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1st time going to cjs
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"Was on the website last week and it didn't say anything, really amazed if it has opened, looking forward to being there again, it's been 4 years"
Yeah, it was TVs and Admirers social today. Caroline has had it on her profile all week x |
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"Can’t wait to visit  . I’ll probably stay in the city overnight to make a proper night out of it!"
Always the best plan. My trips to CJ's normally involve a good day shopping and with food in Glasgow. |
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By *o72Man
over a year ago
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"Was on the website last week and it didn't say anything, really amazed if it has opened, looking forward to being there again, it's been 4 years"
I'd love to take you as per your profile text,loved reading it |
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"I want to go soon and it’ll be my first time.... I am bricking it lol
You'll be welcome to come along with those of us in the group xx
Is there a group then x "
Hiya guys, I run a Kik group for people on Fab. It's been going for a few years and there's a few of us that go to CJs fairly regularly xx |
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"Could someone explain what cjs is plz"
It's a club for people of likeminded thinking 
We can't post URLs, but if you search for "CJs at the Townhouse2 you'll find the site.
It's currently only open on a very limited basis, but hopefully as restrictions are lifted further it'll get back to full-flow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never been to a club like this (long term vanilla relationship, now single), yet it’s definitely something I’m looking to explore. Would be fun to even just speak with likeminded individuals I reckon |
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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago
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"I want to go soon and it’ll be my first time.... I am bricking it lol
You'll be welcome to come along with those of us in the group xx
Is there a group then x
Hiya guys, I run a Kik group for people on Fab. It's been going for a few years and there's a few of us that go to CJs fairly regularly xx"
I would like to start going once things are back to normal, but I don’t have kik  . Definitely would love to join the group for my first time there  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ... "
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well |
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well "
I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks |
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks "
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"I'd love to join this group x"
Hiya love, I tried to private message you with details of the group, but I'm blocked as I'm female. Feel free to message me, or keep an eye out on my status for when I post the group, or my husband posts on our couples profile xx |
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks "
Yeah, as Violet says, it's just about being respectful. In CJs, no always means no. We've had it, on a few occasions, where men seem to think it's a free for all, and can lay their hands on any woman they want. It doesn't work like that. Thankfully, those men are few and far between but, unfortunately, they do appear from time to time.
Everyone at CJs is so lovely and friendly, so as long as you're equally friendly and nice to people, you'll get on fine xx |
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks
Yeah, as Violet says, it's just about being respectful. In CJs, no always means no. We've had it, on a few occasions, where men seem to think it's a free for all, and can lay their hands on any woman they want. It doesn't work like that. Thankfully, those men are few and far between but, unfortunately, they do appear from time to time.
Everyone at CJs is so lovely and friendly, so as long as you're equally friendly and nice to people, you'll get on fine xx"
this is not to say it doesn't happen I'm sure it does but it is an overused expression and paints a bad picture of men in general.
This also happens to men where woman belive they can do as they please.
I've had inappropriate touches jeers and catcalling from woman in the past.
so it's imo better to highlight this that what at times can appear to be a witch hunt against guys.
As for guys they need to start standing up for themselves and stop just accepting poor female behaviour as the accepted norm. |
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks
Yeah, as Violet says, it's just about being respectful. In CJs, no always means no. We've had it, on a few occasions, where men seem to think it's a free for all, and can lay their hands on any woman they want. It doesn't work like that. Thankfully, those men are few and far between but, unfortunately, they do appear from time to time.
Everyone at CJs is so lovely and friendly, so as long as you're equally friendly and nice to people, you'll get on fine xxthis is not to say it doesn't happen I'm sure it does but it is an overused expression and paints a bad picture of men in general.
This also happens to men where woman belive they can do as they please.
I've had inappropriate touches jeers and catcalling from woman in the past.
so it's imo better to highlight this that what at times can appear to be a witch hunt against guys.
As for guys they need to start standing up for themselves and stop just accepting poor female behaviour as the accepted norm. "
Let me just be clear... no means no applies to everyone. I simply mentioned guys, because I've never had a female lay an unwanted hand on me or my friend while we were sucking a guy off and then tell us that "no means no doesn't count in places like this".
I can, however, confirm that my husband has experienced unwanted female attention where they grope him, hug him, kiss his face etc. |
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My post wasnt/isn't a response to your post alone more a highlight that this issue is for all people.
Im sure if you scroll through the forums you would be hard pushed to find a post alluding to female inappropriate behaviour.
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"My post wasnt/isn't a response to your post alone more a highlight that this issue is for all people.
Im sure if you scroll through the forums you would be hard pushed to find a post alluding to female inappropriate behaviour.
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I can't say I see many alluding to the inappropriate behaviour of men, either though. On the whole, I find Fab to be, generally speaking, a very open minded and equal space, so I would hope the assumption is that it applies to all.
As I said, I only mentioned men because it's men I've, personally, experienced issues with. That, and the person to whom I was replying, is a male, himself. So, it was on a like for like basis. Had it been a woman, my advice would have been similar. |
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By *aura4ukTV/TS
over a year ago
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It is a wonderfully welcoming place to go for like minded people.
The atmosphere is always lovely and as been said in the thread, treat people with respect and get chatting. You will have a great time.
Laura xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have never had a bad night at CJ's.
Everyone is so friendly and there is never any pressure.
You can go and just be social or look to meet friends you would like to get more acquainted with.
