day dude and it's one of the deciding factors of me being here now! Legend dude

Yay you stayed

Aye man! Friend request incoming lol"

Sorted

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now. "

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy.

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By *dam1971Man 4 weeks ago

Bedford


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x

Would it harm them if they knew it was all bollocks?"

It would make them the centre of attention when they went into school the next day and told all their friends

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now. There are ways of saying things that put their feelings first which can be more important than the one-dimensional “I’m going to tell the truth, whatever the effect”

Ways and means.. you don't need to be brutal about it."

Further, I would say you MUST always be kind about it.

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By *dam1971Man 4 weeks ago

Bedford


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy."

But telling someone the truth might be that you don’t like them.

However if you don’t tell them that, there’s the chance that getting to know them better will mean you do like them. You’ve made a good connection and made two peoples lives better.

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy.

But telling someone the truth might be that you don’t like them.

However if you don’t tell them that, there’s the chance that getting to know them better will mean you do like them. You’ve made a good connection and made two peoples lives better."

Lol, there is generally no need to tell someone you don't like them, that's a daft example.

'Is it necessary - is it kind?'

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By *ever TreeMan 4 weeks ago


"Do I tell kids that Santa doesn't exist?

Yes you do and the tooth fairy x

Would it harm them if they knew it was all bollocks?"

There is a whole theological argument that could stem from this, but I'll avoid it for now.

However, the difference between a lie, your perspective of the truth and the exploration of ideas and concepts could all be categorised as lies.

Telling a young child that there is a mysterious benefactor that bestows gifts in exchange for year long best behavior is fundamentally corrupt or whimsical harmlessness depending on your viewpoint.

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By *ore than a handfulWoman 4 weeks ago

Somewhere only we know

I disagree. I have to do white lies to enable me to enjoy this lifestyle. I lie to my work colleagues about what I have been doing the weekend. I've said I was meeting friends. But then they question further so this weekends social became a girly weekend. To my son the same as I don't want him knowing what his mother indulges in

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By *dam1971Man 4 weeks ago

Bedford


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy.

But telling someone the truth might be that you don’t like them.

However if you don’t tell them that, there’s the chance that getting to know them better will mean you do like them. You’ve made a good connection and made two peoples lives better.

Lol, there is generally no need to tell someone you don't like them, that's a daft example.

'Is it necessary - is it kind?'"

Fair, but it’s the one that’s at the front of my mind now with stuff in my own life.

I agree with your comment that you must always be kind about it, we’re here to make connections with other people and that can only work effectively if you’re kind.

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By *teelHeelsWoman 4 weeks ago

*.*.*.*.*.*

Lying keeps some people safe.

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago

Hastings

One person's truth isn't always another's

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago

Hastings


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy."

Opinion and truth are not the same thing.

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By *orbidden fruit19Man 4 weeks ago

london


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

Wow it’s hard to be like that. I am almost the same way takes a lot of effort to be this way. But in my case my face says it all unfortunately

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy.

Opinion and truth are not the same thing. "

Indeed not - the example given was of carrying on chatting or not chatting to someone on here. There is no need to say 'I don't like you' to anyone, just 'No thank you' is sufficient, or to be kind 'Sorry I don't want to take this further but good luck'. Some opinions do not need to be expressed.

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago

Hastings


"Being truthful is a good thing, but always being truthful is just abstaining yourself from responsibility of other people’s well-being.

Sometimes people can’t take hearing the truth, or can’t take all of it right now.

No-one says you need to overload people with opinions they can't cope with - but I totally disagree with the previous point, IMO one's responsibility to someone is only fulfilled by telling them the truth without causing them unecessary harm. That is the challenge, and I do not claim it is always easy.

Opinion and truth are not the same thing.

Indeed not - the example given was of carrying on chatting or not chatting to someone on here. There is no need to say 'I don't like you' to anyone, just 'No thank you' is sufficient, or to be kind 'Sorry I don't want to take this further but good luck'. Some opinions do not need to be expressed."

Ah yes! I understand and agree.

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By *azDazCouple 4 weeks ago

Scarborough

It is a nice thought. But as liars rule the world, make laws and comand great power and influence. How am I meant to tell my children to be good when the world they are looking at shows them the opposite.

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By *estarossa.Woman 4 weeks ago

Anticipation

I cant agree with this its overly simplistic.

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"It is a nice thought. But as liars rule the world, make laws and comand great power and influence. How am I meant to tell my children to be good when the world they are looking at shows them the opposite. "

What better way to shone brightly in a world full of shit?

