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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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'Honey' 'Babes' 'Sweetie' etc.
Being called these in the first instance... I don't know, am I being precious?
I find them a bit irritating, lazy. They're all very well if you're intimate with and know someone well and comfortable with the person, but off the bat with a first message... I feel it's a bit disrespectful.
I know some women and TVs, CDs don't mind such names, but I can't be the only one who has their hackles raised a little by this, can I? 
I guess this is an etiquette question, really. Curious to know others' thoughts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quickest way to put me off you - call me babe, or hun
I hate it. I like weird/cute pet names at come about from jokes or whatever, but generic ones are yuck. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't mind them particularly. I did a long time ago but now I just think of them as being a part of someone's natural dialogue. At times they can come across a bit patronising but meh. I'm all for the wealth and variety of how we communicate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't mind them particularly. I did a long time ago but now I just think of them as being a part of someone's natural dialogue. At times they can come across a bit patronising but meh. I'm all for the wealth and variety of how we communicate."
Yes, I suppose eventually I'll become numb to them. |
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"'Honey' 'Babes' 'Sweetie' etc.
Being called these in the first instance... I don't know, am I being precious?
I find them a bit irritating, lazy. They're all very well if you're intimate with and know someone well and comfortable with the person, but off the bat with a first message... I feel it's a bit disrespectful.
I know some women and TVs, CDs don't mind such names, but I can't be the only one who has their hackles raised a little by this, can I?
I guess this is an etiquette question, really. Curious to know others' thoughts.
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it's not difficult to ask the person you want to be called is it, and by the same token, what don't they like... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Suppose for me it depends on my mood.
If it's someone I don't know and I'm not feeling like the all powerful She-God that I am then I may read it with sourness and a sense of being patronising or slimeball.
If I'm feeling chipper then I may read it as if I were reading the words from a friend.... depending on the test of the message.
If it's a forum poster and I've noticed they use those words regularly in general then no bother.
I also have to remind myself that I'm guilty in my every day patter, as I often call people sweet or beaut, so there's every chance people think I'm a dick and I may have caused some cringe.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I don't mind them particularly. I did a long time ago but now I just think of them as being a part of someone's natural dialogue. At times they can come across a bit patronising but meh. I'm all for the wealth and variety of how we communicate."
This is a very good an important thing to take note of. Look at the context that they are used. Some people just use these words often, sometimes to strangers. You can generally tell if it is leaning toward patronising/disrespectful based on the way they talk to you anyway.
With that said, those thst do use pet names like thst for strangers need to think before they use them too. Not everyone likes it, though I don't think it is something to get worked up over or suddenly act rude because somebody used one of those words. Just mention you are not a fan of being called that, and move the convo along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Honey' 'Babes' 'Sweetie' etc.
Being called these in the first instance... I don't know, am I being precious?
I find them a bit irritating, lazy. They're all very well if you're intimate with and know someone well and comfortable with the person, but off the bat with a first message... I feel it's a bit disrespectful.
I know some women and TVs, CDs don't mind such names, but I can't be the only one who has their hackles raised a little by this, can I?
I guess this is an etiquette question, really. Curious to know others' thoughts.
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They're incredibly handy for the copy and paste merchants... 
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