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"Well it is not dogging but I host gangbangs at my place if anyone is interested .
John "
It maybe dogging but guys trying to open your car door and being rude and aggressive if you say no isn’t dogging |
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I wrote this a few weeks ago, in reply to a question in another forum. Might help some.
Written from a single straight male perspective, looking for couples, so others may want to add to it.
1) Timing - Usually after dark works best. Well known spots can be busy with people who just cruise about endlessly so I tend to head for spots that are quieter or have potential. Even well known spots quieten down after 10:30 (I assume as married fellas run out of excuses to be out)
2) Good single males will be patient. They will usually signal interest by a quick flash of the headlights or interior light. In addition, I tend to get out of the car, stand by it so I am fully visible and then a couple can check me out fully.
3) I won't approach unless I get an indication. This is often the male partner getting out and saying hello, but could be a reciprocal flash of a light.
4) If I see a signal, I will cautiously approach. I say cautiously because there are knobheads around who want to cause trouble.
From there it's 'play it by ear', but here is my understanding of the 'rules'.
Keep the interior light out and I will loiter and watch. It's obviously harder to see but I appreciate that some people don't like to be too lit up and obvious. I will usually take a lead from the couple, so if playing stops or there is a hand gesture I will back off or go further depending on the gesture.
Interior lights on means you definitely want to be watched. I will approach closer and if it's quiet / safe I would usually take this as a sign to touch myself whilst watching. Again a polite but firm gesture tells me what to do next.
Window down at any point is taken as an invitation to touch or be touched. I'd usually put my hands through the window or the couple indicate if they want to touch me. We go from there.
Door open is usually an invitation to go further. Going down on the female becomes an option here as does penetration.
Generally, I find talking helpful, once initial nervousness is gone. Just say what you want to happen - for both parties.
I'm cautious of movement in and out of the spot. Cars may come and go and I tend to return to my car or walk around. No one needs to stumble across something unexpected.
As I say, I'm obviously writing this from a single male heterosexual perspective assuming I am looking for couples. Couples or gay / bi people may have a different perspective or approach.
If I'm a car park late at night I'm probably there in hope. It's definitely a game of patience. Patience in waiting for a couple who want to play; and patience in watching the merry-go-round.
Some "don'ts" for me include
1) Parking too close the the car you are interested in. Give it time.
2) Full beam headlights, even if its dark. Give it time.
3) Approaching without signal. Give it time.
4) Did I mention - just give it time!
I've seen all sorts over the years, so feel free to ask any other questions. I'm not discussing locations on the forum.
Hope that's helpful, and here's to many more years of fun. |
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"I wrote this a few weeks ago, in reply to a question in another forum. Might help some.
Written from a single straight male perspective, looking for couples, so others may want to add to it.
1) Timing - Usually after dark works best. Well known spots can be busy with people who just cruise about endlessly so I tend to head for spots that are quieter or have potential. Even well known spots quieten down after 10:30 (I assume as married fellas run out of excuses to be out)
2) Good single males will be patient. They will usually signal interest by a quick flash of the headlights or interior light. In addition, I tend to get out of the car, stand by it so I am fully visible and then a couple can check me out fully.
3) I won't approach unless I get an indication. This is often the male partner getting out and saying hello, but could be a reciprocal flash of a light.
4) If I see a signal, I will cautiously approach. I say cautiously because there are knobheads around who want to cause trouble.
From there it's 'play it by ear', but here is my understanding of the 'rules'.
Keep the interior light out and I will loiter and watch. It's obviously harder to see but I appreciate that some people don't like to be too lit up and obvious. I will usually take a lead from the couple, so if playing stops or there is a hand gesture I will back off or go further depending on the gesture.
Interior lights on means you definitely want to be watched. I will approach closer and if it's quiet / safe I would usually take this as a sign to touch myself whilst watching. Again a polite but firm gesture tells me what to do next.
Window down at any point is taken as an invitation to touch or be touched. I'd usually put my hands through the window or the couple indicate if they want to touch me. We go from there.
Door open is usually an invitation to go further. Going down on the female becomes an option here as does penetration.
Generally, I find talking helpful, once initial nervousness is gone. Just say what you want to happen - for both parties.
I'm cautious of movement in and out of the spot. Cars may come and go and I tend to return to my car or walk around. No one needs to stumble across something unexpected.
As I say, I'm obviously writing this from a single male heterosexual perspective assuming I am looking for couples. Couples or gay / bi people may have a different perspective or approach.