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By *ango123Man 4 weeks ago

Wales


"It is a nice thought. But as liars rule the world, make laws and comand great power and influence. How am I meant to tell my children to be good when the world they are looking at shows them the opposite. "

Well said... It looks a difficult world for our kids to be growing up in

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago

Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion.

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By *utumn76Woman 4 weeks ago

The Boatshed

Breaking the cycle is hard when life is made more difficult and unpleasant by telling the truth to people who don't want to hear it.

Ive stopped lying to myself about situations, but the truth can be a pretty miserable swap.

Signed Grumpy.

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By *abs..Woman 4 weeks ago

..

The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon "

Yep

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By *oxiAnneWoman 4 weeks ago

on a hot gin roof


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. "

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By *a Fee VerteWoman 4 weeks ago

Limbo


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon "

That's because it's almost inevitably in response to being asked how you are - which is so often trotted out as a social niceity without any real interest in how you actually are .... a double lie if you like. It's crazy - you know they don't care, they know you know they don't care, they know you might not be fine, you know they know this ... but 'etiquette' seems to demand we go through this pointless exercise!

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By *oxiAnneWoman 4 weeks ago

on a hot gin roof


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon "

Also, when asked generally it’s a response that usually suits both parties.

I’m pretty sure the shop assistant was looking to hear how bad my weekend had been when he asked this earlier.

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By *eOldeWitchDocMan 4 weeks ago

Cloud Cuckoo Land


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon

That's because it's almost inevitably in response to being asked how you are - which is so often trotted out as a social niceity without any real interest in how you actually are .... a double lie if you like. It's crazy - you know they don't care, they know you know they don't care, they know you might not be fine, you know they know this ... but 'etiquette' seems to demand we go through this pointless exercise!"

. Yep it’s just a ritual or a pastime, rather than a meaningful conversation. I like to change it up by stating exactly how I’m feeling and watch the look on their face

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By *pider-WomanWoman 4 weeks ago

South Hams Exeter, Plymouth


"No im a salesman i like to lie it makes me more money

Says a lot about you then really."

I thought that as well.

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By *ea monkeyMan 4 weeks ago

derby


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon

Also, when asked generally it’s a response that usually suits both parties.

I’m pretty sure the shop assistant was looking to hear how bad my weekend had been when he asked this earlier."

Just tell them anyway, that'll teach them!

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By *pider-WomanWoman 4 weeks ago

South Hams Exeter, Plymouth


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. "
Santa's a lie....NO that cant be true.

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. Santa's a lie....NO that cant be true."

Well I don’t actually believe he is. I believe and I get presents

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. Santa's a lie....NO that cant be true.

Well I don’t actually believe he is. I believe and I get presents "

When you stop believing you get shit presents like socks :-/ I believe

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. Santa's a lie....NO that cant be true.

Well I don’t actually believe he is. I believe and I get presents

When you stop believing you get shit presents like socks :-/ I believe "

And lynx africa sets

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester

You've got choices, you can pick holes in what I'm saying and be as fickle, finite, definitive, argumentative, divisive, destructive with the words I'm using.

Or.. You can take the general jist n jibe of it and use it help you grow a bit.

Do I tell the odd lie? Yes, I do. Usually accidentally, out of habit, or fear. I did go through a stage where I told no lies and had no filter. It felt exactly like the film 'Liar Liar' and I got into sticky situations arose.

I tell the odd white lie too. To save from causing undue pain to someone. Will lie about Christmas, but looking forward to finally getting the credit that fat fictional fuck gets.

People still liked me during and after Liar Liar mode. The things that got me into sticky situations, were usually the negative misconceptions and preconceptions I was harbouring about myself or others. Getting it all out in the open, soon makes you question your own version of truth.

I'm not saying every lie is a bad one. I'm not saying this is the only way. This is my way. It works for me and if that helps someone else.. then fuck it, it's worth looking like a dick, by posting it in the first place.

It might not work for everyone, it might get YOU killed if you're a complete dick. *Jackass warning!* If you are desperate and you are struggling getting anywhere on here. Than that's my first bit of advice.

- Be honest with yourself and others.

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By *abs..Woman 4 weeks ago

..


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon

That's because it's almost inevitably in response to being asked how you are - which is so often trotted out as a social niceity without any real interest in how you actually are .... a double lie if you like. It's crazy - you know they don't care, they know you know they don't care, they know you might not be fine, you know they know this ... but 'etiquette' seems to demand we go through this pointless exercise!"

