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Who actually bothers with people that message them ? Or is it my profile?
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"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome "We are in a pandemic . you have no pics on the profile to entice anyone in. Also the profile text tells people nothing about you or what you have to offer them   | |||
"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome We are in a pandemic .
you have no pics on the profile to entice anyone in.
Also the profile text tells people nothing about you or what you have to offer them "This... also you say you’ve had some great meets implying from the site. You’re not verified but maybe they weren’t. Genuine question, what exactly do you expect from the site??? | |||
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"Your profile text is fine. Just put up some public pics and a profile pic and you're good to go. Good luck OP x" Thanks hun. | |||
"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. " Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post? | |||
"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome "Just because people don’t reply to you or jump your bones at the drop of a hat doesn’t make them time wasters. Best of luck op!!! T | |||
"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post?" We can't speak for everyone but a lot of people don't like cock pics, body shots taken from different angles can be nice. Look at other profiles for ideas. | |||
"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post?" You know on the one hand I could say the forum is one place to seek input and advice from other users but on the other hand I could say as you’ve been here 10 months you could have done some active looking around the site, look at other profiles and also read the forums and many advice sections the site has. As it stands OP I’m falling into the latter. Your profile is your own and should reflect you and your personality not someone else’s advice on what they like. I’m still interested to know exactly what you expect from the site. I’m asking genuinely btw and wish you good luck too | |||
"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome "Always reply to every message even if to say thanks but no thanks. Just manners  | |||
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"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome
Just because people don’t reply to you or jump your bones at the drop of a hat doesn’t make them time wasters.
Best of luck op!!!
T"Too true, I guess I worded my post wrong  | |||
"I reply to most messages but your profile just seems to be mostly dick pics so instant turn off for me. So maybe it is just your profile that's putting folk off. Good luck tho "I did think that was the problem. I need to get more adventurous. | |||
"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome
Always reply to every message even if to say thanks but no thanks.
Just manners "I don't reply to every message anymore. If that means I have no manners, so be it  According to fab etiquette it's not rude though.
Reply to most still. But not to one liners, copy and paste messages, or if it's obvious they haven't read the profile x | |||
"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post? You know on the one hand I could say the forum is one place to seek input and advice from other users but on the other hand I could say as you’ve been here 10 months you could have done some active looking around the site, look at other profiles and also read the forums and many advice sections the site has. As it stands OP I’m falling into the latter. Your profile is your own and should reflect you and your personality not someone else’s advice on what they like. I’m still interested to know exactly what you expect from the site. I’m asking genuinely btw and wish you good luck too "I am doing my homework as we speak. Things will be updated in due course. Thanks peeps  | |||
"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome
Always reply to every message even if to say thanks but no thanks.
Just manners " | |||
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"You've got 11 photos on your profile 8 are dick pics "The holiday shot with the cocktail is a good picture though! | |||
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"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post? You know on the one hand I could say the forum is one place to seek input and advice from other users but on the other hand I could say as you’ve been here 10 months you could have done some active looking around the site, look at other profiles and also read the forums and many advice sections the site has. As it stands OP I’m falling into the latter. Your profile is your own and should reflect you and your personality not someone else’s advice on what they like. I’m still interested to know exactly what you expect from the site. I’m asking genuinely btw and wish you good luck too
I am doing my homework as we speak. Things will be updated in due course. Thanks peeps "Excellent, relax and enjoy engaging with folk (I agree with less dick pics too) and I’m sure the rest will follow, have fun ~ that’s what it should be | |||
"The one photo you have on your profile would immediately put us off if you messaged us. So yes your profile needs more work done to it. Suggestions ? As I am.unsire what pics to post? You know on the one hand I could say the forum is one place to seek input and advice from other users but on the other hand I could say as you’ve been here 10 months you could have done some active looking around the site, look at other profiles and also read the forums and many advice sections the site has. As it stands OP I’m falling into the latter. Your profile is your own and should reflect you and your personality not someone else’s advice on what they like. I’m still interested to know exactly what you expect from the site. I’m asking genuinely btw and wish you good luck too
I am doing my homework as we speak. Things will be updated in due course. Thanks peeps
Excellent, relax and enjoy engaging with folk (I agree with less dick pics too) and I’m sure the rest will follow, have fun ~ that’s what it should be "Thanks | |||
"True folks. Cut them back." Thats better | |||
"You've got 11 photos on your profile 8 are dick pics
The holiday shot with the cocktail is a good picture though! " | |||
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"Many of these replies have got me thinking. Should I delete this thread or not ? ??" Nothing wrong with your thread x | |||
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"Many of these replies have got me thinking. Should I delete this thread or not ? ??" You can’t delete the thread but you’ve asked a pertinent question and engaged with the answers politely and even taken on board some of the suggestions. I think that’s a positive | |||
"I find it very hard to say no to men without being verbally assaulted, without getting into an argument, or without being harassed. A lot of women simply choose to delete messages from people they're not interested in. I try to be nice, and reply to most, or put up a status saying I've had to delete but, to be honest, I'm fed up of apologising for it. I am constantly harassed by men asking me, "Are you available today? What about today? Can you do tonight then? What about 10am?" So, for me personally, I intend to be more ruthless, which I think is the same for a lot of women on here. Unfortunately, we have to be "Alas this is a very valid point, of course there are lots of lovely guys too but this is the simplest answer to why women sound antsy | |||
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"I find it very hard to say no to men without being verbally assaulted, without getting into an argument, or without being harassed. A lot of women simply choose to delete messages from people they're not interested in. I try to be nice, and reply to most, or put up a status saying I've had to delete but, to be honest, I'm fed up of apologising for it. I am constantly harassed by men asking me, "Are you available today? What about today? Can you do tonight then? What about 10am?" So, for me personally, I intend to be more ruthless, which I think is the same for a lot of women on here. Unfortunately, we have to be "Bloody hell they sound persistent  | |||
"I find it very hard to say no to men without being verbally assaulted, without getting into an argument, or without being harassed. A lot of women simply choose to delete messages from people they're not interested in. I try to be nice, and reply to most, or put up a status saying I've had to delete but, to be honest, I'm fed up of apologising for it. I am constantly harassed by men asking me, "Are you available today? What about today? Can you do tonight then? What about 10am?" So, for me personally, I intend to be more ruthless, which I think is the same for a lot of women on here. Unfortunately, we have to be
Bloody hell they sound persistent "I wish I could say it's a minority of men, but there's an increasing majority, I find. As someone else stated, it's part of the reason women are so antsy and hesitant. And, unfortunately, that reflects badly on the good guys. We know not all men are like this, but we have to learn to keep our guard up until we're absolutely certain that... 1. We get on well. 2. You're not a psycho. 3. You're not a prick. 4. We find you attractive. 5. We trust you won't hurt us. Literally, might sound ridiculous but women have so much more reason to be hesitant. Very often, rather than entering into a dialogue with a man who may decide to verbally abuse us, it's easier just to delete messages from profiles we're not sure we can trust, ie no verifications, very little activity on forums, very little activity on the scene in general, no photos and very little info on the profile. Ask ANY woman on Fab, and I guarantee you she's likely had the same level of harassment I've endured. And, by the way, I'm often told by other women on Fab, that I'm TOO nice when dealing with arseholes, so if that's what I get and I'm the nice one, you can imagine what a slightly more upfront woman might have to deal with xx | |||
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"Is it just me or has this site got a lot of timewasters ? Maybe my profile is not upto scratch ? Opinions and suggestions welcome "Just another drab dull profile with no spark to entice you in to wink or message and no pictures. What a catch | |||
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