If I'm a car park late at night I'm probably there in hope. It's definitely a game of patience. Patience in waiting for a couple who want to play; and patience in watching the merry-go-round.
Some "don'ts" for me include
1) Parking too close the the car you are interested in. Give it time.
2) Full beam headlights, even if its dark. Give it time.
3) Approaching without signal. Give it time.
4) Did I mention - just give it time!
I've seen all sorts over the years, so feel free to ask any other questions. I'm not discussing locations on the forum.
Hope that's helpful, and here's to many more years of fun."
Some really good suggestions here, clearly from experience.
What I find confusing is the cars that keep headlights/ side lights on when obviously NOT playing.
Any guidance?? |
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It seems we missed the boat on dogging, as wife didn’t want to do it, but when she decided to try it, we go some advice of here but only ever found the places we were told had been overtaken by gents wanking with each other as all the couples had been scared off |
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Some really good suggestions here, clearly from experience.
What I find confusing is the cars that keep headlights/ side lights on when obviously NOT playing.
Any guidance?? "
Yep, happens all the time. I would suggest you can't make assumptions that people want attention.
You can make it clear that you are interested (go for a walk, stand by your car, flash your own lights as per post) but safer for the first move to come from the the couple.
I know it's tempting to assume that a couple sat in their car in a known spot must be there for only one reason but that's not necessarily true. They could just be keeping warm, having a drink or chat.
Most places are public places and all that goes with that.
My best advice is be patient. Often couples will leave it quite a while before letting on. I think this is to flush out the people who just pull up and pull off.
Hope that helps
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"It seems we missed the boat on dogging, as wife didn’t want to do it, but when she decided to try it, we go some advice of here but only ever found the places we were told had been overtaken by gents wanking with each other as all the couples had been scared off "
I'd suggest organising something specific for a first couple of times. There are lots of secluded places that aren't always full of fellas.
A careful selection of reliable people with specific instructions on the type of night you want would be a good introduction.
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"I wrote this a few weeks ago, in reply to a question in another forum. Might help some.
Written from a single straight male perspective, looking for couples, so others may want to add to it.
1) Timing - Usually after dark works best. Well known spots can be busy with people who just cruise about endlessly so I tend to head for spots that are quieter or have potential. Even well known spots quieten down after 10:30 (I assume as married fellas run out of excuses to be out)
2) Good single males will be patient. They will usually signal interest by a quick flash of the headlights or interior light. In addition, I tend to get out of the car, stand by it so I am fully visible and then a couple can check me out fully.
3) I won't approach unless I get an indication. This is often the male partner getting out and saying hello, but could be a reciprocal flash of a light.
4) If I see a signal, I will cautiously approach. I say cautiously because there are knobheads around who want to cause trouble.
From there it's 'play it by ear', but here is my understanding of the 'rules'.
Keep the interior light out and I will loiter and watch. It's obviously harder to see but I appreciate that some people don't like to be too lit up and obvious. I will usually take a lead from the couple, so if playing stops or there is a hand gesture I will back off or go further depending on the gesture.
Interior lights on means you definitely want to be watched. I will approach closer and if it's quiet / safe I would usually take this as a sign to touch myself whilst watching. Again a polite but firm gesture tells me what to do next.
Window down at any point is taken as an invitation to touch or be touched. I'd usually put my hands through the window or the couple indicate if they want to touch me. We go from there.
Door open is usually an invitation to go further. Going down on the female becomes an option here as does penetration.
Generally, I find talking helpful, once initial nervousness is gone. Just say what you want to happen - for both parties.
I'm cautious of movement in and out of the spot. Cars may come and go and I tend to return to my car or walk around. No one needs to stumble across something unexpected.
As I say, I'm obviously writing this from a single male heterosexual perspective assuming I am looking for couples. Couples or gay / bi people may have a different perspective or approach.
If I'm a car park late at night I'm probably there in hope. It's definitely a game of patience. Patience in waiting for a couple who want to play; and patience in watching the merry-go-round.
Some "don'ts" for me include
1) Parking too close the the car you are interested in. Give it time.
2) Full beam headlights, even if its dark. Give it time.
3) Approaching without signal. Give it time.
4) Did I mention - just give it time!
I've seen all sorts over the years, so feel free to ask any other questions. I'm not discussing locations on the forum.
Hope that's helpful, and here's to many more years of fun."
As someone who has only recently shown an interest in dogging, this is very useful to know. I wasn't sure on what was considered "normal" or acceptable behaviour re parking distance, lights on/off, etc.
If there is a group, I'd be very interested in joining if single blokes are welcome |
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