I agree

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester

Next time someone says "Hi how are you?" Sock 'Em with the truth.. like Witchdoctor said. If only to see the look on their face.

Who knows, they may even have a solution to it, once they finish laughing/crying/hyperventilating.

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By *ever TreeMan 4 weeks ago


"Nothing wrong with keeping secrets and nothing wrong with little white lies either. Santa is a lie, Easter bunny is a lie. My location on fab is a lie. My mum thinks my life is perfect and I have no problems, that’s a white lie. Sometimes there’s a need for little white lies in my opinion. Santa's a lie....NO that cant be true.

Well I don’t actually believe he is. I believe and I get presents

When you stop believing you get shit presents like socks :-/ I believe

And lynx africa sets "

*clicky heel thing*

I believe, I BELIEVE!

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

"

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out.... "

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know."

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

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By *teelHeelsWoman 4 weeks ago

*.*.*.*.*.*

Is choosing not to share really lying though? Withholding the truth.

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form.... "

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it).

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Is choosing not to share really lying though? Withholding the truth."

Surely you know your own answer to that by now?

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it)."

What if I don't think you are and I think it's a kind of self promotion (in a beautiful and intelligent way that i respect), just like all the rest of us use on here, but I'm too embarrassed to say it and I don't want to come across as confrontational and I don't want other forum users or you, or your friends to hate me etc....?

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it).

What if I don't think you are and I think it's a kind of self promotion (in a beautiful and intelligent way that i respect), just like all the rest of us use on here, but I'm too embarrassed to say it and I don't want to come across as confrontational and I don't want other forum users or you, or your friends to hate me etc....? "

Hope you take that in the innocent and playful way it's intended my friend

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By *estarossa.Woman 4 weeks ago

Anticipation


"Next time someone says "Hi how are you?" Sock 'Em with the truth.. like Witchdoctor said. If only to see the look on their face.

Who knows, they may even have a solution to it, once they finish laughing/crying/hyperventilating."

I give them the choice, I say, "do you want a polite lie, or an honest answer?"

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By *risky_MareWoman 4 weeks ago

...Up on the Downs


"The most common lie told is ‘I’m fine’. I can’t see that ending any time soon

That's because it's almost inevitably in response to being asked how you are - which is so often trotted out as a social niceity without any real interest in how you actually are .... a double lie if you like. It's crazy - you know they don't care, they know you know they don't care, they know you might not be fine, you know they know this ... but 'etiquette' seems to demand we go through this pointless exercise!. Yep it’s just a ritual or a pastime, rather than a meaningful conversation. I like to change it up by stating exactly how I’m feeling and watch the look on their face "

I do too - but with a smile 'I'm dying but hey-ho!'

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Next time someone says "Hi how are you?" Sock 'Em with the truth.. like Witchdoctor said. If only to see the look on their face.

Who knows, they may even have a solution to it, once they finish laughing/crying/hyperventilating.

I give them the choice, I say, "do you want a polite lie, or an honest answer?""

If I wanted to lie, I'd use an expression like that though... Js

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By *educedWoman 4 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm the worst liar/fibber ever! I go all Walter Mitty like.

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it).

What if I don't think you are and I think it's a kind of self promotion (in a beautiful and intelligent way that i respect), just like all the rest of us use on here, but I'm too embarrassed to say it and I don't want to come across as confrontational and I don't want other forum users or you, or your friends to hate me etc....?

Hope you take that in the innocent and playful way it's intended my friend "

I'd respect you for your honesty. I'd also respect you for the intelligence you used, words you chose and points you made, so bravely, infront of an audience no less Youre very brave and cheeky, i like it.

I'd say you're wrong on all accounts.

I saw a post this morning from a Forumite losing confidence, I even copied his thread title a bit. Plus Deathwolf (he won't mind, as he's volunteered up the info himself already) was a bit grumpy the other night. I tell most people that, behind the scenes, in some way or another. Helps form bonds.

I thought, if it helped him, it may help someone else.

If that's what makes me look good on here, you lot must be awful But it's not why I posted

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"I'm the worst liar/fibber ever! I go all Walter Mitty like.

"

Were going to struggle then aren't we

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Worcester


"Next time someone says "Hi how are you?" Sock 'Em with the truth.. like Witchdoctor said. If only to see the look on their face.

Who knows, they may even have a solution to it, once they finish laughing/crying/hyperventilating.

I give them the choice, I say, "do you want a polite lie, or an honest answer?""

