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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just saw a status that mentioned the said person, taking their own life but decided on a better option.
My initial gut instinct was to message her and try to reassure,as well as offer myself to a chat, with absolutely no ulterior motives whatsoever.
Reason I didn't? See if you can guess  |
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"I just saw a status that mentioned the said person, taking their own life but decided on a better option.
My initial gut instinct was to message her and try to reassure,as well as offer myself to a chat, with absolutely no ulterior motives whatsoever.
Reason I didn't? See if you can guess "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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May as well. The reason I didn't, was because my second thought, after my initial, maybe a chat with a stranger will help, was 1 She will think I'm only saying that because I want a shag. And 2 I'm only saying that because I want a shag. 
Truth is, that didn't even enter my head. Just think it's a shame that I felt reluctant to message because of just that.
Seems a shame that you can't be genuine on here without suspicion of ulterior motives.  |
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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago
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"May as well. The reason I didn't, was because my second thought, after my initial, maybe a chat with a stranger will help, was 1 She will think I'm only saying that because I want a shag. And 2 I'm only saying that because I want a shag.
Truth is, that didn't even enter my head. Just think it's a shame that I felt reluctant to message because of just that.
Seems a shame that you can't be genuine on here without suspicion of ulterior motives. "
How do you know they weren't saying it to get a shag?...not that I would assume that btw just some odd people about |
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"May as well. The reason I didn't, was because my second thought, after my initial, maybe a chat with a stranger will help, was 1 She will think I'm only saying that because I want a shag. And 2 I'm only saying that because I want a shag.
Truth is, that didn't even enter my head. Just think it's a shame that I felt reluctant to message because of just that.
Seems a shame that you can't be genuine on here without suspicion of ulterior motives.
How do you know they weren't saying it to get a shag?...not that I would assume that btw just some odd people about"
That's a good point. It's amazing the lengths people go to get get attention (not that it's for me to judge, as a teen i tried to self harm to seek attention) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My point is, not really to do with what she put. In all honesty, I saw "instead of ending my life" and I didn't read on, I just felt the urge to message. My point is, it's a shame that (probably just me lol) I felt I couldn't message because it would be assumed I was after sex. Thats the way fab Can make you feel (white knight and all that jazz).
Maybe I'm alone in this.
Just an observation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is a shame but it’s the reality of fab.. it’s lovely to message with good intent but you’re not guaranteed it’ll be taken that way x "
I agree entirely. Still a shame. X |
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"It is a shame but it’s the reality of fab.. it’s lovely to message with good intent but you’re not guaranteed it’ll be taken that way x
I agree entirely. Still a shame. X"
Yeah agree..  but wise to be careful with the amount of people who would take advantage x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course you can be genuine. Many messages i send are of non sexual nature.
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All of the messages I send are non sexual. Some are read, some aren't, it is the way of fab.
I probably would take the chance that I might be misconstrued if I knew my heart was in the right place... |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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But OP, surely the worst that could have happened was that she’d say thanks but jog on.
Some of us read the content of a message before telling folk (or not) to jog on.
A reach out is a reach out. Always worth the risk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is a shame but it’s the reality of fab.. it’s lovely to message with good intent but you’re not guaranteed it’ll be taken that way x
I agree entirely. Still a shame. X
Yeah agree.. but wise to be careful with the amount of people who would take advantage x"
Absolutely agree. I'm not put out by my thoughts, I've way too tuff a skin lol.
Just an interesting observation,and wondered if others felt the same x |
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"My point is, not really to do with what she put. In all honesty, I saw "instead of ending my life" and I didn't read on, I just felt the urge to message. My point is, it's a shame that (probably just me lol) I felt I couldn't message because it would be assumed I was after sex. Thats the way fab Can make you feel (white knight and all that jazz).
Maybe I'm alone in this.
Just an observation "
After my thread yesterday, it would appear not...
Here's the thing though, OP. You can't go through life not doing what feels like the right thing because of what other people may incorrectly think about your motives. You know what your motives are. If other people don't, that's on them.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My point is, not really to do with what she put. In all honesty, I saw "instead of ending my life" and I didn't read on, I just felt the urge to message. My point is, it's a shame that (probably just me lol) I felt I couldn't message because it would be assumed I was after sex. Thats the way fab Can make you feel (white knight and all that jazz).
Maybe I'm alone in this.
Just an observation
After my thread yesterday, it would appear not...
Here's the thing though, OP. You can't go through life not doing what feels like the right thing because of what other people may incorrectly think about your motives. You know what your motives are. If other people don't, that's on them.
Mrs TMN x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May as well. The reason I didn't, was because my second thought, after my initial, maybe a chat with a stranger will help, was 1 She will think I'm only saying that because I want a shag. And 2 I'm only saying that because I want a shag.
Truth is, that didn't even enter my head. Just think it's a shame that I felt reluctant to message because of just that.
Seems a shame that you can't be genuine on here without suspicion of ulterior motives. "
Saz here. I messaged someone before who for one reason or another, I felt the message was needed. I did hesitate but knew it could really help and, me and him ended up having a lovely conversation. I think it's always worth it. Don't worry if you're taken up as only wanting a shag, you know why you felt compelled to message in the first place. X |
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"My point is, not really to do with what she put. In all honesty, I saw "instead of ending my life" and I didn't read on, I just felt the urge to message. My point is, it's a shame that (probably just me lol) I felt I couldn't message because it would be assumed I was after sex. Thats the way fab Can make you feel (white knight and all that jazz).
Maybe I'm alone in this.
Just an observation
After my thread yesterday, it would appear not...
Here's the thing though, OP. You can't go through life not doing what feels like the right thing because of what other people may incorrectly think about your motives. You know what your motives are. If other people don't, that's on them.
Mrs TMN x "
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