Either way you will leave with a smile on your face.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's definitely on my list of things to do once things get back to normal and will be my first time. Great idea to go as a group - nice way to introduce newbies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If going to CJ's what is the dress code? I'm guessing there is one?"
Not really tbh it’s fairly casual wear what you would on a night to the pub with pals or like me pjs and slippers lol 
Some people make the effort and wear clothes that’s a bit more alluring and sexy
Only once did I ever see anyone and think really mate coulda made an effort and he was like Kevin and Perry lol but in the whole what makes you feel comfortable |
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"We are looking to go for the first time ever to a club once things full open up again. Any tips welcome. X "
It depends what you are looking for? There are various nights to choose from, for example, couples & single female night, greedy girl night, fun for all night, kink night & tv & admirer nights to name a few. You are always offered a tour on your 1st visit. Some people meet up before going but as your are a couple that might not be your thing. When cj's does get to open fully, there are usually forum threads that will give you an idea of who might be there, although not all post. Maybe look at it as a night in a bar initially with the added possibility of the playrooms upstairs if you wanted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If going to CJ's what is the dress code? I'm guessing there is one?
Not really tbh it’s fairly casual wear what you would on a night to the pub with pals or like me pjs and slippers lol
Some people make the effort and wear clothes that’s a bit more alluring and sexy
Only once did I ever see anyone and think really mate coulda made an effort and he was like Kevin and Perry lol but in the whole what makes you feel comfortable "
Thanks, I really wasn't expecting that, for some reason I expected men in boxer shorts and ladies in underwear...
Is there a bar? Can you drink alchohol? |
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"If going to CJ's what is the dress code? I'm guessing there is one?
Not really tbh it’s fairly casual wear what you would on a night to the pub with pals or like me pjs and slippers lol
Some people make the effort and wear clothes that’s a bit more alluring and sexy
Only once did I ever see anyone and think really mate coulda made an effort and he was like Kevin and Perry lol but in the whole what makes you feel comfortable
Thanks, I really wasn't expecting that, for some reason I expected men in boxer shorts and ladies in underwear...
Is there a bar? Can you drink alchohol?"
You take your own alcohol with you, when you arrive you're given a no which is put on your bottle and goes behind the bar, mixers are provided
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"If going to CJ's what is the dress code? I'm guessing there is one?
Not really tbh it’s fairly casual wear what you would on a night to the pub with pals or like me pjs and slippers lol
Some people make the effort and wear clothes that’s a bit more alluring and sexy
Only once did I ever see anyone and think really mate coulda made an effort and he was like Kevin and Perry lol but in the whole what makes you feel comfortable "
By any chance, was he wearing shorts and a vest, with socks and sliders? Because that's the only time I've ever questioned what someone was wearing lol. The full room looked at him as he walked in and then staggered back out again lmao!!xx |
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"If going to CJ's what is the dress code? I'm guessing there is one?
Not really tbh it’s fairly casual wear what you would on a night to the pub with pals or like me pjs and slippers lol
Some people make the effort and wear clothes that’s a bit more alluring and sexy
Only once did I ever see anyone and think really mate coulda made an effort and he was like Kevin and Perry lol but in the whole what makes you feel comfortable
By any chance, was he wearing shorts and a vest, with socks and sliders? Because that's the only time I've ever questioned what someone was wearing lol. The full room looked at him as he walked in and then staggered back out again lmao!!xx"
I'm thinking was it the night the guy came in his Aldi uniform 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like to visit once things are back to normal... but you do get some mixed post about attending as a single male some say we're welcome and some not so ... probably best find out for myself ...
Single males are always welcome but when someone sits and stares in the corner not wanting to make conversation there’s only so much coaxing folk can do or if you’re extremely touchy feely and in your face you won’t be appreciated either but if you treat it like going to a friends party and you don’t know any of their other friends yet so you just go round introducing yourself to folk saying hello etc that kinda works well I agree it all comes down to how you behave yourself in public and being confident enough to actually socialize in the surroundings. I'll keep a look out for when it's open and what kind of nights are on thanks
Yeah, as Violet says, it's just about being respectful. In CJs, no always means no. We've had it, on a few occasions, where men seem to think it's a free for all, and can lay their hands on any woman they want. It doesn't work like that. Thankfully, those men are few and far between but, unfortunately, they do appear from time to time.
Everyone at CJs is so lovely and friendly, so as long as you're equally friendly and nice to people, you'll get on fine xx"
hi thanks for the reply I shall look to visiting the club once things fully open up again .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been a few times. I was way more interested in the decor, what's been done with the space etc than I was anything else.
Possibly, I'm too much of a prude to feel at home there really!
That being said, people were always friendly. |
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"I'd love to go can someone tell me what it's like and what to expect sounds stupid asking but like to know before I decide to go "
Downstairs is a social area, upstairs a play area. Various different nights. Some open to single guys, some not. What exactly do you want to know?
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"I'd love to go can someone tell me what it's like and what to expect sounds stupid asking but like to know before I decide to go
Downstairs is a social area, upstairs a play area. Various different nights. Some open to single guys, some not. What exactly do you want to know?
Just what the place is like what the atmosphere is like and how welcoming it is to newbies
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I'd love to go can someone tell me what it's like and what to expect sounds stupid asking but like to know before I decide to go "
Search the forums for “CJs” and you’ll find a load of feedback about the club.  |
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