That screams confidence and that's turn me on

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By *periaMan 4 weeks ago

Bath ish


"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it).

What if I don't think you are and I think it's a kind of self promotion (in a beautiful and intelligent way that i respect), just like all the rest of us use on here, but I'm too embarrassed to say it and I don't want to come across as confrontational and I don't want other forum users or you, or your friends to hate me etc....?

Hope you take that in the innocent and playful way it's intended my friend

I'd respect you for your honesty. I'd also respect you for the intelligence you used, words you chose and points you made, so bravely, infront of an audience no less Youre very brave and cheeky, i like it.

I'd say you're wrong on all accounts.

I saw a post this morning from a Forumite losing confidence, I even copied his thread title a bit. Plus Deathwolf (he won't mind, as he's volunteered up the info himself already) was a bit grumpy the other night. I tell most people that, behind the scenes, in some way or another. Helps form bonds.

I thought, if it helped him, it may help someone else.

If that's what makes me look good on here, you lot must be awful But it's not why I posted "

Haha, cool, you always look good you clever, sexy little bugger. I appreciate your posts , but I'll always disagree with practically everyone, unless I truly love you....

(I could still be lying)

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By *hengisKhan OP   Man 4 weeks ago

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"Stop lying. Most of all stop lying to yourself. Don't tell a single lie ever again! Even shitty little white ones, put your hands up and say no, I can't. Don't keep secrets.

This doesn't mean you have to answer every direct questions sent your way, you can always choose not to answer.

If you don't lie, then you'll never fear being caught out ever again. If you don't understand, admitting it, will help you learn, quicker, faster, stronger.

In time, once this method fully kicks in. You'll begin to believe in yourself. Know your weaknesses as well as you know you strengths. You'll have confidence in everything you say. The confidence to admit defeat when you're wrong. The confidence to walk up to the person you're attracted to. The confidence to know whether you are attracted. The confidence to let it someone down gently and with compassion, kindness and empathy.

Arrogance is not confidence. Being a nellyknow-it-all isn't confidence. Climbing on the backs of others isn't confidence. Rolling with the crowd, mob rule isn't confidence. Being Dom doesn't mean your confident.

Be honest you, that takes confidence. Hope that helps someone.

I like this idea! Way too many fibber fabbers on here....

....but, isn't honesty dependent on your perspective and sometimes you don't know what the honest answer is even if you think the honest answer is to say that you honestly don't know, maybe you do know if you know what I mean? I think the key is to be honest with yourself, but for 98% of forum users, if they managed that self honesty, I think they'd log out....

Woah... I need to break that down..

1. Yes, based on perspective.

2. Yes, often you don't know what the honest answer is, which is when it's best to say "I don't know".

The last bit is down to your own personality and being. Choosing not to share or be as open as I am, isn't dishonest. It's sensible, but you need to communicate effectively to get what you want, as much as you want , when you want it. Things tend to go wrong when you lie or mislead.. possibly not shared as much as you should have, overshared, stressing over appearance, chemistry, timekeeping, sincerity, performance, potential drama from other lies, lost money, lost dignity, loss of self confidence.

Big lies, I've told enough to know.

How do we know you're telling us the truth now? You have form....

Good answer Tell no lies, then you'll trust yourself to know if I'm telling you the truth (as I see it).

What if I don't think you are and I think it's a kind of self promotion (in a beautiful and intelligent way that i respect), just like all the rest of us use on here, but I'm too embarrassed to say it and I don't want to come across as confrontational and I don't want other forum users or you, or your friends to hate me etc....?

Hope you take that in the innocent and playful way it's intended my friend

I'd respect you for your honesty. I'd also respect you for the intelligence you used, words you chose and points you made, so bravely, infront of an audience no less Youre very brave and cheeky, i like it.

I'd say you're wrong on all accounts.

I saw a post this morning from a Forumite losing confidence, I even copied his thread title a bit. Plus Deathwolf (he won't mind, as he's volunteered up the info himself already) was a bit grumpy the other night. I tell most people that, behind the scenes, in some way or another. Helps form bonds.

I thought, if it helped him, it may help someone else.

If that's what makes me look good on here, you lot must be awful But it's not why I posted

Haha, cool, you always look good you clever, sexy little bugger. I appreciate your posts , but I'll always disagree with practically everyone, unless I truly love you....

(I could still be lying) "

*Ghengis backs of slowly.. hand on sword hilt* Be gone oh disagreeable love monster!

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